Guys and ladies, I was linked to a young lady of about 25 that happens to be a single mother (daughter is 5 years old).

I also have a Son, who is 11 years old ( i have separated with his mom). I still pay his tuition fee and send his upkeep.

The issue now is that the new lady introduced to me doesn't have a phone (which I was told that I would buy), her salary as a teacher is really small, and she wants me to send ( sponsor) her to school.

If the girl is really nice and humble but also refuses to disclose what happened BTW her and her child's Father, will you still marry her.

It’s trouble ahead, backdown

imoh4king:


If the girl is really nice and humble but also refuses to disclose what happened BTW her and her child's Father, will you still marry her.

If you're wise ni, you should have typed The girl "Appear" nice and humble

Cuz I wonder what typa person you're expecting her to show you at first. OP I'm not a prophet but I can see you're someone who's easily fooled

obinna58:
It’s trouble ahead, backdown

Thanks bro. I really feel I should backdown.

I even forgot to add that she has a boyfriend, and stated that she will drop him if she sees seriousness from my side.

Offpointng:


If you're wise ni, you should have typed The girl "Appear" nice and humble

Cuz I wonder what typa person you're expecting her to show you at first. OP I'm not a prophet but I can see you're someone who's easily fooled

Hmm... Point taken.

imoh4king:


Thanks bro. I really feel I should backdown.

I even forgot to add that she has a boyfriend, and stated that she will drop him if she sees seriousness from my side.

A very nice and a humble girl indeed

You have an 11 year old son ... I would expect you learned something from the failed relationship with his mother. Who introduced you to this "single mom"? ... her friend? If yes I wouldn't blame her. You are not ready for a relationship let alone marriage.

Originalsly:
You have a 11 year old son ... I would expect you learned something from the failed relationship with his mother. Who introduced you to this "single mom"? ... her friend? If yes I wouldn't blame her. You are not ready for a relationship let alone marriage.

Guy but I don't support you sponsoring her, please 🙏 because ladies do Bleep up...

Unless she is ready to settle and promised not fake one, ...make sure you do research before engaging her ...

Me I am also a single father of two
But I have a single mum too which I love , but she didn't go to university, only secondary school...but she has catering certificate...

And I have been assisting her with penny I can afford...I am planning to set her up for business but still scared ....though she always call me and showing me love ,even she told me that I should not stop upkeep of my two children...even her own daughter school bills will be on her she can't depend on me for it..

That what she told me...I do much love this lady...

So single mother , I am just hoping on God to take control.... because I want to drop my pen here for settling down... ladies is not easy this days most of them are after your money, they don't want to settle with single father....so please search and do research on her well before investing in her...reply me please let chat cause am facing it too

In other words you go be her HELPER....


Tell her that once she buys the phone and finish sponsoring herself to school you people can pick up AGAIN discussions from there...

Sorry I don't mean to sound heartless here... But let's call a spade a spade....

E be like say you wan make I swear for you abi?

What happen between you and the mother of yr son?

Concerning the girl you talked about, I will advise you abort that mission.

.

imoh4king:


Thanks bro. I really feel I should backdown.

I even forgot to add that she has a boyfriend, and stated that she will drop him if she sees seriousness from my side.

O boy, you come become spare tire for this Tinubu economy.

E get as e be!

Run,since she is hiding info about her baby daddy

stay away from single mothers una no dey hear word 😭
this one single mother come dey give you condition join 😭
ops say she even get boyfriend say she go leave her boyfriend if she see say you serious 🤣
do you know what a woman mean when she says she wants to see how serious you're?
1. Giving her money
2. Buying her all her needs
3. sponsoring her education as you said

From a single mother o... ops please don't be foolish 😂🙏

Iambro:
stay away from single mothers una no dey hear word 😭
this one single mother come dey give you condition join 😭
ops say she even get boyfriend say she go leave her boyfriend if she see say you serious 🤣
do you know what a woman mean when she says she wants to see how serious you're?
1. Giving her money
2. Buying her all her needs
3. sponsoring her education as you said

From a single mother o... ops please don't be foolish 😂🙏

Exactly my thoughts.

Funny enough, I could do all the above three points and she would still not think I am serious. Abeg, after she called me yesterday night sounding cold (like she was with someone) i had quietly bowed out.

But I won't tell her. I will just form busy.

Aaaaarghmed:
Run,since she is hiding info about her baby daddy

Done deal.

Skyview01:


O boy, you come become spare tire for this Tinubu economy.

E get as e be!

God forbid. I rather spend my change on my son than become any woman's spare part provider.

imoh4king:
Guys and ladies, I was linked to a young lady of about 25 that happens to be a single mother (daughter is 5 years old).

I also have a Son, who is 11 years old ( i have separated with his mom). I still pay his tuition fee and send his upkeep.

The issue now is that the new lady introduced to me doesn't have a phone (which I was told that I would buy), her salary as a teacher is really small, and she wants me to send ( sponsor) her to school.

If the girl is really nice and humble but also refuses to disclose what happened BTW her and her child's Father, will you still marry her.

Marry Her immediately.

Make sure you sponsor her education and her daughter's education too.

Her kind of single mother is kinda rare.

ojun50:
What happen between you and the mother of yr son?

Concerning the girl you talked about, I will advise you abort that mission.

Am from Akwa Ibom while my son's mum is IBO. She left because I wasn't doing well financially then.

duduade:
In other words you go be her HELPER....


Tell her that once she buys the phone and finish sponsoring herself to school you people can pick up AGAIN discussions from there...

Sorry I don't mean to sound heartless here... But let's call a spade a spade....

Lol.

I don't even want to be part of that business right now.

handsomeyitayo:
Guy but I don't support you sponsoring her, please 🙏 because ladies do Bleep up...

Unless she is ready to settle and promised not fake one, ...make sure you do research before engaging her ...

Me I am also a single father of two
But I have a single mum too which I love , but she didn't go to university, only secondary school...but she has catering certificate...

And I have been assisting her with penny I can afford...I am planning to set her up for business but still scared ....though she always call me and showing me love ,even she told me that I should not stop upkeep of my two children...even her own daughter school bills will be on her she can't depend on me for it..

That what she told me...I do much love this lady...

So single mother , I am just hoping on God to take control.... because I want to drop my pen here for settling down... ladies is not easy this days most of them are after your money, they don't want to settle with single father....so please search and do research on her well before investing in her...reply me please let chat cause am facing it too

Well, I feel your effort bro.

I already knew what to do, I just wanted to hear or read what people think about it.

Single moms can be committed most times because they want the best for their existing children or child and they Dont want a child again from a non committed man who would take off again.

The main issue is the financial part and sometimes you have to be able to tolerate her kids a lot so that they don't think that you discipline them because you ain't their father.

If she's serious (like yours is showing strong commitment and love), go ahead but back it up with prayer and have you also done your findings about her children's father?

Anyway, chat me up let's get talking before you nose dive in2 marriage. As for me, I have thrown in my towel ( bowed out because she only wants to use me).

Evolutionism:


Marry Her immediately.

Make sure you sponsor her education and her daughter's education too.

Her kind of single mother is kinda rare.

Yes Boss.
Should I send my account details since you intend to foot the bill.

imoh4king:


Thanks bro. I really feel I should backdown.

I even forgot to add that she has a boyfriend, and stated that she will drop him if she sees seriousness from my side.

Funny!,single mum wey dey give conditions

imoh4king:


Yes Boss.
Should I send my account details since you intend to foot the bill.

No problem.

Send the Account Details.

imoh4king:
Guys and ladies, I was linked to a young lady of about 25 that happens to be a single mother (daughter is 5 years old).

I also have a Son, who is 11 years old ( i have separated with his mom). I still pay his tuition fee and send his upkeep.

The issue now is that the new lady introduced to me doesn't have a phone (which I was told that I would buy), her salary as a teacher is really small, and she wants me to send ( sponsor) her to school.

If the girl is really nice and humble but also refuses to disclose what happened BTW her and her child's Father, will you still marry her.

Brother run from that girl , she's not a good girl

I reject it in Jesus name.

What happens if you sponsor her education and she's done then she says she's done with the relationship??

imoh4king:


Well, I feel your effort bro.

I already knew what to do, I just wanted to hear or read what people think about it.

Single moms can be committed most times because they want the best for their existing children or child and they Dont want a child again from a non committed man who would take off again.

The main issue is the financial part and sometimes you have to be able to tolerate her kids a lot so that they don't think that you discipline them because you ain't their father.

If she's serious (like yours is showing strong commitment and love), go ahead but back it up with prayer and have you also done your findings about her children's father?

Anyway, chat me up let's get talking before you nose dive in2 marriage. As for me, I have thrown in my towel ( bowed out because she only wants to use me).

Wow that nice, you have bowed out.. the said single mum I am dating , the father of her daughter left her for almost sox years and even he has another another wife with two children I mean , she told me that ... Where they were living before she pack out due to landlord coz rent expired...she told me the guy hasn't pay dowry...even she said he just told her he is travelling with construction workers Chinese where he works since then he never call or even come back..it was her baby father elder brother that inform her that her baby father has another wife before her..though she told me the said man is late....

Since then she has been struggling to cater for her child...so she is sleeping in a church managing there , ...so but I am still investigating...I will still continue chat with yu ..brb

handsomeyitayo:



Wow that nice, you have bowed out.. the said single mum I am dating , the father of her daughter left her for almost sox years and even he has another another wife with two children I mean , she told me that ... Where they were living before she pack out due to landlord coz rent expired...she told me the guy hasn't pay dowry...even she said he just told her he is travelling with construction workers Chinese where he works since then he never call or even come back..it was her baby father elder brother that inform her that her baby father has another wife before her..though she told me the said man is late....

Since then she has been struggling to cater for her child...so she is sleeping in a church managing there , ...so but I am still investigating...I will still continue chat with yu ..brb

I really wish you Gods guidance and insight because it might become a beautiful love journey or a difficult emotional entanglement depending on the steps you both take especially you.

All information about her shouldn't be from what she tells you solely. There are always other sides of a story. Do your own homework even if it means traveling to find out more about her, her family especially her mother, the kids father etc. Its a life time devotion and commitment, which makes the effort worthwhile.

Dont get me wrong please, single moms are wonderful...I won't mind marrying one if the feeling is mutual and I see the capability and dedication in her.

But one thing you must know; A single mom IN SURVIVAL MODE, has less options about the choice of her man as far as he can cater for her financial shortcomings....
That's where you really need Gods wisdom. Are you just an HELPER to her or THE MAN SHE IS DETERMINED TO SPEND HER LIFE WITH if she had all the basic things of the world.

Use your third eye bro.

Hideaki:
What happens if you sponsor her education and she's done then she says she's done with the relationship??

Ehn! You move on or you hang yourself ni....