PART 4
HOW TO KNOW THE BONE OF YOUR BONES AND FLESH OF YOUR FLESH IN PERFECT MARRIAGE

The Lord explained that marriage is a divine institution created and ordained by Him as such there are rules, principles, and pre-requisite conditions required of us to fulfill in order to gain entrance into God’s perfect marriage. God’s perfect marriage was designed to make the couple happy, prosperous, successful and permanent.
The Lord began to reveal to me those conditions we must satisfy in order to get into His three wills; Good, permissive, and perfect wills in marriage.
For a start let us prepare our hearts and examine these two perfect marriages; (a) Jesus Christ and the Church
(b) Isaac and Rebecca
Then we can extrapolate their common results in the step by step process for the benefit of the Christian man and Christian woman to follow into perfect marriage.
We shall go through the stories of these two perfect marriages in the scriptures and spiritually scan through to pick out the mind of God to show that the blueprint is based purely on the word of God backed up by the leading of the Holy Spirit.
After these, we shall finally and critically examine the first perfect marriage of Adam and Eve, the Lord joined at the Garden of Eden.
We shall also touch on why their marriage failed to satisfy God’s demand after the fall and why it will take the Second Adam; Christ Jesus to restore that perfect plan of God in marriage here on earth. I have to mention this in particular that;
You are a recipient to this GREAT MYSTERY. No matter what you are passing through, you are a beneficiary and at the centre of this great plan and miracle of God. DON’T GIVE UP. He said that He has come to make all the crooked places straight.
It is alarming to hear that nine out of ten marriages end up in divorce.
THERE MAY BE REASONS FOR THIS TREND. LET’S FIND OUT. BUT LET ME ASSURE YOU THAT
BEFORE THE PROBLEMS THE SOLUTIONS WERE ALREADY THERE TO SOLVE THEM.
All you have to do is to give Him a chance.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a Great Mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. Ephesians 5:28-33 KJV


PRE-AMBLES.

THE

GREAT

MYSTERY




Messenger HOLY SPIRIT ABRAHAM’S ELDEST SERVANT HOLY SPIRIT
BRIDEGROOM JESUS CHRIST ISAAC CHRISTIAN BROTHER
BRIDE THE CHURCH REBECCA CHRISTIAN SISTER
SPIRITUAL STATUS BOTH ATTAINED SONSHIP BOTH ATTAINED SONSHIP[spiritual maturity] BOTH MUST ATTAIN THE LEVEL OF SONSHIP[spiritual maturity]
John 16:14,15 Genesis 24:15,63 Romans 8:14
STEP 1
THE GREAT COMMISSION AND THE QUALITY OF SERVANT SENT FOR THIS SPECIAL MISSION The work of the Holy Spirit is to represent Christ.

He shall glorify me: for he shall receive of mine, and shall shew it unto you. All things that the Father hath are mine: therefore said I, that he shall take of mine, and shall shew it unto you. John 16: 14,15 KJV The work of the servant is to represent Abraham


And Abraham was old, and well stricken in age: and the LORD had blessed Abraham in all things. And Abraham said unto his eldest servant of his house, that ruled over all that he had, Put, I pray thee, thy hand under my thigh: Gen.24:1, 2 KJV The work of the Holy Spirit is to represent Christ


Removes us from the fear of entering into any marriage relationship. 2 Timothy 1:7.For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
Whenever we run into problems, we should remember that The Spirit also helpeth our infirmities………, Romans 8:26 KJV
Here we see the Holy Spirit who is appointed to administer the “riches of His grace”. Eph.1:7 Also Eph.3:16 states: “That he would grant you, according to the riches of his glory, to be strengthened with might by his Spirit in the inner man”; Here we see the eldest servant described as one who “ruled over all that he had” (Gen24:2).
The eldest servant also took ten camels and loaded them with goods and riches “for all the goods of his master were in his hand”: Gen.24:10 KJV
STEP 2

FRUIT
GIFTS OF THE SPIRIT.
MINISTRY GIFTS THE HOLY SPIRIT DISTRIBUTES FRUIT, GIFTS OF THE SPIRIT AND MINSTRY GIFTS FOR SERVICE TO THE BELIEVERS.
Our Father God had assigned the Holy Spirit to come into this world and gather a Bride unto His Son Jesus Christ. In order to achieve this mission, the Holy Spirit requires absolute obedience and loyalty on the part of the church to cleanse her spirit, soul and body with His Word thus preparing her as a beautiful Virgin, without spot or blemish or wrinkles fashioned and fit in sanctification, consecration and Holiness to be joined to Him who is Holy. (Our Lord Jesus Christ). THE ELDEST SERVANT DISTRIBUTED GIFTS OF SILVER, GOLD, AND GARMENTS TO REBECCA AND HER FAMILY MEMBERS.


And the servant brought forth jewels of silver, and jewels of gold, and raiment, and gave them to Rebecca: he gave also to her brother and to her mother precious things. Gen.24:53 KJV

Here we saw that under divine direction, the eldest servant met with Rebecca and gave her first jewels of silver which speaks of Redemption, then jewels of Gold which connotes the divine nature of God and Garments which speaks of the Garment of Righteousness. THE HOLY SPIRIT DISTRIBUTES FRUIT, GIFTS AND MINISTRY GIFTS FOR SERVICE TO PREPARE THE BELIEVING MAN AND WOMAN IN MARRIAGE.
Here we saw the beautiful works of the Holy Spirit, first He convicts us of sin and draws us to the Father through the redemptive power of the blood of Jesus (jewels of Silver) John 16:8 KJV) Then He releases His Fruit, Gifts, and Ministry Gifts through our spirit man down into our soul thus bringing us into son-ship; showing forth the nature of Christ. (jewels of Gold) Finally He wears us the Garment of Righteousness which is the wedding garment. Without the wedding garment we cannot be part of the wedding. And he saith unto him, Friend, how camest thou in hither not having a wedding garment? And he was speechless. Then said the king to the servants, Bind him hand and foot, and take him away, and cast him into outer darkness; there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth. For many are called, but few are chosen. Matthew 22:12-14 KJV
STEP 3
THE CONTENTS OF THE COMMIISSION THE CHURCH MUST BE MARRIED TO JESUS CHRIST ALONE.





Wherefore, my brethren, ye also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ; that ye should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto God.
ROMANS 7:4 KJV WITH AN OATH, ABRAHAM DECLARED THAT THE WIFE FOR HIS SON MUST COME FROM HIS OWN KINDRED.



And I will make thee swear by the LORD, the God of the heaven, and the God of the earth, that thou shalt not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell:
But thou shalt go unto my country, and to my kindred, and take a wife unto my son Isaac. Gen.24:3, 4 KJV THE HOLY SPIRIT HAS BEEN COMMISSIONED TO BRING ONLY A CHRISTIAN SISTER TO A CHRISTIAN BROTHER IN MARRIAGE.

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? Or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,
And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty. 2Corinthians 6:14-18 KJV

STEP 4

YOU CANNOT GIVE OUT WHAT YOU DON’T HAVE. THEREFORE ALL THE VIRTUOUS TRAITS IN COOKING, KEEPING A HOME AND CARING FOR A HUSBAND SHOULD BE ACQUIRED BEFORE MARRIAGE. THE CHURCH SHOWS HER VIRTUOUSITY, DILIGENCE IN SERVICE AND PREPAREDNESS FOR MARRIAGE; REBECCA DISPLAYED HER VIRTUOUSITY, DILIGENCE IN SERVICE AND PREPAREDNESS FOR MARRIGE; THE CHRISTIAN WOMAN SHOULD DISPLAY HER VIRTUOUSITY, DILIGENCE IN SERVICE AND PREPAREDNESS FOR MARRIAGE.
AFTER MARRIAGE YOUR HUSBAND MAY NOT BE PATIENT FOR YOU TO ACQUIRE THEM BECAUSE IT’S TIME TO DISPLAY THEM. For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.
2 Corinthians 11:2 KJV And before I had done speaking in mine heart, behold, Rebecca came forth with her pitcher on her shoulder; and she went down unto the well, and drew water: and I said unto her, Let me drink, I pray thee.
And she made haste, and let down her pitcher from her shoulder, and said, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: so I drank, and she made the camels drink also. And I asked her, and said, Whose daughter art thou? And she said, The daughter of Bethuel, Nahor’s son, whom Milcah bare unto him: and I put the earring upon her face, and the bracelets upon her hands.
Gen.24:45-47 KJV

STEP 5

But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.
Heb. 11:6 KJV

What? Know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.
1Corinthians 6:16, 17 KJV
The eldest servant rejoiced at the divine leading of God to meet with Rebecca. It’s a mystery. God kept away other women who should have been there at that time to draw water;



And I bowed
down my head, and worshipped the LORD, and blessed the LORD God of my master Abraham, which had led me in the right way to take my master’s brother’s daughter unto his son.
Gen. 24:48. KJV
A BELIEVER IN CHRIST SHOULD NOT SETTLE ON MARRIAGE WITHOUT A CLEAR LEADING FROM GOD.










A young Christian man who is born again, spirit-filled, with a noble character, greatly admired and loved by many can feel qualified to propose marriage to a Christian Sister.
These qualities do not qualify the said Brother ready for marriage in the sight of God Who created the institution for marriage. The Christian Sister should not rush into marriage with the Brother. There are many other parameters stipulated in the word of God that the Christian Sister should consider apart from praying about it. In today’s world many Christians play light of marriage by falling into the temptation of using a process of deceit called: RANDOM SAMPLING or placing a FLEACE to make their selection for life partners in marriage, but religiously tag it to the concept of “praying about It”.
Hasty marriages are dangerous and without foundation. 99% of these marriages end up in DIVORCE AND HEART BREAK.
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We should earnestly pray to God for the leading of the Holy Spirit to show us His will. It is needful to mention at this point that there are three wills of God in marriage;

THE GOOD WILL, THE PERMISSIVE WILL, and THE PERFECT WILL OF GOD.

We must make a choice of what we truly desire from God and walk towards it. We shall see the details in subsequent articles. Please be in contact.
STEP 6
WAIT FOR APPROVAL AND BLESSINGS FROM THE GIRL’S PARENTS Jesus Christ was led up of the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted of the devil. When He saw that the entire world had been held captive by the devil
He came down and became like an ordinary man. Forasmuch then as the children are partakers of flesh and blood, he also himself likewise took part of the same; that through death he might destroy him that had the power of death, that is, the devil; And deliver them who through fear of death were all their lifetime subject to bondage.
For verily he took not on him the nature of angels; but he took on him the seed of Abraham.
Wherefore in all things it behoved him to be made like unto his brethren, that he might be a merciful and faithful high priest in things pertaining to God, to make reconciliation for the sins of the people. For in that he himself hath suffered being tempted, he is able to succor them that are tempted.
Heb.2:14-18 KJV Rebecca waited for the approval and blessings of her parents.

Then Laban and Bethuel answered and said, The thing proceeded from the LORD: we cannot speak unto thee bad or good.
Behold, Rebecca is before thee, take her, and go, and let her be thy master’s son’s wife, as the LORD hath spoken.
Gen. 24:50,51 KJV The Christian brother must wait for the approval and blessings of the Christian sister’s parents. Marriages which are hastily contracted without the consent of the bride’s parents often become unhappy and end up disastrously. The reasons for this trend are that children born into a family are kept under the custody of the parents by God. Therefore God will not bypass the parents and keep them out of information concerning His future plans for their lives.
Secondly, common decency and gratitude toward the father and mother of a girl demands it because she was reared and educated properly to be admired by a noble suitor. Her mother who brought her into the world with pains and sufferings demands it. Her father who provided for her needs from birth and paid tremendous price for her happiness demands it. The very character of this beautiful lady built by both parents prayerfully demands it. No wonder the eldest servant distributed gifts to the parents of Rebecca.

STEP 7
DO NOT WAIT TO KNOW EACH OTHER THUS PROVIDE ROOM FOR COURTSHIP. DEPEND ON THE HOLY SPIRIT. JESUS CHRIST KNEW WHAT MAN IS SO HE DID NOT GIVE HIMSELF TO MAN BUT TOTALLY DEPENDED ON THE HOLY SPIRIT. THEREFORE And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and took Rebecca, and she became his wife; and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.
Gen. 24:67 KJV Courtship is a period of getting intimately acquainted, of wooing the affection and of being won. Unfortunately it has become a period when necking, petting, hugs, kisses and handling are being practiced
NO COURTSHIP NO COURTSHIP NO COURTSHIP
The scripture states in Hebrew 13:4 that :
Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
STEP 8
THE HOLY SPIRIT IS THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN RENDER THE DETAILS OF THE CHRISTIAN BROTHER TO THE CHRISTAIN SISTER.
THE MORE YOU LOOK THE LESS YOU SEE.
ONLY ASK FOR GOD’S SUPERNATURAL HELP. THE HOLY SPIRIT IS OUR PARACLETE WHICH MEANS [TO CALL TO ONE’S AID.] Jesus Christ authorized the Holy Spirit to reveal to us that the Father had released all things He possesses to Him.
But when the Comforter is come, whom I will send unto you from the Father, even the Spirit of truth, which proceedeth from the Father, he shall testify of me.
John 15:26 KJV The eldest servant explained his mission to Rebecca and her family and she was released to him to take her back home. He told them all about Isaac and the fact that Abraham, had handed over all his possession to his son Isaac. And he said, I am Abraham’s servant.
And the LORD hath blessed my master greatly; and he is become great: and he hath given him flocks, and herds, and silver, and gold, and menservants, and maidservants, and camels, and asses.
And Sarah my master’s wife bare a son to my master when she was old: and unto him hath he given all that he hath.
Gen. 24: 34-36 KJV Believers having gotten the witness in their spirits to come together for a lifetime should then make time available to engage in talks to discuss on some serious issues. First on the list should be their relationships with God; knowing this: [BUT SEEK YE FIRST THE KINGDOM OF GOD, AND HIS RIGHTEOUSNESS; AND ALL THESE THINGS SHALL BE ADDED UNTO YOU.] MATT. 6:33 They should talk about their individual callings of God and how their ministries complement each other. THEY SHOULD FIND OUT THE MAIN THRUST OF THEIR MISSION ON EARTH.

As young believers demonstrate godly love to one another sincerely and truly get committed to marriage for a lifelong partnership, there should be a visible display of restraint and modesty in their relationship. The fad for nudity and the shameless uncovering of the bodies of women intending to marry leads the men to necking and petting. These urges often end in the defilement of the bed of marriage through ADULTERY.
Decent believers who want to be obedient to God’s word and the Holy Spirit will not practice handling, kissing and embracing thus touching or exposing their bodies to one another in the name of showing love. The word of God states:
[NOW CONCERNING the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.] 1Corinthians
7:1, 2. KJV




STEP 9
WHO REALLY SAW THE OTHER FIRST? IS IT THE MAN WHO SEES THE BONE OF HIS BONES FIRST OR THE WOMAN WHO SEES HER HUSBAND TO BE FIRST IN PERFECT MARRIAGE? JESUS CHRIST had paid for our salvation. It is therefore mandatory upon us to seek for the free gift of God. Heb.11:6 states: “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.”KJV
The Lord wants us to come to Him and receive Him and be part of the riches of His Grace.
Eve was with God who created her out of the bones of Adam and God brought Eve to Adam. God must have told Eve all about Adam before she was brought to him and she must have seen him first busy in the garden. And Isaac went out to meditate in the field at the eventide and he lifted up his eyes, and saw, and behold the camels were coming.
Gen. 24:63 KJV In God’s perfect will, the woman whose mind stays with God sees her God’s chosen husband first before the man meets with her. From the scriptures Rebecca saw Isaac first and ran to meet with him. It is noteworthy to mention here that confirmation of prospective marriage partners through dreams, visions, prophetic utterances and pastors match making techniques are misleading and as it were cutting corners.
Isaac went out to meditate and minister to the Lord in the field, keenly waiting to see who would be God’s Perfect choice for his life. And while he was in the field, he lifted up his eyes and saw the camels perhaps also the crowd of people coming.
[And they sent away Rebecca, their sister, and her nurse, and Abraham’s servant and his men.]
He couldn’t have sported who was his wife.
Rebecca saw him first because the eldest servant was with her to point at Isaac and confirm to her that Isaac was the one in the field when she enquired from him.
And Rebecca lifted up her eyes, and when she saw Isaac, she lighted off the camel. For she had said unto the servant, What man is this that walketh in the field to meet us? And the servant had said, It is my master: therefore she took a vail, and covered herself. Gen.24:64 -65 KJV
STEP 10
THE CONCEPT OF PRAYING ABOUT GOD’S WILL IN MARRIAGE, Jesus Christ prays often for the Church.” I pray for them: I pray not for the world, but for them which thou hast given me; for they are thine. And all mine are thine, and thine are mine; and I am glorified in them.”
John 17:9, 10. KJV Isaac was in the field meditating and praying to God. When he met Rebecca he did not say to her: Please wait for a day or two let me pray about it or stay with me for a season or two let me make a study of your character whether it fits mine. Hold your breaks let me find out from God whether we are compatible or not. All these did not happen because like Abraham, Isaac believed God and simply absorbed Rebecca to himself and they became husband and wife. Praying about God’s will in marriage should be taken seriously. Many nowadays go into gambling and random sampling based on the limited information they may gather from friends or gossipers to draw their conclusions. This is RATHER UNFAIR TO THE BROTHER OR SISTER. Many appear to treat prayer as a means to accomplish their aims and ideas. We should realize that prayer is man uttering to God what is His will. The flesh, no matter how it shows its ugly head must be crucified; it is forbidden even in prayers. We have no right to direct God than to follow His direction. It is noteworthy to mention here that God will not do any work which originates from man no matter how much we pray about it. God condemns such prayer as fleshly. Spiritual prayer does not proceed from the flesh, thought, desire, feelings or decision drawn from a believer; rather it is offered purely and exclusively according to the will of God.
STEP 11
Believers should wait until they are old enough to marry. The possessions of wealth, assets or high family living standards does not in any way grant us a free ticket into marriage. We must fulfill the pre- requisite conditions to get into the perfect will of God in marriage else we suffer even greater defeats from the devil.

The Church must come to spiritual maturity as Sons in order to get into marriage with Christ. For every one that useth milk is unskilful in the word of righteousness: for he is a babe.
But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil. Heb. 5:13,14 KJV Isaac was forty years old before he got married to Rebecca. The scripture reveals this in Gen. 25:20
And Isaac was forty years old when he took Rebecca to wife, the daughter of Bethuel the Syrian of Padan-aram, the sister to Laban the Syrian. The three parts of man; spirit, soul and body should be fully involved in the making of this perfect will of God in marriage. The intuitiveness of our spirit perceives the mind of God from the indwelling Holy Spirit and then communicates with our soul. The maturity of our soul (mind, desire, will and emotions) is required to understand the mind of God; while our body responds to the instincts drawn from its emotions. At this point we are said to be walking in the Spirit.
STEP 12
IDENTIFYING YOUR MINISTRY IS THE MOST IMPORTANT AND THE FIRST STEP TO TAKE IN ENSURING THAT YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION TOWARDS ENTERING A PERFECT MARRIAGE.

DETAILS FROM THE LIPS OF JESUS CHRIST IN SUBSEQUENT ARTICLES. Jesus Christ knew that He was coming to gather His people (the church) so He began by starting with the work of His ministry. The Holy Spirit was upon Him and He went about doing the will of the Father. While He was here He totally submitted Himself to the leading of the Spirit in order to fulfill His ministry: seeing He emptied Himself of every Omni-quality to take up the form of an ordinary man. He depended solely on the Holy Spirit to do the work which His Father sent Him to do. At the end of three and a half years, He accomplished the work of His ministry and set up the church. Then said Jesus to them again, Peace be unto you: as my Father hath sent me, even so send I you. And when he had said this, he breathed on them, and saith unto them. Receive ye the Holy Ghost: Whose soever sins ye remit, they are remitted unto them; and whose soever sins ye retain, they are retained. John 20:21-23. KJV. Isaac did not hastily get into marriage. As a matured adult and heir to his father Abraham’s great assets, he could have patiently under studied his father’s lifestyle and his relationship with his God. Abraham was a friend of God. He was a man God had confidence in at any time. In Gen. 18:17-19 the Lord spoke about Abraham. And the LORD said, Shall I hide from Abraham that thing which I do; Seeing that Abraham shall surely become a great and mighty nation, and all the nations of the earth shall be blessed in him? FOR I KNOW HIM, THAT HE WILL COMMAND HIS CHILDREN AND HIS HOUSEHOLD AFTER HIM. AND THEY SHALL KEEP THE WAY OF THE LORD, TO DO JUSTICE AND JUDGMENT; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him. Gen.18:17-19 KJV
God was fully persuaded that Abraham will teach his children and household His ways. This must have given rise to Isaac’s knowledge in the fulfillment of his ministry.




A Christian brother must first identify his ministry and work in complete obedience to the Holy Spirit before he is taken on to the journey of finding his wife. Every Christian sister should endeavor to study Proverb 31: 10-31 and practice how to become a virtuous woman. It was the virtuosity of Rebecca that earned her the blessing of having Isaac as a husband. God rewards those who diligently seek Him. Don’t ever give up. We shall dig deep into this exposition in our subsequent articles.
We have gone through the pre-ambles using the types and shadows to pick out some of the steps we must fulfill in order to make it into the perfect will of God in marriage.
In the next article I shall release details and proofs of these steps and other vital steps as part of the blueprint delivered to me by our Lord Jesus Christ.
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