If you can please help your in-laws remember your kids may benefit from that in the future as well.

No one can predict the future.

happney65:


Na mumu Men dey fall for it under the guise of "I am a responsible Man yen yen yen". If I get and anybody is in need at my in-laws,if I get extra,no big deal I can help.

But it isn't my responsibility at all . Because I know some wey no get yafunyafun and them dey manage and dey pay heavy bills for their inlaws. On top wetin?

Abegi

Lol! You have a point here.I myself believe so.

jaxxy:
it's not a man's job bt family should take care of family if they are capable. Not his job tho.

Simple question

Will the wife's family cater for their daughter's husband if he's not well to do?

Where did it states that the topic is strictly for Nigerians only

Gajagojo:


Are you Nigerian?
Are you married?
I guess you are neither and just seeking attention

Onyiiobi7735:
Reno is very right this time around.No man marrying from a particular family is responsible for carrying the burden of the in-laws.He should not emotionally blackmailed into becoming the meal ticket of his in-laws.
Some in-laws are very excellent at emotional blackmail of the men marrying their daughters,but smart men won't fall for it.

ibo will begin hate Reno now

NaughtyBrainiac:
Do you read to understand or you read to respond?

Getat from here!

Khyrvxjzy:

ibo will begin hate Reno now

Lol! Only the senseless ones will begin to do so.

Samantha124:
I don't disagree with what everyone is saying, in fact I agree that the groom shouldn't be burdened with the responsibility of financially supporting his in-laws, but the wife should also not be expected to perform certain responsibilities towards her in-laws.

When they visit, they should cook for themselves whenever the wife is busy, for she's not their chef... And if one of the groom's parents gets sick and needs 24/7 care, the groom should care for his parent to good health, for his wife wouldn't have signed up to be a nurse when she agreed to get married to him.

What do you think guys?

In the traditional African setting then the wife should prepare to become first wife.


When the husband's people see the wife of their"brother" has misbehaving because he has refused to become a beast of burden for her family.

E no hard the husband's family go bring one small girl from their village who doesn't mind to take over. Soon she becomes that second wife that can be cooking for them and taking care of them whenever they visit. Some men from the man's village might be having at least 2 wives so all your nuclear family blah blah doesn't freak them.


Soon the first wife becomes redundant and marginalised as attention moves to the second wife. The husband's family and friends and everybody moves on with their life till nobody even cares about her. Everybody is Happy at the end of the day.

On a serious note so because the Man has decided not to overburden himself but helps the in-laws as he can does it mean the wife should rebel and start displaying a rebellious attitude? As if she can't take care of her own family too.

I know a man, his wife's family gave an amount to be contributed by every son-in-law for an event. Imagine such

id4sho:

My brother, she's always talking about her mom. That she will make sure her mum enjoys. Her aunt will be telling her to tell me to buy roasted fish. The father is a great man but the women ehhhhhh

Ah. Any woman that consistently disregard a great father will ruin your life o. She'll make sure your children do to you what she and her mother did to her father.

GanagiBitrus:

Yes, looking after inlaws is generally not a mans responsibility, but there are exceptions.
If your wife is the only surviving child of her mother & her mother falls sick, it's her responsibility to take care of her, which indirectly becomes your responsibility too.

In most cases that's not the case, most families with single child don't go through much economic stress unlike the economically disadvantaged families with large family size

A one off thing isn't a problem but when it becomes mandatory even when they the family size is large.

Lol... You're now starting to sound emotional and insulting SA men over something that doesn't concern them...😂😂😂... What? Did I bruise your fragile ego?

I wouldn't mind leaving you to enjoy your bride price in peace, you can even use it to pay for a naive village woman that you'll easily manipulate with your fragile ego...

Emotionss:
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Just look at you of the things one can try to use to threaten someone like me, cooking is definitely not one of those things....

Try that return of bride price nonsense with me and find yourself replace immediately...

A replaceable nonentity forming irreplaceable and priceless...

I honestly don't blame you south African men have proven time without numbers to be weaklings, lazy and below average in terms of masculinity.

🙄🙄🙄

Dshocker:


Probably South Africans are ok with that culture, here in Nigeria, courtesy demands you serve or offer your visitor food, particularly your family.

waveman2:
Only that one na dangote kind money well I wish you luck.

I have a relative who isn't rich up to dangote level that is currently doing it heavily.

Though he isn't a poor man either , he is very successful

Emotionss:
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Just look at you of the things one can try to use to threaten someone like me, cooking is definitely not one of those things....

Try that return of bride price nonsense with me and find yourself replace immediately...

A replaceable nonentity forming irreplaceable and priceless...

I honestly don't blame you south African men have proven time without numbers to be weaklings, lazy and below average in terms of masculinity.

Don't be stupid, leave SA men out of your debate. Only weak and lazy people generalize about all the men of a country because they can't counter a woman from that county.

I'll also cook for his family when I can.

Why prepare to be the first wife when I can just give him the money he paid for the bride price and go my separate way?

And remember that getting him a girl from the village wouldn't mean he'll love her because his family would've gotten her just to spite me, but he'd have married me because he'd have chosen me for himself and because he loved me.

He'll probably just see the girl as his maid and sex object while I'll find myself the man I love and move on in peace.

Theama:



In the traditional African setting then the wife should prepare to become first wife. E no hard the husband's family go bring one small girl from their village who doesn't mind to take over. So that second wife can be cooking for them and take care of them whenever they visit.

Soon the first wife becomes redundant as attention moves to the second wife. The husband's family and friends and everybody moves on with their life till nobody even cares about her. Everybody is Happy at the end of the day.

On a serious note so because the Man has decided not to overburden himself but helps the in-laws as he can does it mean the wife should rebel and start displaying a rebellious attitude? As if she can't take care of her own family too.

mastermaestro:
Very easy to spot irresponsible men. This internet loafer thinks being a man is just about possessing a penis. Bloody sissy! Take care of your in-laws as much as you can.

For your information, there are many men who care for nobody but themselves, yet poverty lives with them.

Very true. It's good to have a liberal mind. Give the little you can.

Samantha124:
I don't disagree with what everyone is saying, in fact I agree that the groom shouldn't be burdened with the responsibility of financially supporting his in-laws, but the wife should also not be expected to perform certain responsibilities towards her in-laws.

When they visit, they should cook for themselves whenever the wife is busy, for she's not their chef... And if one of the groom's parents gets sick and needs 24/7 care, the groom should care for his parent to good health, for his wife wouldn't have signed up to be a nurse when she agreed to get married to him.

What do you think guys?

When they visit is different

It's not easy to carry your immediate family your own family then your wife,s family in this our present economy you have to be very successful and when I mean successful it means it giving doesn't affect you.

vaxx:
I have a relative who isn't rich up to dangote level that is currently doing it heavily.

Though he isn't a poor man either , he is very successful

I'll be at work working so that I can be able to financially assist my family when they're in need of financial support.

He can cook for his family.

Exceed15:


When they visit is different

Samantha124:
I'll also cook for his family when I can.

Why prepare to be the first wife when I can just give him the money he paid for the bride price and go my separate way?

And remember that getting him a girl from the village wouldn't mean he'll love her because his family would've gotten her just to spite me, but he'd have married me because he'd have chosen me for himself and because he loved me.

He'll probably just see the girl as his maid and sex object while I'll find myself the man I love and move on in peace.

You don't know how the average man works .

If he's a no nonsense man


As long as the new wife gives him

Peace of mind
Respects him and his family
Cooks
Good character
Doesn't over burden him or nag at him

That's what it basically takes for the average man to fall in love. You can ask your Fianceé why he chose you and you might see most of this being told to you.


He'll eventually fall in love with her because that's what he saw in the first wife before she started misbehaving and wanting him to become a beast of burden forget family.

If the first wife goes her Separate ways he has seen an alternative who gives him and his family the peace of mind they want and he's least concerned about the first wife.


If she eventually finds a manage loves if she still refuses to cook for his family she'll be booted out again because there's a higher tendency she exhibits the signs of somebody who overburdens others.

Unless the man she end up with has no respect for his family, he might tolerate such acts.

If you were Nigerian you'd probably understand sha.

waveman2:

It's not easy to carry your immediate family your own family then your wife,s family in this our present economy you have to be very successful and when I mean successful it means it giving doesn't affect you.

I agree with you . But the man is heavily doing it which I admire so much and I tap from his blessings

Reno is one of the last ppl that should open his mouth about any type of family responsibility. 🤨

Samantha124:
No.

We don't have Swahili.

So u re not married and u re opposing and castigating my opinion...dey play

So what you're telling me is that Nigerian men don't love and respect their in-laws, yet they expect their wives to love and respect their in-laws just because a bride price was paid for them

Theama:


You don't know how the average man works .

If he's a no nonsense man


As long as the new wife gives him

Peace of mind
Respects him and his family
Cooks
Good character
Doesn't over burden him or nag at him

That's what it basically takes for the average man to fall in love. You can ask your Fianceé why he chose you and you might see most of this being told to you.


He'll eventually fall in love with her because that's what he saw in the first wife before she started misbehaving and wanting him to become a beast of burden forget family.

If the first wife goes her Separate ways he has seen an alternative who gives him and his family the peace of mind they want and he's least concerned about the first wife.


If she eventually finds a manage loves if she still refuses to cook for his family she'll be booted out again because there's a higher tendency she exhibits the signs of somebody who overburdens others.

Unless the man she end up with has no respect for his family, he might tolerate such acts.

If you were Nigerian you'd probably understand sha.

Procashtips:


Simple question

Will the wife's family cater for their daughter's husband if he's not well to do?

yes some do if they are capable. I have friends who have been lucky to have loving inlaws.

Gave him a huge business loan which he paid back at his convenience.

The same you're not married, but giving me marriage advice...

OlawaleBammie:
So u re not married and u re opposing and castigating my opinion...dey play

Samantha124:
The same you're not married, but giving me marriage advice...

But a never gave u an advice na, I just dished out an opinion..

Anyways, are u still with ur man??

Fira09:
Always running to the mods to seek for shitty assistance, so, you are now the CEO/Admin of NL demanding to launch some new rule to suit your C******* Complaint?

Nah, this ain't normal.

Fira, fira.

How far? How have you been? It's been a minute.


You know I've been wondering how long you were going to last, and give in to the urge to engage me. I never knew it wouldn't be long coming!

Been seeing you everywhere. Like a peeping ***. Lmao.

This must be so ... freeing, right? Or soothing. I don't know. Whatever pleasure you're getting is your ish.

Anyway, good looking out to you for indulging your desire or whatever.

Goalminded1:
My joy is that people have already read it, and she too, has read it.
The truth is always a bitter pill to swallow.

You must be delusional if you think I went through that load of crap. 🤣🤣🤣


One being removed is satisfying enough. I have hidden the other (that is if the mods do not see it 👀👀).

If you mention me to any rubbish again, I'll GLADLY report it 😘. Get it out of my sight, please.