[size=14pt]Five married women on why they cheated[/size]


For men, it’s typically about the sex—the more sexually excitable they are, the more likely they are to cheat. For women, it’s more about the level of satisfaction in her relationship; if a woman is unhappy in her marriage, she’s 2.6 times more likely to cheat.

“My husband was abusive.”
“From the day I married my husband, I knew it was a mistake,” says 50-year-old Elizabeth Smith.* “He was abusive, controlling and expected me to quit my job to make a home for him.” A little over a year into the marriage, she began having an affair with a man that she worked with. “I had no illusions that I was in love, but it was eye-opening to be with someone that made me feel good about myself, made me laugh and respected me for who I was—not who he wanted me to be,” she says. “The affair helped me find myself and proved to me that I could live a life independent of my husband. It also gave me the courage to ask for a divorce.

“We began to resent each other.”
When Vanessa Myers*, 28, married her husband six years ago, they both couldn’t wait to have children, but after their wedding day something changed for her. “I started to really love my job, and kids didn’t seem to fit into the picture,” she says. Her husband was hurt by her change of heart, and began to resent her. “We started fighting a lot, and I resented him for resenting me and we were just constantly hurting each other,” she says. “One night I caught him trying to slip off the condom and that was pretty much the end of our sex life.” Ultimately, the lack of intimacy caused Vanessa to cheat. “I met a guy online and we dated for about a year,” she says. “It ended when my husband caught me.” Vanessa and her husband agreed to seek therapy separately and together, and were able to save their marriage.

“I was bored and unhappy.”
At 35-years-old, Barbara Gisborne was living the American dream. She lived in Madison, Wisconsin, with her loving husband and two children—but she was miserable. “My husband was a good man, but I was bored inside and out,” she says. “In our community, I always felt like a square peg trying to fit in a round hole.” That year, she was in Chicago on business and met Bob, an Australian man, on an elevator. “We had an instant connection. We exchanged numbers, kept in touch, and I decided to fly out to Australia to see him and get him out of my system,” she says. “Instead, I fell in love.” She left everything she knew—her hometown, her husband, her job and her country—to start her life over with Bob in Australia. “I became strong, independent, confident and much worldlier,” she says. “That was 25 years ago and now I can say that my affair was the turning point in my life’s journey. Today, Bob and I are married, own a winery in Australia, and have five children and 10 grandchildren between us.”



“My husband was a workaholic.”
For 10 years, 49-year-old Barbara Singer created a life independent of her husband because he was never around. “Gary was totally consumed and exhausted by his work—there was nothing left for me,” she says. “I was totally committed to my family and gave it my all, but knew in my heart that I certainly did not want this for rest of my life.” One night, she met up with Tom, an acquaintance, and ended up staying out all night with him. Within a few weeks of meeting him, she ended her marriage, and two years later, she and Tom were married. But within a month, he died of a heart attack. “Meeting Tom was the best and worst thing that ever happened to me. He came into my life and woke me up, showing me…that life is precious and that at any given moment, it can all be taken away, so if I have a dream or a goal, I better get moving on it,” she says.

“He was unfaithful first.”
Larie Norvell had only been married about a year when she found out that her husband had cheated on her. “I was very angry, but I was also very hurt, because I felt like I wasn’t enough for him—like there was something I wasn’t doing for him as his wife, which is why he felt the need to go outside of our marriage,” says the 33-year-old. That jumble of mixed emotions was the impetus for her affair. “I cheated on him—mostly for revenge, but in retrospect it was also because I wanted validation. I wanted to know that I was still desirable to other men,” she says.

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i didn't waste my time reading their reasons, NO reason is good enough to cheat, its wrong by all known standard. ya, we all make mistakes,but the responsible thing to do is make amends and not try justify your wrong doings,  just my view

Now!! who says women don't cheat on their husbands i wish we could get Nigeria jist on how wives cheat on their hubby, everyday, but they won't come out!

ronkebp:

Now!! who says women don't cheat on their husbands i wish we could get Nigeria jist on how wives cheat on their hubby, everyday, but they won't come out!

women are the same WORLD wide,

^^^^^^^^^i know they are the same.

ronkebp:

^^^^^^^^^i know they are the same.

didn't expect u to accept that, since u'r a Female,

the LINK:

didn't expect u to accept that, since u'r a Female,

Well you have already said your mind, no point arguing with you, that not all women are the same.

ronkebp:

Well you have already said your mind, no point arguing with you, that not all women are the same.

o no i'm sorry, ur views can really help in shaping or redefining mine so pls lets hav them

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o no i'm sorry, your views can really help in shaping or redefining mine so pls lets hav them

So what would you like to know.?

ronkebp:

So what would you like to know.?

your view(s)

the LINK:

i didn't waste my time reading their reasons, NO reason is good enough to cheat, its wrong by all known standard. ya, we all make mistakes,but the responsible thing to do is make amends and not try justify your wrong doings,  just my view

I read through and their posts did arouse sympathy in me but I must agree with you. No reason justifies cheating.

It's not just humiliating to your partner but it's also a form of self-degradation.

Hmmn! Women are birds of the same feather except my mum.

michelin89:

I read through and their posts did arouse sympathy in me but I must agree with you. No reason justifies cheating.

It's not just humiliating to your partner but it's also a form of self-degradation.

i luv that, self degradation. nice tot

Oluschenco:

Hmmn! Women are birds of the same feather except my mum.

its safe to assume u'r not married, hope u'r ready to get married to a lady with character described in the story

ronkebp:

Now!! who says women don't cheat on their husbands i wish we could get Nigeria jist on how wives cheat on their hubby, everyday, but they won't come out!

Do you know some?

Oluschenco:

Hmmn! Women are birds of the same feather except my mum.

Another guy will say the same thing and exclude his mom while including yours.

God help us all

aloy/emeka:

Do you know some?

My dear, i do ooooo, i know a lot gan sef, i have a very good friend who is presently cheating on her hubby, for reasons i don't know. Then that one no be my konsine, i just pray for her everyday.

My cousin, that one, she just moved out of her hubby's house, she is now living in one of the houses her boyfriend built for her in Lekki, Her case is a different one, because her hubby abused the living-hell out of her, both verbally and physically, i used to hate the fact that she still stuck to him, but one day she just made up her mind to take charge of her life, is cheating the answer?? No!!! but this other guy, has given her a shoulder to lean on, she is happy, she is now emotionally stable. is she thinking of marrying this new guy, nope!!! but she is just glad she is out of her husband's life. In her case, reconciliation will not do anything, don't think she can ever reconcile with her hubby.

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i didn't waste my time reading their reasons, NO reason is good enough to cheat, its wrong by all known standard. ya, we all make mistakes,but the responsible thing to do is make amends and not try justify your wrong doings,  just my view

Right on. Cheating is one of the highest forms of insult in my opinion. Nothing can warrant that kind of treatment as far as I'm concerned. I can respect someone who divorces and moves on. Cheats lose my respect and gaining it back will be either difficult or impossible.

Fact, Truth - “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” - Hebrews 13:4

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aloy/emeka:

Another guy will say the same thing and exclude his mom while including yours.

LoLZ

This na Oyinbo reasons.

You need to put up the scenarios that apply to our 9aija environment. Apart from some few sectors e.g Financial. How many married working women have the time to enjoy cheating/ flirting. Give 9aija Married women chance. Them they try. At least they don't scheme everyday on how to marry and divorce to end up with your hard earned money, car and house , only to remarry few weeks later to a secret lover boy.

I'm proud of you lot, Nice to hear nice thoughts from fellow Nigerians. I always knew that we are a considerate & decent lot. Self control appears to be the necessary ingredient here. Religious belief? I don't think so. GREEN, WHITE, GREEN!

i will say 80% of Naija women cheat on their husband. it is normal in naija setting

Who said nigerian women dont cheat. Well,yoruba Women do cheat.

She can cheat on her husband if her husband is not good in bed or he is available for her.

randyorton:

Who said nigerian women dont cheat. Well,yoruba Women do cheat.

A lot of them cheat jare!!!!!!!! they are only pretenders.

I thought someone was going to gist us why 9ja women cheat - well, i know a few reasons. . .but let us keep that for another day.