This is in reference to this my story
https://www.nairaland.com/7508796/sexual-molestation-minor

I stayed away from the family. I went to spend sometime with my mum around December of 2022. I returned from work one day and got my ears full when my mum told me that my daughter talked about the molestation case all day. Mum advised me to take her to my in-laws place for the matter to be resolved, but that I should call hubby to take permission. He granted it.
Only for me to get there and my father in-law was accusing me of cooking up the story in my daughter's mind. I refused to be wrongly accused. My father in-law said after all the girl that molested my daughter isn't a boy and that after all she didn't finger my daughter. Because I defended myself and my daughter, my parents inlaw chased me and my baby out of their house like a common criminal. I cried all the way to my mum's place. Called my husband, he told me he knows the kind of parents he had, and that I should try forget the issue.
I tried forgetting it and stayed away from them. I cut them off totally. That was the only way I could heal. It's not like any of my in-laws ever reached out to me even before and after my daughter was molested, I was always doing all the calling. After this incident, I locked up.
Now my husband threw my load out on January 13th. My offense? His mother sent us food and I failed to call her to say thank you.
That's my offense. I've been squatting with my daughter from one place to another. His father even called to warn their tenant not to allow me spend another night at their house, because me and my daughter spent one night with the only tenant in the compound when I had no place to go. The tenant consist of a father, mother and their daughter, nice people.
Me and hubby live in their family house, although hubby's parents don't live there, only us and one tenant.
I've cried and cried. Elders in my church have begged and begged. He is adamant, with the backing of his father. He even locked up the remaining of my property in the very dusty store close to the gate, including my molested daughter's clothes. I even met my laptop on the floor, he had removed it from his worn-out bag I was using to house the laptop. I was so livid and was shouting that why wasn't he patient enough to give me some days to gather some money at least to rent a room, but he was so adamant that he and his family wanted me out on the street immediately. Because I was shouting out of anger and frustration, he took a wood with nail on it to hit my hand. It took the intervention of these same tenant to avert beating I would have received. This is a man I've sacrificed alot for, 10 years gone, just like that. My daughter and I are out on the street, squatting with a church member, without a dime.
And I have just heard from a neighbour that a new girl is coming to spend time in my own home, even helping him to rearrange it. I'm still in total shock and don't know what to do.
PLEASE I NEED A JOB before I lose my sanity. I live around Sango OTA.

we have not heard from the man,

so we can't pass judgement.

Someone below me might pass judgement without hearing from the man, so I'll wait

The fact is you have painted this story to be one-sided and without fault. I would also like to hear the man’s side of the story because it just seems so unreal for any man to throw you and his daughter out without any real provocation.

In the interim, you mentioned your mother, why don’t you move your things back to your parents place or siblings instead of sleeping in strange places. I believe you were staying somewhere before you got married

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Has your daughter gotten therapy to the trauma yet?

It's good you identified that you need a job or a business to keep you going.

First thing first is for you to make her safe. Marriage these days is another thing.

Lack of patients, being over reactive and lack of forgiving spirit has led you to where you’re right now. No be only you get daughter even your father in law follow get the daughter. If they advise you to let go let go. Leave all this over wise ness way they worry una. Inside 10years you get only 1 daughter, you think say the family go happy

You seem like the type that has a very sharp mouth with bad attitude...... Your mouth is very troublesome and destructive

You are only talking from one side of the story and not the full picture..


But your husband should not have left his daughter like this? African men behave badly and when they grow old, they want the kids they maltreated to take care of them...

You didn't allow sleeping dogs to lie.
A daughter in a 10 years marriage is highly worrisome.
The need a grandson.
Your husband staying in his parents house after ten years of marriage, puts him under control of his parents.
Your in-laws gave you gift, you failed to acknowledge and appreciate them for it.
You caused your own downfall.
Thank God, you ready to move on.
Sure you ve learnt your lessons, in case you might have a second chance.

Believe them at your own risk, never be emotional in believing them , they saw the devil and he thought them his tricks.
You sacrifice 10 years? I guess your husband was just sleeping, and enjoying life those 10 yrs.
In as much as we know they are perverts and we as parents cannot be everywhere with our child ,but your best we can do is to pray for them..You lucky it wasn't a male perverts who forcefully tried getting his way into your daughter.
It's obvious you kept bring the nasty picture back to that little 4 years old girl memory, spreading the news of her encounter to who cares, for what good exactly? that I really don't know. Will you have taken the case so seriously, if same happened from your relative sides, mostly likely your siblings children ?
Earlier you know once shit happens in a family (which no one prayers for ), every family member work hard to clean it up and stop pointing accusing fingers. If some family tells you what they have cleaned up, you will be surprised.
Your write-up clearly shows a manipulator, who have cleverly done it for 10years...

MsJackson:
This is in reference to this my story
https://www.nairaland.com/7508796/sexual-molestation-minor

I stayed away from the family. I went to spend sometime with my mum around December of 2022. I returned from work one day and got my ears full when my mum told me that my daughter talked about the molestation case all day. Mum advised me to take her to my in-laws place for the matter to be resolved, but that I should call hubby to take permission. He granted it.
Only for me to get there and my father in-law was accusing me of cooking up the story in my daughter's mind. I refused to be wrongly accused. My father in-law said after all the girl that molested my daughter isn't a boy and that after all she didn't finger my daughter. Because I defended myself and my daughter, my parents inlaw chased me and my baby out of their house like a common criminal. I cried all the way to my mum's place. Called my husband, he told me he knows the kind of parents he had, and that I should try forget the issue.
I tried forgetting it and stayed away from them. I cut them off totally. That was the only way I could heal. It's not like any of my in-laws ever reached out to me even before and after my daughter was molested, I was always doing all the calling. After this incident, I locked up.
Now my husband threw my load out on January 13th. My offense? His mother sent us food and I failed to call her to say thank you.
That's my offense. I've been squatting with my daughter from one place to another. His father even called to warn their tenant not to allow me spend another night at their house, because me and my daughter spent one night with the only tenant in the compound when I had no place to go. The tenant consist of a father, mother and their daughter, nice people.
Me and hubby live in their family house, although hubby's parents don't live there, only us and one tenant.
I've cried and cried. Elders in my church have begged and begged. He is adamant, with the backing of his father. He even locked up the remaining of my property in the very dusty store close to the gate, including my molested daughter's clothes. I even met my laptop on the floor, he had removed it from his worn-out bag I was using to house the laptop. I was so livid and was shouting that why wasn't he patient enough to give me some days to gather some money at least to rent a room, but he was so adamant that he and his family wanted me out on the street immediately. Because I was shouting out of anger and frustration, he took a wood with nail on it to hit my hand. It took the intervention of these same tenant to avert beating I would have received. This is a man I've sacrificed alot for, 10 years gone, just like that. My daughter and I are out on the street, squatting with a church member, without a dime.
And I have just heard from a neighbour that a new girl is coming to spend time in my own home, even helping him to rearrange it. I'm still in total shock and don't know what to do.
PLEASE I NEED A JOB before I lose my sanity. I live around Sango OTA.

Hmm my dear fear family people they want to cover up their track,my dear get human rights so your husband will be paying for the child if you're legally married, same thing happened to my cousin here her husband was molesting the little child upon everything he's doesn't take care of them, immediately she Left his family refused to call her, now they want to get another lady for him just because she said this,they even refused talking about it,he's so glad she's gone because she doesn't have a male child... your husband started hating you right from when you spoke up about the abuse, pray and tell God to expose that girl for you, try to get a possible place, forget him that girl has always been there you just couldn't see her... You could have simply put a big red mark on your sister in law but communicated with the rest but you just aided them calm down a little bit to push you out because his attitude seems uncanny like he's doing it under suggestions.

Amb1045:
Lack of patients, being over reactive and lack of forgiving spirit has led you to where you’re right now. No be only you get daughter even your father in law follow get the daughter. If they advise you to let go let go. Leave all this over wise ness way they worry una. Inside 10years you get only 1 daughter, you think say the family go happy

You sef Sabi reason the lady didn't know she just gave them another reason to treat her like they had always wanted to...I don't even see any reason why she would be against the father and mother in law, you could have just created a boundary between your husband and sister instead period.