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Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Corps1000: 9:38am On Dec 27, 2017 |
Write2018: I wasn’t in love with him ha ha. I did like him. And was thinking it could work out long term. I wanna believe this is a misunderstanding and hope he contacts me to clarify things but deep down I know this is it. It is what it is. I’m sure in a month I’ll be over it. |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Corps1000: 9:40am On Dec 27, 2017 |
chaarly: Thanks hun, you too. I appreciate it. Because this legit spoiled my mood. Hopefully one day I can find a real man who doesn’t play games and is sincere. 1 Like |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Nobody: 9:55am On Dec 27, 2017 |
should you guyz are all wondering, i 'm a game freak myself, yes playstation 4 to be precise. and not the other way round. lol @Corps1000, i m winking at you over here, can u roger dat. lol |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Fabuloski(m): 10:39am On Dec 27, 2017 |
Corps1000:Funny, What Your Story Later Turn Out To Be Is Just Funny And Crazy. Though, Not That I Don't See Those Kind Of Character Before, Very Rampant With Women. But Then I Think You Will Do Fine By Yourself. My Advice For You Hun, I Don't Know Why You Are Subscribing To Online Dating, There Should Be Enough Men In FL You Can Hook Up With. Just Work On Yourself And... Never Mind. Have Fun. |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Nobody: 10:45am On Dec 27, 2017 |
Op, be patient but remember if you are dating a Nigerian man don't be too emotional and be easy going about it. Too much emotions scare them off. What am. I even saying Sef? As in emotions of I love u die! Scares them off. Relax, do your thing. Make yourself happy. He will come back to u later. Worrying will just make u sad. Remove your mind and do your thing. One day u will receive a call from him, trying to make up. That's how most are. And if he's yours for keeps? With time u will know and be decisive about your decision about him |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Nobody: 11:35am On Dec 27, 2017 |
alexialin:i don't mean to object or generalize on the notions that too much emotions from our love interest scares us away, you are a nigerian like myself and not everyone would act like this inconsiderate but cum to think of it, that relationship was already falling apart the moment she came back from FL, l think. that proposed get away trip to go along with him; barely two months into the flint, to naija was just a prank. An opportunity for him to want out! Nothing more. his dating mannerism is out-dated, that's not a cool way to bolt 1 Like |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Nobody: 11:42am On Dec 27, 2017 |
GameKartel: If that's the case? Can u imagine the mind game, he played on her? That's why I said in relationship, don't over love most times. Just play it cool and easy. So issues of heartbreak the op is feeling won't arise. |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Nobody: 11:47am On Dec 27, 2017 |
alexialin:Ok, now i understand you beta |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by BigdaddyPR: 12:42pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Corps1000:While he was immature about the whole thing, I think the defining moment for him was when you gave a negative answer to his request to come to Nigeria which is understandable because the relationship was just 2months, if you had gone with him, then of course you both would be in Nigeria now and you wouldn't have to worry about all of these other than to build your relationship. He probably thought after your reply there won't be a need to go to Nigeria again and he stayed put. This perhaps is one of the assumed logical reasons why he should still be in the states, otherwise this makes absolutely no sense on his part considering how old he is. Don't sweat much on it, if he won't communicate well this early in the relationship then of what use is all the future talks. |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Corps1000: 3:08pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
alexialin:I was easy going about it! I wasn’t the one asking him to live with me, or asking to come to nigeria with me or asking to be exclusive. Remember I was dating 2 other guys at same time. I don’t expect a call from him or want him anymore. 1 Like |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Corps1000: 3:12pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
GameKartel:Yeah, it isn’t cool at all. That’s what makes me upset. I’m a nice person and was genuine from get go. And he’s 35 years old! He should have been honest. I don’t think he went to Nigeria either. His Facebook doesn’t even indicate that he went to nigeria. 1 Like |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Corps1000: 3:48pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
BigdaddyPR: I actually don’t think he even went to nigeria. I think he used it as a way out. For instance he said Kevin heart was coming to Florida December 31 when he is suppose to be in Nigeria. If you’re in Nigeria why even mention this. He knew I wasn’t going to come to nigeria. And used that as a way out. And this man has 3 sisters! His family is in Nigeria so there would be a reason to go. This dude is just a disgusting liar. 1 Like |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by IamLaura(f): 4:07pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Corps1000:Hi dear I've been following this conversation and I have one question for you Are you a Taurus? |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Waffarianman(m): 4:20pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Corps1000: One thing I see here is this. This guy want to take you to Nigeria to see he's families and friend but you decline and secondly he called to see you before leaving but you never show up... You reason d Mara hw e b u Try call ahm to settle una difference |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by dasparrow: 4:26pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Corps1000: Most Nigerian men are terribly misogynist. Are you sure that is what you want? Take a look at Nairaland's homepage/front page. There are two threads of Nigerian husbands who killed their wives. Women who marry Nigerian men don't always have a voice especially in Nigeria. Many are maltreated and cheated upon and infected with STDs by their husbands and the Nigerian society expects them to put up with it. As the wife of a Nigerian male, you get blamed for everything that goes wrong in his life. I personally will not wish for any of my female kids to marry a Nigerian male because I don't wish to have to bury any of my daughters. Just be careful because prevention they say is better than cure. Follow your intuition. 1 Like |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Corps1000: 4:26pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
IamLaura: Nope. |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Waffarianman(m): 4:28pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Corps1000: Babe 4get all D's ur Mara try call DT dude mak una settle una mara. If you dey form porch e go tire u o remember na woman u b... Cool dwn 4 Jesus, na inside life life dey... I gerarahere |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Corps1000: 4:29pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Waffarianman:He likely isn’t even in Nigeria. And he never called to see me before he left. He never even asked to see me before he allegedly left. He never even wishes me a merry Christmas but has time to create a new online dating profile? Bottom line he’s a liar. |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Corps1000: 4:30pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Waffarianman: I don’t understand what you are saying. I’m not Nigerian. 1 Like |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Corps1000: 4:33pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
dasparrow: I appreciate your insight. As for him, he seemed like a nice guy. Key word, seemed. He is born in America but has lived in Nigeria. He seemed open minded. I probably won’t date a Nigerian again because I noticed the ones who pursued me bring up marriage and kids up way too soon for my liking. Perhaps that’s cultural but that makes me uncomfortable. I find Black American men to be a better match for me, that’s what I normally date. I don’t even date men from my culture. I don’t think all Nigerian men are bad because of this experience by the way. |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Waffarianman(m): 4:37pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Corps1000: What I mean you should and try call him no matter what to settle your difference even though you guys comes from different country. |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Waffarianman(m): 4:39pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Corps1000: Take it easy never call him a liar yet, still try to call to know what's wrong with him okay. |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by emoch(m): 4:42pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Nothing kills a relationship faster than Assumption and Expectations. Give him an excuse and only conclude when he gives an explanation as to why he wasn't responsive. |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Corps1000: 4:56pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Waffarianman: I did call from my phone and it went straight to voicemail. I used someone’s else phone and it went straight to voicemail. Anyway, nothing more to say. There is nothing to settle. He was playing games and ghosted me. |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Corps1000: 5:02pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Waffarianman:as I said I called him and straight to voicemail. He led me to believe we were exclusive but created a new dating profile. He probably didn’t even go to Nigeria. He never contacted me since he allegedly left but yet he wanted us to live together and to meet his family. But when he was in Florida and I was here he had no issue contacting me daily. I may be naive at times but I’m not dumb or blind. My ex who I was with for 4 years. If I left the country to travel, I would stay in touch him. He did the same for me when he went out of state to travel. Just to show each other we have each other on our mind. |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Corps1000: 5:10pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
emoch: Wow, unbelievable, isn’t it obvious? He was playing games and ghosted me. If your daughter or sister went through this, would you be telling them to wait around for a response? If you like someone, you don’t treat them this way. That’s universally known. Anyway, even if he came back, which I doubt he will, I don’t want him anymore. |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Waffarianman(m): 5:22pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Corps1000: Easy I pray everything will be fine with you guys 1 Like |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Waffarianman(m): 5:23pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Corps1000: Try drop a message on he's fb or WhatsApp handles and see what happen |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by RSVP: 5:24pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Corps1000: I actually don’t think he even went to nigeria. I think he used it as a way out. TRUE He knew I wasn’t going to come to nigeria. And used that as a way out. This dude is just a disgusting liar Very true It's obvious dude is pvssy thirsty. Forget that idiot and move on! 1 Like |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by Corps1000: 5:45pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
RSVP: Thanks, finally someone sees it the way I do! 1 Like |
Re: Dating A Nigerian Man But Having Doubts About Him...Any advice? by RSVP: 5:50pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Corps1000: U wlcm. Go hang out wit friends and clear ur head. Don't let him ruin ur holidays. 1 Like |
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