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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by Nobody: 3:24pm On Feb 22, 2015
sleekangel85:
A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?

Thanks

Well I believe the solution is in the name of the state- (anambras) Adams bra? I can see that the males are always busty before marriage, while their ladies are sporty after marriage. But after the wedding rites and other rasmatas even copulation e.t.c the opposite happens. That is why they are predominantly farmers and hunters.
Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by victorazy(m): 3:24pm On Feb 22, 2015
Calculia:
In Nigeria today igbos remain the highest group of all the tribe in some sought of inter-tribal or inter-racial marriage. 1 in 5 igbos are likely to be married to a person outside their tribe. The Fulani and hausa are least likely followed by yorubas.


Nairaland encourages tribal bashing against igbos becos the site is owned by a yoruba.
Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by Subom1(f): 3:24pm On Feb 22, 2015
It's normal for someone to marry from their own tribe/culture. Everyone is entitled to marry who he/she wants and I believe that if a man wants to marry you, he will irrespective of where you are from.


It's not only Igbos who tend to marry their own. Same can be said about other tribes and nationalities. I know a lot of Yoruba folks who will not marry anyone non-yoruba.

If I want to marry a fellow Ekiti man because he is the same tribe as me then no one should have a problem with my decision.


It's the ladies fault dating a guy for 6years with no intention to marry you. Trust me when a man wants to marry you, he will irrespective of where you come from.

I really don't see the big deal in people marrying their own if they choose too. It really is not the end of the world

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by mu2sa2: 3:24pm On Feb 22, 2015
This isn't peculiar to igbo. Other tribes do the same. Even religious groups too- I saw a pastor on tv the other day saying his church members have to marry within the church.

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by firstolalekan(m): 3:24pm On Feb 22, 2015
sleekangel85:
A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?

Thanks
A friend of yours?
Liar!
Who doesn't know it's you?
He won't marry o
Anambra people and nepotism....

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by joanpinkie(f): 3:25pm On Feb 22, 2015
I'm an igbo lady. i love igbo guys but i will freely marry from any tribe . I dont discriminate. Love doesnt ask why?.

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by Sweetlemon(f): 3:25pm On Feb 22, 2015
aryzgreat:


My brother u get time for them.

An id10t will just wake up nd start writing jargon.

Because her friend's boyfriend has not proposed to her, she jumps into conclusion.

BTW, this is an issue that happens in every tribe. My friend that wanted to marry yoruba girl He met during nysc was rejected bc of tribe issue. Do We now generalized that yorubas are tribalistic?

OP with a prejudice mind opened thread to ask question, within the same front page she is already blaming Anambra people for not marrying other tribe but forgot that :

Peter obi married from akwa ibom

Psquare from Anambra married lola a yoruba

Mikel obi from anambra is about marrying a
Russian

Dora Akunyili Daughter married an oyibo

The traditional ruler of Awka married a Zambian woman

just a few example of known Anambra people that married from other tribes.

Their hatred for igbos will continue giving them high bp

Nobody said 100% Anambrans are like that. But the truth is that over 90% are like that. You yourself you know that very well because all Igbos know that. Check out comments from your fellow Igbos on this thread.

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by sundoj08(m): 3:25pm On Feb 22, 2015
Calculia:


Nairaland encourages tribal bashing against igbos becos the site is owned by a yoruba.
really? Is this your own basis to support your argument...swerve please!!

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by greall12(m): 3:25pm On Feb 22, 2015
OMO NO BE SMALL THING AWON OMO IBO DEY VEX OOO grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by Calculia: 3:25pm On Feb 22, 2015
mu2sa2:
This isn't peculiar to igbo. Other tribes do the same. Even religious groups too- I saw a pastor on tv the other day saying his church members have to marry within the church.

Word! In fact we need to encourage igbos to slow this whole inter-tribal and racial marriage rate down. It is the highest in the country. The thing they cause confusion. The bible does not support it.

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by Nobody: 3:26pm On Feb 22, 2015
Guests:


They haven't met good Igbo people yet they complain that Igbo people don't marry them.
See them dying for an Igbo man's love.

I am not Igbo by the way undecided

And no one is dying for an Igno man's love. The OP's friend is dying to be engaged to a man she has been dating for a long time and according to her because her friend has what it takes to make a good wife and mother, there is no reason why the guy shouldnt propose to her except if he is considering her non-Anambran status.
Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by Nobody: 3:26pm On Feb 22, 2015
mascaraWand:
Ehen! I really need an answer to this o. That is how my bobo left me high and dry and port all because he's from Anambra and in from another part of Igbo land. embarassed
I just don't understand. cry
. Liar. U are not Igbo.

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by firstolalekan(m): 3:26pm On Feb 22, 2015
nzeobi:
We prefer people who understand us better. Nobody will marry from a tribe that will using his hard earned money for owambe and stuffs like that.
Ka chineke mezie okwu
See this silly poor flat heąd biafran talking o.
Smh

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by IBRAHIMLAMOUR: 3:27pm On Feb 22, 2015
bigfrancis21:


Igbo bashing has become quite a common thing in Nigeria such that it has become normal to bash Igbo on every single thing, even on things that are meaningless.

You created this thread to ask why Igbo prefer to marry from their tribe. Are you really serious? This is a question you opened this thread for looking for 'answers'? Would you have opened this very thread in the first place had a Yoruba or Hausa guy been the one who preferred to marry from their tribe? Yes or No? Why would a Yoruba parent reject a non-yoruba suitor, and that will not be an issue. In fact, such action is justified. A Hausa parent will do the same and no dust will be raised about it. But when an Igbo parent does the same, then its a big deal. It is a serious issue that calls for serious attention and criticism, then you begin to get tags like ''Igbos are 'tribalistic'', 'they are 'selfish'', it is an 'Igbo problem' e.t.c. Minor issues that aren't issues when done by other tribes become a serious issue when Igbo is involved.

I look around me, majority Ibibios marry within the Ibibio tribe, majority Hausas marry within Hausa, Yoruba within Yoruba, why should the Igbo marrying within themselves even be a question in the first place? Despite the level of inter marriage between whites and blacks here in the US, majority whites marry within whites, chinese within chinese, blacks within blacks, and you're going to sit there and tell me that it is a problem when Igbos prefer to marry Igbos?? Like seriously??

I get your point about love being the most important factor between 2 people from different tribes and there are marriages between Igbo men and non-Igbo women however majority Igbos don't need to look outside for love when they can find it within themselves. The same love you mentioned as important, Igbo men get it from within the tribe. Why look outside? What about culture preservation and values? Why should Igbo preferring to marry from within even be an issue in the first place when other tribes are doing the same? Is the creation of this thread even justified in the first place?

Tomorrow you're going to open another thread asking 'Why do Igbo people speak Igbo?' Like seriously??
. Its like this guy is high on cheap drugs. If u dnt get the question straight. WHY IS IGBO FROM ANAMBRA DNT LIKE MARRYING other igbos

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by nothingdou1(m): 3:27pm On Feb 22, 2015
In my own opinion I think is because of the;
1. food which they are used to and can be prepared better by igbo girls.
2.They would communicate and understand each other better since the culture is similar.
3.Igbo girls are Ɓêάů†ĩƒůƖ and clean unlike some of their couterpart from the other part of the naija,after EDO to be precised,don't quote me.
4.They are ready to stay by the husband weather good or bad.
This the little I can remember for now.

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by hensben(m): 3:27pm On Feb 22, 2015
kayciano:

U hate IGBOS...YET u want to marry them..
Please...please.... Please... LEAVE IGBOS ALONE.
LEAVE US , ALONE.....
IF U SEE IGBOs don't DATE.....
PLEASE DATE UR PEOPLE...
IGBOs are this and that...
Kindly date your people...
Leave our daughters...

IGBO s love MONEY...
YES leave us...

IGBO weddings are expensive..
Leave our DAUGHTERS..
ITS NOT BY COMPULSION, DAT u marry them.

Hausas marry from their TRIBE ,yet nobody TALKS.
yorubas marry from their TRIBE, yet people are mute.
BUT when it is IGBO, people start GRUMBLING..
acting as a victim once again, simple question...smh.

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by Nobody: 3:28pm On Feb 22, 2015
I'm Igbo, but I can marry from any nationality or tribe. My elder brother married a Black-American, and they're living a happy married life. Four male cousins of mine (Igbo men) married non-Igbos , ditto for an Aunt of mine who married a Yoruba man.
It all depends on the orientation of specific parents, and the maturity of the couple

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by 735i(m): 3:28pm On Feb 22, 2015
OP
A friend of yours is in a so called "situation"… (You think)
Her boyfriend hasn't proposed because he is Igbo….. (Again…"you think" )

You are afraid because he is from Anambra and they tend to marry ladies from their states…. (Again…. "You think" )

Summary; You, yourself and every other person who has posted to support your unfounded fear(s) are insecure.

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by Nickymezor(f): 3:29pm On Feb 22, 2015
Wat a thread undecided

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by nwadiuko1(m): 3:29pm On Feb 22, 2015
Marry from anywhere that suits you EOD

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by debulle: 3:29pm On Feb 22, 2015
sleekangel85:
My cousin dated this anambra Guy for 6 yrs,she dated d guy wen he had nothing,yet she was still with him only for this guy to get money he told my cousin dat "my mother said I shud marry from my tribe".meanwhile he claimed he loved her.y didn't he define d relationship from d onset instead of wasting her time. Come to think of it y will a Man not be able to make his own choice nd decisions for a life partner,I believe he knows nd understands her better than his mother does to know if she'll make a good life partner.it's high time grown up men not boys or babies speak for themselves.Any man who does this kind of thing will face God's punishment for life.
Must every relationship end in marriage? If the person involved are not confortable/enjoying the relationship why keep/be in it.The lady in question enjoyed the little that was avalilable then.

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by valicious1(m): 3:30pm On Feb 22, 2015
CHM11:

Don't blame the igbo guy dea friend, blame your cousin for dating an igbo guy for 6 bloody years!!!....she should have seen it coming, he is igbo for heavens sake!...
GOD PUNISH YOU

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by danla44(m): 3:30pm On Feb 22, 2015
sleekangel85:
A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?

Thanks

NO BE IGBO MAN? THE REASON NA NONEY!!!

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by kevv(m): 3:30pm On Feb 22, 2015
Eye done dey pain me, peeps just dey here dey write essay say na comment.
Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by missmiss(f): 3:30pm On Feb 22, 2015
The trend is not peculiar to anambra people. it happens with all tribes. on a lighter note, it has been proven that anambra people know how to make marriage work. pls dont bite me

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by amadice(m): 3:30pm On Feb 22, 2015
sleekangel85:
A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?

Thanks
...u see we Igbo guys love marrying from our tribe because of either d kids culture traditions and the most important of all the woman faithfulness...where I come from its a taboo for a married woman to have and affair outside marriage... so we Igbo guys seems to trust our women more Dan other tribes...

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by UjSizzle(f): 3:31pm On Feb 22, 2015
kayciano:

U hate IGBOS...YET u want to marry them..
Please...please.... Please... LEAVE IGBOS ALONE.
LEAVE US , ALONE.....
IF U SEE IGBOs don't DATE.....
PLEASE DATE UR PEOPLE...
IGBOs are this and that...
Kindly date your people...
Leave our daughters...

IGBO s love MONEY...
YES leave us...

IGBO weddings are expensive..
Leave our DAUGHTERS..
ITS NOT BY COMPULSION, DAT u marry them.

Hausas marry from their TRIBE ,yet nobody TALKS.
yorubas marry from their TRIBE, yet people are mute.
BUT when it is IGBO, people start GRUMBLING..
Nwanne I feel your pain grin





OP I dunno. Maybe we just don't like to be diluted lipsrsealed
But seriously, it's a problem. I have the same issue (repping Anambra) and think I might have to reconfigure my mind to be acceptable of other tribes (and non Anambrarians sef). I know say my own too mush tongue
But like someone said, we just understand ourselves. We get our system. We know our men/women. It's like having an idea what to expect, and even if things go wrong, like my dad will say at least we know how to fix it.
The issue is culture and most of us have been hardwired from a really young age to preserve that (dilution?). Doesn't make it right or wrong though.

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by onila(f): 3:31pm On Feb 22, 2015
nzeobi:
We prefer people who understand us better. Nobody will marry from a tribe that will using his hard earned money for owambe and stuffs like that.
Ka chineke mezie okwu
grin grin

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by Nobody: 3:31pm On Feb 22, 2015
nnannaidoko:
. Liar. U are not Igbo.





I am a full blooded Igbo. embarassed
Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by Nobody: 3:32pm On Feb 22, 2015
When I meet a girl I will try as much as I can to know her tribe before any emotion will set in cos I know my boundaries. So instead of arguing with my parents tomorrow I better get it right today.

Sorry Op I can't marry non-igbo.

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by fyneboi79(m): 3:32pm On Feb 22, 2015
nzeobi:
We prefer people who understand us better. Nobody will marry from a tribe that will using his hard earned money for owambe and stuffs like that.
Ka chineke mezie okwu
You have said it allgrin Our girls understand our hustle better than any other tribe and they remain faithful to d end. Ekene dili Chukwu

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Re: Why Do Igbos Especially The Anambrans Marry From Their Tribe? by megacity: 3:32pm On Feb 22, 2015
The Igbos are of Jewish descent, a royal and peculiar people. Traditionally, Jews weren't supposed to marry gentiles....

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