bigfrancis21:


There are several Igbo ladies that dated Yoruba guys only to get dumped by the guy for a fellow Yoruba lady. Such happen constantly. These ladies didn't cry foul, they moved on with life. One particular Igbo lady I know is in her 40s today and single because she was dating a Yoruba guy in her early 30s for 4 years who promised her marriage, she was happy that she was finally going to get married and her prayer to have a husband was finally answered, only for the guy's mother to reject her because she is Igbo and her son followed his mother's advice. At 36 she was single and dumped, older with fewer prospects of marriage. Now she's in her 40s and she still isn't married yet.

I don't condone tribalism, whatsoever. What happened between the Igbo guy and girl happens constantly within Igbos, Yorubas and Hausas. Some Igbo people date only to separate years after. Same for Hausas and Yorubas. It happens steadily. It isn't unique if that happens between people of different tribes. It all depends on the guy. If he really wants it to happen, it would happen, believe me.

Now, answer me honestly. Had this guy in question been a Yoruba guy, for example, about to dump the girl, say an Igbo girl, would you have opened this very thread in the first place questioning why Yorubas prefer to marry Yorubas?

Dont mind them. 3 yoruba men dumped clarion chukwura and we didnt make any noise. Because no one is proposing to her abi her friend,she is creating a thread

CHM11:


I've noticed that Nairalanders based in the USA can write long epistles, couldn't even finish my igbo brother's comment.
But I get his point.
@bigfrancis21 nice point, but here's my view.
Others do it doesn't make I right.
Additionally, Nigeria is made up of major 3 regions. North west and east. The people in the North inter marry freely, fulani, gwarri, benue, hausa, Tiv etc....people in the west intermarry freely too, yoruba, egun, badagry, etc. But because tribes in the EAST are much, igbo's don't like marrying others and its justified because it favours them better.

I for example wouldn't want any of family member to marry an igbo man or woman, I'd rather marry a yoruba or even a fulani. This is because I have not had a good experience as regards the igbos I've encountered in life.
All in all, igbos!!..marry yourselves, its good for you bcause other tribes will hardly understand your behavior and character.

Complete rubbish: Marriages between Igbos and Yorubas are as high as ever. Marriages between Igbos and river line groups in the SS continues from generation to generation, but marriages between some groups like Fulanis or Kanuris are strictly prohibited based on religion and ethnicity, and that's where you need to focus your cynical and tribal motivated attention on.

nzeobi:
We prefer people who understand us better. Nobody will marry from a tribe that will using his hard earned money for owambe and stuffs like that.
Ka chineke mezie okwu

Wrong! Igbos find it difficult to live with others.. Instead owanbe unite and create love.

chillingbabe:
Most caring my A.ss, you can't change the fact that an Anambra guy Will NEVER marry a gal dats not from his state..Was Lola accepted easily into the okoye's family? Go and google wat transpired before she was finally accepted,MumuMugu like you..
The only igbo guys that can marry outside there state are guys from IMO,ABIA,ENUGU and DELTA(ibo) ..Stop being pained niccur!

My cousin (From Anambra) married an Enugu lady.

CHM11:

Why insult because I wouldn't want to marry or associate myself intimately with an east based igbo... I never said igbos are bad people, just that I find it hard to understand their character and behavior and here you are insulting and talking like someone who can't control his mouth.

Smart igbo people here know what I am talking about because they too find it hard to understand yoruba's and hausa's. Please think before you comment.

Lol don't mind the people bashing you joorh. I'm Igbo and not particularly fond of east based igbos too.
It's like there's something different about their way of life, as opposed to those who have been... erm... diluted by other tribes.
Guess it's the environment.

Igbo men are horrible

egoistic and love bullying pple

yoruba men are better

Men !the kind of "stereotype" I see on Nland makes me worry about the future of this country
how do you u categorize a whole tribe of 30million pple or there about an just make a sweeping and unguarded comment.who ever choses not to marry from another tribe is a personal decision an not a tribal decision,...human beings behaviors are totally based on individuals background an nothing to do with tribal inclinations.

My dad is Anambara My mom is plateau. Your point is?

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most of the Nigerian men that treat me badly are Igbo men

remember one time in highschool
some igbo boys read my diary

and told me to commit suicide

how mean

She should just find her way out now cos very soon he will come up with "MY MUM SAID " I should not marrying outside anambra.

Calculia:
In Nigeria today igbos remain the highest group of all the tribe in some sought of inter-tribal or inter-racial marriage. 1 in 5 igbos are likely to be married to a person outside their tribe. The Fulani and hausa are least likely followed by yorubas.


Nairaland encourages tribal bashing against igbos becos the site is owned by a yoruba.

you are so correct my bro, it's only in IBO you see guys marrying from other tribes. Ijaw, Efik, uroboh, yorubas too.Wondering where the girl got her information from.Am in Uyo and I marvel at the rate our guys marry akwaibom girls.

The igbos have much value for marriag and cherish their wives and husbands somuch,the igbo trib are the only trib that practically practice the vow we make in marriag for better for worst,very faithful to each other not the woMan that will marry 10 husbands before her time is up and the man that will have 20 concobine out side.we sarching for that woman who can stand by u when the going is tough,and the man who will reciprucate.

Nairalane:
J

Johnbosco

sleekangel85:
A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?

Thanks

My dear weather its u or ur friend, pick urself up and start again. two of my anambra girlfriends are not married cos their parents said it must b an anambra guy. So life is not waiting 4 anybody. If u stay on this u will waste ur time.

Because human beings are shallow-minded.

sleekangel85:
A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?

Thanks

IGBOs are unique.They are the most disliked in this country but they can't be neglected.Igbos(Anambra) hold their tradition and culture in high esteen.Most towns if not all have what is called AJA ANI.The AJA ANI is like the god of the land and it abhors any evil.Some tribes don't have regard/neglect somethings which Aanmbra pple hold in high esteem.like some tribes don't see anything wrong in somebody that is married and the woman will still be having affairs outside,some tribes their Lady can give birth to many men as she wish.Anambra pple have big respect for marriage institution and regard for women.Its on record that Igbo men always take good care of their homes.Pls all relationship must not end up in marriage and as you are generalising its not true that Anambra pple don't marry outside their tribe.Anambra are educated and rich pple and they travel a lot.They equally like good things in life,they inter marry with the pple that are good to them and can contribute to their success in life.

FOLLOWJESUS:
The igbos have much value for marriag and cherish their wives and husbands somuch,the igbo trib are the only trib that practically practice the vow we make in marriag for better for worst,very faithful to each other not the woMan that will marry 10 husbands before her time is up and the man that will have 20 concobine out side.we sarching for that woman who can stand by u when the going is tough,and the man who will reciprucate.

You couldn't be any further from the truth.

Lol... I doubt this jargon original poster wrote up there.
I'm an Anambrarian and my Uncle married an Edo woman while one married an Abian.

90% of my female cousins married non-Anambrarians and the one that got married an Anambra man(her coursemate) last two years told me she can marry any tribe except Yoruba.

I, Personally, won't marry an Igbo lady born and bred in the East - I don't know why.

CFCfan:

My cousin (From Anambra) married an Enugu lady.

Sweet heart your family is different, and you haven't even been home long enough to know what's going on down here. Hapu ndi ma ana ka ha kowa gi ihe n'eme
There are exceptions alright, but to be honest, people who are deeply (strangely too) rooted in their Anambra ways are highly unlikely to stray far away from home.
Parents who aren't very exposed, have had the misfortune of dealing with unruly people from other tribes are very likely to generalise bad behaviour as peculiar to said tribe too. They will try to advice their children against marriage. But then they'll also not push it if said child insists on their choice. But darn parents can be convincing sha especially when they start dropping their proverbs

UjSizzle:

Lol don't mind the people bashing you joorh. I'm Igbo and not particularly fond of east based igbos too.
It's like there's something different about their way of life, as opposed to those who have been... erm... diluted by other tribes.
Guess it's the environment.

Thank you...
Anybody who have served in the east or even rivers state(where east based igbos are the majority) know what I'm saying... Its very very hard to understand them... To them its right if they spit on you, but when you spit on them they want to start fighting....
Anyway, its better for them to live amongst themselves.
Whoever likes should hate my comment but I just spoke the truth.

EAST BASED IGBOS ARE A WEIRD...someone shoot me!!!!!!

CHM11:


I've noticed that Nairalanders based in the USA can write long epistles, couldn't even finish my igbo brother's comment.
But I get his point.
@bigfrancis21 nice point, but here's my view.
Others do it doesn't make I right.
Additionally, Nigeria is made up of major 3 regions. North west and east. The people in the North inter marry freely, fulani, gwarri, benue, hausa, Tiv etc....people in the west intermarry freely too, yoruba, egun, badagry, etc. But because tribes in the EAST are much, igbo's don't like marrying others and its justified because it favours them better.

I for example wouldn't want any of family member to marry an igbo man or woman, I'd rather marry a yoruba or even a fulani. This is because I have not had a good experience as regards the igbos I've encountered in life.
All in all, igbos!!..marry yourselves, its good for you bcause other tribes will hardly understand your behavior and character.

.

Wrong regarding Igbo don't marry outside. My cousin is married to an Igbo man.

We have several Igbo ladies married to extended family members, some since 50 years ago.
They have been excellent wives & mothers, and genuinely part of our family. We couldn't have wished for better wives.
It's good to keep an open mind.

The one truly meant for you would be different from all your negative experiences.

So am wastn tym wif dis anambra guy no wonder ntin gud is cmin out 4 d pass 3yrs nw I dnt knw his intension 2ward Me I dnt even knw his parentz we ar into hide n see relatnshp oh God pls help me

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bigfrancis21:


Igbo bashing has become quite a common thing in Nigeria such that it has become normal to bash Igbo on every single thing, even on things that are meaningless.

You created this thread to ask why Igbo prefer to marry from their tribe. Are you really serious? This is a question you opened this thread for looking for 'answers'? Would you have opened this very thread in the first place had a Yoruba or Hausa guy been the one who preferred to marry from their tribe? Yes or No? Why would a Yoruba parent reject a non-yoruba suitor, and that will not be an issue. In fact, such action is justified. A Hausa parent will do the same and no dust will be raised about it. But when an Igbo parent does the same, then its a big deal. It is a serious issue that calls for serious attention and criticism, then you begin to get tags like ''Igbos are 'tribalistic'', 'they are 'selfish'', it is an 'Igbo problem' e.t.c. Minor issues that aren't issues when done by other tribes become a serious issue when Igbo is involved.

I look around me, majority Ibibios marry within the Ibibio tribe, majority Hausas marry within Hausa, Yoruba within Yoruba, why should the Igbo marrying within themselves even be a question in the first place? Despite the level of inter marriage between whites and blacks here in the US, majority whites marry within whites, chinese within chinese, blacks within blacks, and you're going to sit there and tell me that it is a problem when Igbos prefer to marry Igbos?? Like seriously??

I get your point about love being the most important factor between 2 people from different tribes and there are marriages between Igbo men and non-Igbo women however majority Igbos don't need to look outside for love when they can find it within themselves. The same love you mentioned as important, Igbo men get it from within the tribe. Why look outside? What about culture preservation and values? Why should Igbo preferring to marry from within even be an issue in the first place when other tribes are doing the same? Is the creation of this thread even justified in the first place?

Tomorrow you're going to open another thread asking 'Why do Igbo people speak Igbo?' Like seriously??

May you live longer and prosperous than your forefathers.

sleekangel85:
A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?

Thanks

Babe, your guess is as good as mine in asking herein. As regards to the subject matter, I have to give you a short story which I am privy to.

A friend of mine who was dating a Yoruba girl here and put her in a family way before he traveled out of the country and the lady gave birth to a baby girl, a replica of the guy. The lady was too young when she put to bed and had to even drop out of school in order to take care of the baby.

When the guy came back to Nigeria, I had to take him with my car tracing to find the lady by going to someone that knew her before we were able to see her.He was happy too see the baby and the mother and I told him to just settle down with the lady for good.

He accepted and we went and rented an apartment for them to stay and the baby girl was to happy to see her father and things were moving on fine. The younger sister to my friend now went behind and was arranging another girl for her brother from her place in Anambra. Could you imagine that when my friend was coming back to Nigeria and told me to come pick him from the airport, getting to the airport, I saw his sister and a lady with her and I never knew that she was telling the girl that I was the one that was arranging for their brother to marry a Yoruba lady. I got to get this information from someone who over heard her discussing with her friend.

In fact, they made sure that the Yoruba girl was not married to their brother as they arranged another lady from their place for the guy and even went fetish to accomplish this.

The people are something else

I believe d mentality is not from anambra alone, its' a general tribal sickness in nigeria; inherited from our great-grand parents. But it's surprising to discover dat these sentimental belief still exists amonst our generation. Though am not from anambra but pls try to generalise abeg.

Our mentally civilised edge'll see us eradicate this sentimental belief.

True love is a great key......

sleekangel85:
If you check my thread,it's a question not an allegation all you needed to do was to give ur advice to d Lady.I know d Yorubas nd Hausas do dat but in dis case d guy is igbo.You Igbo guys aren't giving me answers dat I want instead u r paranoid.Abeg no be me start am oh.

U dey mind the foolish guy...some people no go even understand thread before they use their dirty fingers to type rubbish and feel they know what up . Errant nonsense. Babe no mind am Jor u said the truth.

Rhebekah:
My name is Tracy.I was raised up in a divided home where my dad have to take care of myself and my younger sister alone after my mother left us for another man.My dad did all he could for us to see us through life.He sacrificed everything for us.He chose not to get married again because of us.Without being told u should know wat it means for a man to raise two females alone.That was a difficult and time-consuming task if u ask me.Throughout these years my mother never surfaced. To cut d long story short,I'm now old enough to get married now,but my dad insisted I marry from his religion which we were also brought up wit.Now d problem is,my dad wants me to marry from his religion at all cost due to his position and d love he is getting from d members!I on my part tried dating a man from his religion when d pressure from him was much.He threatened to disown me and never attend my wedding if I go outside his religion. Hmmm!this is my lovely dad that I can't trade d love I have for him for anyone!This man he wants me to marry is poor,he has no education of any kind not even secondary school but I am a graduate!The man in question is 39 while im 27.The man loved me very well and I've even gone to see his family but my heart is very FAR from him I swear.Now I want ur honest opinion,will I not be an ingrate if I go against my fathers wish?I will only be happy if I'm allowed to marry d man of heart but at d same time I want my dads happiness,wat do I do?

....Ur happiness in Ur marriage is paramount...Ur dad will not live with u forever...so what will it benefit u if u make Ur dad happy and be sad tomorrow becos Ur dad will died one day...marriage is a bondage think and reason well before u choose Ur partner....divorce is bad

Seriously my Anambra brother will be making a great mistake of his life if he eventually marries OP.

I thought we do money ritual with our wives. Why are you breaking your head to queue up for slaughter?

'Dont marry yoruba ooo ,they will not stay ooo'. This words came out from a yoruba mother,my neighbour to me in onike,yaba in 1999. They will leave u and marry yorubaman later.

I love my people! Proudly Anambra!!

Gozi uwa n'ile na ibu Nwa Anambra

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I dont fancy a Yoruba lady marrying an ibo man, at all.
But the reverse is ok by me.