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My Nagging European Wife. by golddust6000(m): 9:09am On Apr 22, 2015
Don’t call your country a shit hole on till you travel out.
What I am about to shear with you people is my story about living with European woman (Caucasian) .
My journey started in august 22, 2011. I left Nigeria to study in Europe, due to the fact that gaining admission in Nigeria University is like living in hell on earth. I gained admission in one of the top university in Europe, after the school has promised me conducive atmosphere for learning in their university, when I arrived the country I realized that this country is not for me, because the environment, the society is not friendly at all. My school fee was 2000eur, which I was struggling to pay, as a naija guy I started looking for any means to secure my resident permit, I mean getting married to a European lady so I will stop paying school fee. I hit the club, dating site, looking for any means to look for a woman, thank God I got one. We dated for almost a year, what I realized about European women is that 90% of them are authoritarians, I can’t cope with most of them as an African, I had problem dating them. After dating so many ladies, Finally I got married February 2014, before I got married I’d already had a baby girl. Right from the day we got married, that was the starting point of our conflict. What I realized about European lady is that when you have baby with them they will try their possible best to frustrate you to the extend you will have no choice than to divorce her so they can live with the baby alone, During that process the government will ask you to be paying 150 euros for child support every month whether you are working or not, a country that the minimum wage is not up to 300eur. (73 percent of married women in that country are single mothers). My wife accused me of dating another woman wish she didn’t have any evidence to proof to back up the past 7 months, still will are sleeping on same bed. She has been looking for ways to divorce me so I will be remitting 150euro for child support that was her aim. I have tried all my possible best to secure our marriage but still no avail. She asks me to leave her house yesterday being 22nd of April. Now we are heading to court.
You can watch the 7 minute video that I recorded about our quarreling last night.
If you have any advice you can shear, thanx.
PLEASE MODERATOR CAN YOU DO THE NEEDFUL FOR ME? SO PEOPLE CAN SEE THE PROBLEM WE ARE FACING IN EUROPE.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qKhZCrkprVY&feature=youtu.be[b][/b]
Re: My Nagging European Wife. by ttoniaben: 9:12am On Apr 22, 2015
Ftc

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by Ahmed0336(m): 9:21am On Apr 22, 2015
This Hoes Aint Loyal

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by MARKone(m): 9:24am On Apr 22, 2015
you record your Family private problems and want people to watch undecided to what end OP

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by golddust6000(m): 9:31am On Apr 22, 2015
MARKone:
you record your Family private problems and want people to watch undecided to what end OP
bro, we are no longer family, now i am free to shear it, it hurts.
Re: My Nagging European Wife. by MARKone(m): 9:39am On Apr 22, 2015
golddust6000:
bro, we are no longer family, now i am free to shear it, it hurts.

OK, sorry. Take it easy.
Re: My Nagging European Wife. by Nobody: 9:45am On Apr 22, 2015
Am thinking that you married her for the wrong reasons which is paper.... And you are not open to her and you do need to spend more time with her... They all need attention... Why are you always on PC, are you yahoo boy?

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by Anyi3(m): 9:49am On Apr 22, 2015
Very immature thing to do OP. If she sees this video how do you think she'd feel.

So here's my immature answer to help your marriage. Take 15mg of Cialis and 15mg of viagra and then ask for breakup se..x

She'd beg you not to leave afterwards.

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by babygirlfl: 9:55am On Apr 22, 2015
People who record conversations of misunderstanding without informing the other person are not nice people. They are on their best behaviour because they know they are recording the whole thing.

From the video, you said you have no fault. If you don't accept your part in the breakdown of the marriage, how can you work on it. How are you even going to work on it when you married her for the wrong reason. she said you are always on the computer and phone. What have you done about it?

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by bukatyne(f): 10:01am On Apr 22, 2015
I thought obodo wives are the best according to NL men? undecided oh well

@OP: You married a woman for papers & to avoid bills and you are complaining she wants to divorce you for 150euros child support?

You both are one of a kind.

Are you done with schooling?

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by StPete: 11:40am On Apr 22, 2015
This is quite worrisome…

And it’s also gonna have a negative impact on the child as well

I’ve got a number of friends who are currently undergoing this same problem
and all I can say is ‘No place like home’

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by hahn(m): 11:46am On Apr 22, 2015
This thread should be dedicated to searching4love

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by 2good(m): 11:48am On Apr 22, 2015
My advice for you is to get your degree and leave the country. The child is technically not yours because the woman can bar you from seeing the child and the government will not do anything. Divorce her and move on with your life.

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by Nobody: 12:00pm On Apr 22, 2015
I really don't pity you OP.. You just like many Nigerians married for the wrong reason, to solely get your residence permit.. haven't you got your papers yet so why are you interested in the marriage? undecided

Were/Are you cheating or not?? undecided
You think you're in Nigeria where you can mistreat a woman and go Scot-free? Please leave her house as she has demanded...

Btw, the video is so boring. . embarassed embarassed


I still wish the best though and hope you hv a means of livelihood so you can survive after you hv packed out..


The attached pic is for those struggling to leave Naija by all means.. There are opportunities in Nigeria, you can make it here.. just water your own grass smiley

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by Nobody: 12:06pm On Apr 22, 2015
You don carry your polygamous attitude enter obodo Oyibo.

Let's believe you weren't cheating on her, why are you always in your pc or phone 24hrs and you say you are a student.
Hope you are not into Fraud?
Instead of you to be bothered about how to make sure you reconcile and be with your child, you are here shouting 150 euro child support.

Someone called her and disconnected the no. You are here asking her of evidence again.

Anyway, if she tired of your arssss, move out and get your life sorted out. Get a good lawyer and get a visitation right f or your child while paying for child support.
This way you can have more time for your nigerian girlfriend Sandra

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by parismarc: 12:08pm On Apr 22, 2015
And some NL men think foreign wives are the best undecided

Nigerian women are so tolerant and take a lot of crap.

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by Nobody: 12:25pm On Apr 22, 2015
Oga sorry o. Haven't watched the video but this is classic woman behaviour. Truth is you don't seem to hold much value to her and value or the appearance of it is all that matters to women. You are not the first man to be divorce-raped and you won't be the last.

If you like come home and marry Silifa, the moment she thinks she's got higher value than you, that relationship is doomed. The only difference between both societies is the contents of the laws. Give a Nigerian woman that liberty and you're done. I'd advise you to try and finish your degree and while you're at it get something doing on the side.

In the mean time, google the word "hypergamy" and see if that could help. Good luck in your endeavours. And make sure you visit and take care of that child of yours. Cheers.

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by blazetitov: 12:31pm On Apr 22, 2015
Anyi3:
Very immature thing to do OP. If she sees this video how do you think she'd feel.

So here's my immature answer to help your marriage. Take 15mg of Cialis and 15mg of viagra and then ask for breakup se..x

She'd beg you not to leave afterwards.

This got me laughing loud like a mad man! grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

You no go kill person, abeg

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by Nobody: 12:40pm On Apr 22, 2015
Nooooooo

They are very submissive

They fear and respect African men

They do not nag

They are angels

They are the definition of what every lady should be.



tongue tongue tongue

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by Nobody: 12:50pm On Apr 22, 2015
Justfollowit:
Nooooooo

They are very submissive

They fear and respect African men

They do not nag

tongue tongue tongue


undecided
Re: My Nagging European Wife. by Nobody: 1:26pm On Apr 22, 2015
The woman even tried sef......don't think of marrying a Nigerian woman after you divorce her, cos no well-thinking Nigerian woman will put up with that shit........YOU are the one that has to change.
* She kept telling you to move out......like she owns the place or pays for the rent....and you were saying "i will move out", what are you not telling us....cos i know no woman will like to have a free-loader for a husband, Oga pay your rent.
*you are not straightforward, in the video it appears you're really hiding something, maybe a side-chick or so, no woman will be happy with that
*you were arguing in front of that ADORABLE baby.....how could you? Don't mess that child up psychologically with your drama abeg...huge NO
*All through your video, you were on the defensive, a simple i'm sorry would have calmed things down, but no, YOU are always right.

I can't type again.......it's not too late.....call her to say you're sorry and leave your computer and get something doing, it doesn't matter if na Oyibo or Naija woman, woman na woman, treat her right and she'll never leave your side.........

i know shes not perfect, but two wrongs don't make a right......just apologize and end this madness please....thanks.

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by dustydee: 2:40pm On Apr 22, 2015
@OP,
Congrats, you jam your mate. I can't believe you were stupid enough to have a baby with her.
And if I may ask, why didn't you marry a "fresh" one? As our people say: "If you wan chop frog, chop the one wey fat".
You did something wrong and you ran here seeking for sympathy.


~some guys ehn, giving Nigeria a bad name.

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by golddust6000(m): 3:54pm On Apr 22, 2015
MusaIbrahim1:
Am thinking that you married her for the wrong reasons which is paper.... And you are not open to her and you do need to spend more time with her... They all need attention... Why are you always on PC, are you yahoo boy?
hahaha, i am not a yahoo boy oo, i am doing my thesis, i need to focus on my studies dude.
Re: My Nagging European Wife. by golddust6000(m): 3:56pm On Apr 22, 2015
babygirlfl:
People who record conversations of misunderstanding without informing the other person are not nice people. They are on their best behaviour because they know they are recording the whole thing.

From the video, you said you have no fault. If you think you don't accept your part in the breakdown of the marriage, how can you work on it. How are you even going to work on it when you married her for the wrong reason. she said you are always on the computer and phone. What have you done about it?
that is her own opinion, it is not true bro.


Re: My Nagging European Wife. by golddust6000(m): 3:57pm On Apr 22, 2015
dustydee:
@OP,
Congrats, you jam your mate. I can't believe you were stupid enough to have a baby with her.
And if I may ask, why didn't you marry a "fresh" one? As our people say: "If you wan chop frog, chop the one wey fat".
You did something wrong and you ran here seeking for sympathy.


~some guys ehn, giving Nigeria a bad name.
Can you tell me what did i do wrong?
Re: My Nagging European Wife. by golddust6000(m): 4:01pm On Apr 22, 2015
Timbuktou:
Oga sorry o. Haven't watched the video but this is classic woman behaviour. Truth is you don't seem to hold much value to her and value or the appearance of it is all that matters to women. You are not the first man to be divorce-raped and you won't be the last.

If you like come home and marry Silifa, the moment she thinks she's got higher value than you, that relationship is doomed. The only difference between both societies is the contents of the laws. Give a Nigerian woman that liberty and you're done. I'd advise you to try and finish your degree and while you're at it get something doing on the side.

In the mean time, google the word "hypergamy" and see if that could help. Good luck in your endeavours. And make sure you visit and take care of that child of yours. Cheers.
Thank you for your advice, she has her own flat, she has a good job, she knew that i am just a scholar she want to use it as advantage getting control over me.
Re: My Nagging European Wife. by golddust6000(m): 4:08pm On Apr 22, 2015
berekete86:
The woman even tried sef......don't think of marrying a Nigerian woman after you divorce her, cos no well-thinking Nigerian woman will put up with that shit........YOU are the one that has to change.
* She kept telling you to move out......like she owns the place or pays for the rent....and you were saying "i will move out", what are you not telling us....cos i know no woman will like to have a free-loader for a husband, Oga pay your rent.
*you are not straightforward, in the video it appears you're really hiding something, maybe a side-chick or so, no woman will be happy with that
*you were arguing in front of that ADORABLE baby.....how could you? Don't mess that child up psychologically with your drama abeg...huge NO
*All through your video, you were on the defensive, a simple i'm sorry would have calmed things down, but no, YOU are always right.

I can't type again.......it's not too late.....call her to say you're sorry and leave your computer and get something doing, it doesn't matter if na Oyibo or Naija woman, woman na woman, treat her right and she'll never leave your side.........

i know shes not perfect, but two wrongs don't make a right......just apologize and end this madness please....thanks.

Yes she is the owner of the house and i am paying for the utility, that is how we shear it. Why should i tell her sorry? what did i do wrong? she is jealous and angry simply because i am not going to village with her anymore, i told her after my school practice i will join her in the village, bro? i have tried a lot for her i know that, but she don't appreciate at all. she is not in anyway helpful for me.
Re: My Nagging European Wife. by dustydee: 4:13pm On Apr 22, 2015
golddust6000:
Can you tell me what did i do wrong?
You married her so she could help you avoid paying school fees and also help you with some expenses or why else are you living in "her" house instead of "Your" (i.e both of you) house?
You didn't have to marry her yet especially given that you cannot at the moment afford to take care of her and your daughter.
Re: My Nagging European Wife. by golddust6000(m): 4:15pm On Apr 22, 2015
Chillisauce:
You don carry your polygamous attitude enter obodo Oyibo.

Let's believe you weren't cheating on her, why are you always in your pc or phone 24hrs and you say you are a student.
Hope you are not into Fraud?
Instead of you to be bothered about how to make sure you reconcile and be with your child, you are here shouting 150 euro child support.

Someone called her and disconnected the no. You are here asking her of evidence again.

Anyway, if she tired of your arssss, move out and get your life sorted out. Get a good lawyer and get a visitation right f or your child while paying for child support.
This way you can have more time for your Nigerian girlfriend Sandra
HAHA, Sandra and phone number is not her problem, she caught me with Sandra 2 years bank when we were not married, to be sincere i dont have any girl friend what so ever. i am a psychology student, most of the time i need to focus on research, more over i am doing my thesis 92 pages.
Re: My Nagging European Wife. by golddust6000(m): 4:21pm On Apr 22, 2015
dustydee:

You married her so she could help you avoid paying school fees and also help you with some expenses or why else are you living in "her" house instead of "Your" (i.e both of you) house?
You didn't have to marry her yet especially given that you cannot at the moment afford to take care of her and your daughter.
I repeat, that is her thought, where else can i go if its not staying at home after my study, she wasn't the one that gave me residency, it's my daughter document i am using not hers, i am still paying my school fee, and child support, house bills. What else did she want? she told her friend right from the very start that she will hide our marriage certificate, this is common with European women.
Re: My Nagging European Wife. by dustydee: 4:26pm On Apr 22, 2015
golddust6000:
I repeat, that is her thought, where else can i go if its not staying at home after my study, she wasn't the one that gave me residency, it's my daughter document i am using not hers, i am still paying my school fee, and child support, house bills. What else did she want? she told her friend right from the very start that she will hide our marriage certificate, this is common with European women.
Ok, I can already see the problem with your relationship. You have refused to accept guilt even after you mentioned that you wanted someone to marry because of "papers".

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Re: My Nagging European Wife. by golddust6000(m): 4:36pm On Apr 22, 2015
dustydee:

Ok, I can already see the problem with your relationship. You have refused to accept guilt even after you mentioned that you wanted someone to marry because of "papers".
But she did not give me the paper.

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