michelin89:

It's not your perogative to choose any primary responsibilities for anyone.

If you're a married woman (with kids) and your primary responsibility is not the upbringing of your children, then you've failed!!!

michelin89:

Find something better to do.

If each one of us can invest some of our time in addressing even the least of societal ills, then we'll be making the world a better place for generations yet unborn. Think about this.

Even in marriage, it's up to the couple to decide.

You are prolly right. However where I come from, Families play a big role in marriage.

michelin89:

Even in marriage, it's up to the couple to decide.

Your primary responsibility is your primary responsibility. Be it delegated to a housemaid, your husband or whoever; as a married woman you MUST know it's your primary responsibility. You must know this.

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i have heard of people talking about equality between the man and woman, that is not true, i am the head of my home. my wife is not a slave, and me being the head does not make me a dictator, but the buck stops on my table;- no argument about that.

If a man or woman does not accept this basic fact in a marriage then no work done, it is all in futility.

the world is evolving and if a couple feel easy with the wife bearing her father's name with the man's no sweat BUT it is not the woman's right and should be done only with mutual discussion and consent.

bebrief:

Your mum wasn't wrong bearing her husband's name, was she? What makes you thing you know better?

Be brief, my Grandfather had four daughters and FIVE Sons. My own father had FIVE daughters, NO boys.

If none of my sisters keep my fathers name, how will my fathers name survive? You answer me that.


It was a particular fear of my father that his name will die out, I will hopefully prevent that from happening. My mother is not wrong for taking my fathers name, and I will also take my husbands name ALONGSIDE my fathers.

Why should I even be talking about a culture that isn't mine.

@londoner
the name's still going to 'die out' since your ( and sis') children will bear their fathers' name. So taking the name for preservation?, hmmmmn, no point to it.

@poster
Name is a decision couple z gonna have to make. together!!!

@Knight, the double barrelled name will be passed on to my children.

If keeping your own fathers name is so important to you, why do you think nothing of another mans name simply dying out?

What is wrong with a woman trying to do for her own father what you wish to do for your own? A hyphenated name still represents the names of both fathers, what can be more fair than that?

All those men shouting submission are the same ones who expect their wives to shoulder responsibilities that used to be just for men in those days. If you want the woman to act like 'our mothers' then please act like your fathers. Make sure you can pay the rent without her contributions, pay school fees promptly and take care of feeding the family by yourself. Then you can come and play lord of the manor and rule over your wife and ask for submission like she is your servant. But if you want a partner to contribute to building your home, expect that she may have some desires that may be different from yours. Not every wman wants to retain her fathers name and not every man cares what his wife answers. Leave it to individual couples to decide and stop taking panadol for other peoples headaches.

My last name is so unique man. I must bear it!!! With or without a hyphen.

Why should women ditch their papa's name nau?

It's just a name anyway.

^^ Its our culture and tradition nau , I no go marry you again oo if you insist.

Pharoh:

^^ Its our culture and tradition nau  , I no go marry you again oo if you insist. 

Beats me to it.

Bia Kellorah I no wan hia such 'westernism' from ya again. OK?!

LOL!!! Mehn, bone tradition

I shall bear my last name. . . even if I have to die unmarried.

kellorah:

LOL!!! Mehn, bone tradition

I shall bear my last name. . . even if I have to die unmarried.

Hmm. . .*keeping that in mind, for emphasis* 

LOL! Keep keeping it.

I know I wont die unmarried sha, but yeah, I gasta keep my family name. It's not something you see everyday like John or Musa lol

kellorah:

LOL! Keep keeping it.

I know I wont die unmarried sha, but yeah, I gasta keep my family name. It's not something you see everyday like John or Musa lol

Isha Allah.

Albeit nowadays uglier ladies get married quicker than MaryK-enhanced girls (like you).

kellorah:

LOL! Keep keeping it.

I know I wont die unmarried sha, but yeah, I gasta keep my family name. It's not something you see everyday like John or Musa lol

Your brothers will keep the name but you have to bear my own unique name that i have not found anywhere in the world.

^^Ol' Boi dat girl carry fire oo!

You sure say u fit quench 'am.

Pharoh:

Your brothers will keep the name but you have to bear my own unique name that i have not found anywhere in the world.

You haven't even found it and u want me to bear it?!


I will help my bros in preserving the name.

koolchicco:

Isha Allah.

Albeit nowadays uglier ladies get married quicker than MaryK-enhanced girls (like you).

LMAO!! Mary K enhanced. . . .
Yeah, some ugly chicks get married before fine ones. . personality+looks included in "fine", BTW.

God will provide sha, when the time comes.

koolchicco:

^^Ol' Boi dat girl carry fire oo!

You sure say u fit quench 'am.

LOL! GINI?! Which fire?! Hmm!! Thnx.


But, where u been see me, or my pics?

koolchicco:

^^Ol' Boi dat girl carry fire oo!

You sure say u fit quench 'am.

Guy tell me if there is any missing info ooo

kellorah:

You haven't even found it and u want me to bear it?!
I will help my bros in preserving the name.

God will provide sha, when the time comes.

My bad i just googled it and it is not unique oo but anyway it is not so popular in the Nigerian setting sha

Dear you are getting stubborn i said you bear mine and your brother will keep the other one

Baby the time is already here staring you on the face so grab it nau

LOL!! Even if u kill a cow for me, I will not ditch my last name. I can pity for u small and add hyphen, and then urs.

I'm so slow!! 4got my pic was in my profile. . . .ARGHH!!

Not anymore sha.

kellorah:

LOL!! Even if u kill a cow for me, I will not ditch my last name. I can pity for u small and add hyphen, and then urs.

Wat a merciless Sister I got here!

Pharoh:

Guy tell me if there is any missing info ooo  

Since u're already staring her on the face I bet will be able to figure it out better. _{At least proximity counts!}

kellorah:

I'm so slow!! 4got my pic was in my profile. . . .ARGHH!!

Not anymore sha.

69 secs late, Sister! Already on my archives.

Damn!!

Me smarter, that is. *clapping hands*

In safe hands, No worries.

LOL!! Nah, not really. . . . I just 4got.

A stitch in time I was taught in school, save[b]d[/b] my 9 

_{Ndo, Kpele, Soz!}

^^ Guy i did not stitch her face on time but you know the Bible says . . . . 

kellorah:

LOL!! Even if u kill a cow for me, I will not ditch my last name. I can pity for u small and add hyphen, and then urs.

All these while that we have been dating, haven't you realized that i am a very proud african man  . I will not settle for less when it comes to my tradition and ego  culture

You see i have a very big farm  , infact i have the largest farm in nairaland. I am very hardworking and rich. I will take care of you very well and provide for all your needs so what else do you want?. 

Just answer my name because i am not ready to accommodate another ikemba in my house