guy when life thtows you lemons, turn them to lemonades. what i can deduce from your write up is financial frustration, lack of love and acceptance for your wife...or is her case worse than mama peace ( Ex-first lady)? but you can see how the husband stood by her, showed her love and respect and this helped to boost her confidence. what your wife needs from you is love and acceptance. take it that she may not match your intelligence level but there must be something she must be good at. you should try and identify what it is and encourage her to be happy as well. If she wants to trade, then let her start small. you dont have to invest the whole 1.5M for a start-up. that way she can learn while doing the business in a small way. its not a must to understudy someone else. Besides i will advise you take the chunk of that money and invest it on your own in a biz that can add to your income. you should be happy God has given you the brain and witts for two and a wife who is contented with it.....cheer up bro. divorce is bad for the kids!

Billyonaire:
This is a clear case of 2 people who struggled together. If your wife can not write then she is not a graduate, except you were in the school with her, if not, she has been lying to you all along. If her aural English is okay then I am convinced she went to School, if not, I conclude the woman is just an academic illliterate. Sorry for using the word, but what are you thinking ? A woman that can not write can not pass PGD and Masters. DOnt you understand that she is becoming pregnant just to avoid the embarrasement of going to school ?

Listen, this woman got your back while you guys struggled and things are going good and you deserve a better life and your wife is not catching up and she doesnt meet up with the class you so desire. Your own don be. This is not about you, when kids are involved you must evaluate your actions. DO NOT DIVORCE! If you want to live that glamorous life you want, then you need alter your thinking process and morality to enjoy the life you deserve.

Since your wife as decided she is okay the way she is, there is nothing you can do than to enjoy that life while remaining in that marriage for the kids.

You were planning divorce right ? Well, that is a sin in Christianity especially since your wife has not cheated on you. So let me offer you an alternative sinful idea that will save your marriage. This plan will save your marriage while giving you the life you want.

I believe you financially okay. You need to get that shop for your wife, stock it up and handover the keys to her then you need to rent a nice flat somewhere and you got to be smart to tell her that you have been transferred to another branch, then since you got her a shop she will be very busy and excited, engaged in the business and the life of the kids to monitor you. It is in this new flat of yours, that you will get a beautiful damsel, exactly the specs that you want and enjoy your life and visit wife and family at weekends..

Thank me later.

obviously, you get sense!

wonukwuru:
I am adult married to a lady of 35years. We have been married since 2007. God has blessed us with 3 wonderful children( 2 boys and 1 girl). Before we got married, i agreed with my wife that i only want to have 2 kids ( I wouldnt mind if they just boys or girls. That means, Im not particular of the sex of the kids). My wife is a B.sc Accounting graduate, while myself, I am a Chartered Accountant, with a well paid job. My wife had a 3rd class degree. On several occassions, i have told her to go back to school for Post Graduate Diploma (PGD) in order to upgrade,. I need a divorce but the problem now is, i did i court wedding with her. What should i do? Im confused.

Come to The Lord's CHOSEN and God will mend your wife and give her a miracle. She will find interest in career and succeed in it.

There are many testimonies as these. And i included.
Don't divorce or marry a 2nd wife. DON'T.

God will also restore the love for your wife.

Sir, you have not mentioned the good things your wife has been doing to help you.
I refuse to believe that your wife does nothing at home. What about cooking?

It is too late to divource after 3 kids.

Love your wife. That's all.

Catalin:
You knew she was a third Class graduate and went ahead to marry her, what did you expect? Now you are complaining about her grammar.
Your wife is unintelligent and she doesn't want to stress herself in school, why push her when you know her capabilities.

You say she takes in every time even though you want only 3kids. Are you not the one producing the sperm? I am not understanding.
you guys should go to your doctor and choose a family planning method that will suit you or you might end up with 10kids.

About her clothing issues, why not buy her new set of clothes like bum shorts, sexy gowns and lingeries. Married women most times forget that men are moved by what they see cos they are now married and the think the don't need to impress anyone anymore.There is no crime in buying her clothes you want her to wear.

Why not teach her how to speak good English since she does not want to enroll in school?

Open a small scale business for her and if she refuse to do or mismanage it, then don't give her money for upkeep anymore.

Save your marriage, don't divorce her, divorce will affect your kids I tell you.

Sista chop knuckle. Ur head is dere. If 2 say man dey ready 2 settle down, I 4 find u try c if I fit marry u.

To start wiv pls undermine the insults of some peeps over here..it neva counts..
Personally divorce is the worst decisión here and i suspect despite these odds u have mentioned u do love ur wife and she loves u very well in return..i wouldn't dwell in d mistakes u have made in the past but will focus on the way ahead..
Factually the method u have been using aren't working because u act with much muscular vigor and that countenance of being irritated.. i kwn women THIS NATURE, dont expect them to use their HEAD to think.or make use of reason.what u use for them is love, sometimes u call it wisdom..
She doesn't dress well..fine... try a good Christian boutique with a good female consultant to recommend some wears for her (you kwn her ideal taste by now.) Or take her shopping for clothes(birthdays anniversaries are good dates) sit close and let her make the damn good choice of clothes u like...u see it will work..she will like her self more and get used to it..always flatter her good looks very hard it will make this impression stricken in her.. watch out bro..its all about love.. and smile at her she will realize someday
As for the educational aspect.am afraid we will have a bit of a struggle here because all effort for her to better herself educationally is been futile.. i will only recommend u provide some means for her to get good basic adult education so she can speak good english and write properly... the lesson teacher could be of help too.if she is willing and HUMBLE to learn.. am sure she will if u approach her very well..(pls leave the computer stuff or whatever educational pursuit for someother time abeg)
If she is a full time house wife which am not a fan of..u can either ask of of what bizness plan she has in mind and to install discipline she must start small scale wiv small capital.. and u must vist her bizness and be supportive to the best of ur ability so u can monitor her or i recommend "YOU GET" a nursery or primary private school teaching job for her.. as she teaches she learns.. it will help..

Boss u shouldn't expect all responds u get from NL to be a mature ones cos apart from the fact that we have many teens some adults actually behave like kids.
Sir, I see u as an academic minded person so as u want ur family to be, I know u are the type of father that won't allow ur kids to try anything outside academic.
U are complaining that ur wife is this and that,while someone else posted on NL that his wife spend lavishly on exotic things.
Sir, u av to take ur wife for who she is and not what u want her to be. Education is not for everybody so forget about the fact that u still want her to do any course. U are a very busy type who don't av time to joke nor talk to ur wife but u are always on hard tone communicating with her. Get her ur prefer cloths tell her to try it out and don't let her feel inferior, form a story and tell her u need intelligent advice from her, and sometimes while talking to her try to input English in ur communications. Pls do not divorce her since she is not wayward type

DukeNija:


I like your reasoning but there is a slight flaw. The new woman will make him hate his wife more. But i think this is the only alternative he has for now.

Then he needs to be a smart player, dont take a particular girl serious, but call them on demand, and go to events with the best angels that money can lease (lol) if he is a smart player. He can actually make the family very wealthy by investing on the wife's business ideas big time. Get her sales girls and even cashiers while the husband does his 9-5 slave work. Besides, it was not even a good idea for both of them to be employees. This is an opportunity for him to own a business while enjoying the best ladies that money can pay for. If the OP is ashamed of the kind of business she wants to do. then expand it to something great and make something out of the predicament.

@wonukwuru may be too young to comment here, but I've got few things to say, firstly, you didn't just married to your wife today, your marriage is going to 10years now, so you didn't just notice these "abnormalities" now, including her dressing which you likened to a 60years old granny, so you've been able to put up with all those through out these years, why the twist up now?

Looking at your lamentations, they aren't new things to you as you've been couples for so long and I believed that you guys also had some courtship, having said that, its obvious you are fed up with your wife attitudes which so many things might be responsible for.

My advice for you is non-religion as l practice none, and the most important reason for us living is to have peace and give peace, if your divorce will give both of you peace, go to the court of law and blow it. Humans behaviours are complex strings, so difficult to break or modify.

baby124:
You probably thought you could upgrade her. Or are you saying you are just noticing her English? Nonsense. So she takes in by herself abi? If it bother's you so much why not use a condom

Or go hospital go do vasectomy. Na dt 1 sure pass.

gemale:

Sista chop knuckle. Ur head is dere. If 2 say man dey ready 2 settle down, I 4 find u try c if I fit marry u.

Sorry dear, I'm taken.

chiefojiji:




obviously, you get sense!

There is no problem without a solution, I always think of solutions without the limitations of morality according to religion.

That woman is not as bad as you paint her to be! She is not intelligent! She's not the school type, but she takes care of the kids well, aside educational aspect.

You dont need to open a 1.5 million Naira biz for her, just open one small biz and see how she manages it.
Let the home teacher continue his job.

Buy her sophisticated clothes if u want her to dress that way.

Don't divorce that woman! At least becos of ur kids. A lot of guys(working class) don't even want their wives to work. Just stay home and take care of my kids.

This is really not an issue bro. A lot of nairalanders have advised u rightly........Handle it the best way!

Good luck

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Hello Billyonaire,
I like your posts.

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maxti:
i confuse pass u bro.

@BaEnki Thanks, but I can assure you there are others you wont like. When that happens, re-evaluate your principles and like them more

Dis Story Dy Touch Ma Soul

Na lie I talk?

Some men believe that men should provide whike women stay home to have babies and and keep the home. AKA traditional marriage roles.
This woman would have made a perfect wife for such a man.

PaperLace:

Nne, what kind wickedness is this. Is this all you can say? Hahahahahaha.

OP, go get a vasectomy, abi no be you dey deposit sperm?

You're just looking for trophy wife.
Uncle, stay with your wife, we know your type. Once you guys make money, you start looking for cover girls.

@Op; quit being a PRIMA DONNA. TICK TOCK TICK TOCK; a time bomb is ticking on when you’re going to cheat on your wife; it’s just a matter of time. I won’t be surprised if you already have a lady you are eyeing outside hence the divorce strategy up your sleeve. Ever heard the saying “You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink”. You didn't even say your wife cheated on you, was rude, violet, nags, un-kempt, lazy or doesn't look after the kids and yet you want to divorce her.

Rather than you to cherish her good side and work on her flaws, you rather divorce her. You saw all her flaws and still went ahead and married her (10 YEARS DOWN THE LINE) and now that you can’t stand the flaws, you want to divorce your wife that already has 3 kids for you and another one (to make 4) is on the way due shortly, for all these things you mentioned that can be fixed with good communication with your wife; you really think that’ll be the best way forward. By the way, FORGET THAT STATEMENT YOU MADE THAT YOUR WIFE DELIBERATELY TOOK IN; AS YOU BOTH CREATED THE SOON TO ARRIVE LITTLE ONE.

Permit me asking this question, how would you feel if someone constantly criticizes you? Due to your constant annoyance and criticism at your wife ((not hard to spot that as you are becoming a constant nag) (no offense, hope none taken)), you’ve made her feel inferior to you especially in the area of your literacy and polished way of going about your stuff; Oh please give her a break and quit chocking her. You’re also rubbing salt into her wound by constantly referring to her not being literate enough; oh pleeeeease.

You talk as if you yourself are Mr 100% perfect and have no flaws. Listen up dude, I'm sure your wife is putting up with your fault/flaws without blowing your trumpet as loud as you’re blowing hers. If your wife were to make a list of your short-comings, it’ll be as long as my arm but yet, she manages yours and probably don’t complain so much as you’re whining about hers. I can just imagine the agony and pains your wife’s going through as you constantly barrage and correct her over frivolity.

Although you've mentioned sending her to further her education; what happens if she’s still not polished enough for you and able to articulately speak the MICHELLE OBAMA/QUEENS’ ENGLISH AS YOU WANT? Would that not irritate you and even compound the situation even more? Best believe, she can be sent to school but still not be polished enough for you and THAT’LL REMAIN A PROBLEM. THAT SAID, SHE DOESN’T WANT TO GO BACK TO SCHOOL, SO STOP FORCING HER TO DO SO. The imperfections that a spouse has are what make them unique.

Family planning
For the family planning, you can always go and have other methods done. For you, you can go and have a vasectomy after all it’s not only women that should under-go strenuous family planning methods.

Business
As she doesn’t want a white-collar job, then why not set her up with a business that she’s comfortable doing and not the one you want to force down her throat. She’s told you what she wants, then work with her to achieve it and stop whining.

Dressing
If you are tired of her wearing old cloths, then why don’t both of you go to a boutique together and pick some nice lady-like cloths for her? Better still, you can as well pack all her old over 60’s clothing and get ride of them in her absence since you so much detest them.

Lesson learnt

1) Never marry anyone out of pity simply because you have been with them for a long time and you don’t want them to lose out.

2) Marry for true love so that when the challenges start occurring in the marital bond (and best believe challenges would arise) that the love both of you have built up would be able to withstand the ups and downs that would occur; take note that MARRIAGE IS NOT A BED OF ROSES.

Finally, you better don’t inflict unnecessary regrets on yourself on what you could have fixed. Communicate with your wife and see how you can assist her to manage her flaws with love and not with anger and avoid stories that touch. BETTER STILL, GO FOR MARRIAGE COUNSELLING TO HELP YOU BOTH REASON ON PAR.

I rest my case

Billyonaire:
This is a clear case of 2 people who struggled together. If your wife can not write then she is not a graduate, except you were in the school with her, if not, she has been lying to you all along. If her aural English is okay then I am convinced she went to School, if not, I conclude the woman is just an academic illliterate. Sorry for using the word, but what are you thinking ? A woman that can not write can not pass PGD and Masters. DOnt you understand that she is becoming pregnant just to avoid the embarrasement of going to school ?

Listen, this woman got your back while you guys struggled and things are going good and you deserve a better life and your wife is not catching up and she doesnt meet up with the class you so desire. Your own don be. This is not about you, when kids are involved you must evaluate your actions. DO NOT DIVORCE! If you want to live that glamorous life you want, then you need alter your thinking process and morality to enjoy the life you deserve.

Since your wife as decided she is okay the way she is, there is nothing you can do than to enjoy that life while remaining in that marriage for the kids.

You were planning divorce right ? Well, that is a sin in Christianity especially since your wife has not cheated on you. So let me offer you an alternative sinful idea that will save your marriage. This plan will save your marriage while giving you the life you want.

I believe you financially okay. You need to get that shop for your wife, stock it up and handover the keys to her then you need to rent a nice flat somewhere and you got to be smart to tell her that you have been transferred to another branch, then since you got her a shop she will be very busy and excited, engaged in the business and the life of the kids to monitor you. It is in this new flat of yours, that you will get a beautiful damsel, exactly the specs that you want and enjoy your life and visit wife and family at weekends..

Thank me later.

Concerning him getting new damsel according to his specs, I'll call that a wrong move. You said he shouldn't divorce because of religion morality and still give him the option of fornication! Haba sir, if he's tired with the relationship, he should let it go and get his specs damsel, instead of being disloyal, life isn't fixed neither is a marriage a shackle.

Y u sef marry ex olosho

Billyonaire:
@BaEnki Thanks, but I can assure you there are others you wont like. When that happens, re-evaluate your principles and like them more

Hehehe I'm checking your profile and truly your posts in religion and education section I so much loves.

Dicksonpal:
Y u sef marry ex olosho

Wetin qualify am as Olosho?

wonukwuru:
I am adult married to a lady of 35years. We have been married since 2007. God has blessed us with 3 wonderful children( 2 boys and 1 girl). Before we got married, i agreed with my wife that i only want to have 2 kids ( I wouldnt mind if they just boys or girls. That means, Im not particular of the sex of the kids). My wife is a B.sc Accounting graduate, while myself, I am a Chartered Accountant, with a well paid job. My wife had a 3rd class degree. On several occassions, i have told her to go back to school for Post Graduate Diploma (PGD) in order to upgrade, but she plainly told me that she cannot go back to school again. When i asked her why, she told me that her brain cannot withstand any academic stree again. I also suggested to her, since you studied accounting in the university, why not enroll for ICAN program? When i said that to her, she told me that she could not go for PGD, is it ICAN that she can do? I have been thinking, what will i do for her to be like others.

Luckly, was transferred to Benin. I went with my family to Benin. We stayed over 4years in Benin. While we were in Benin, I told my wife to go and enroll for a 6months diploma programm in computer (because she is not computer literate). I paid over N110,000 for the 6months programme. My wife only went for the programme for 1month and stopped. She refused to complete the program. When I asked her, she told me that she will go back after she had "put to bed"( Then she was pregnant). Guys, its over two years now and the baby is even in pre-nursery school, yet my wife has not reminded me of going back to complete the programme.

Last year, she asked me to open a store for her, that she want to go into trading. When I asked her the nature of the business, she said, she wants to deal on selling rice, beans, yams, groundnut oil, etc. I now suggested that it will not be a problem, but she has to look for somebody who is already in the business so as to understudy the person for atleast 1month. She refused, saying that without her understudying anybody, that she can still make it. I told her that my reason of suggesting to her to understudy somebody was that, i wanted her to be selling in wholesale. My plan was to give like N1.5million. I told her, i cannot just release N1.5million to her for a business that she did not learn. I told her that N1.5million is not a small money. Brethren, that was why up til now, i have not opened the business for her.

My children's school fees is over N650,00 per term for the 3 kids. I provide for feeding. My wife does not want to do anything as to assist me in the family. I give her money for her hair, cream, bathing soap, panties and clothing. Im really getting tired. My salary does not carry the family again because of too much expenses.

Another problem now is, my wife's dressing is nothing to write home about. She dresses as if she is in her late 60s. I have complained to her on several occasion that i dont like the way she dresses, but each time i bring up the issue, she will get angry. People around, have meeting my sisters to tell them that my wife does not dress well as somebody that has gone to the university. Even in my house, my wife only tires wrapper. Nothing in her again attracts me to her. Infact, for the past 3 months, i have not slept with her. I sleep in the parlour while she sleeps in the bed room.

Else, i forget, my wife delibrately "took in" again since July last year. This is after we agreed that the 3 kids that we already have is enough. Her method is, each time i remind her of what to do as to be assisting me in the family, she will delibrately "take in".

My wife, went to the university but she cannot speak simple and correct english. She cannot write application letter. She cannot teach my kids who are in primary 2 and 5 respectively. I pay a lesson teacher N30,000 monthly for my kids but my wife is at home doing nothing. Since we got married, my wife has not sent me text message on her phone more than 3times. The ones that she sent, my brothers, there are lots of gramatical blunders. When i confronted her with the text message, she could not say anything. I was checking for some documents in my room last week, and i came across an application that my wife wrote to submit to a private school where she wants to teach. When i saw the letter, believe me, my brothers, one of my kids that is in primary 5 cannot write such rubbish.

What i thought she was before i married her, is not what she is. I cannot take her out for an occassion because she may embarrase me by her conduct in the public. I need a divorce but the problem now is, i did i court wedding with her. What should i do? Im confused.

Sir first of all don't forget your vows were for better or worse. This is your worse and whatever happens God will hold you accountable in the end. If you divorce her, your kids will be affected psychological y and there is nothing you will be able to do about it, they will hate you for it and you will not even know.
To the issue of your wife, she needs to take responsibility more for her life. Like someone suggested buy her sexy outfits and absolutely insist she wears only them in the house. Make education fun for her, like a child look for things that get her attention and use it to teach her how fun learning is. Divorce should never be an option. Make a new strategy and move on from there, it means the one you are using is not working. and don't forget to do it in love.

BaEnki:


Concerning him getting new damsel according to his specs, I'll call that a wrong move. You said he shouldn't divorce because of religion morality and still give him the option of fornication! Haba sir, if he's tired with the relationship, he should let it go and get his specs damsel, instead of being disloyal, life isn't fixed neither is a marriage a shackle.

Your advise is morally wrong, because the wife has not cheated on him, which is the only ground for divorce according to you religeous guys, and I believe it is still based on the lenses of religious periscope that you assert that getting a damsel is wrong.

The common factor outside the two wrongs are the kids. Kids are involved. When you divorce, you damage your kids psychologically. I will never advise any parents to damage the minds of kids by divorcing. I believe a son or a daughter will feel more comfortable knowing that the Dad is a womanizer instead of knowing that the Dad left them on the account that their mother is illiterate. It is unforgivable. It is the real sin.

carammel:
This year makes it ten years that you have been married to her,why did it take you this long?

You just realised she is not intelligent and cannot compose a good text message after ten years right?

Anyways,your wife is the type that is contented with being a full time housewife,you cant force her to be what she doesnt want to be,you just need to work harder and harsher so you can have more to spend on your family.

African men love to be the breadwinner and the Lord of the house so keep bearing it.

so disgusting and disappointed, what support is D's. I pity any man who will be coming for u with D's myopic nature of u

Billyonaire:
This is a clear case of 2 people who struggled together. If your wife can not write then she is not a graduate, except you were in the school with her, if not, she has been lying to you all along. If her aural English is okay then I am convinced she went to School, if not, I conclude the woman is just an academic illliterate. Sorry for using the word, but what are you thinking ? A woman that can not write can not pass PGD and Masters. DOnt you understand that she is becoming pregnant just to avoid the embarrasement of going to school ?

Listen, this woman got your back while you guys struggled and things are going good and you deserve a better life and your wife is not catching up and she doesnt meet up with the class you so desire. Your own don be. This is not about you, when kids are involved you must evaluate your actions. DO NOT DIVORCE! If you want to live that glamorous life you want, then you need alter your thinking process and morality to enjoy the life you deserve.

Since your wife as decided she is okay the way she is, there is nothing you can do than to enjoy that life while remaining in that marriage for the kids.

You were planning divorce right ? Well, that is a sin in Christianity especially since your wife has not cheated on you. So let me offer you an alternative sinful idea that will save your marriage. This plan will save your marriage while giving you the life you want.

I believe you financially okay. You need to get that shop for your wife, stock it up and handover the keys to her then you need to rent a nice flat somewhere and you got to be smart to tell her that you have been transferred to another branch, then since you got her a shop she will be very busy and excited, engaged in the business and the life of the kids to monitor you. It is in this new flat of yours, that you will get a beautiful damsel, exactly the specs that you want and enjoy your life and visit wife and family at weekends..

Thank me later.

Get behind me, devil

wonukwuru:
I am adult married to a lady of 35years. We have been married since 2007. God has blessed us with 3 wonderful children( 2 boys and 1 girl). Before we got married, i agreed with my wife that i only want to have 2 kids ( I wouldnt mind if they just boys or girls. That means, Im not particular of the sex of the kids). My wife is a B.sc Accounting graduate, while myself, I am a Chartered Accountant, with a well paid job. My wife had a 3rd class degree. On several occassions, i have told her to go back to school for Post Graduate Diploma (PGD) in order to upgrade, but she plainly told me that she cannot go back to school again. When i asked her why, she told me that her brain cannot withstand any academic stree again. I also suggested to her, since you studied accounting in the university, why not enroll for ICAN program? When i said that to her, she told me that she could not go for PGD, is it ICAN that she can do? I have been thinking, what will i do for her to be like others.

Luckly, was transferred to Benin. I went with my family to Benin. We stayed over 4years in Benin. While we were in Benin, I told my wife to go and enroll for a 6months diploma programm in computer (because she is not computer literate). I paid over N110,000 for the 6months programme. My wife only went for the programme for 1month and stopped. She refused to complete the program. When I asked her, she told me that she will go back after she had "put to bed"( Then she was pregnant). Guys, its over two years now and the baby is even in pre-nursery school, yet my wife has not reminded me of going back to complete the programme.

Last year, she asked me to open a store for her, that she want to go into trading. When I asked her the nature of the business, she said, she wants to deal on selling rice, beans, yams, groundnut oil, etc. I now suggested that it will not be a problem, but she has to look for somebody who is already in the business so as to understudy the person for atleast 1month. She refused, saying that without her understudying anybody, that she can still make it. I told her that my reason of suggesting to her to understudy somebody was that, i wanted her to be selling in wholesale. My plan was to give like N1.5million. I told her, i cannot just release N1.5million to her for a business that she did not learn. I told her that N1.5million is not a small money. Brethren, that was why up til now, i have not opened the business for her.

My children's school fees is over N650,00 per term for the 3 kids. I provide for feeding. My wife does not want to do anything as to assist me in the family. I give her money for her hair, cream, bathing soap, panties and clothing. Im really getting tired. My salary does not carry the family again because of too much expenses.

Another problem now is, my wife's dressing is nothing to write home about. She dresses as if she is in her late 60s. I have complained to her on several occasion that i dont like the way she dresses, but each time i bring up the issue, she will get angry. People around, have meeting my sisters to tell them that my wife does not dress well as somebody that has gone to the university. Even in my house, my wife only tires wrapper. Nothing in her again attracts me to her. Infact, for the past 3 months, i have not slept with her. I sleep in the parlour while she sleeps in the bed room.

Else, i forget, my wife delibrately "took in" again since July last year. This is after we agreed that the 3 kids that we already have is enough. Her method is, each time i remind her of what to do as to be assisting me in the family, she will delibrately "take in".

My wife, went to the university but she cannot speak simple and correct english. She cannot write application letter. She cannot teach my kids who are in primary 2 and 5 respectively. I pay a lesson teacher N30,000 monthly for my kids but my wife is at home doing nothing. Since we got married, my wife has not sent me text message on her phone more than 3times. The ones that she sent, my brothers, there are lots of gramatical blunders. When i confronted her with the text message, she could not say anything. I was checking for some documents in my room last week, and i came across an application that my wife wrote to submit to a private school where she wants to teach. When i saw the letter, believe me, my brothers, one of my kids that is in primary 5 cannot write such rubbish.

What i thought she was before i married her, is not what she is. I cannot take her out for an occassion because she may embarrase me by her conduct in the public. I need a divorce but the problem now is, i did i court wedding with her. What should i do? Im confused.

You will need to see a counsellor together. I saw something like this on www.familyparliament.com
May be you should visit the site for more help.

egbabiekperemo1:


Get behind me, devil

Finally, someone recognizes who I am. But let me ask you. This is an illustration, dont take it personal. If you grew up without a Dad and you ask your mum while your Dad divorce and left you guys. And her response is that your Dad divorce her because she is illiterate, how will you feel ? Then compare to knowing that your Dad comes home every weekend but has a girlfriend. Listen, this is the core reason many men womanize. It is not actually because their wives can not write, it is because most wives have failed the calibration that their husbands expected. That is why they find in other women, what their wives lack. This is why prostitution is the most lucrative untaxed industry in the world.

Thanks for calling a Devil once again.

maxti:
i confuse pass u bro.

You people will not kill Me.

Billyonaire:


Then he needs to be a smart player, dont take a particular girl serious, but call them on demand, and go to events with the best angels that money can lease (lol) if he is a smart player. He can actually make the family very wealthy by investing on the wife's business ideas big time. Get her sales girls and even cashiers while the husband does his 9-5 slave work. Besides, it was not even a good idea for both of them to be employees. This is an opportunity for him to own a business while enjoying the best ladies that money can pay for. If the OP is ashamed of the kind of business she wants to do. then expand it to something great and make something out of the predicament.

You're not smart.

If you were, you would realise the man is already complaining about financial constraints and it's one of the reasons he's getting tired of the marriage as well as the continual addition of kids yet you want him to go spend his few money on a whorre outside? You should have probably told him to neglect his household and lavish on a LovePeddler who would probably give him another kid that he doesn't seem to want.