It's either guys have become extremely cynical or girls are really bad.

rock2:

Where is the guy that even asked the question

Its been about 3 days now. What have you done about it.

2+ years is not too much. hope you took the right decision and let her go

Guys like this no dey get time ya know. That's why he is still asking question about what to do. talk about how to get another babe if he lets this one go.

rock2:

Where is the guy that even asked the question

Its been about 3 days now. What have you done about it.

2+ years is not too much. hope you took the right decision and let her go

Guys like this no dey get time ya know. That's why he is still asking question about what to do. talk about how to get another babe if he lets this one go.

My guy, this is a simple situation in the sense that you have known her for 2 and half years and you should be able to tell what she can do and cant do.It is very wrong for her to have slept there, but are you sure she did it or she only said that to hurt you in a way? Why not have a heart to heart talk with her and find out the truth.No sane lady would say that to her boyfriend and thinks he wouldn't get hurt.Don't make a stupid decision.Think!!!

michelin89:

It's either guys have become extremely cynical or girls are really bad.

true

It's one of two things.

She's been compromised.
Or
She was telling you the truth.

I will go with the latter.
You know why? She could have easily lied to you about where she was-but she didn't.

Lawwwwdddd Have MERCY!!!!!!!!!!!

Men!!!Na serious issue be this one o!!We all know what happens when a chick spends the night in another brother's house,especially when they are Corpers!

LIGHT INDEED!!!
IF THERE ARE CHALLENGES AFTER MARRYING SUCH A LADY, SHE WOULD ALSO DO "SOME SIMILAR THING" IN THE NAME OF HELPING YOU AND SEEKING COMFORT!

Pedekunle:

LIGHT INDEED!!!
IF THERE ARE CHALLENGES AFTER MARRYING SUCH A LADY, SHE WOULD ALSO DO "SOME SIMILAR THING" IN THE NAME OF HELPING YOU AND SEEKING COMFORT!

What happened to those days when people could make decent analogies, similes and metaphors? I am really sad.

Double N:

Men!!!Na serious issue be this one o!!We all know what happens when a chick spends the night in another brother's house,especially when they are Corpers!

@poster
With behavior like this from your girl, I think you should even start wondering about what happened on camp. u know,, in the bush, on top bench, etc. I guess there was no phone network there for you to call through to be told.

Guy, you should know her better than we do.

Whether she *did* anything with the guy or not, y'all might still end up getting married so be extremely discerning else you'll get stuck with what u never intended on fella.

There's a high probability that she's been messing wiv the guy
and she offered you a bit of controversial truth just to downplay her guilt and win ur trust

Told my gal about this - Her advice. Talk some strong words into your girl's head. Real strong words!!

Just been shown this thread - a girl who is dating someone she regards as her boyfriend, sleeping in another guy's house? It's wrong! Even if she were single, morally it would be unacceptable.

@ KC: You have a lot of work ahead of you, and unanswered questions, good luck.

@Poster                          it is proper provided they use KoRoRoGo Circle and sleep well under a treated mosquitoe net. 

Sorry Mr. close to 30yrs old, working in a multinational coy, almost completed his duplex, to be married soon, U GET TO SET D RULES IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP! If this scenario is true-and i dont think it is- u definitely have a problem, not her, but YOU! U seem to lack certain qualities of an employee of such status LIKE THINKING ON YOUR FEET. I wont be surprised if u had little to do with your building project other than dishing out cash. U also appear to have responsibility issues and i think stuff like this should get u to work on yourself. Not meaning to sound judgemental or cynical, just my humble opinion. My apologies.

dejstahl:

Sorry Mr. close to 30yrs old, working in a multinational coy, almost completed his duplex, to be married soon, U GET TO SET D RULES IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP! If this scenario is true-and i dont think it is- u definitely have a problem, not her, but YOU! U seem to lack certain qualities of an employee of such status LIKE THINKING ON YOUR FEET. I wont be surprised if u had little to do with your building project other than dishing out cash. U also appear to have responsibility issues and i think stuff like this should get u to work on yourself. Not meaning to sound judgemental or cynical, just my humble opinion. My apologies.

How do u mean by that? Do u know him b4?

I use to stay in my best friend's house (he is a Guy) most of the day years ago before I met my bf. We dont do anything cause first of all, we have no feelings for each other, second, I dont believe in making love to your friend and to a guy you have no feelings for, thirdly, I think its an indecent act and should not be tolerated at all. Than when I have a bf, I stop sleeping over at his house and he was offended at first but I had to make him understand that it is not appropriate no matter what the circumstances are and that we both should respect my bf so the answer is No, its not proper.

Hey man! your girl is trying to send a message to you. If she boldly told you that she was spending a night in a guy friend's house, it means that she is no more into you. She doesn't want you. Normally, a lady with common sense knows that it is morally and physically wrong to sleep over with a guy who is not related to her, therefore would either switch off her phone or lie to you. In this case, she boldly, with no remorse told you where she was. Bro, I am not trying to raise your insecurities but I advice you to let that lady go and move on with your life. I'm sure you will find someone who will be faithful to you.

.i ain't g0n say anythng. . .cz u kn0w ur gurlfwend beta than we d0. . .u kn0 wat she can do nd wat she cnt do(at least u shud kn0 ths if u wanna marry her). . . .s0 itz up to u bruv.

TRUST, IS VERY VERY IMPORTANT, I THINK SOME THINGS ARE BETTER NOT IMAGINED
AV GOT A GAL TOO SERVING IN THE NORTH, BEEN STAYING WITH THIS GUY FOR SOME TIME NOW.BUT SHES JUST GOT HER PLACE NOW.
SHE CLAIMS NOTHINGS HAPPENED AND TELLS ME TO TRUST HER, HUMANLY AND MANLY I TRY. BUT HE HARD(SOME THINGS ARE RATHER NOT IMAGINED, TO FOSTER ON THE RELATIONSHIP). I KNOW HOW THESE CORPERS BEHAVE WEN THEY GET TO OTHER LANDS(ALOT OF THEM MESSUP)
GOD HELPUS SHA

Nothing might have happened. She was honest, she could have lied if she had a hidden agenda, calm down she seems a good gal

What makes a relationship to work is trust.

To give you any advice, I will have to throw
some questions back to you. What is your
relationship with this babe of yours like? I
mean, can you sit down and think out what
really made the relationship thick?

You have dated her for 2 years now but it
seems to me you don't know her very well.
Coz if you do, you won't ask such question
to NLanders.

For example, one of my friends married his long
time girlfriend who can hug anybody on the street.
She hugs all his guy's friends and can even sleep
in your house once she believes you can be trusted.
She has a free mind and doesn't fear anything.

But my guy understand the type of woman he is
dating and is not much concerned about what
she does coz he trusts her. He has come to
understand her nature because he knows what
he wants.

Poster, you babe may be or not be sleeping with
the guy she slept in his house. The answer to this
question lies with you. Can you define the type of
person she is?

Instead of basing your actions on assumption, why
not invite her for a weekend and psyche her?

Use your brain this time. Marriage is for a lifetime.
So, do whatever your instinct tells you after some
deep investigations.

Take care!

folesky231:

My guy, this is a simple situation in the sense that you have known her for 2 and  half years  and you should be able to tell what she can do and cant do.It is very wrong for her to have slept  there, but are you sure she did it or she only said that to hurt you in a way? Why not have a heart to heart talk with her and find out the truth.No sane lady would say that to her boyfriend and thinks he wouldn't get hurt.Don't make a silly decision.Think!!!

i feel very sad when pple come to nairaland to talk like imbeciles. if a 15 yr old marriage could crash due to infidelity how can anyone claim to know his girlfriend of just 2yrs? even you writing this dust can you truly know ur capacity to flee temptation?

Poster, pls all you need to do is call your lovely lady and tell her you do not feel comfortable with her sleeping in another guy's room. tell her not to do it again.And make sure you visit her often instead of relaxing in ur office fooling urself.

As for me o. i can never take it. cos i have slept with a girl before, while she was talking to her bf(she hat to pick cos the phone kept ringing). i had to take the phone and cut the line to allow me concentrate.she called him back when we finished to tell him it was "this yeye jelous toaster disturbing her". the guy laughed at the other end feeling like one Godzilla. after the call i still slammed the shit.

pls poster she could be telling you nothing is going on between them but many of the ladies posting junk also know that at times a girl sleeps with her friend when she is Hot and he is available.pls we are grown ups lets not act like "binta my daughter" this is no TV show.

Look be4 you leap, hope you get my point

She went to sleep in the man's house as what now, @poster
Dats a rhetorical question. You, is it proper?

This can go two ways, she is either cheating or she is not. Where is she serving? Is it where you can travel down during the weekend and pay her a surprise visit? If not, call her and tell her your mind. I know a lot of girls take NYSC as a place to either catch fun or find a partner. What ever the case, thread softly on this issue. Secondly, is your girl God fearing? If she is and you trust, then you don't need to worry.
The only worrisome part in this issue is that is there no female fellow corps member she can spent the night with?

go ahead and keep thinking, if you want to be a fool.

thank your star that your girls is still honest to have told you where she was.what of if she had lied you couldnt have found out . so relax bro.just concentrate on your duplex and finish it fast so you can marry her.but if she does that while you guys are married, then tell me i will tell you what to do.