JasonScolari:
Funny woman... So you did not call him out all these while, now that the man is happily married again, you raise your ugly gap teeth to call him out.




Go and sit your ass down madam and endure the pains.

Dont mind the sad and hateful baitch!

- Things is, when women want to divorce their husband, they boast about and fight to have the chidren under their own care

- After divorce, they run around telling thier friends that his life is finished (without her ), he is dipressed, bla bla bla

- When he fixes his life and start 'living again', they become very sad and spiteful..... and suddenly remembers that he is not taking care of his kids and he does not deserve to be happy thereafter and forever.

If you know you cant 'financially' take care of the children, let the parent that has the capacity to do so, have them.
Dont drag the children to yourself, just to spite your partner and to make money off-him.
Finally, stop whinning, we nor send you.

BTW: Happy married life to the ex-hubby, life is just about to turn the corner.
Haters gon-die.

JasonScolari:
The judicial system favors your gender more in this country and you know it.


Advice her to try them out and leave the social media.


Lets not go into the stats because you'll be stunned by the staggering amount of women who have claimed maintenance to everything their spouse own down to their boxers.

Like I said those with means can
And what of those without?
And since I am not her legal advisor or friend I can’t advise
I will stand by my stance you can’t abandon your children because the mother is being spiteful. At least let your children know you tried to do right by them. The operative word here being tried.

Dalby:


Let me paint a senario for you so you judge!
A man caught his wife in adultry with evidence, later he moved out of his house when he noticed the wife was still secretly communicating with her lover. The wife works and earns a salary. She insist that all the kids will be with her. The man rents another apartment and is paying rent.
The woman goes around crying wolf that the man has abandoned his kids that he does not pay for their accommodation anymore. He was still paying their fees and sending feeding. Later he stops sending feeding and she continues to cry wolf wolf that he has abandoned his responsibilities you no longer care for your kids accommodation or feeding. 2 year down the road he no longer sends fees, now she is crying the loudest. What will be your verdict here!

Do the needful to his children and ignore her.
Your/his responsibility is to your children and not to her. Irrespective of her action pay/pay part of the children fees send her feeding money. Keep the evidence of transfer to her account or to children's school and show the evidence everywhere she goes to shout.

Daboomb:




Dont mind the sad and hateful baitch!

- Things is, when women want to divorce their husband, they boast about and fight to have the chidren under their own care

- After divorce, they run around telling thier friends that his life is finished (without her ), he is dipressed, bla bla bla

- When he fixes his life and start 'living again', they become very sad and spiteful..... and suddenly remembers that he is not taking care of his kids and he does not deserve to be happy thereafter and forever.

If you know you cant 'financially' take care of the children, let the parent that has the capacity to do so, have them.
Dont drag the children to yourself, just to spite your partner and to make money off-him.
Finally, stop whinning, we nor send you.

BTW: Happy married life to the ex-hubby, life is just about to turn the corner.
Haters gon-die.

She's so full of hate and pains.... In a bid to make my comment look so bad, one of the single frustrated mod took her time out to lay curse on her father....


Happy married life to the Ex.

frenzyduchess:
They feel it's the best way to get back at their ex wives and divorce is a good way to escape the responsibility of taking care of their kids

Only in a lawless place does such happen. It's despicable really.

Dalby:


You do not know the details of this story, neither do you know my mother. I am happy to tell you that my dad and mum are still together unlike the lady in question. I will chose also not to disrespect your mother the way you did talking to me

My dearly departed ancestors what are you on about now? I see you have opted to serve right all of a sudden!

The part of “ having your cake and eating it” you took that to be a reference to your mother? Smh
Did you not write the woman can’t have her cake and it it?
And I responded to that quote. It’s you that brought your poor mother into this not me .

JasonScolari:
Baby, like i said before, i am not in anyway supporting the Ex husband, but she's just being pained that the Ex is moving on real good and she couldn't hide it anymore hence, she use the irresponsibility of the Ex to take care of their kids to drag him out and seek sympathy.

She doesn't need sympathy, she wants the father of her children to pay towards their upkeep.

All this story you are telling is irrelevant if he is not contributing towards the children he made.

samguru:


Have you found out what the woman did to her husband before the man took this action?

Abeg the man should enjoy his new life joor

Crazy women/ladies everywhere

What did the children do to him?

Asinine people excusing irresponsibility.

MissRaine69:

Like I said those with means can
And what of those without?
And since I am not her legal advisor or friend I can’t advise
I will stand by my stance you can’t abandon your children because the mother is being spiteful. At least let your children know you tried to do right by them. The operative word here being tried.

Alright, i get your point now... Many thanks MissRaine.

VANENON:


Do the needful to his children and ignore her.
Your/his responsibility is to your children and not to her. Irrespective of her action pay/pay part of the children fees send her feeding money. Keep the evidence of transfer to her account or to children's school and show the evidence everywhere she goes to shout.

This is a very responsible answer.
I have another question, the man in this case re-married and goes to have kids, his income stream has not expanded. Prior to this incident his plan was for 3 kids. At this point he has 3 with the new wife and 3 with the old. For him to have peace in the house he focuses on the 3 at home. Would he still be a bad man?

Jabioro:
Whether separated on not,caring for the kids are for both responsibility..he is a true coward,l hv once be in his positn up till tomorow l didn't allow my kids to suffere.When she remarried, she did call me and l wish her the best.Today one is a graduate,one is a popular model (name withheld) and the last under graduate..l have just remarried recently..Some men can play ludos with their children futures.

And they deserve to be ignored by those kids in the future.

You sir, are commended for being a father in the true sense of the word.

makydebbie:
Bro, free me.

Did you see me take sides with anybody?

Yes.

makydebbie post=66236274
The person I quoted made mention of the woman not being truthful with her story and I reminded him that the woman said the man gave her the mentality that he's not financially stable. [/quote] That's you taking sides.
[quote author=makydebbie:

They're not together anymore, how else can she cope? Since they don't live together, what stops the man from lying? The man can be in a different state and insist he's broke, what do you expect the woman to do?

I thought you're not taking sides? That's by the way, you saying now that the impression was given after they broke up? Can I hold onto that?

makydebbie:
You're here banking on the fact that men don't abandon their kids. Rubbish.

Madam, I said hardly not don't and I still stand by it. Women fight for the custody of the children even when they don't have the means to take care of the them. Emeka Ike's wife is a good example.

Some don't want the fathers to get close to the children at all, Tonto is an example. When things get tougher for them, they will start disturbing our peace.

makydebbie:

Am I forcing you to buy it or you quoted me? Argue with your heart full men. I'm already having a bad day don't let me transfer anger to your side.

Bring it on baby, I am your stronger side. Feel free to pour it on me.

shaybebaby:

She doesn't need sympathy, she wants the father of her children to pay towards their upkeep.

All this story you are telling is irrelevant if he is not contributing towards the children he made.

Just calm down miss, can you advice her to visit the Igando customary court?


If you can do that, we will appreciate you. Thanks.

Rubbiish:

Shut up if got nothing reasonable to say...Do u know if d man is dependant on the new wife & she sponsored the wedding?
U can't take away the fact that the woman is pained that her ex is getting married again...
She is only letting it out...

He lucky he is in naij, try that shit here and claim it's the new wife with money,she'll pay for the upkeep of his children.

If he is cash poor but asset, the law will take a portion for the children. Except he wants to live with nothing in his name and unmarried, nigga will cough up. Nonsense!

JasonScolari:
Alright, i get your point now... Many thanks MissRaine.

about time too

JasonScolari:
Just calm down miss, can you advice her to visit the Igando customary court?


If you can do that, we will appreciate you. Thanks.

Better still, shame men who think it's okay to make children who didn't ask to be born, pay for their mistakes.

Say no to being a dead beat dad!

shaybebaby:


Better still, shame men who think it's okay to make children who didn't ask to be born, pay for their mistakes.

Say no to being a dead beat dad!

Damn!!! You'll be a good DEFENDER for the Super Falcons....


Sometimes, the way some of you ladies judge things... it's so amazing. God forbid.

shaybebaby:

Only in a lawless place does such happen. It's despicable really.

well it's happening in Nigeria

Dalby:


This is a very responsible answer.
I have another question, the man in this case re-married and goes to have kids, his income stream has not expanded. Prior to this incident his plan was for 3 kids. At this point he has 3 with the new wife and 3 with the old. For him to have peace in the house he focuses on the 3 at home. Would he still be a bad man?

Even if the woman says nothing, God who sees and judges faithfully will punish him.
The right thing to do is to send an upkeep for your children not to neglect them totally. You may not necessarily be able to take care of all their needs because of your/his added responsibilities but doing something which is reasonable within your/his means is the right thing to do!

shaybebaby:

And they deserve to be ignored by those kids in the future.

You sir, are commended for being a father in the true sense of the word.

Thanks

shaybebaby:


Better still, shame men who think it's okay to make children who didn't ask to be born, pay for their mistakes.

Say no to being a dead beat dad!

Na only the man dey make the kids? Women

Dalby:


Na only the man dey make the kids? Women

No, so the time and resources required to raise them should be shared equally.

Now this is the woman's side of the story, the man's side is rarely heard. But first let us explore some scenarios, did the man attempt to take some of the kids with him? Most probably he did but of course the woman resisted vehemently, if the children are young, the court will most likely grant the woman custody, so she keeps the kids, has what might be called a stable family, and expects the man to maintain that family while he wallows in loneliness. This isn't about child support, this is unfairness to men, if the woman is incapable of taking care of the children then she should give them up to the man, rather than expecting him to do all the duties from a distance while gaining nothing out of it given that with such duties, he will probably be unable to start another family somewhere else.
This brings us to another usual.scenerio, in which the woman also teaches the children to dislike their father or, often, threatens to do it. What use are children to a man if they hate him. Logic demands, in this case, that he starts another family. Support for the other becomes a matter of discretion, thus he might "support" as he seems fit or as is directed by the court and leaves it at that.
Anyway we rarely hear the man talk, the woman always plays the victim. More often than not though, she is far from that.
We get the picture of a nice considerate woma who refused to bother the man because she thought he wasn't financially stable. A grossly illogical picture because men do not seperate from nice, wonderful women!!!

You know the irony of life, these same women saying kill him, kill him. If the man in question happens to be their brother you go see justification from them for his actions...

BleSSedMee:


Thanks Jadyclem. No one knows it all.

What I meant by 'fix this ish' is that if she had been receiving child support from the ex, this call out wouldn't have been made.

I got you point. I hail!

hairyman:
Now this is the woman's side of the story, the man's side is rarely heard. But first let us explore some scenarios, did the man attempt to take some of the kids with him? Most probably he did but of course the woman resisted vehemently, if the children are young, the court will most likely grant the woman custody, so she keeps the kids, has what might be called a stable family, and expects the man to maintain that family while he wallows in loneliness. This isn't about child support, this is unfairness to men, if the woman is incapable of taking care of the children then she should give them up to the man, rather than expecting him to do all the duties from a distance while gaining nothing out of it given that with such duties, he will probably be unable to start another family somewhere else.
This brings us to another usual.scenerio, in which the woman also teaches the children to dislike their father or, often, threatens to do it. What use are children to a man if they hate him. Logic demands, in this case, that he starts another family. Support for the other becomes a matter of discretion, thus he might "support" as he seems fit or as is directed by the court and leaves it at that.
Anyway we rarely hear the man talk, the woman always plays the victim. More often than not though, she is far from that.
We get the picture of a nice considerate woma who refused to bother the man because she thought he wasn't financially stable. A grossly illogical picture because men do not seperate from nice, wonderful women!!!

Exactly

fabienjoe:


You don't bring up your children to 'benefit' from them when they are older; you do so because it is your duty. Your children would grow up and have their own children, not their parents to look after. This man is irresponsible and should be taken to the court to start supporting his children, no if's, no but's..

To me it is investment and bringing up my children is a part of it because I cannot labour for them in vain.It is my duty yes and it is also their duty to take care of me when I am old.They Would Take Care of their kids and my husband and I as well because I did so for my parents.They can't abandon me in old age.

Ladyhippolyta88:
I don't think she is pained she can move on as well that is if she has not moved on already.It is not about her but the kids.Madam since he does not want to invest in his children you can do it and you alone would reap the benefit when they are much older.I am sure by then your husband would remember he is their father and want to also benefit from them when he invested nothing. and your kids would put him in his place .

how do u know the woman wasn't using the kids to blackmail him as pained women usually do and the guy decided to hands off? Have u heard the guys own side. Do u really think a man would leave his kids for no reason. She's a eking sympathy like the saint , when ppl dey warn am make she calm down she probably was forming strong woman. Anyways goofluck to her.

hairyman:
Now this is the woman's side of the story, the man's side is rarely heard. But first let us explore some scenarios, did the man attempt to take some of the kids with him? Most probably he did but of course the woman resisted vehemently, if the children are young, the court will most likely grant the woman custody, so she keeps the kids, has what might be called a stable family, and expects the man to maintain that family while he wallows in loneliness. This isn't about child support, this is unfairness to men, if the woman is incapable of taking care of the children then she should give them up to the man, rather than expecting him to do all the duties from a distance while gaining nothing out of it given that with such duties, he will probably be unable to start another family somewhere else.
This brings us to another usual.scenerio, in which the woman also teaches the children to dislike their father or, often, threatens to do it. What use are children to a man if they hate him. Logic demands, in this case, that he starts another family. Support for the other becomes a matter of discretion, thus he might "support" as he seems fit or as is directed by the court and leaves it at that.
Anyway we rarely hear the man talk, the woman always plays the victim. More often than not though, she is far from that.
We get the picture of a nice considerate woma who refused to bother the man because she thought he wasn't financially stable. A grossly illogical picture because men do not seperate from nice, wonderful women!!!

some ppl will call u wicked (feminist birches), but as u get older as a man , ure eyes begin to open. Blackmail only gets you sympathy, it doesn't solve probs. I dnt understand y they always pop up when the mans bout to remarry

shaybebaby:

No, so the time and resources required to raise them should be shared equally.

by sharing you mean custody inclusive abi? Or typical of women ud expect to hold on to the kid while he trains them for u and they barely know him

JasonScolari:
Many thanks, now kindly Furk off.

You are welcome for thanking me and for not refuting that you are irresponsible.

shaybebaby:

He lucky he is in naij, try that shit here and claim it's the new wife with money,she'll pay for the upkeep of his children.

If he is cash poor but asset, the law will take a portion for the children. Except he wants to live with nothing in his name and unmarried, nigga will cough up. Nonsense!

like na only you dey live for Yankee....... There are more irresponsible dads there that here. Enforcing the law will need constant litigation by the woman. Plus I very much know that only applies to white collar/blue collar workers. Its better tp settle these things amicably. Ok what happens when the new union brings forth more kids? The first one will be given priority in ur head abi?