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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by anonimi: 5:15am On Feb 06, 2020
Trust22:
Look at this man oo... U can't father a child n u ain't even sure if the treatment will work at the end yet God is about to bless u with a child and u r here talking about cheating...

Haven't u seen those that spends too much money on adoption just because they can't father a child...

Just kneel down and Thank God... Claim the child even if the father comes tomorrow for the Child...

Nice comment but what happens when the bold occurs?

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by BigBizzy(m): 5:16am On Feb 06, 2020
Don not proceed with this show you're trying to involve yourself in... People claim to be in love until they are married...

She just gave you a dose of the lady's handbook, when fully married she will begin to give you page by page, chapter by chapter

If you're hopeful of the treatment then end it and hope for a better partner

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by cooltola(m): 5:16am On Feb 06, 2020
You might be the father . No condition is permanent. Do a paternity test so you can confirm. If the child is not yours, divorcd her secretly.

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by FromZeroToHero(m): 5:17am On Feb 06, 2020
Bros go for semen analysis to ascertain if your sperm is now viable to fertilise an egg. Maybe the treatment has worked and you are unaware.

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by flyingdutchman(m): 5:17am On Feb 06, 2020
policysamuel:



Klinefelter Syndrome
Are you pedantic? Na wa for you oo! It is an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder to grammar.
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by peacettw: 5:19am On Feb 06, 2020
I find the story hard to believe because you keep throwing around the word Endocrinologist when it should be Obgyn. What will an endocrinologist do with your sperm?

As for your predicament, I am pretty sure that you are relieved that a child is coming into your life supposedly under your name. It is either this or adoption after years of childlessness. Asides from the infidelity which you can't prove with certainty, I say you go with the status quo
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by SamgoldBaba: 5:20am On Feb 06, 2020
NGRsenate:
There are two things involved ...

Your girl cheated


Or


You’re going to be a father


You can either confront her or take a gamble that you have actually fathered a child.

Are you a betting man?

Betting kwa? You'll make a great teacher
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by MistadeRegal(m): 5:20am On Feb 06, 2020
anonimi:


It is possible to do prenatal DNA test.
If not his by some miracle, it is best to end the relationship without disclosing her infidelity, saying that he will take care of "their" baby but won't marry the girl. With time they can sort out the paternity issue out between them after the stress of called off wedding has died down.

Yes it's possible. Then he should do something first before drawing conclusions. It could be the child is his, perhaps he responded to treatment faster than the doctor's expectation...

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by peeta4u(m): 5:25am On Feb 06, 2020
Romangalactic:

I am fully operational but sterile. I will have to find a way to make the trip and see my endocrinologist so he can take samples, my next consultation was not due for another four months but I'm really praying the child is mine.
can't u do the test elsewhere?
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by Kennodili(m): 5:26am On Feb 06, 2020
Please do you know where one can do a reliable DNA in Nigeria?
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by anonimi: 5:28am On Feb 06, 2020
MistadeRegal:
Yes it's possible. Then he should do something first before drawing conclusions. It could be the child is his, perhaps he responded to treatment faster than the doctor's expectation...

And that bro, is the miracle part that can't be ruled out in the affairs of men.

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by anonimi: 5:29am On Feb 06, 2020
Kennodili:
Please do you know where one can do a reliable DNA in Nigeria?

Ask a nurse/doctor in a clinic/hospital near you or google it.

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by anonimi: 5:34am On Feb 06, 2020
peacettw:
I find the story hard to believe because you keep throwing around the word Endocrinologist when it should be Obgyn. What will an endocrinologist do with your sperm?

As for your predicament, I am pretty sure that you are relieved that a child is coming into your life supposedly under your name. It is either this or adoption after years of childlessness. Asides from the infidelity which you can't prove with certainty, I say you go with the status quo

Before you do swagger with your uninformed words, why not google to confirm and clear your doubts to avoid embarrassment here?

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by bunnae(f): 5:36am On Feb 06, 2020
peacettw:
I find the story hard to believe because you keep throwing around the word Endocrinologist when it should be Obgyn. What will an endocrinologist do with your sperm?

As for your predicament, I am pretty sure that you are relieved that a child is coming into your life supposedly under your name. It is either this or adoption after years of childlessness. Asides from the infidelity which you can't prove with certainty, I say you go with the status quo
Is he really wrong? I'm asking based on your first paragraph. Be sure you know something first before you show your self na.
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by bunnae(f): 5:41am On Feb 06, 2020
BigBizzy:
Don not proceed with this show you're trying to involve yourself in... People claim to be in love until they are married...

She just gave you a dose of the lady's handbook, when fully married she will begin to give you page by page, chapter by chapter

If you're hopeful of the treatment then end it and hope for a better partner
The op is no saint either. Read his story again. He has a serious issue and still kept it a secret from the lady. Is that not evil?
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by zuto4u(m): 5:57am On Feb 06, 2020
Lol....... Please what is kini?
adontcare:
Oga open up to the Lady and tell her the truth. Tell her how far u v gone with treatment. If possible take her to see ur doctor. She know who d real father is. If it is u, then God be praised ur kini is working sad
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by Gee64: 5:59am On Feb 06, 2020
Man, take this Greek gift with pleasure and relax your mind.
A child is a child, biological or not!
But do you know God may have perfected a miracle on you?
Well, that child could be yours!
Of course, believe it is yours and forge ahead!
Romangalactic:

It's not everytime the truth sets people free. I thought about this as well but there too may things at play.
I have always felt the treatment may not have positive results fast enough and will take many trials, so accepting responsibility for this child is a good way to save us the embarrassment of our families wondering why we have not had a child after marriage and it also ensures she won't be trying to get pregnant for the next three to four years, which gives me more time to sort myself out.

I know this is selfish of me,. thanks a lot for your suggestions.
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by EagleDiamond: 6:06am On Feb 06, 2020
My dear friend call me I have something very important to tell u abt dis issue ok 08033262050 from Dr Ekeh.
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by GraGra247(m): 6:06am On Feb 06, 2020
elektra:
I’m curious. How did you find out you were sterile? Functional men don’t randomly check for sperm activity. Since you are not married, what could have prompted you to check?

Honestly I didn't buy his narrative because of this. Good someone is keen enough to observe.

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by Nobody: 6:16am On Feb 06, 2020
Romangalactic:

I am fully operational but sterile. I will have to find a way to make the trip and see my endocrinologist so he can take samples, my next consultation was not due for another four months but I'm really praying the child is mine.


Oga go to another lab and check, that's what he meant. it mustn't be that your lab.
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by Jeffy1206(m): 6:18am On Feb 06, 2020
Don't go on accusing the girl already!! Miracle do happens. Except you have seen and know the girl to be promiscuous! On another note, marriage under inability to consummate is voidable and that amounts to fraud... Do the right thing and save ur generation.

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by peacettw: 6:20am On Feb 06, 2020
bunnae:

Is he really wrong? I'm asking based on your first paragraph. Be sure you know something first before you show your self na.

Haba. I have already showed myself now.. Nothing else remain.. I just need the op to verify why an endocrinologist is treating him rather than an Obgyn..

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by peacettw: 6:21am On Feb 06, 2020
anonimi:


Before you do swagger with your uninformed words, why not google to confirm and clear your doubts to avoid embarrassment here?

Google.. I should google something that I am pretty sure about? Instead of skirting around the issue, why not answer the question. Explain to me why an endocrinologist is treating you at all rather than an Obgyn...
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by okpalaAnambra: 6:24am On Feb 06, 2020
Romangalactic:

That you're male and this is coming from you is a little overwhelming. Are you a doctor and did you notice that the person treating me is an endocrinologist? What do you think these people do?
I really don't need this please
You're writing a script, endocrinologist don't treat infertility from infection, urologists do..if ever you are to be treated by an endocrinologist it would be due to hormonal imbalance...so pack one side
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by okpalaAnambra: 6:27am On Feb 06, 2020
elektra:
I’m curious. How did you find out you were sterile? Functional men don’t randomly check for sperm activity. Since you are not married, what could have prompted you to check?
He's obviously writing a script, I'm a medical Dr myself
He's writing a script, endocrinologist don't treat infertility from infection, urologists do..if ever he has to be treated by an endocrinologist it would be due to hormonal imbalance like low testosterone causing infertility...so he should pack one side

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by okpalaAnambra: 6:27am On Feb 06, 2020
Nnemuka:

He is a scriptwriter, he is gathering your opinions on a story he intends selling to Emem Isong.

OP, look into this question and add to what you already wrote.
He's obviously writing a script, I'm a medical Dr myself
He's writing a script, endocrinologist don't treat infertility from infection, urologists do..if ever he has to be treated by an endocrinologist it would be due to hormonal imbalance like low testosterone causing infertility...so he should pack one side

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by miracle1997: 6:29am On Feb 06, 2020
Romangalactic:

I am fully operational but sterile. I will have to find a way to make the trip and see my endocrinologist so he can take samples, my next consultation was not due for another four months but I'm really praying the child is mine.

Bro, meet @thepeoplesdoctor on IG.. Lady is doing wonders... Meet her and see your spermcount, nobility n motility skyrocket in three months max.. But note that you will have to redo a seminal analysis
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by manontree: 6:30am On Feb 06, 2020
I have a few issues with this story. He got to know he is sterile through the discharges on his private which somehow has affected his prostate gland. While untreated STIs can indeed cause infertility the symptoms described here is strange and rare. Second, an endocrinologist comes into play if there is a hormonal imbalance caused by the pituitary gland. It is his job to use medication to attempt to balance this and restore fertility

If however the prostrate is responsible for this infertility then that's a different play altogether unrelated to hormonal balance and hence an endocrinologist almost certainly wont be involved

Third in almost all cases where the infertility is caused by STIs viable sperm can easily be retrieved from the man and IVF succesdully done. Which completely means the man is NOT sterile as he claimed many times in his write up

So which is it??

And if somehow you are sticking to this story, then you have to be sure the exact cause of your infertility. Maybe its genetics or something else and how you got to know of this and be sure of it remains a question for another day

However let's assume you have somehow become absolutely sure that you are not fertile and your wife to be comes up with this

You should know that a woman that can do this has NO respect for you, your family, union, honesty, integrity and fidelity. She is not only wayward, she is wicked, irresponsible and empty plus vain. You should expect that she lies easily and has numerous other secrets you do not know of. You only know of this because you know your health issues. Like so many of her dirty secrets, she doesn't expect you to have a clue

It is for this reason I would excuse you for your deceitful conduct. On average we get a negative DNA test a month. This can be randomized to 1 in every 5 men having kids they didn't father. The decadent in the society is growing at an alarming rate and this problem is expected to triple in the next decade so men should be smart.DNA is readily available now and simple to conduct. You simply swipe the inside of your mouth with a cotton bud like collection kit and use another to swipe the mouth of the alleged child and return the samples to the lab. In days the result is out. Be sure of that child before spending millions training them

As women become more brazen and daring , the men must become more crafty like this Egbon has done. If he didnt have this problem he would have joined the 1 in 5 men fathering children that is not theirs and clueless to the truth while the woman continues her escapades

Shame

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by killfear(m): 6:31am On Feb 06, 2020
My brother, be it known to you that medical results sometimes prove itself wrong. Doctors had dismissed people as having few days to live ,yet they went on and lived for years. So, you may just be on of those cases.

Secondly, I will not support telling her now, iv will ruin the good reason for which you didn't tell her earlier and even create trust issues and may even ruin the relationship, supposing that it's your child after all.

Keeping quite and going ahead to marry a supposedly cheating spouse with another's child to show for it is too much to live with for a lifetime. You will burst out someday. Especially if you eventually get treated.

MY ADVICE: Don't rush the marriage, a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. Wait until the birth of the child, secretly do the DNA test, if the child is yours, congrats and go in with the marriage. If the child isn't, come out with the test result and upon that, break the engagement and send her to her secret lover.

Take your time thereafter, treat yourself and search for a new bride

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by anonimi: 6:31am On Feb 06, 2020
peacettw:
Google.. I should google something that I am pretty sure about? Instead of skirting around the issue, why not answer the question. Explain to me why an endocrinologist is treating you at all rather than an Obgyn...

Low sperm count not just a problem for fertility; New research presented at ENDO 2018 links it to other health problems

A man’s semen count is a marker of his general health, according to the largest study to date evaluating semen quality, reproductive function and metabolic risk in men referred for fertility evaluation. The study results, in 5,177 male partners of infertile couples from Italy, will be presented Sunday at ENDO 2018, the Endocrine Society’s 100th annual meeting in Chicago, Ill.

“Our study clearly shows that low sperm count by itself is associated with metabolic alterations, cardiovascular risk and low bone mass,” said the study’s lead investigator, Alberto Ferlin, M.D., Ph.D. He recently moved as associate professor of endocrinology to Italy’s University of Brescia from the University of Padova, where the study took place in collaboration with professor Carlo Foresta, M.D.

https://www.endocrine.org/news-and-advocacy/news-room/2018/low-sperm-count-not-just-a-problem-for-fertility

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by viktuur(m): 6:32am On Feb 06, 2020
In how many separate clinics have you done your test?
1.redo your test with multiple facilities, take her along with you?
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by Chris2863(m): 6:37am On Feb 06, 2020
It seems you are under manipulation because the way you reply quotes shows that you don't know what you want. You want to father the child just to save yourself from embarrassment. Oga if you are not the one that impregnated her in the first place and accept it, be ready to accept more

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