okpalaAnambra:

He's obviously writing a script, I'm a medical Dr myself
He's writing a script, endocrinologist don't treat infertility from infection, urologists do..if ever he has to be treated by an endocrinologist it would be due to hormonal imbalance like low testosterone causing infertility...so he should pack one side

OP ngwa change that Endocrinologist to Urologist osiso...
People wey sabi don land
When they pay you, pls send my share oo

I don't know about you but bro am serving a miracle GOD that makes impossible be comes possible. Go back and check ur self u might be the father

Romangalactic:

It's not everytime the truth sets people free. I thought about this as well but there too may things at play.
I have always felt the treatment may not have positive results fast enough and will take many trials, so accepting responsibility for this child is a good way to save us the embarrassment of our families wondering why we have not had a child after marriage and it also ensures she won't be trying to get pregnant for the next three to four years, which gives me more time to sort myself out.

I know this is selfish of me,. thanks a lot for your suggestions.

What difference does it make if you adopt a child from outside
Or your lady brought another child as a single mother
Or she brought pregnancy from outside

You can decide to choose what makes you happy, either your medical condition or the woman. The three case does not makes you the biological father of the child.

The best is to see psychologist abd both of you should walk in truth, i see you been punish for hiding the truth

manontree:
I have a few issues with this story. He got to know he is sterile through the discharges on his private which somehow has affected his prostate gland. While untreated STIs can indeed cause infertility the symptoms described here is strange and rare. Second, an endocrinologist comes into play if there is a hormonal imbalance caused by the pituitary gland. It is his job to use medication to attempt to balance this and restore fertility

If however the prostrate is responsible for this infertility then that's a different play altogether unrelated to hormonal balance and hence an endocrinologist almost certainly wont be involved

Third in almost all cases where the infertility is caused by STIs viable sperm can easily be retrieved from the man and IVF succesdully done. Which completely means the man is NOT sterile as he claimed many times in his write up

So which is it??

And if somehow you are sticking to this story, then you have to be sure the exact cause of your infertility. Maybe its genetics or something else and how you got to know of this and be sure of it remains a question for another day

However let's assume you have somehow become absolutely sure that you are not fertile and your wife to be comes up with this

You should know that a woman that can do this has NO respect for you, your family, union, honesty, integrity and fidelity. She is not only wayward, she is wicked, irresponsible and empty plus vain. You should expect that she lies easily and has numerous other secrets you do not know of. You only know of this because you know your health issues. Like so many of her dirty secrets, she doesn't expect you to have a clue

It is for this reason I would excuse you for your deceitful conduct. On average we get a negative DNA test a month. This can be randomized to 1 in every 5 men having kids they didn't father. The decadent in the society is growing at an alarming rate and this problem is expected to triple in the next decade so men should be smart.DNA is readily available now and simple to conduct. You simply swipe the inside of your mouth with a cotton bud like collection kit and use another to swipe the mouth of the alleged child and return the samples to the lab. In days the result is out. Be sure of that child before spending millions training them

As women become more brazen and daring , the men must become more crafty like this Egbon has done. If he didnt have this problem he would have joined the 1 in 5 men fathering children that is not theirs and clueless to the truth while the woman continues her escapades

Shame

I wonder what exactly endocrinologists have to do with urology. Maybe he's transitioning.

i have the video of this movie, i think you are not here for the advice just the traffic as the final decision comes down to you goodluck

peacettw:
I find the story hard to believe because you keep throwing around the word Endocrinologist when it should be Obgyn. What will an endocrinologist do with your sperm?

As for your predicament, I am pretty sure that you are relieved that a child is coming into your life supposedly under your name. It is either this or adoption after years of childlessness. Asides from the infidelity which you can't prove with certainty, I say you go with the status quo

Are you sure you even know the meaning of obgyn? Oya what will an OBGYN do with the op abi u hear say the op na SHIM?

Man, I think you have to suffer for your action of not telling the truth in the first place.

Now you gonna tell her endure her reaction and check if the foetus is yours.

CONSEQUENCE.

Don't jump to conclusions.
Wait for the baby to be born.
Do a paternity test secretly.
The doctors are not always right.
After you get the results you can be sure of what really happened.

This story could pass an Hollywood screening
Nice script.
But me I no foooo

Doubleoh7:

Are you sure you even know the meaning of obgyn? Oya what will an OBGYN do with the op abi u hear say the op na SHIM?

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You know what. I won't dignify that with an answer.

So you haven't know that at least every first child in every family of this generation nowadays are bastard!!! Well I think is better for you not to co.e out with the truth! Go sex your girlfriend and see if she's gonna be pregnant I mean your sidechixk o.... another option tho is that father the baby and later go for DNA test but that's on a long run!!! No kill yourself

Romangalactic:
I'll try to keep my predicament short. I registered a new account for this purpose but I'm sure many of you will understand that sterility is not something to be announced which is exactly how I got myself in this situation. I am 35 and engaged to a beautiful woman who completes me in every way. As much as it hurts me to say this, I have not been totally honest with her about everything.
Just yesterday while we were home together, she told me that she is pregnant . I asked her how sure she is, she said she had done the pee test and that she knows how she is feeling. The issue here is that I am sterile but I have not told her this before so it is impossible that I am responsible.

Please before anyone tells me I deserve this for not opening up to her, I have been undergoing treatment secretly and they say I will be able to father children when it's done so of course, I am hopeful and have not bothered to inform her about any of this. I can't stand losing her for any reason. My issue right now is that I asked my endocrinologist this morning if it's possible that the treatment is already working and he said we have not gone far enough to see any results yet. This means I am definitely not the father of the child she is carrying.

Only one other person in this world knows about my health challenge and that is my cousin. I told him and he told me to break up with my fiancée, someone I have already done introduction with and families are involved. I told him I cannot and that he must take the secret to the grave, he thinks I am making the biggest mistake of my life.
Well I told him my plan is to accept the pregnancy and continue to make her think I don't know she cheated on me. I am doing this with the hope that after we get married, my treatment will be completed and everything will be back to normal. But at the same time, I still can't shake the feeling that I am about to marry someone who cheated and is passing off another man's child as mine, I feel cheated and it hurts.

Can anyone else please tell me what to do about this situation I have found myself? Please I just need to hear from other people besides my cousin. Another thing, he has never really liked my fiancée so I feel that also may be his motivation.
I need neutral opinions please

Well you never can tell if your potency has been corrected with you or your doctor knowing

Do you normally get erection, if yes does it stand the time required of you while you penetrate her, if yes, do you feel any sensation down there while ejaculating if yes, then you may have been OK

Have you been having this issue for how long or it just developed

It's time you let her know your medical challenge, openness in any relationship helps both parties to be free with each other

I will suggest you tell her a d let her know your situation and how far you have gone

Ask her if she ever cheated on you if she says no, fine tell her you will do a DNA test at the right time to be sure of the paternity of that child

And if the result comes out negative, you will reject her and the child

But if it comes out positive, you will continue to lover her forever

Then you also tell her that if she cheated on you by any error, she can as well sort it out her self

Her response is what you will hold on to until that child is born and you do the DNA test

If she never ever cheated on you, she won't be bothered about the DNA

Romangalactic:

It's not everytime the truth sets people free. I thought about this as well but there too may things at play.
I have always felt the treatment may not have positive results fast enough and will take many trials, so accepting responsibility for this child is a good way to save us the embarrassment of our families wondering why we have not had a child after marriage and it also ensures she won't be trying to get pregnant for the next three to four years, which gives me more time to sort myself out.

I know this is selfish of me,. thanks a lot for your suggestions.

My bro, marriage isn't just dating, its a life time investment and am sure you are quite mature to know this. One of the major joy of a woman, grandparents is being ae to carry their owm children/ grand children. So Getting married to a lady on a deceitful ground when you know you will deny her the joy of motherhood is PURE WICKEDNESS, (not just to her but to both family) just because of your selfish desire to be with her. What's the essense of loving someone you can't make happy?
Well, there is nothing God can't do.
- There is possibility you are now potent, so you can check up on another lan (like someone suggested earlier)
- There is possibility it was just hormonal changes that occurred in her system, making her to have faulty reading as if she is pregnant, so going to a certify lab to conduct a proper pregnancy test will be one way to go too.
- It could also be she is not pregnant, but rather, she has been suspecting you and wondering why you cum in her yet she hasn't taken in, so she decided to prank you so you can come clean.
- Or obviously she dey go fire better priick for one corner, come carry belle wan put for your head.
My advice is whatever it is dont accept someone's child "base on pretence" that its your's. Cause no matter the reason and no matter how you pretend to love the mother and baby, seeing that baby everytime will always remind you of her infedility. Worst case when you finally have your own child.
The mistake has been done but its time to correct it. Dont go ahead and robe innocent chimd into this web of deceit please.
Thanks.

Sanchez01:
Whatever your reasons are for not telling her holds no water. You established the relationship on a lie and deceit and it is somewhat hilarious that you are not sure whether or not you are getting the same treatment right now.

While I don't want to authoritatively assert that she cheated, I feel your best chance right now is to wait after nine months and run a DNA test on the child, albeit secretly (for your sake and hers).

On a lighter note, you probably should get sewing threads of different colours, say five, tie them simultaneously around a long broom or a long nail. Rub it against the dirt or sand to make it look dirty a bit and cook up a story about some practice in your parent's lineage. Ask her to confirm you own the pregnancy over the jargon you made, but not without warning her of the grave consequences. Your truth will come out.

Last, last, you both are truly meant for each other.

I really love your comment and the best Nollywood actor of the year 2020 is awarded to you. Congratulations!!!

Forget about the fact that you didn't tell about your sterility. The situation is very delicate cos you might and might not be responsible for the pregnancy. So, since you said you want to continue with her, my advise for you is to wait for her to deliver the baby and go for DNA. Meanwhile you need to stall your wedding till after the delivery.

Oga pls don't open up to her ,since u have started it finish it,any way the pregnancy may open away for u,to have ur own baby.so if u must talk ,do it with evidence OK,by doing patternity test,and pls don't accuse ,her till u catch her red handed,of not your relationship will go down the drain, and try to take her for who she is,with time u will consive.don't let her know now,secret on ur own go and do paternity test.that way u will have a great evidence and out of fault ,when u confront her that how comes u arent the father.

Romangalactic:

I am fully operational but sterile. I will have to find a way to make the trip and see my endocrinologist so he can take samples, my next consultation was not due for another four months but I'm really praying the child is mine.

I hope it's yours...

zuto4u:
Lol....... Please what is kini?

na kini

KosiGee:


It’s either you are lying to everyone here or your endocrinologist is also spinning some yarns over your head. He might be your own karma and nemesis.
Spare us the long and high sounding name. Any good doctor can treat your type of infection successfully...you claim you are 35 with an infection which is probably gonorrhoea...which seemed to have affected your prostate!

Wheh did you contract this infection? You should be able to tell whom you got it from...except maybe you have multi sexual partners and therefore couldn’t pinpoint the ‘nice unselfish’ woman who shared that.

If your story is true, std like gonorrhoea wouldn’t take long to present itself in which case, you would’ve started treatment early... the story about your ‘endocrinologist’ treating and possibly scaring you about sterility is nonsense...He is gonna ‘hammer’ on your case..and I think this person is going to squeeze you till you drop your last kobo.

You are the cheat and the liar here. That lady hasn’t cheated on you and I’m sad I’m going to say this....that baby is yours 100%. It would’ve been nice to play with your head like your endocrinologist and make you believe that your ‘good seeds’ have gone AWOL and only this miracle worker of an endocrinologist would locate and bring them back.

Stop accusing that lady.

Do you realise that gonorrhoea doesnt show any symptoms in some people?

He's even lucky he noticed a small discharge and got treated in time; some people do not even see anything until their fertility has been completely destroyed.

Oga pls don't open up to her ,since u have started it finish it,any way the pregnancy may open away for u,to have ur own baby.so if u must talk ,do it with evidence OK,by doing patternity test,and pls don't accuse ,her till u catch her red handed,of not your relationship will go down the drain, and try to take her for who she is,with time u will consive.don't let her know now,secret on ur own go and do paternity test.that way u will have a great evidence and out of fault ,when u confront her that how comes u arent the father.
What difference does it make if you adopt a child from outside

Or your lady brought another child as a single mother

Or she brought pregnancy from outside



You can decide to choose what makes you happy, either your medical condition or the woman. The three case does not makes you the biological father of the child.

So don't say anything yet,still hold your Peace and accept the baby,learn to accept that fact.one that time will tell u when to confront her that is when the paternity test is done.

peacettw:
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You know what. I won't dignify that with an answer.

You are part of the reason why Nigerian graduates are derided and termed unemployable. OBGYN short for Obstetrics and gynaecology is a branch of medicine that specializes on the female reproductive health but here you are forming boss because you are being corrected. How will a Obgyn treat the op, a male? Learning is a process nobody knows it all. Sometimes it is better to keep quiet and be thought a fool than speak and be confirmed so. Enjoy your ignorance, dumbo!

beautyhd:



Go and do a sperm count elsewhere and stop suspecting the lady.

Bro please do you know how much it costs to do a sperm count text?? Please reply

are you really sure?

Let me lay put the possibilities to you.
What if it was truly God that blessed you, i mean the child being ur to prove he is God.

What if god let ur spouse get pregnanted by another man knowing the embarrasment that being childless will bring you in the future. So if this ascertion is true, then i think telling her your truth and she telling you her truth will make a better foundation for your future marriage.

Now if you dont tell her the truth now, and you go and make her tell whatever u think is going on, then ur marriage has ended before it started. And you will be heading to hell as well for covering up yours.

Truth is, we are the ones that make life difficult for ourselves. There are so many sterile men out there with families, there hv an agreement with their wife to get pregnant outside n bring it home. So you see?

Just search urself and do what Jesus would have done. Peace

Romangalactic:

It's not everytime the truth sets people free. I thought about this as well but there too may things at play.
I have always felt the treatment may not have positive results fast enough and will take many trials, so accepting responsibility for this child is a good way to save us the embarrassment of our families wondering why we have not had a child after marriage and it also ensures she won't be trying to get pregnant for the next three to four years, which gives me more time to sort myself out.

I know this is selfish of me,. thanks a lot for your suggestions.

You can't be that sure that the child is not yours. Nothing is constant in this life. The only thing that is constant is change itself.

Miracles do happens. Go for a DNA test after the birth of the child.

An 86-year-old man went to see his doctor for his regular check-up. The doctor asked the old man how he was feeling, and the old man said, "things are great, and I've never felt better! I now have a 20-year-old bride who is pregnant with my child. What do you think about that, doc?"

The doctor considered the question for a minute, and then began to tell a story.

"I have an older friend, much like you, who is an avid hunter and never misses a season. One day he was setting off to go hunting. In a bit of a hurry, he accidentally picked up his walking cane instead of his gun."

"As he neared a lake, he came across a very large male beaver sitting at the water's edge. He realized he left his gun at home, and so, he couldn't shoot the magnificent creature. Out of habit he raised his cane, aimed it at the animal as if it was his favorite hunting rifle, and yelled 'bang bang'. Miraculously, two shots rang out and the beaver fell dead."

The 86-year-old jumped in, "How can that be?!? Surely, somebody else shot that beaver."

The doctor replied, "my point exactly."

You...Fredrick leonard
Your fiancée... Nazo Ekezie
Your cousin....Daniel lyod..

A beautiful movie script....
You can sell it to fred Amata

Maybe the OP has a reproductive endocrinologist and not just an endocrinologist

Romangalactic:
I'll try to keep my predicament short. I registered a new account for this purpose but I'm sure many of you will understand that sterility is not something to be announced which is exactly how I got myself in this situation. I am 35 and engaged to a beautiful woman who completes me in every way. As much as it hurts me to say this, I have not been totally honest with her about everything.
Just yesterday while we were home together, she told me that she is pregnant . I asked her how sure she is, she said she had done the pee test and that she knows how she is feeling. The issue here is that I am sterile but I have not told her this before so it is impossible that I am responsible.

Please before anyone tells me I deserve this for not opening up to her, I have been undergoing treatment secretly and they say I will be able to father children when it's done so of course, I am hopeful and have not bothered to inform her about any of this. I can't stand losing her for any reason. My issue right now is that I asked my endocrinologist this morning if it's possible that the treatment is already working and he said we have not gone far enough to see any results yet. This means I am definitely not the father of the child she is carrying.

Only one other person in this world knows about my health challenge and that is my cousin. I told him and he told me to break up with my fiancée, someone I have already done introduction with and families are involved. I told him I cannot and that he must take the secret to the grave, he thinks I am making the biggest mistake of my life.
Well I told him my plan is to accept the pregnancy and continue to make her think I don't know she cheated on me. I am doing this with the hope that after we get married, my treatment will be completed and everything will be back to normal. But at the same time, I still can't shake the feeling that I am about to marry someone who cheated and is passing off another man's child as mine, I feel cheated and it hurts.

Can anyone else please tell me what to do about this situation I have found myself? Please I just need to hear from other people besides my cousin. Another thing, he has never really liked my fiancée so I feel that also may be his motivation.
I need neutral opinions please

Go for DNA after birth of child

Please o how can one know if he/she is sterile or not, when he/she has never been married

There is nothing can not do. I have seen someone with low sperm count produce children ur case might not be different. But try n find out the whole truth from her.

Bro have you done low sperm count text as part of your test? If you have please how much does it cost, reply back please