nlPoster:


Is it really that difficult to just appease the father and acknowledge him?

The son in law should apologize for his oversight and unintended slight towards the bride's family. He should go and see the father (or contact him somehow) and sort thing out. Buy the necessary gifts for the traditional requirements.

It's not difficult but for all their children, the daughter and even the sons to ignore their dad, including the groom?
Then it means water don pass garri.
I don't know what the dad must have done, but people were about supporting him until he opened his mouth and cursed his daughter, now most people are like wow! Na so this man be? No wonder they didn't acknowledge him.

Regina and her mom didn't acknowledge their dad when her dowry was paid. It was the mom and her kinsmen that took the dowry but the dad didn't curse Regina openly, at least.

But for a man to curse his daughter openly or otherwise such man is evil. Very evil. And if the groom tries go behind to see the dad they will Tell him, anything your eyes see, after u leave his presence, u are on your own.
So I doubt if he would go against the mother's advice. He is a stranger. It's wise to keep his distance if he has been warned not to go.

The next solution is for them to attend a fire brand church, and neutralize any curse or bagga the dad has placed on them.

At least the dad no big pass God.

God is the Alpha and Omega.

Whosoever God has blessed no man can curse

And whosoever God has cursed no man can change it.


Let the husband stay his lane jeje and work on his new family. A spiritual war has-been declared, him and his wife can't seat still and say the dad is joking. They Need to protect themselves spiritually.

That's life.

ikennamadu1:

Common shut that gutter you call a mouth... Seems you don't have sense.. What do you know...

My friend respect yourself, I neither tagged you nor mentioned you here. Please respect yourself

victorian:









It's not difficult but for all their children, the daughter and even the sons to ignore their dad, including the groom?
Then it means water don pass garri.
I don't know what the dad must have done, but people were about supporting him until he opened his mouth and cursed his daughter, now most people are like wow! Na so this man be? No wonder they didn't acknowledge him.

Regina and her mom didn't acknowledge their dad when her dowry was paid. It was the mom and her kinsmen that took the dowry but the dad didn't curse Regina openly, at least.

But for a man to curse his daughter openly or otherwise such man is evil. Very evil. And if the groom tries go behind to see the dad they will Tell him, anything your eyes see, after u leave his presence, u are on your own.
So I doubt if he would go against the mother's advice. He is a stranger. It's wise to keep his distance if he has been warned not to go.

The next solution is for them to attend a fire brand church, and neutralize any curse or bagga the dad has placed on them.

At least the dad no big pass God.

God is the Alpha and Omega.

Whosoever God has blessed no man can curse

And whosoever God has cursed no man can change it.


Let the husband stay his lane jeje and work on his new family. A spiritual war has-been declared, him and his wife can't seat still and say the dad is joking. They Need to protect themselves spiritually.

That's life.

The groom needs to go see the dad and apologize for marrying his daughter without his consent. A mother refusing to give consent is different from the father not giving consent.

Any other argument is not important.

The issue here is between the dad and the groom. The women have done their own, the onus is now on the groom to make things right.

nlPoster:


The groom needs to go see the dad and apologize for marrying his daughter without his consent. A mother refusing to give consent is different from the father not giving consent.

Any other argument is not important.

The issue here is between the dad and the groom. The women have done their own, the onus is now on the groom to make things right.

Ok but remember the dad is an igbo man, the groom is a Yoruba man.

If I can remember typical igbos especially anambra side, they rather die than give their daughter to any Yoruba man. That's one. And the groom must have heard, if it were the dad, he won't allow him marry the love of his life.

Then secondly assuming the dad is not those traditional myopic kind of dad? He can insist before he accepts his plea, the traditional marriage must be done allover again with his own list.

My dear I don't think the groom would. Like to repeat the rites again with his people all over again. Which means Ngozi ezeonu will definitely be mad at him., if he tries such and u know how far women can go in retaliating and scattering Everything without second thoughts.

It's softer to offend a dad than to offend a mother.
Trust me, you wouldnt want to see the wrath of a mother. It's that bad. The father own will be childplay compared to the mother.

Any stubborn husband or wife who insist to go against the warning of the other side he is marrying from,will.end up regretting.

I'm talking from experience although not directly like the dad case sha.

If u want to. Marry a woman or man and he or she says let's do it in Lagos or Abuja instead of the village. Biko agree Orelse if u are insisting on tradition and going to the village against all warning , it does not end well. Tragedy will strike.

hammerU:
I dont know how Yoruba people view marriage but the issue of marriage is one that goes beyond one person and involves the entire community.

The parents are the leaders and chairperson.

U have to do it to please them. It is a respect and honour that you owe them.

U belong to them, ur their property.

U cannot be using ur marriage to hurt their feelings, wen u know in another 10 to 20 years they might be gone.

This is how I view marriage and understand it.

Parental consent and agreement bring blessing.

Backward mentality. Upgrade your mindset.

It is glaring why Ngozi Ezeonu separated herself from this dolt.
Opening his mouth to curse his own offspring. If na me, I for disown him. Better to be fatherless than to be associated with such a crude entity.

victorian:







Ok but remember the dad is an igbo man, the groom is a Yoruba man.

If I can remember typical igbos especially anambra side, they rather die than give their daughter to any Yoruba man. That's one. And the groom must have heard, if it were the dad, he won't allow him marry the love of his life.

Then secondly assuming the dad is not those traditional myopic kind of dad? He can insist before he accepts his plea, the traditional marriage must be done allover again with his own list.

My dear I don't think the groom would. Like to repeat the rites again with his people all over again. Which means Ngozi ezeonu will definitely be mad at him., if he tries such and u know how far women can go in retaliating and scattering Everything without second thoughts.

It's softer to offend a dad than to offend a mother.
Trust me, you wouldnt want to see the wrath of a mother. It's that bad. The father own will be childplay compared to the mother.

Any stubborn husband or wife who insist to go against the warning of the other side he is marrying from,will.end up regretting.

I'm talking from experience although not directly like the dad case sha.

If u want to. Marry a woman or man and he or she says let's do it in Lagos or Abuja instead of the village.

yes, the wedding should have held in Lagos, having it in Asaba is more insulting to the bride's father. Even Onitsha would have been ok unless I'm missing something.


Since the dad has voiced his objections and concern at the way everybody went about the marriage, the groom should see the father and have a man to man discussion with him over what he wants him to do.

Offending a dad is lesser than offending the mum, but not in this case.

hammerU:
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A FATHER HAS A RIGHT TO KNOW WHO IS COMING TO SEEK HIS DAUGHTER HAND IN MARRIAGE.

ALL OVER THE WORLD, INCLUDING THE WESTERN WORLD, WOMEN DO NOT GIVE AWAY CHILDREN IN MARRIAGE.

THAT IS THE ROLE OF THE FATHER.

and of all thee images, it is Meghan Markle's owm you used to justify your assertion.

Where Is Meghan Markle's father in that image? Father that she did not even invite to the wedding.

Markle's father never gave her away, it Is her mother that certifiedthe marriage. The man handing her to Harry is Charles, Harry's father.

If you want to buttress your point, use the right example next time, don't make utter nonsense of it

victorian:









It's not difficult but for all their children, the daughter and even the sons to ignore their dad, including the groom?
Then it means water don pass garri.
I don't know what the dad must have done, but people were about supporting him until he opened his mouth and cursed his daughter, now most people are like wow! Na so this man be? No wonder they didn't acknowledge him.

Regina and her mom didn't acknowledge their dad when her dowry was paid. It was the mom and her kinsmen that took the dowry but the dad didn't curse Regina openly, at least.

But for a man to curse his daughter openly or otherwise such man is evil. Very evil. And if the groom tries go behind to see the dad they will Tell him, anything your eyes see, after u leave his presence, u are on your own.
So I doubt if he would go against the mother's advice. He is a stranger. It's wise to keep his distance if he has been warned not to go.

The next solution is for them to attend a fire brand church, and neutralize any curse or bagga the dad has placed on them.

At least the dad no big pass God.

God is the Alpha and Omega.

Whosoever God has blessed no man can curse

And whosoever God has cursed no man can change it.


Let the husband stay his lane jeje and work on his new family. A spiritual war has-been declared, him and his wife can't seat still and say the dad is joking. They Need to protect themselves spiritually.

That's life.

very foolish talk! the height of stupidity... I can't believe a grown up man like you will type something so childish.
Marriages crash everyday in this country like its a norm and that doesn't bother you? See how u concentrate dey advise the guy negatively like you know what you're saying...

Tradition super seeds almost everything about human existence and you want to play with it? even if the father doesn't curse the girl you think everything will be fine?
if they like they should visit pope in Rome, nothing can change what that man has said! religion don turn you guys to fools

nlPoster:


yes, the wedding should have held in Lagos, having it in Asaba is more insulting to the bride's father. Even Onitsha would have been ok unless I'm missing something.


Since the dad has voiced his objections and concern at the way everybody went about the marriage, the groom should see the father and have a man to man discussion with him over what he wants him to do.

Offending a dad is lesser than offending the mum, but not in this case.

in this case sire, offending the dad is even worse... African tradition has it that a father gives out the daughter... unless there are some circumstances. wait... why am I even putting too much emphasis on this sef, the groom should just know that he's in for war since him to get sense to ask questions about the family he's marrying into...
imagine parents from Anambra st giving thier daughter out in Asaba... that's very bad

Chi59:
It is glaring why Ngozi Ezeonu separated herself from this dolt.
Opening his mouth to curse his own offspring. If na me, I for disown him. Better to be fatherless than to be associated with such a crude entity.

is this how you'll treat your father? if you treat your father like this then he has every right to curse you cos it's his curse and chooses to use it how he pleases! una just choose to ignore what the mom and daughter did and the foolish groom playing along...

in yrs time when he has his own daughter, he should not be surprised if treated the exact same way

Sportize:



imagine parents from Anambra st giving thier daughter out in Asaba... that's very bad

I don't get that part, since the bride's parents are both from Anambra.

Why couldn't the wedding have held in Onitsha if they didn't want to go to the village and Lagos was not considered?

I hope the people involved could explain some of these things sha. Too many curses and counter curses being directed everywhere.

nlPoster:


I don't get that part, since both the bride's parents are from Anambra.

Why couldn't the wedding have held in Onitsha if they didn't want to go to the village and Lagos was not considered?

that's the issue. imagine the height of insult and curse the bride and groom allow the mum to put on them... some persons here calling out the man for being angry...

God should help Nigerians oh.


Nollywood also has to get involved I think. Who was the mum's adviser?

ClixMaster:
Am from Ogbunike too. Which part are you from?

Ifite-Ogbunike

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Sportize:



very foolish talk! the height of stupidity... I can't believe a grown up man like you will type something so childish.
Marriages crash everyday in this country like its a norm and that doesn't bother you? See how u concentrate dey advise the guy negatively like you know what you're saying...

Tradition super seeds almost everything about human existence and you want to play with it? even if the father doesn't curse the girl you think everything will be fine?
if they like they should visit pope in Rome, nothing can change what that man has said! religion don turn you guys to fools

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Ojukwu who married Biance against the father's wish and prayers. Didn't they live well? Didn't they have children? I think 5 kids or so. Till Ojukwu grew so old and when it was eminent old age is about to take him peacefully to the world beyond, Bianca's dad had no choice but to accept him as his son inlaw.
After the dowry was paid he later died peacefully in his sleep as well aged man.

So what are u saying? About all mighty tradition?

No tradition can supersede God.

Well. Anyways I wasnt talking to you in the first place. So please respect yourself and keep your archaic views to yourself or share it with someone of like minds with u. I don't have strength for unnecessary insult tonight.

Thanks

War in Babylon

nlPoster:


yes, the wedding should have held in Lagos, having it in Asaba is more insulting to the bride's father. Even Onitsha would have been ok unless I'm missing something.


Since the dad has voiced his objections and concern at the way everybody went about the marriage, the groom should see the father and have a man to man discussion with him over what he wants him to do.

Offending a dad is lesser than offending the mum, but not in this case.

My dear their marriage will be fine and will last long.
Bianca's dad said worse during Bianca time.
No be today.

A childhood friend of mine got married to an igbo girl without both parents consent and even in a Muslim way. Cos the guy is a Muslim. Infact she abscond and went to the guy's father house for nikkai and from there move to the guy house and lives as his wife.
The parents of the girl disowned the girl. But guess what? The girl got pregnant a year in the marriage, they have 3kids, two boys and one girl.
As I speak to you today. That Muslim Guy is the best son inlaw they can ever dream of and he became so successful during the marriage, upon the girl parents curses.

While the other sisters who married igbo guys. One of the igbo guys left her. While the other sister, igbo guys are just playing her up and down.

The parens had no choice but to accept the Muslim boy as their son.. after 4years of marriage, and with grand children. the father of the girl called the boy for reconciliation when he saw how he's taking care of his daughter and even employed her elder sister in his company.

So forget story jare.


As long as their marriage as being offered to God. No human being or spirit can break that home.. God supersedes all.

neolboy:
The man is a disgrace to his family.

How would someone lay a curse on his/her offspring if not madness

abeg let that kind thing happen to u before u know u can d d same or not.

Sportize:



is this how you'll treat your father? if you treat your father like this then he has every right to curse you cos it's his curse and chooses to use it how he pleases! una just choose to ignore what the mom and daughter did and the foolish groom playing along...

in yrs time when he has his own daughter, he should not be surprised if treated the exact same way

The same way your father cursed you right?
Avoid me

victorian:







Ok but remember the dad is an igbo man, the groom is a Yoruba man.

If I can remember typical igbos especially anambra side, they rather die than give their daughter to any Yoruba man. That's one. And the groom must have heard, if it were the dad, he won't allow him marry the love of his life.

Then secondly assuming the dad is not those traditional myopic kind of dad? He can insist before he accepts his plea, the traditional marriage must be done allover again with his own list.

My dear I don't think the groom would. Like to repeat the rites again with his people all over again. Which means Ngozi ezeonu will definitely be mad at him., if he tries such and u know how far women can go in retaliating and scattering Everything without second thoughts.

It's softer to offend a dad than to offend a mother.
Trust me, you wouldnt want to see the wrath of a mother. It's that bad. The father own will be childplay compared to the mother.

Any stubborn husband or wife who insist to go against the warning of the other side he is marrying from,will.end up regretting.

I'm talking from experience although not directly like the dad case sha.

If u want to. Marry a woman or man and he or she says let's do it in Lagos or Abuja instead of the village. Biko agree Orelse if u are insisting on tradition and going to the village against all warning , it does not end well. Tragedy will strike.

YORUBA NEED TO COOL OFF ON THIS OBSESSION WITH IGBOS.


ONE MINUTE, U HATE THE IGBOS.


THE NEXT MINUTE MARRY IGBO IS DO OR DIE AFFAIR.


THIS IS NOT GOOD.


AT THE END OF THE DAY, THAT IS HIS DAUGHTER AND U CANNOT MARRY HER WITHOUT HIS CONSENT AND BLESSING.


THE MARRIAGE IS CURSED.

safarigirl:
and of all thee images, it is Meghan Markle's owm you used to justify your assertion.

Where Is Meghan Markle's father in that image? Father that she did not even invite to the wedding.

Markle's father never gave her away, it Is her mother that certifiedthe marriage. The man handing her to Harry is Charles, Harry's father.

If you want to buttress your point, use the right example next time, don't make utter nonsense of it

THE POINT IS THE MOTHER DID NOT GIVE HER AWAY. PRINCE CHARLES DID.

IT BUTTRESS MY POINT THAT WOMEN DO NOT GIVE CHILDREN AWAY.

OF COURSE BEING A WHITE MAN, MEGHAN FATHER WILL BE PLEASE HIS DAUGHTER MARRIED A WHITE PRINCE.

DO U THINK IT IS AN ACCIDENT THAT SHE ONLY MARRY WHITE MEN?

ALL THE MAN WAS CALLING FOR, WAS HER BRIDE PRICE, SOMETHING AM SURE HE RECEIVED.

You attend Living Faith Church Woji

victorian:






The father is an evil man and God will disgrace him.

I now realize why my pastor will make us prayer certain prayers about blood.

Any blood spitting fire of troubles or problems in our lives, whether the blood is alive or dead in the grave, we decree the blood to shut up and never speak out again. We decree any blood who wants to destroy us, we decree destruction to that blood and the voice of that blood to be silenced forever. And if the blood is alive? It must go 6ft under.

Before I use to wonder why Pastor will make the congregation pray such prayer for like 40mins and decree fire of the Holy Ghost on it and every curse back to sender


Now I know.


What a devilish father.

bigiyaro:
Mr Edwin, you should have known that of all ur family members, its your wife that is not your relative, to be fore warned is to be fore armed, see how bitterness is killing you now.

Thank u. The curse will bounce back on his head, d girl is innocent. no be only unmarried so far as u re concerned. What rubbish? As I dey now wey me & my oyibo guy go marry, my narcissistic & demonic parents go open mouth tell me dis shit & I will be bothered? Heaven & earth bore witnesses to all theirs abuse to me right from my toddler stage, which erroded my self esteem made me financially dependent on then ( thus not allowing me to grow up) so as to keep toxic control of me. Every request I make of them to better my life as I as I was transitioning into adulthood was riddicled & dismissed. I had to choose paths on my own not knowing better. For years, I couldn't understand y parents who bore me will feel not sympathy towards any of my pain. As tears fall from my eyes.

hammerU:


THE POINT IS THE MOTHER DID NOT GIVE HER AWAY. PRINCE CHARLES DID.

IT BUTTRESS MY POINT THAT WOMEN DO NOT GIVE CHILDREN AWAY.

OF COURSE BEING A WHITE MAN, MEGHAN FATHER WILL BE PLEASE HIS DAUGHTER MARRIED A WHITE PRINCE.

DO U THINK IT IS AN ACCIDENT THAT SHE ONLY MARRY WHITE MEN?

ALL THE MAN WAS CALLING FOR, WAS HER BRIDE PRICE, SOMETHING AM SURE HE RECEIVED.

So, you would have been okay if the groom's father had given the bride away?

Meghan and her father are not on good terms, he does not pass up an opportunity to drag her in the media, so, no, he is not pleased about who she is marrying.

You don't have enough information to make the deductions you have made

safarigirl:


So, you would have been okay if the groom's father had given the bride away?

Meghan and her father are not on good terms, he does not pass up an opportunity to drag her in the media, so, no, he is not pleased about who she is marrying.

You don't have enough information to make the deductions you have made

NO NOT REALLY, THE GIVE AWAY IS MORE SYMBOLIC AND PLACES EMPHASIZES ON THE MARRIAGE HAVING THE CONSENT OF BOTH PARENTS. (IN PARTICULAR, FATHER'S CONSENT)

AND HOW HAS MEGHAN MARRIAGE GONE SO FAR?

DONT U SEE WAT IS HAPPENING TO HARRY?

FROM PRINCE HARRY TO JUST HARRY AND CANADIAN GOVERNMENT WITHDRAW HIS SECURITY IF THEY DONT PAY.


LET THIS TWO TAKE PRINCE HARRY AND KNOW WAT WILL BEFALL THEM.

ESPECIALLY IN THE DARK CONTINENT, CALLED AFRICA.

hammerU:


ANY CURSE HE LAYS ON HER WILL HAVE A DEVASTATING EFFECT.


THIS IS Y SOME PEOPLE DIE MISERABLE DEATH OR YOUNG.


THOSE THINGS ARE STILL AS POTENT TODAY AS OF OLD.


THEY ARE EVEN MORE POWERFUL WHERE THEIR IS BLOOD COVENANT.


THAT IS HIS BLOOD, U CANNOT TAKE IT AWAY FROM HIM WITHOUT HIS CONSENT.

That is a lie from d pit of hell that many demonic, narcissistic, unsympathetic, dubious & cunning parents use to coerse their child into selfish control & manipulation, refusing to see d child as an individual in his/her own right. Which blood she is an adult with her own mind, a living soul. The entire universe will not honor words of his mouth concerning an innocent individual that came into dis life like him who has not sort his harm or done wickedly to him but just want to be on her own untill she feels inclined.

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newdawn2017:
That is a lie from d pit of hell that many demonic, narcissistic, unsympathetic, dubious & cunning parents use to coerse their child into selfish control & manipulation, refusing to see d child as an individual in his/her own right. Which blood she is an adult with her own mind, a living soul. The entire universe will not honor words of his mouth concerning an innocent individual that came into dis life like him who has not sort his harm or done wickedly to him but just want to be on her own untill she feels inclined.

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GO AND MARRY WHERE DEM DEY VEX PUT, THAT IS CLEARLY YOUR DESTINY.

IT IS NOT FOR ME.

MDBrand:

My friend shut up

Thank u!

hammerU:


ANY CURSE HE LAYS ON HER WILL HAVE A DEVASTATING EFFECT.


THIS IS Y SOME PEOPLE DIE MISERABLE DEATH OR YOUNG.


THOSE THINGS ARE STILL AS POTENT TODAY AS OF OLD.


THEY ARE EVEN MORE POWERFUL WHERE THEIR IS BLOOD COVENANT.


THAT IS HIS BLOOD, U CANNOT TAKE IT AWAY FROM HIM WITHOUT HIS CONSENT.

lol...curses can be broken curses could have no effect, curses can boomerang....you will be disappointed togeda with the father

jidxin:
lol...curses can be broken curses could have no effect, curses can boomerang....you will be disappointed togeda with the father

MAKE ALL OF UNA CARRY JUJU NAU, ABI NA Y UNA GO FIND TROUBLE.

WETTIN CONCERN ME INSIDE.

hammerU:
I dont know how Yoruba people view marriage but the issue of marriage is one that goes beyond one person and involves the entire community.

The parents are the leaders and chairperson.

U have to do it to please them. It is a respect and honour that you owe them.

U belong to them, ur their property.

U cannot be using ur marriage to hurt their feelings, wen u know in another 10 to 20 years they might be gone.

This is how I view marriage and understand it.

Parental consent and agreement bring blessing.

in yoruba tradition daughters or son are not chattels or goods or property to be sold. we are concerned about happiness of the union.