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Lamanii22:

Yen yen yen he said he is still in love with the girl... Transfer your aggression on the OP not me...

See your mouth like yen yen yen. Does your advice make sense to even you? You should ignore threads rather than deliberately deceive people

@OP Is she a banker?

A wise man once said forgive a terrorist but don't forget his name. Surrendering is also a scheme to win a war. Once a lady cheats, she has Terrorize ur Territory

To hell with I have built my world around her you can rebuild. But you try sha ! I dnt check their phones cos I dnt give a damn.

If u didn't check her phone to discover her hoeing she will continue with the game. You know what to do but u just lack guts .

Be a real MAN !!!

Ladyhippolyta88:
I like the bolded
Well said

Yes, they must learn

Noone is irreplaceable, except one's own parents & kids. The rest can chop middle finger if they can't play nicely

Congratulate yourself first

Newdawn30:


All the while we have been together that was the second time, I hadn't do, she was getting late calls , it was either her bank customers or friends now I know a lady can't be just friends with a guy

Please, ignore that clown. Snooping on your partner’s devices is highly recommended so you know exactly what you’re dealing with.

Imagine marrying this community bicycle even after all the unnecessary stress and strife she put you through. Your mother’s prayers have just been answered in your life. You should congratulate yourself for stumbling upon this life-changing discovery.

XhosaNostra:



Yes, they must learn

Noone is irreplaceable, except one's own parents & kids. The rest can chop middle finger if they can't play nicely

Exactly

Belafonte:


See your mouth like yen yen yen. Does your advice make sense to even you? You should ignore threads rather than deliberately deceive people

It makes sense to me... What happened to forgiveness? If it was the guy that cheated won't he ask for forgiveness too? It doesn't make sense to you cause your heart is filled with negativity.... Y'all are quick to bash girls online but in reality you'd be licking a lady's lap deceiving your fellow guy, telling him not to work things out.... Seriously, y'all needa stop all these acts... Redpill and nonsense... It would only ruin you.... Like I said earlier, transfer your aggression on the OP not me...

Lamanii22:




It makes sense to me... What happened to forgiveness? If it was the guy that cheated won't he ask for forgiveness too? It doesn't make sense to you cause your heart is filled with negativity.... Y'all are quick to bash girls online but in reality you'd be licking a lady's lap deceiving your fellow guy, telling him not to work things out.... Seriously, y'all needa stop all these acts... Redpill and nonsense... It would only ruin you.... Like I said earlier, transfer your aggression on the OP not me...

1. Forgiveness is not a right. Nobody is entitled to forgiveness. If a man cheats, his woman is not obligated to forgive him or continue the relationship.

2. Forgiveness doesn’t mean the relationship has to continue.

3. You really don’t know me or whether I lick girls’ laps or not, saying such nonsense shows you’re not really intelligent.

4. If you think refusing to continue a relationship with a prolific cheater is a sign of negativity, then you are quite daft and that isn’t an insult. It actually is the height of stupidity.

XhosaNostra:



Yes, they must learn

Noone is irreplaceable, except one's own parents & kids. The rest can chop middle finger if they can't play nicely

You have a point, I think it's just the fear of starting all over again, she has her good part , I never new she was this loose... I think it's the courage to do the needful I'm lacking right now, deep now I know what needs to be done... Thought she's prepared to go to the alter to swear she's never cheat again

Dog wey go soon die no dey hear master whistle again.

After she now infects u with HIV u will now come back creating a thread saying HIV is not death sentence

lefulefu:
After she now infects u with HIV u will now come back creating a thread saying HIV is not death sentence

Lol, you guys are the best , I haven't laughed for days now.... I know what to do, I'm still in a state of disbelief I guess.

Belafonte:


1. Forgiveness is not a right. Nobody is entitled to forgiveness. If a man cheats, his woman is obligated to forgive him or continue the relationship.

2. Forgiveness doesn’t mean the relationship has to continue.

3. You really don’t know me or whether I lick girls’ laps or not, saying such nonsense shows you’re not really intelligent.

4. If you think refusing to continue a relationship with a prolific cheater is a sign of negativity, then you are quite daft and that isn’t an insult. It actually is the height of stupidity.

I never said they should continue the relationship ... My point was based on the fact that the OP said he still loves her.... Moreover whatever the OP would do is on his mind already... And besides I'm entitled to my opinions... Proving your points with abusive words like "daft, stupidity" shows how unintelligent you can be too....

Newdawn30:


You have a point, I think it's just the fear of starting all over again, she has her good part , I never new she was this loose... I think it's the courage to do the needful I'm lacking right now, deep now I know what needs to be done... Thought she's prepared to go to the alter to swear she's never cheat any.

What alter? Look, she's backed in a corner at the moment, so of course she'll come up with all sort of ludicrous ideas, to get you to forgive her. Never play gullible twice. On the other hand, I understand where you're coming from. You're coming from a place of emotions & since I'm not the one that's emotionally invested in this, I just can't tell you to write her off, completely (even though that's exactly what I would have done in this situation, regardless of how I feel because I don't appreciate disrespect). However, whatever you choose to do, don't make it easy on her. Punish her Make her earn your trust back...I don't care what you do to send your message across, but she can't get off lightly just by shedding a few fake tears after she got caught. Play hardball with people like that, to teach them a lesson.

XhosaNostra:



What alter? Look, she's backed in a corner at the moment, so of course she'll come up with all sort of ludicrous ideas, to get you to forgive her. Never play gullible twice. On the other hand, I understand where you're coming from. You're coming from a place of emotions & since I'm not the one that's emotionally invested in this, I just can't tell you to write her off, completely (even though that's exactly what I would have done in this situation, regardless of how I feel because I don't appreciate disrespect). However, whatever you choose to do, don't make it easy on her. Punish her Make her earn your trust back...I don't care what you do to send your message across, but she can't get off lightly just by shedding a few fake tears after she got caught. Play hardball with people like that, to teach them a lesson.

The alter idea was suggested by her as an alternative to telling her folks

Newdawn30:
She has been begging I shouldn't tell her mom cos of her dad heart condition, that they will be so disappointed in her , it can lead to other things

You're too easy to manipulate. Close to a fool, I daresay.

Lamanii22:
Put a hold on marriage for now... Both of you need to go for therapy sessions... I don't know if you both believe in God, if you do, you can dedicate your lives to God, pray more... Don't look at this situation only on the physical aspect... Look at it from the spiritual too...

as simple as ur words are here, it touches me, my girlfriend step mum assured me dat i wont marry d girl,her mum likes me but d stepmum doesn't... now my gf started cheating on me wit a guy and even her cousin.. yeah cousin,but I noticed dat her cousin part like her eye opened when I caught her, she cried heennn... could it be spiritual... her father is an herbalist

Newdawn30:


The alter idea was suggested by her as an alternative to telling her folks

A witch doctor's alter?

Will that ease your worries? At this point, imo, she's in no position to be suggesting shìt. She should be sweating What steps has she taken about her men to convince you that she's turning over a new leaf? Yapping about nothing just doesn't seem like much to me.

She is already showing signs how she behave wen u wife her. She is already denying you sex but gives it out freely to others, imagine that. Bro that's a pre ample of how ur marriage will look like.
It's better you gradually disengage from such a lady because she is definitely gonna repeat it and by then no going back. She has studied u so well knowing u will forgive her wen she cheat, do not tolerate cheating for any reason. Kill that feeling u have for her gradually or she will break your heart soon.
Just an advice cos whatever you wanna do is already in ur mind

hkidola00:
as simple as ur words are here, it touches me, my girlfriend step mum assured me dat i wont marry d girl,her mum likes me but d stepmum doesn't... now my gf started cheating on me wit a guy and even her cousin.. yeah cousin,but I noticed dat her cousin part like her eye opened when I caught her, she cried heennn... could it be spiritual... her father is an herbalist

It could be.... Hmmmm... We shouldn't be quick to judge people's actions... And the fact that she's from a polygamous home, she's got an herbalist as a father, that alone speaks volume.... I'm glad someone reasoned with me, everything shouldn't be filled with "redpill" "hoe" "LovePeddler" "simp" and the likes...



Now I wouldn't say you should end the relationship neither will is say you should continue... You can look at it from a point of love and probably help her out... Every other decisions should be made by you...

Ode

Belafonte:


No be lie baba. I believe you. Spare the rod and spoil the child.



Nonsense. The relationship should end. She can pick any of her three lovers to marry.

OP, look at me, just do whatever is best for you, do whatever would make your mind be at rest...

botrix:
Why did you check her fone,?,you got what you searched for,congrats.I stand against spouses checking each other's phones.

rubbish!!!

She sees his private part and vice versa they exchange saliva while kissing, she sucks his dick and he eats her pussy but her phone is private.
Tongue, lips, pussy, breasts are public but her phone is private.

Rubbish!!

Carry on with the relationship jarey.

Just make sure to stock condom of different sizes for her and your use. STIs bruh...

Don't forget to frequently remind her you got needs too, so she won't get to leave you out of her 'sex partners for the week journal'. Is nuh easy.

Then, most importantly, be on the lookout for another woman, cos that thing you're having feelings for is not a human being, she's a dog on heat

@OP, leave the lady asap.
She will continue to cheat if u marry her.
Some years back, I had a girl friend, my family knew her. I had accident, she took good care of me for almost 2 months sleeping in my place. About 30 minutes that she wi travel back to her place , I checked her bag while she just went out. I found a letter written to another guy dt she is pregnant and d guy was responsible for d pregnancy. Immediately she came back, I told her about letter, she started crying. That was d end of our 4 years relationship.
Today I'm happly married with 3 good kids.

Lamanii22:



It could be.... Hmmmm... We shouldn't be quick to judge people's actions... And the fact that she's from a polygamous home, she's got an herbalist as a father, that alone speaks volume.... I'm glad someone reasoned with me, everything shouldn't be filled with "redpill" "hoe" "LovePeddler" "simp" and the likes...



Now I wouldn't say you should end the relationship neither will is say you should continue... You can look at it from a point of love and probably help her out... Every other decisions should be made by you...

*sigh

Newdawn30:
Everything was fine BTW us till late last year when she started changing. Our sex life was great till late last year, whenever I make a move to touch her she always say she was tired or not in the mood. It was strange cos she has a large appetite for sex. Then every weekend she hardly spend time with me, it either she had to for her a week training or she had to go home to see her parents which was odd . Even when I told her to stay she refused, it was always one excuse or the other.Then we began having fights even over the silliest things. I was away for a month and I came back early because of the lowdown. I decided to check her message, that's how I learnt that she had been having affairs with other men(3) Including married man she introduced to me as a friend. Same girl that hated ladies that sleep with married men was doing same.
I feel so broken cos I never expected such a thing From her . We are supposed to get married by 3rd quarter this year... I still have feelings for her cos she has been begging and saying she regrets her action begging me not to tell her mom. Her mom is the only person I can trust to knock some sense into her. I'm scared that if I forgive her she might do it again.
Nairalanders I need your advice. I had built my world around her

Ask yourself is she someone who does as she says, and find reasons why she engaged in such act...

I keep telling men out there what your partner keeps saying she hate most time try to find it out yourself to confirm to save yourself a future broken heart...

Nah so one girl for my street dey always yarb one guy say the guy 3 ugly whereas the girl dey fall big time for the same guy. Came across this fact when I interrogated the guy indirectly about the girl matter...

Elders have advised u already but my own is depicted with diz pixure..

Newdawn30:


You have a point, I think it's just the fear of starting all over again, she has her good part , I never new she was this loose... I think it's the courage to do the needful I'm lacking right now, deep now I know what needs to be done... Thought she's prepared to go to the alter to swear she's never cheat again

She vowed to swear at d alter ? So,why did she cheat in d first instance ,av u tried asking her..
Don't let her bobo u my guy bkus if u hadn't checked her phone,I'm sure she wouldn't av told u she's cheating on u with 3 men could even be more sef..

just reading that OP's post pissed me off... "you still have feeling for this rat?!"

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