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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Blackurglyboi(m): 2:06pm On Sep 16, 2020
Smartrock:
I understand exactly what you are going through. And a good sign that you are going to come out of it is that you are not happy with were you are, you are under a mental influence and it will take Jesus and discipline to come out of it. Start with praying to God about it sincerely. Pray every day and watch what you look at with your eyes, study your Bible more. You can also meet a senior person spiritually to agree and pray with you
Thank you so much , really today with all the comments I have read , I would take to the advice I oronise by this time next year I'm coming back to give my testimony out here ......I have set my mind to put an end to it .

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by abdullahi45: 2:08pm On Sep 16, 2020
madampresident:
The only reason you're struggling with masturbation is because you see it as a very big deal. You masturbate and the devil sells you guilt.

This is not God now. Take away the guilt. Enjoy your masturbation and watch yourself lose memory to masturbation.

I hope he doesn't get deceived by the devil.

The devil and his armies are really relentless on destroying everyone with the filths they sell.

May God help us. Aameen
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Judybash93(m): 2:09pm On Sep 16, 2020
I feel like you've been listening to those pastors and people around you. Nothing in this life should be done to the extreme. Don't let people get into your head. If you're addicted, seek help but saying that masturbation is bad is outrightly wrong. You only have to do it with temperance.
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Blackurglyboi(m): 2:10pm On Sep 16, 2020
Really masturbation has really been the biggest challange I'm facing in my life ....and definitely I would overcome it ....the advice I'm getting would help me a lot ...I came open cause I'm guilty of my sins and what I'm doing .......masturbation is truly from the devil .
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by abdullahi45: 2:11pm On Sep 16, 2020
Ghost8889:


Masturbating has nothing to do with poor erection or inability to release and have complete pleasure with a woman

It really does. Its addiction makes you develop this feeling of wanting to be just by yourself and do yourself. You hardly crave for opposite sex, since you can as well help yourself.


True Happiness is Not Attained Through Self-Gratification, But Through Fidelity to a Noble Cause - Helen Keller

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by LadyExcellency: 2:12pm On Sep 16, 2020
Humanoid01:

Why should he accept your take on this matter? Something is obviously wrong with your conscience if you think masturbation isn't a bad thing. You need to do something about your mind bro, you're heading towards utter destruction.

Someone that sees no evil in swindling people of their retirement money. He has no conscience
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by abdullahi45: 2:12pm On Sep 16, 2020
lightangel65i:


There is no side effect to female masturbation only that they would prefer masturbation to sex.

And that's not a side effect?

It is a big problem, especially for those who are married. They would rather do themselves than sleep with their partners...
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by West2019(m): 2:15pm On Sep 16, 2020
YoungDaNaval:
masturbation causes badluck? How
bro.bade on my experience that's the truth
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by abdullahi45: 2:16pm On Sep 16, 2020
fati2001:
draw closer to God.
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throw away all negative things in your life.
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avoid bad companies .
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be active in work or anything valuable.
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be among positive people that's discuss about good things and other plans in life .
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when alone pray .
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OR GO OUT FOR LITTLE EXERCISE

Absolutely! These are very good points.

In addition, he might needs to understand his triggers and get hold of his lust cycle. Lust cycle on average is less than 30 minutes. So if he can get through it without acting funny, he is a Champ!

Op, you might wanna watch below videos:



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LjJmPFS1rqU&t=53s


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ha38D3d-qB8&t=7s

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by lekki1444: 2:16pm On Sep 16, 2020
Abouwaza:
26 years here bro
Bros surely your gbola is exhausted by now. he wants to hand in his retirement papers but the boss said NO
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Paromarc: 2:17pm On Sep 16, 2020
Lol, I was once like you but now, I'm in full control of myself. I can watch movies with erotic scenes without getting an erection or masturbating to it, unlike before mhennn, I would have paused the movie and blow some load before continuing; that's if self-guilt and sleepiness will allow me continue.

You can't win your fight against masturbation by running away from it bro, you gotta face it head on, you gotta hate porn and find masturbating to porn a very disgusting habit; I mean, what kind of lowlife watches two or more people have s*x on screen and then jerk off to it? Yuck! That's the view you should have of porn and masturbation. Hate the act. Pretend to feel stupid doing those things, train your brain to find porn as well as the act of screwing your own hands disgusting.

Read the life story of Evans Bruce, check my signature and contact me for a copy of the book. It will inspire you, if I could break free from it, you can be free too.

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Misworld: 2:17pm On Sep 16, 2020
Quiting musturbation is very easy. In fact, nothing is addicted in this life if you sees it as nothing.
Delete all the porn videos you have in your phone. And stop recharging your data regularly. Even when the urge comes in the night, Postpone it to morning and vice-verse.
You need to learn how to procrastinate things. Especially the urge for musturbation.

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by abdullahi45: 2:18pm On Sep 16, 2020
[quote author=Blackurglyboi post=93977099][/quote]

It is more of a psychological issue. Stay away from any drugs.

Understand the psychology, get hold of your triggers, and lust cycle and you will be a Champ!


Please watch below videos:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LjJmPFS1rqU&t=53s


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ha38D3d-qB8&t=7s
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Slynation(m): 2:18pm On Sep 16, 2020
Blackurglyboi:
Really masturbation has really been the biggest challange I'm facing in my life ....and definitely I would overcome it ....the advice I'm getting would help me a lot ...I came open cause I'm guilty of my sins and what I'm doing .......masturbation is truly from the devil .
Seems you have gotten the advice you seek... But lemme add this, Anytime the urge comes quickly remind yourself "You heading for self destruction" say it as many times as possible, have it at the back of your mind masturbation will destroy your sex life....

But first you need to delete anything sex related materials on your phone and pray more....

I gave a friend/an addict this advice, and now it's been 7months since he went back to the act...
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Paromarc: 2:19pm On Sep 16, 2020
Ghost8889:
Many people are addicted to masturbating, I am addicted to it also...

The whole masturbation thing started when I was around 10, I felt like it's some kind of terrible sin or disease the first time that I did it — and I promised God to never repeat it again, but no matter how I try, It never worked angry...

Now my problem is not only the masturbation stuff — but for the fact that I couldn't keep the promise I made to God...

I am so depressed now to the extent that if you are to give me a chance — I would choose to never been in existence undecided

If you have stopped masturbating, please tell me how you did it smiley, tell me what worked out for you please undecided


It's simple, just train your body to hate the act. Check my signature

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Slynation(m): 2:20pm On Sep 16, 2020
lekki1444:
Bros surely your gbola is exhausted by now. he wants to hand in his retirement papers but the boss said NO
grin grin grin
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by YoungDaNaval(m): 2:21pm On Sep 16, 2020
AngelicBeing:
Masturbation is a demonic monster that has rendered several destinies useless sad
How
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by bendavid4real: 2:23pm On Sep 16, 2020
Stop allowing yourself to get an erection, anytime you feel u are about to get an erection stop whatever you are watching or listening to it will help u quit it fast. Hope it helps you
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by horhlyray(m): 2:23pm On Sep 16, 2020
Guy mastubation is a very very bad habit which can ruin ones life,mine started far back as 2005 wen me and girlfriend then practice what we ve always watch on video for the first time ever since then I couldn't resist the satisfaction and the feelings that came with what we did on that day,my situation became worse when I lost contact with that girlfriend of mine and I was left alone without any girl in my life.my own case was bad to the extent that i wasn't always satisfied with s.x except I masturbate,am a muslim,even during the time of Ramadan I still commit this sinful act while am fasting oo.fastforwarded from 2005 up until 2017 wen I got married,the habit still persists even for the fact that am married but to God be the glory am free of that shameful act even though the urge still come sometimes but I ve been able to overcome.my brother over it and work on yourself, avoid been alone.God will help u=Blackurglyboi post=93976127]Please don't laugh at my English and I'm not a good writer.

Now I have come to realization that truely masturbation is the greatest addiction ever. I wouldn't like to disclose my name cause of some reasons, I would like to keep my identity safe.

It all started far back In 2011 when I was in my jss3, I have been a pretty good boy who loves making friends, I was jovial. I interact with everyone around me and everybody loves my company.

I have lot of girls as my friends ..
One faithful Saturday morning I was having a stroll and I came across a pornography film pack and it has nudes content. It was lying by the road side, I'd picked it up and had a lot at it ..

My fellow nairalanders, that was how my journey started.

I started having the urge for sex. I felt so good giving myself self pleasure, I started masturbating once or twice a week, soon I started getting addicted, anytime I feel alone, the urge comes up and I must attend to it no matter where I am.

I started downloading phonography pictures on my phone. Fast forward to the time I finished my secondary school. It come to my observation I started pulling away from my female friends and I started keeping all to myself. I got some worst to the extent I can't talk to a woman. I started losing my friends. I only had mouth on social media .

Fast forward till today, masturbation have ruined my life totally now I have been so addicted that I get it done twice a day, sometimes I feel hurt and guilty, sometimes I asked myself i I would ever get married or if I can ever love a woman. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself. I do promise my self that I'm gonna leave it but the highest I could go was a week. I don't even have that urge of hitting a woman, in my area as low as 500 you can have sex with a LovePeddler, but even though it is cheap to that extent i Would rather satisfy my self.

Till this day I have been masturbating for 9 years and it's really tearing my life apart.
Now I keep all to myself .. The only two things you could find on my phone browser is narialand and different ponographic sites ...

It hurts me so much, sometimes my friends ask when would I have a girlfriend but I would reply (oboy leave that thing make we make money first woman go come ) but deep down I feel sorry for myself ...

For those who say masturbation isn't a sin, dear friends masturbation I'd a deep sin and when you're addicted to it is very difficult to overcome it .

Please I need your advice, a problem shared is a problem solved.[/quote]
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by HonourableUche(m): 2:23pm On Sep 16, 2020
lightangel65i:
How desperate are you for a cure, you have like 200k?
If you have go and use it to buy antitestereone pills from a good pharmacist, they cost much, take it for like six months and don't miss a single dose, that would kill your urges completely you will be innocent as a 5yrs old boy. Stop after six months

Its the same drug used to treat sex offenders in the US.
No I won't recommend this
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by abdullahi45: 2:23pm On Sep 16, 2020
Humanoid01:

Why should he accept your take on this matter? Something is obviously wrong with your conscience if you think masturbation isn't a bad thing. You need to do something about your mind bro, you're heading towards utter destruction.

The guy's mind and heart are already desensitized. Evil devil would get awed for his demonic advice.
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by abdullahi45: 2:24pm On Sep 16, 2020
GreenKalada:


I have masturbated for over 30 years and so what I have a wife and 2 beautiful kids already...Did anything happen to me?? Mumu Nigerians!!

Don't live in denial Chief!

Something is wrong somewhere...
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Kennedyiheme02: 2:28pm On Sep 16, 2020
lol so if you get a girl to jerk you off with her hand, hows that different what you do?

theres no scientific evidence that suggests mastrubation is bad... lol its healthy, i do it, and when i wonna have sex my erections are even 5x stronger and harder than when i masturbate, my sperm quality is a thick as pap... i once fell for this guilt trap shit.. i am telling you, your conscience bleeps up a-lot of things in your thinking and body... the only side effect to masturbation is it probably, damages your social interaction with the opposite sex, you tend not to bother about having relationships or keeping freinds.... and its something you can work on.... all the other things about weak erection is crap... or your mind playing tricks on you... or if you have erectile dysfunction, treat it and stop blaming masturbation

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by lucky4west: 2:29pm On Sep 16, 2020
masturbation is deadly and its difficult to control when u are alone u want to turn on urself, thats why they call it self love, so try limit the time u stay alone and dont look at urself for long when u wanna have ur bath, but the oga kpata kpata of dem all is to give ur life to Jesus Christ and ask the Holy Spirit to help you, prolong masturbation like in ur case will lead to weak erection and if u are not "hard' u wont enjoy or penetrate a lady properly and fully as a real man! not to talk of lasting long enuff to give her orgasms and satisfaction, procreation too might be an issue....stay more with people and spend time reading and meditating on Gods word_the Bible

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Nobody: 2:29pm On Sep 16, 2020
Davoneskay:


I wanted to read all comments for fun but decided to reply cos I was touched by ur comments. I masturbated for 15 years. It was quite awful. I prayed for deliverance (I'm a freethinker and could just pray to an higher entity like my oversoul or to Jesus or I'll just say, "I command that to be..."wink. It was one day, I heard a voice in my heart not to masturbate for sometime cos the Creator wants to deliver me. The pressure to masturbate became intense and I fell. The subtle voice came on several occasions but I failed. One day, I decided to heed. I did not masturbate for just four days (cos I do this shiit almost every two days). That night, I dreamt of talking to an unseen force. It told me to look at a mirror. There in, several demons and arch-demons (u needed to c how beautiful n seductive dis entities look like with wings and other adornments) were shown to me. It told me that over hundred thousands were cast out n banished from me. It also told me that two hundred thousand were cast out n banished from a lady (can't figure out whom dat lady was). When I awoke from sleep. The urge left totally. And my spiritual life and relationships with the opposite sex has improved tremendously.
What I'm trying to say is masturbation and most addictions are facilitated by walk-ins (entity possessions) only real deliverance combined with strong determination can help you.



Thank you so much smiley
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by RTSC: 2:29pm On Sep 16, 2020
AngelicBeing:
Hahaha, Hian, wetin person no go read for Nairaland.com
But it is true.

It is common for a small white girl to approach her daughter for contraceptive pills as if she is asking for vitamin C.

It dosen't mean she won't be a productive human being.
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by michresakidjo(m): 2:30pm On Sep 16, 2020
Hmmmm This is serious oooo


God Your help is needed cry cry cry
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Kennedyiheme02: 2:31pm On Sep 16, 2020
madridsta007:


There is a spirit behind masturbation. Dont listen to what anyone urging you on here tells you.
It is a spiritual problem.

I would suggest you (1) Give your life to Christ and become truly born again (2) Plead to God for mercy and (3) With a more spiritual Christian, pray and break its hold on your life.
Then pay attention to what you see, what you watch, what you read, the company you keep, etc.
It will go and never come back again.
masturbation spiritual problem?... why do we always blame the demons grin grin its a proven fact we as humans can get addicted to things, people get addicted to gambling, video games, movies... would you say they have spiritual problem?
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by hardcore007: 2:33pm On Sep 16, 2020
Abouwaza:
26 years here bro

Pro max grin grin
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Emmaximus: 2:34pm On Sep 16, 2020
First of all sir you need to repent and accept Jesus as your lord an "saviour " then you need to feel your self with the word of God.
As much as you wud like to stop it sir you can't because there are spirit sponsoring the act in your life I was afflicted with it to for many years even after I got married with a beautiful wife I still masturbated
The only way I got over it was is serious consecration to the things of God then I allow the holyspirit to help eventually I was able to overcome it by the Grace of God

1. You need give your life to fasting and prayer
2.study the word of consistently
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by bigiyaro(m): 2:35pm On Sep 16, 2020
Ain't nothing wrong with masturbating, your problem is lack of self control, hence, the addiction, just like every other thing, too much of it is bad, learn to do every thing in moderation.

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Kennedyiheme02: 2:36pm On Sep 16, 2020
RTSC:
But white people,young and old,male and female, masturbate, and it does not affect them in anyway.

Most white girls from 16 years old are already on pregnancy prevention pills and fucckkk like dogs and yet still go on to live productive and fulfilled lives.

Why is it only in africa that things like these have consequences?
our brains has been messed up with religion, saying masturbation is bad is like saying video game is bad... playing video game everytime can be bad when you dont have a job

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