Chibudollar:
I don't have a kid yet, and I pray either of us don't have to be in this situation, but no parent whatsoever will gladly give up their child to the authorities

But there are parents that will gladly watch their children die a painful death?
Nigerians need to learn the meaning of responsibility. We must learn to accept responsibility for our actions instead of always running away from it.

Odoogu:


But times are changing. Dead beat fathers also in the mix... but How many jobs can a man engange in to make a decent living for himself and family?... A woman is much more than that.
The family is home to both the man and woman.

You see what I mean? Time has not changed, humans have. This is not the first mothers have businesses yet raise wonderful kids. A modern Nigerian woman will prefer to make all the money in the world to the detriment of the household, which is very wrong. But talk about it today and they will accuse you gender segregation.

And you are wrong when you said that women can comfortable handle the task of running a home and building a successful business. On the contrary, a man does it better. Forget the hype from femininists, women are not naturally that energetic to handle such tasks, one must give way for the other. But unfortunately, they have chosen to chase after money whe their home decay, hence, the shortcomings in modern day parenting.

I'm not against women making money or chasing their career, I'm against them biting more they can chew in the name of "times has changed" by prioritizing making money, to the detriment of the home front.

wirinet:

But there are parents that will gladly watch their children die a painful death?
Nigerians need to learn the meaning of responsibility. We must learn to accept responsibility for our actions instead of always running away from it.

easy for you to say, your kid isn't involved.

hypocrisy bad sha

Paperbag:


Its becoming too complicated thou for them to hide forever , they will all come out las las if not the boys life are all in danger ... Some might just be onlookers and nver did touch the boy so they need to come give account on what and who

Yes it's becoming complicated like you opined. I'm even afraid for the boys because one people might take it upon themselves to seek them out.

They should just come out and seek protection from the state. Simple.

I always say that social media is the bane of modern society. Look at how fast it was to fish out the boys and their parents/guardians.

Chibudollar:
easy for you to say, your kid isn't involved.

Believe me if my kid is involved (Which is highly unlikely, as monitor my children), I will not run away or hide them. I will get a lawyer to ascertain the true extent of their involvement and cooperate with the police, state government and the parents of the victim.

Non of my children had ever been reported for fighting not to talk of bullying.

ehix89:
Women are the greatest trouble to women, go through the comments and see it's all women with the drag. That woman is going through a lot already for what she knows little about, that child already have a mind of it's own an# it's little the mum can do about it. Just like a celebrity rightly said, there is no manual for training a child.

Women don't really like each other.They are always jealous of each other, always in a competition , animosity etc They are not that sensible as we all know

Mercychen:
Shes scared for her life. If she doesn't do that she might get tracked down with her account.

This is why it's important to bring up a child in the way of the Lord. When he grows up, no matter the peer pressure, he'll never give in or join bad gangs.

Now, Does this woman look like someone who has the time to give a child moral upbringing? This slay mama?
From her looks you can easily tell she left the training of her child/children to maids and house helps in his formative years.

Lets forget this peer pressure thing. It only over powers spoilt empty heads that didn't have a proper informal training.

Stop being shallow! How do you judge a person's life from a single photo? Parents can do all that is expected and required and the child might still stray. We have seen this happen since time immemorial. Don't judge if you do not know the full story.

karnap:
The woman did well by working hard to put her son in school,but peer group was there in school to bring shame to the table of the woman.

Are you still in Nigeria?
IF yes, why..
People like you ought not to be there.
You need to be home, where you can meet your type.

I don't entirely blame parents. Most of them tried their best to raise this children in d right way buh some of these children tend to get distracted by their bad peers. It takes d grace of God to resist. It all boils down to personal decision. I'm not a smoker not because my parent ask me not to buh because I had a personal decision not to. I had many peers back in school who smokes. Very close friends who had offered me a stick to puff countless times, it was God's grace and my personal conviction dat helped me not necessarily my parent.


Dey can only advice u, they wud not b wit u when u are in boarding schools or in d university. I pray God helps kids of nowadays to always listen to their parents and older ones. No parent would tell his or her child to b a bully. It's so unfortunate and painful. Rip to you, Sylvester. Ur death touched me �

I don't entirely blame parents. Most of them tried their best to raise this children in d right way buh some of these children tend to get distracted by their bad peers. It takes d grace of God to resist. It all boils down to personal decision. I'm not a smoker not because my parent ask me not to buh because I had a personal decision not to. I had many peers back in school who smokes. Very close friends who had offered me a stick to puff countless times, it was God's grace and my personal conviction dat helped me not necessarily my parent.


Dey can only advice u, they wud not b wit u when u are in boarding schools or in d university. I pray God helps kids of nowadays to always listen to their parents and older ones. No parent would tell his or her child to b a bully. It's so unfortunate and painful. Rip to you, Sylvester. Ur death touched me

od501:


You see what I mean? Time has not changed, humans have. This is not the first mothers have businesses yet raise wonderful kids. A modern Nigerian woman will prefer to make all the money in the world to the detriment of the household, which is very wrong. But talk about it today and they will accuse you gender segregation.

And you are wrong when you said that women can comfortable handle the task of running a home and building a successful business. On the contrary, a man does it better. Forget the hype from femininists, women are not naturally that energetic to handle such tasks, one must give way for the other. But unfortunately, they have chosen to chase after money whe their home decay, hence, the shortcomings in modern day parenting.

I'm not against women making money or chasing their career, I'm against them biting more they can chew in the name of "times has changed" by prioritizing making money, to the detriment of the home front.

Should women be blamed solely for poor ubringing of children just because they need to make some money too?

Agriinko:
You can imagine the trauma she's going through

how about the Trauma Sylvester's mother is going through

Elock1:

Some of this kids have good upbringing but wen you go to a boarding house

Peer pressure sets in,
there is this "they bullied me wen I was a junior student so I will also reciprocate wen I'm in ss3" mentality.
And we called it school life.

Please and please, dear parents never send your kids to a boarding school.

that is not the point....there are good kids in boarding schools too...parents should instead properly train their kids and help them inculcate good values...even if this badly raised bully was not sent to a boarding house, he will still be a problem to the larger society someday

Chibudollar:
Sometimes it is not actually the parents fault, just like some idiott on nairaland fooling themselves without the knowledge of their parents

if a child must be seen as responsible for his/her action, then the parent must be ready to make them available to answer questions when they do someting bad...I'm sure people will even praise her if she provides the son to the authorities for questioning..I know it is the hardest thing to do in this world but it is what it is..life is a pot of spoilt beans

ReneeNuttall:



Sometimes peer influences too,or peer pressures too.

I get your point but lets not sound like we are making excuses for bad behaviour...NO CHILD IS INSULATED FROM PEER PRESSURE, There are other seniors in the school who see this bullying happen, why were they not pressured to join others in bullying the juniors.....If a child's home training is not strong enough to keep the child from peer pressure, then the child must answer for it when e set

Odoogu:


Should women be blamed solely for poor ubringing of children just because they need to make some money too?

80% Of the blame goes to the women, their natural responsibility is to raise the kids, the husband only comes in only when the child is out of control, or things have gone really bad. The job of the 90% of the 20% of the man's responsibility lies in making sure the family is OK financially, and the rest is to provide guidance, life hacks, etc. Cos no matter how you tend to look at it, men are always more experienced in giving life advice, unless he is a SIMPle man.

Mind you, women work to "support" the homefront and not to entirely provide for the home. Of which, if your wife is the sole provider of the home, you have failed as a man. A woman's job is meant to be part time, that will give her more time to look after the home, the children especially.

The mother should have been in a position to know when their are changes in the boy's behaviour, then report to the father. I doubt a mother will be in the best position to deal with cases like this. It is now the duty of the man to apply the masculine approach to find out more.

In all of this, until we understand that men and women are created to serve different duties, the better for all of us.

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Odoogu:
When Nigerians vex... I dey always fear, everything for that way must feel am.

But we know say, some parents diligently give home training, na the children dey intentionally reject am. If the woman did that I wouldn't know. But there is a possibility she did.

Thank you my brother, some parents give deep home training, but a child that has been destined to go to hell will surely go to hell,

Chibudollar:
I don't have a kid yet, and I pray either of us don't have to be in this situation, but no parent whatsoever will gladly give up their child to the authorities

loool… my mum did it with my older brother. He was in secondary school when she heard he was involved in bullying. Had him taken to a juvenile facility. University, he was thowing the path of cultism. She had him arrested. Today he has turned out better. When i was suspended for a crime in school, my mum was sooo upset and said the school should punish me severely and proceed to expel me. That was when i dawned on me that if i ever fvcked up, i was on my own…. It really did help me. Parents these days re weak and it is their kids like the bully i pity.

When instead of having quite time as a family and praying for their children to live a godly life in the fear of God, all they concern about is getting them an xbox and the latest PS game. The slay mama of a mother who is suppose to instil the needed discipline walks round the house almost each day on mere pants, and on the streets with micro skirts that can be easily blown open by the wind. Modern day parents both men and women have no time to train their children and if any school ever dare to cross the line in disciplining their children, whoever does that will be in a serious pot of invisible soup.

tunapawizzy:

that is not the point....there are good kids in boarding schools too...parents should instead properly train their kids and help them inculcate good values...even if this badly raised bully was not sent to a boarding house, he will still be a problem to the larger society someday

is that all you got from my write up?

ehix89:
Women are the greatest trouble to women, go through the comments and see it's all women with the drag. That woman is going through a lot already for what she knows little about, that child already have a mind of it's own an# it's little the mum can do about it. Just like a celebrity rightly said, there is no manual for training a child.

How old is the child in question that he already has a mind of his own?
As per celebrities, many of them are bad role models and can't keep their families.
There is a right way to train a child....Proverbs 22:6
Says Train up a child in THE WAY he should go...

Oga sharrap.

Mercychen:
Shes scared for her life. If she doesn't do that she might get tracked down with her account.

This is why it's important to bring up a child in the way of the Lord. When he grows up, no matter the peer pressure, he'll never give in or join bad gangs.

Now, Does this woman look like someone who has the time to give a child moral upbringing? This slay mama?
From her looks you can easily tell she left the training of her child/children to maids and house helps in his formative years.

Lets forget this peer pressure thing. It only over powers spoilt empty heads that didn't have a proper informal training.

Mercychen:
Shes scared for her life. If she doesn't do that she might get tracked down with her account.

This is why it's important to bring up a child in the way of the Lord. When he grows up, no matter the peer pressure, he'll never give in or join bad gangs.

Now, Does this woman look like someone who has the time to give a child moral upbringing? This slay mama?
From her looks you can easily tell she left the training of her child/children to maids and house helps in his formative years.

Lets forget this peer pressure thing. It only over powers spoilt empty heads that didn't have a proper informal training.

You jumping to too many conclusions on the basis of looks alone. Many parents do try their best, but but the kids just get too swayed by peer pressure.

Peer pressure is the most intense form of pressure in life. Just one bad mistake to drink beer with friends in sec school, or rape a girl or use weed or commit an 'innocent' crime can change a teenagers life for ever.

derecho:

How old is the child in question that he already has a mind of his own?
As per celebrities, many of them are bad role models and can't keep their families.
There is a right way to train a child....Proverbs 22:6
Says Train up a child in THE WAY he should go...

Training up a child in the WAY he should go doesn't stop a child from exploring other WAYS to go. I have seen parents who meticulously raised their kids but at the end they turned out to be what their parents never envisaged. Training up a child properly is very good but all I'm trying to say is that it doesn't rule out completely the possibility of him/her exploring other ways.

Why is it that it's only the mothers of the suspected bullies we have been hearing about? Does that tell us anything? This boy could twist his mother round his fingers from what I can see.
It's well with Nigeria.

gracegrace668:


You could have called her a lazy housewife if she didn't "bring something to the table", not so? I thought this is the standard of women, that men want now. So that as you pay school fees, she pays rent. Or as you buy food, she buys clothes for the family.

Yes, the house help has to take over one of the roles of a house wife which is to nurture the kids. Go and sit down.

What's this alcoholic saying? Lazy man. You're waiting for your wife to contribute. Shame on you.

NairaMaster1:


What's this alcoholic saying? Lazy man. You're waiting for your wife to contribute. Shame on you.

I refused to be shamed by an old post, seeking advise. I'm female, by the way.

ehix89:
Training up a child in the WAY he should go doesn't stop a child from exploring other WAYS to go. I have seen parents who meticulously raised their kids but at the end they turned out to be what their parents never envisaged. Training up a child properly is very good but all I'm trying to say is that it doesn't rule out completely the possibility of him/her exploring other ways.

Brilliant but truth is what is that way they should go?
Do you know, there are children who will never explore armed robbery no matter what?
I'm not talking about moral lessons or forcing children to go to church. There's an encounter you'll have that you'll not wish for another life.
I've heard many people say Pastor's Kids(PKs) are the most corrupt but do you know that some of these Pastors focus more on the congregation than their families. Many are hypothetical hence their children want to explore other lives.
Is there a possibility to tear away? Yes..but those children with a firm spiritual grooming will ALWAYS return because they'd soon discover the emptiness in other ways.Don't forget, that godly parents are not the regular religious parents.
I agree there are forces that want them to stray But God too wants them to walk the path of righteousness.

Summary,
Moral lessons are not enough.