What is pussy for?
Dido lobo jo! It's not as if that will be the first thing she will lay on the table. The man has a job to do to lead her to the point of that, and it's not going to matter anyway, she's in love.

jonahhh:
My sister you’re going to achieve nothing but do free pussy give away

Candidlady:
Can't you guys bond as friends like plain good friends


Must bonding always be bout relationships(romantic blah blah)


Auntie free the guy leave him be...

Can goat and yam be friends? Something must happen.

Sheleads:
never knew this post go enter front pageoooo lol.

*Update*
I have told him several times he was just laughing at me. He finally said that he doesn't want to cage me, that he wants the best for me. He still want me to experience life, and that I may meet other men and loose interest in him. And sometimes he avoids such discussion with me.
Anyway he said he doesn't want to tell me anything for now.
I just tire...

step back a little
Don't be too available to him

He already told you he doesn't want anything with you
He made himself clear
Besides what you are feeling may just be infatuation cos you guys just met

Step back
If he really wants you he'll come around
This time for something serious
You should never have slept with him tho
That was a mistake

Sheleads:
I met this best friend of mine early December last year, since then we have bonded very well.

The truth is that I am already loving this guy, but it looks like he is interested in another woman out there...

I don't want to come out desperate or a "do or die affair" he watches me get closer to another guy, but he speaks ill of the new guy I want to date. Right inside my heart, he is the guy I love. Since this guy isn't reciprocating my feelings, should I discard our friendship and move on with my life? Or reduce our closeness? I don't want to be hurt or look desperate.

If you don't Have anything reasonable to say don't comment.......

Why don't you just tell me, it's that simple.

You met in December and barely 3 months you are already best friends, were u guys literally staying together? It takes more than that to build friendship. U are probably obsessed with the guy. Advise you to give him some space for a while and process what's going on in your head/ in your heart. Cheers

This is the problem with Nigerian girls, they can't express their feelings because of shame/pride.... Las las na Shiloh you go see dem looking for miracle husbands.




You've already said the guy is mature, what stops you from expressing your feelings?

Best friend in 3 months?

Older than you?

You want to date him?

He must have money and is experienced in dealing with women. You must be somewhat inexperienced in sex or relationships. You may also have low self esteem.

My advice - take some time away from him. Focus on doing something else. If you are having sex - physical, phone etc with him, stop it. Those things can make your brain cells malfunction.

Sheleads:
I met this best friend of mine early December last year, since then we have bonded very well.

The truth is that I am already loving this guy, but it looks like he is interested in another woman out there...

I don't want to come out desperate or a "do or die affair" he watches me get closer to another guy, but he speaks ill of the new guy I want to date. Right inside my heart, he is the guy I love. Since this guy isn't reciprocating my feelings, should I discard our friendship and move on with my life? Or reduce our closeness? I don't want to be hurt or look desperate.

If you don't Have anything reasonable to say don't comment.......

My dear i want to add a little advice from personal experience i think you lost the opportunity(all hope is not lost) you mentioned you regretted the first fling you guys had.(meaning from the begining he made a move and you probably turned him down and friend zoned him, now you want to eat ur cake and hv it) ladies take their time to get deep while guys wants to as soon as possible the moment you as a lady slows it down whe it lingers dey will loose appetite. (ladies hv this taught of not coming out cheap or appear desperate this taught is old school, for guys like me we go loose appetite early)ur friendship with him has come to stay except u work on urself. . Let me summarize my own story, if you care to hear more pm. I met a girl i was introduced to her by a friend casual introductn in my place of worship and she ask i help her with accommodatn and i told her its best with the real estate people though i gave her suggestions i do hv a tight schedule. Afterwards i followed up on her, she said she didnt know the caller i quickly lock up hours ltr she called in and apologize sayn she now knows who is on the line. Well she got accommodation and invited me over to her place which is close to my house she has pictures of her boyfriend on a frame pixmix with hers i asked she talked about the guy. Later i talked about my own girlfriend that i dont have lol. I stayed lowkey relationship wise because i was in a family house i just wanted to stay dat way. We kept spending hours togeda late night she started having feelings showed me several signs wear superghetti top no bra nipple everywhere bum short. Even if wetin i say no funny she will laugh and fall on me. Well i always ensure i keep conversation wholesome most times on saturday night we can prepare materials for sunday worship togeda. She was studying to get baptized my conscious will not allow me to start fuc**king her when she trying to build a relationship with GOD. Everyone in church notice even my folks notice our friendship because she cast me always hanging around me everytime pastor will say what of your friend i will say she is fine i guess he is using IQ to investigate one day the girl got baptised. Afterwards pastor called me to his house and told me he wants to marry the girl the girl is runing away from him i should pls talked to her for him i agreed. One sunday the pastor preaching was cool i went to her house to jist with her and talked about the preaching and started telling her how cute pastor is when she got the message she was so pissed at me and that was when i sensed it dat she has grown feelings for me. So she got angry pushed me to bed sat on my hard cock and was beating me in a soft way, i calmly resisted the temptation(na the day i respect my selfcontrol...dis babe fine abeg she get everything) well she relocated for furder studies when she wants to leave she offer me her properties i refused it, and took just her mirror. Lol, she bought me a packet shirt as gift.
We lost touch for 3 yrs pastor got married tp someone else, we connected again online she asked me out and i agreed to date her, (after dating someone dat hid tbeir health condition from me. I happen to find out and pulled out. I asked straight about her health condition she has one strong health problem i killed the relationship immediately and cintinue on the friendzone she got frustrated and quit till today we are still both single after 10 years. Such is life. From your story i think i was able to see where d problem started though all the details are not here. All hope is not lost.

Sheleads:
I met this best friend of mine early December last year, since then we have bonded very well.

The truth is that I am already loving this guy, but it looks like he is interested in another woman out there...

I don't want to come out desperate or a "do or die affair" he watches me get closer to another guy, but he speaks ill of the new guy I want to date. Right inside my heart, he is the guy I love. Since this guy isn't reciprocating my feelings, should I discard our friendship and move on with my life? Or reduce our closeness? I don't want to be hurt or look desperate.

If you don't Have anything reasonable to say don't comment.......

VERY SIMPLE!SINCE HE SPEAKS ILL OF THE MAN UR DATING,U NEED TO ASK HIM TO GET U A MAN HE BLVS IS THE MOST IDEAL!!

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Initially,this guy might have obseverd that you are in love with him already with your firting/body languages. by showing this to a sensitive guy,you will not only be less attractive but also needy or desperate which is a big turn off for some guys.
As a matter of fact,he may even have crush on you self but you seemed to be coming too strong without you knowing.
The best thing you can do is to be unavailable for him such as reducing calls,messages,physical contact and flirting/body languages.
As this we make him to miss you and you gonna be attracted to him.
He may even come up to tell you he has deep feelings for you.

I don’t give advice, personally I believe people have what they want to do in mind before seeking advice… and when they seek advice mostly they only want to gauge up your intelligence and hear what will come out of your mouth not that they really would follow the advice or think on it… see the OP quoting comments that interest her alone… she keeps avoiding comments that ask her to move on with her life while she keeps quoting comments that interest her alone. The bitter truth is the guy is only having a fling with you… but I’d be here for you later when you come here crying that the guy has left you in the middle of no where asking people what to do again.

Descottes:
Tell him how you feel.

simple.

I don't know how a man and a woman will be doing best friends ,...all the same give him some signs you are interested in him ,l am sure he feels the same way about you ... otherwise he won't be that close to you

My sister ….. shoot now oh …. No let another striker come score your penalty !!!

You can risk the friendship. It's worth it. Let him know how you feel, either by being open, but preferably through signs. He'll get the message. It's so natural. If he feels the same way, then the dance begins. If he doesn't feel the sane way, then that's cool. But if the latter is the case, the friendship will take a slight hit

You met December 2021 and today is March 2022 barely 3 months he is already your best friend, and also falling in love with him, you will need BRAIN EXAMINATION

I hope it's not me..

you had sex with him and you guys later became "besty"...

this generation is just confused.

my advice: please forget the friendship and move on with your life. that guy will never luv u back.

Your going to hurt yourself at the end so better end that friendship.I don't think he feels the same way you feel towards him.

Sheleads:


We were just speaking on phone as normal friends, the first day we met I was physically attracted to him. After the kinda lustful act I regretted it.. but we remained as close friends, we do everything a boyfriend and girlfriend do together, but we don't go out in public neither do any of his friends know me, this guy knows even my deepest secret, what linked us is that I needed a solution to a particular issue, which he intervened. Right now the bond, and closeness has changed my feelings for him. I feel like leaving that relationship because I will end up getting hurt... It's just annoying...

Sheleads:
I met this best friend of mine early December last year, since then we have bonded very well.

The truth is that I am already loving this guy, but it looks like he is interested in another woman out there...

I don't want to come out desperate or a "do or die affair" he watches me get closer to another guy, but he speaks ill of the new guy I want to date. Right inside my heart, he is the guy I love. Since this guy isn't reciprocating my feelings, should I discard our friendship and move on with my life? Or reduce our closeness? I don't want to be hurt or look desperate.

If you don't Have anything reasonable to say don't comment.......

guys thi is the reason why In your relationship never, I repeat never allow a woman in your life to have a male bestie. Such things always lead to problem

godliman:

How are we different from dogs and goats then, shouldn't there be a measure of self control? We are humans and should show our superiority to animals. We don't fight and devour each other like animals, should we mate like them?

When there is consent, it affirms humans as higher animal...

When there is rape, it downgrades the human as lower animal equated to dogs and goats that forced sex by subduing the female partner.

tctrills:

That may be true but life is about facing your fears. We can't always be in our comfort zone.

True...Just few people get what they want in their comfort zone...Others must make that move.

Munzy14:

When there is consent, it affirms humans as higher animal...

When there is rape, it downgrades the human as lower animal equated to dogs and goats that forced sex by subduing the female partner.

What a godless generation!

Sheleads:
I met this best friend of mine early December last year, since then we have bonded very well.

The truth is that I am already loving this guy, but it looks like he is interested in another woman out there...

I don't want to come out desperate or a "do or die affair" he watches me get closer to another guy, but he speaks ill of the new guy I want to date. Right inside my heart, he is the guy I love. Since this guy isn't reciprocating my feelings, should I discard our friendship and move on with my life? Or reduce our closeness? I don't want to be hurt or look desperate.

If you don't Have anything reasonable to say don't comment.......

Just flash him your nipple. He'll understand.

Best response!

Descottes:
Tell him how you feel.

Are you pretty ? If not allow the young man to his things

godliman:

What a godless generation!

Lol...These things has been there since time immemorial...Just that social media was absent then to let us know...

It is something that happens in any generation..

Besides, their is no big deal with two adults physically attracted to eachother.

you go harsh o

Candidlady:
Can't you guys bond as friends like plain good friends


Must bonding always be bout relationships(romantic blah blah)


Auntie free the guy leave him be...

Munzy14:

Lol...These things has been there since time immemorial...Just that social media was absent then to let us know...

It is something that happens in any generation..

Besides, their is no big deal with two adults physically attracted to eachother.

Yah God gave them those feelings but with a caveat, express it in marriage not before or outside marriage. Does it ever occur to you that sex within the confines of marriage makes humans different from animals? There must be moral principles to regulate social behaviour. If your wife says she feels attracted to her boss and her boss feels same is it okay for them to bond since they are consenting adults? The conscience that forbids sex outside marriage also forbids sex before marriage. Let the parents of the girl be rewarded for bringing her up, let the society be aware that is all. Yet corrupt minded people can't wait. And when they come to marry they are already professionals (in what they ought to be novice) with high body count. Very pathetic, even Sodom will be shocked at our perversions

PeggySandas:


Just flash him your nipple. He'll understand.

Lmao...you are funny sha...She may have played herself into friend zone from the onset of the friendship...Ones you do this, friendzone you must remain even you fvck with him or her.

Some ladies make that mistake a lot, you just met a guy, you started playing safe and unavailable for relationship...just friendship...Most guys will accept, as long as he is good and has something doing, he knows is a matter of time attraction will kick in...I mean which lady ignores a male friend that is good looking and has something doing..