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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by Timiolutomi: 2:40pm On May 14, 2022
jackals:
I'm a beautiful woman in my 30s (33 precisely) with a good career and a budding startup in the make-up business. I'm also very humble and I'm one that appreciate the little things a man do. Recently, I got linked to a guy who just came back from the US and have the intention of settling down just like me. He's successful and very respectful the First time we met, and I was already looking forward to something meaningful with him.

Last week Sunday, he took me out. When I got back home, I noticed I've embarrassed myself too much by literally throwing myself at him. I withdrew and form busy by not responding to his texts and calls for two days. WhatsApp message read but not replied.

On Tuesday, I noticed he didn't message me for the whole day. But I became bothered. Up till now, he has not called me nor message me. I didn't want things to be like this, I just didn't want it to be like I'm desperate of his attention.

Is he that he has moved on or not really interested

Try to be modest in everything you do, also make sure you are at the giving end and not the receiving end.

You went out with a guy, you were yourself, and I believe you expressed yourself the way you are, then impostor syndrome sets in and ruin your mindset towards yourself.

Sister, that guy might have sensed that you couldn't accept who you are, and you have given him good reason to make tangible conclusions about you.

My advice to you is that, you work on your Impostor syndrome, be natural.

If you are the sort of person that go all out on people and give your best smile, your best hugs, your best attention... Accept that and don't feel bad whenever you express yourself in such manner, a guy who love that will accept you for it.

I also see that you are not open minded enough, you are the type that stereotype men, you thought this guy would treat you less because you felt that you have thrown yourself on him

That a public perception of men...

Anyways there are better ways to adjust rather than ignoring his text and calls, please where did you learn that style of communication from?

Stop it, that is miscommunication.

The only thing you should do right now is give him a call, act maturely and apologize for ignoring his call...

You owe him some explanation, and make sure you tell him the exact truth of what happened.

This will portray you as an honest person... Tell him you were embarrassed the last day and it's because it's been a while you went on a date.

Promise him it won't happen again and that you figure everything out already.

If he likes honest women, he will stick around, otherwise, he is not the one for you.

But remember, always be yourself and never feel bad about it.

Shalom.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by Juliearth(f): 2:41pm On May 14, 2022
You acted childish. Your date is too grown for childish shenanigans, reason why he bailed on you. Better luck next time, babe.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by Nobody: 2:41pm On May 14, 2022
jackals:


Thank you so much for this. I never know such action could send him off. He stays in an hotel for now with a friend, before the place he is moving into get done (as he said the last time). I'll call him first. And if he's cool with me being around, I'll know from there.

Thank you ❤️��
Please if you succeed and get married to him, don't drag him to emptiness when you get back to USA because women over there are have upper hand.
I say this because your type of character listens to the general opinion and in USA most Nigeria women have formed community of husband destroyers.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by PrinceMajestic: 2:42pm On May 14, 2022
jackals:


.I was just expecting you guys to drop something. How to fix this. Since you're Men and you know what attracts you aside from beauty and body....
sist just call him and give him a good lie why you didn't respond to his message. Talk to him like a wise woman. I consider snubbing of messages very offensive, I just block instantly. I feel for you though, you ain't getting any younger. But still you were right trying not to make yourself cheap but it shouldn't be snubbing messages, that must hurt him so badly, but even though he doesn't respond again pls move on. you will find your man as long as you've read my message. All my exes and female friends always get married after I leave them because I pray for them that I'm the last guy they flirt with so I ask God to get them their husbands, they say I brought them luck, like all my exes I'm the last guy they date before their marriage. may that luck be upon u.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by sherylbaky(f): 2:42pm On May 14, 2022
DaInferno:
grin it's either of the last statement...thats how I collected a lady's number who stopped me on the road saying I looked cute...only for madam to be replying me late or not at all. We turned status viewers till one day, while I church, pastor said its only when you open up that people come in, nobody should hold you down if they themselves are on ready to move forward.

The Holy spirit instructed me to delete her number that instant. grin
Life no suppose dey hard
Gbam✅

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by AreaFada2: 2:42pm On May 14, 2022
jackals:
I'm a beautiful woman in my 30s (33 precisely) with a good career and a budding startup in the make-up business. I'm also very humble and I'm one that appreciate the little things a man do. Recently, I got linked to a guy who just came back from the US and have the intention of settling down just like me. He's successful and very respectful the First time we met, and I was already looking forward to something meaningful with him.

Last week Sunday, he took me out. When I got back home, I noticed I've embarrassed myself too much by literally throwing myself at him. I withdrew and form busy by not responding to his texts and calls for two days. WhatsApp message read but not replied.

On Tuesday, I noticed he didn't message me for the whole day. But I became bothered. Up till now, he has not called me nor message me. I didn't want things to be like this, I just didn't want it to be like I'm desperate of his attention.

Is he that he has moved on or not really interested
A guy returned from abroad, maybe to settle in 9ja or return after a few weeks and you think he will be idle pursuing you up and down?

Madam, a typical returnee, especially if going back in a few weeks, has loads of things to do o. Lots of.

Even self, as you slack and form, he might be introduced to another lady that he will find more beautiful and compatible.
Be there playing mind game. Who get time? shocked shocked

And you say you are humble? Well, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by VEHINTOLAR: 2:43pm On May 14, 2022
jackals:
I'm a beautiful woman in my 30s (33 precisely) with a good career and a budding startup in the make-up business. I'm also very humble and I'm one that appreciate the little things a man do. Recently, I got linked to a guy who just came back from the US and have the intention of settling down just like me. He's successful and very respectful the First time we met, and I was already looking forward to something meaningful with him.

Last week Sunday, he took me out. When I got back home, I noticed I've embarrassed myself too much by literally throwing myself at him. I withdrew and form busy by not responding to his texts and calls for two days. WhatsApp message read but not replied.

On Tuesday, I noticed he didn't message me for the whole day. But I became bothered. Up till now, he has not called me nor message me. I didn't want things to be like this, I just didn't want it to be like I'm desperate of his attention.

Is he that he has moved on or not really interested

You should have responded to his calls and text messages,that couldn't have taken anything away from you ! You thought you could devise a way to make him show deeper interest in you but you ended up presenting yourself as the one not interested in him !

What exactly were you expecting a man you just met and who just went out with you for a day to start saying ? That he loved you or he should propose marriage to you right there and then ? The fact is that your desperation to settle down with him or any man for that matter beclouded your sense of reasoning such that you forgot to acknowledge the fact that he needed to know you as much as you needed to know him too !

You can still repackage yourself anyway. Why don't you call him to straighten things up with him ? He was the one that took you out in your first outing,now is your time to take him out too ! Give him a call and tell that you'll like to take him out. You can then take it one step at a time from there. Just calm down,be yourself and try to know him too. If you guys are meant to be together,you'll click from there.

Good luck.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by Magnoliaa(f): 2:43pm On May 14, 2022
pocohantas:
You guys don’t get tired of disguising as females. Agenda must agend. Smh…

It's straight up annoyingly tiring and boring to tears and at this point. Mtcheeeww.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by 1Sharon(f): 2:43pm On May 14, 2022
Ninisun:




They were communicating before the date. Must you be physical with someone before a relationship kicks off?

And so? Did they claim each other as boyfriend and girlfriend? Were there any titles involved?

They were in the talking stage.


Who said anything about being physical?
Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by jaxxy(m): 2:43pm On May 14, 2022
jackals:
Why do y'all sounds to make me unhappy. I'm not happy with how things turn out with him not getting back to me as I had hoped. And now you guys are compounding my issue.

Thanks anyways

Nobody is trying make u unhappy bt we have to tell u the truth for u to learn and act better.

it's OK to play hard to get bt it's not by being rude and ill mannered. That is a put off for any decent guy.

Next time u want to play hard to get take the person's call bt say ur busy instead. Reply charts courteously even if it's one word replies.

Don't be a silly bitch. undecided

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by Rahkman: 2:43pm On May 14, 2022
jackals:
Why do y'all sounds to make me unhappy. I'm not happy with how things turn out with him not getting back to me as I had hoped. And now you guys are compounding my issue.

Thanks anyways
u no know say nairaland na home of brutality.... tho I dey attack nigerian girls, but I will just advise you to call him back and say u were sick or ur phone was stolen, or look for any believable excuse,tho he might become. Suspicious of you,if ur excuse is lame
Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by Juliearth(f): 2:43pm On May 14, 2022
IamV:
Miss 33,first & foremost,I want to start by telling you that you're no shit,and I love the level of self worth that young man got for himself & how he's not willing to play your BS mind games.

Great guy,he did the right thing.

You read his messages,ignored it for two days because you want to play nonsense mind games,and you're trying to make it his fault for respecting himself to withdraw from a situation he's not considered important to get a response ?


I actually love how he decided to mind his business,because that's what all self respecting men will do in this kind of scenario.
You don't treat people like an option ,and you expect to be treated like a priority.
I hope he moves on,and never look back.

Confused , irrational & fickle ladies like you have no right to be in a relationship.




I share in your sentiments. Reading a grown man's message and not replying is the highest level of disrespect that any woman could mete at a man(and vive-versa too).


Op felt that was the best thing to do, considering the fact that she acted below par at their date, but she failed to understand that the act she put up afterwards is like adding salt and pepper to a fresh incision.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by richmanrichard: 2:44pm On May 14, 2022
jackals:


I'm not with any man. Men have an habit of underating you when you show them how much you care. Between, I just wanted to see how consistent he is. I just dropped an SMS for him on his local number hoping he reply.
keep lying to yourself.keep forming rubbish. You are too proud. Your profile too says it all(do not DM). Woman wey fine pass you go soon collect am from you.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by raphroye: 2:44pm On May 14, 2022
jackals:

.I was just being careful of not making it look like I'm desperate to have him. I already showed him I like him. I think if he wanted things to escalate, he wouldn't back out that way
Really? Only God knows what this gender wants

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by Amayabor1: 2:44pm On May 14, 2022
You are 33 right? Continue forming for men dear. You must know your worth as a lady. A man must go all out to seek and find you. Never appear desperate to any man!

Keep your head up Queen. Let him go. Another man will come! grin

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by Yankee101: 2:45pm On May 14, 2022
Guys from oyinbo don't go for such games. They're more upfront. You're probably one of the reasons he paid a flight and expenses for more than N1m just to see you and you treated him like one village boy


We don't do nonsense. You want or you don't. Two days of ignoring him said you don't so he moved on

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by na2016: 2:45pm On May 14, 2022
Puskas:
Vagina people and their victim mentality. Imagine how this one is blaming the innocent man for respecting himself. You shunned his WhatsApp messages for two days and you still expect him to be crawling on his knees begging you to reply his chats. Who does that except a man suffering from Simpson disease. If you are beautiful with a good character just like you described yourself you should have married in your twenties and not being desperate to marry in your thirties. Let me ask you one question. If the man is foolish enough to continue chatting with you and later marries you what exactly will you offer him apart from your worn out pussy? Be truthful and answer this question

Oboy, this was pure truth oo.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by ufotty2001: 2:46pm On May 14, 2022
Jeweltz:
The day I see that I started believing that I don't need a man to be happy is the day I started having rest. If he comes, good, if he doesn't, all I can do is pray and hope he comes. I can't be going about and toast a man. That too, a man that doesn't show interest. All they want to do is to Bleep and show their friend they've got a beautiful catch
I can see that depression and frustration have started setting in on you.. you see those girls that always say that I don't need a man always end up in mental health issues before 45yrs. Go and ask Genevieve

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by Henz81: 2:47pm On May 14, 2022
jackals:
I'm a beautiful woman in my 30s (33 precisely) with a good career and a budding startup in the make-up business. I'm also very humble and I'm one that appreciate the little things a man do. Recently, I got linked to a guy who just came back from the US and have the intention of settling down just like me. He's successful and very respectful the First time we met, and I was already looking forward to something meaningful with him.

Last week Sunday, he took me out. When I got back home, I noticed I've embarrassed myself too much by literally throwing myself at him. I withdrew and form busy by not responding to his texts and calls for two days. WhatsApp message read but not replied.

On Tuesday, I noticed he didn't message me for the whole day. But I became bothered. Up till now, he has not called me nor message me. I didn't want things to be like this, I just didn't want it to be like I'm desperate of his attention.

Is he that he has moved on or not really interested
Stop forming like you are busy. You have just given him red light. Do what you have to do to get the ball rolling because you never can tell what tomorrow brings. Remember at that age, it's never easy to get a responsible man for marriage.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by Martinez39s(m): 2:48pm On May 14, 2022
Puskas:
Vagina people and their victim mentality. Imagine how this one is blaming the innocent man for respecting himself. You shunned his WhatsApp messages for two days and you still expect him to be crawling on his knees begging you to reply his chats. Who does that except a man suffering from Simpson disease. If you are beautiful with a good character just like you described yourself you should have married in your twenties and not being desperate to marry in your thirties. Let me ask you one question. If the man is foolish enough to continue chatting with you and later marries you what exactly will you offer him apart from your worn out pussy? Be truthful and answer this question
grin grin grin Ride on! This violence is getting out of hands.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by joshuaidibia(m): 2:48pm On May 14, 2022
jackals:
I'm a beautiful woman in my 30s (33 precisely) with a good career and a budding startup in the make-up business. I'm also very humble and I'm one that appreciate the little things a man do. Recently, I got linked to a guy who just came back from the US and have the intention of settling down just like me. He's successful and very respectful the First time we met, and I was already looking forward to something meaningful with him.

Last week Sunday, he took me out. When I got back home, I noticed I've embarrassed myself too much by literally throwing myself at him. I withdrew and form busy by not responding to his texts and calls for two days. WhatsApp message read but not replied.

On Tuesday, I noticed he didn't message me for the whole day. But I became bothered. Up till now, he has not called me nor message me. I didn't want things to be like this, I just didn't want it to be like I'm desperate of his attention.

Is he that he has moved on or not really interested


You're silly.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by Nobody: 2:49pm On May 14, 2022
The man did a good thing
I would have left your ass likewise and moved on aswell

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by Nobody: 2:49pm On May 14, 2022
1Sharon:


And so? Did they claim each other as boyfriend and girlfriend? Were there any titles involved?

They were in the talking stage.


Who said anything about being physical?



They were in a relationship before the date! You mustnt be sexual with someone before a relationship starts. Was it just on that date she started loving him? There had been phone communication.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by joshuaidibia(m): 2:52pm On May 14, 2022
jackals:

.I was just being careful of not making it look like I'm desperate to have him. I already showed him I like him. I think if he wanted things to escalate, he wouldn't back out that way

Wonderful. You're even more silly than I imagined

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by solonubinho(m): 2:53pm On May 14, 2022
jackals:

.I was just being careful of not making it look like I'm desperate to have him. I already showed him I like him. I think if he wanted things to escalate, he wouldn't back out that way

See what this one is saying.
You too if you wanted things to escalate you wouldn't have ignored him.
At 33 you should be able to act like an adult and take responsibility not act like a teen.
If I were the guy, I'll just think you don't have sense and that would be the end of it.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by Magnoliaa(f): 2:53pm On May 14, 2022
Men are uninterested my ass. Yeah, right. So uninterested y'all literally have to resort to creating narratives about single successful women in their 30s not getting it right in relationships JUST SO they can lower their standards. grin

If una like, make una use all the reverse psychology tricks in the book, bygone era is bygone era. Fewer and fewer women are ready to put up with men who don't add value to them.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by Timiolutomi: 2:54pm On May 14, 2022
jackals:


I'm not with any man. Men have an habit of underating you when you show them how much you care. Between, I just wanted to see how consistent he is. I just dropped an SMS for him on his local number hoping he reply.

Men have an habit of underating you when you show them how much you care?

This is stereotypical of you.

That is not a men's thing, it is a human thing, women also do the same.

Then you just met someone and you are already testing them for consistency?

It look like you have some self esteem issue here, something like trust issue...

Don't you know that a man can be consistent for 5years and change after the 5th year?

Sis, work on you self esteem ... I can smell Impostor syndrome + Trust issues here...

Just be yourself and flow with the vibes, everything either fail or pass the test of time

Get to know people naturally, not by testing.

It's okay to be embarrassed, it's okay to feel awkward, it's okay to make mistake when you meet someone new

But time will tell, if the relationship will stand or not.

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by Udemzy05: 2:54pm On May 14, 2022
All this throw yourself on him and all that sh1tty talk won't stop a responsible man from respecting you.


Trying to form hard to get in this 2022 will only keep the man away.
Unless he is a SIMP like some nairaland guys always say.
Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by omorttee4u(m): 2:54pm On May 14, 2022
jackals:

.I was just being careful of not making it look like I'm desperate to have him. I already showed him I like him. I think if he wanted things to escalate, he wouldn't back out that way


You don't have to act hated by ignoring his text, in as much as he never take your likeness for granted. You need to uphold that respect BTW you two.
Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by solonubinho(m): 2:54pm On May 14, 2022
Magnoliaa:
Men are uninterested my ass. Yeah, right. So uninterested y'all literally have to resort to creating narratives about single successful women in their 30s not getting it right in relationships. grin

If una like, make una use all the reverse psychology tricks in the book, bygone era is bygone era. Fewer and fewer women are ready to put up with men who don't add value to them.

What are we saying, what is this one saying? kini werey n so?

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Re: Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays by Nobody: 2:54pm On May 14, 2022
jackals:
Why do y'all sounds to make me unhappy. I'm not happy with how things turn out with him not getting back to me as I had hoped. And now you guys are compounding my issue.

Thanks anyways



Always pray about your rshp, most especially when you want to meet someone you genuinely love. That's how the devil will always want you to misbehave.

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