This happened in a well known family planning facility. We thought the young lady was lying until we asked for her mother's number and put a call through.
According to her, her daughter has a boyfriend and the boyfriend's father will soon celebrate his 70th birthday, she's not going to be there and she doesn't know how far the daughter has gone or will go with the boyfriend. She also said, she had all her children out of wedlock and she doesn't want same for her daughter, so she requested for her daughter to be counseled and a method chosen if necessary.

Just in case you're not aware, the Planned Parenthood Federation of Nigeria (PPFN) has extended it services to both singles and underage so far they're sexually active..

What are your thoughts on this topic?

I can't really blame the mother na eleventh hour we Dey, can't just imagine a 16years doing family planning but it's still safe than to get unwanted Belle at her tender age

That is a wonderful act by the mother. We are in a more civilized and at the same time decayed society, many teenagers are sexually active and it's wise enough to guide them so as not to make some mistakes that will hinder their dreams.

Parenting should be more refined especially in Africa.

Sanmel:
This happened in a well known family planning facility. We thought the young lady was lying until we asked for her mother's number and put a call through.
According to her, her daughter has a boyfriend and the boyfriend's father will soon celebrate his 70th birthday, she's not going to be there and she doesn't know how far the daughter has gone or will go with the boyfriend. She also said, she had all her children out of wedlock and she doesn't want same for her daughter, so she requested for her daughter to be counseled and a method chosen if necessary.

Just in case you're not aware, the Planned Parenthood Federation of Nigeria (PPFN) has extended it services to both singles and underage so far they're sexually active..

What are your thoughts on this topic?

Madness. I blame the churches and families that accept to make wives out of hoes. They will ask for genotype, blood group test and pregnancy test but they will not ask if the couples, especially the lady is sexually pure as a precondition for the solemnization of a marriage. Then when the couples start having sexually related issues in their marriage they will start rubbishing the marriage institution instead of calling out the fools that joined two misfits in an unholy matrimony. If every clergyman and every family enforced the virginity of ladies before marriage, this foolish mother will not allow her daughter have sex before marriage let alone going as far as recommending family planning for an underage girl and even the girl will never try any sexual nonsense knowing fully well she would be jeopardizing her chances of getting married. This will elevate the punishment for rape to capital punishment and will make rape victims easily prove their case.

efficiencie:


Madness. I blame the churches and families that accept to make wives out of hoes. They will ask for genotype, blood group test and pregnancy test but they will not ask if the couples, especially the lady is sexually pure as a precondition for the solemnization of a marriage. Then when the couples start having sexually related issues in their marriage they will start rubbishing the marriage institution instead of calling out the fools that joined two misfits in an unholy matrimony. If every clergyman and every family enforced the virginity of ladies before marriage, this foolish mother will not allow her daughter have sex before marriage let alone going as far as recommending family planning for an underage girl and even the girl will never try any sexual nonsense knowing fully well she would be jeopardizing her chances of getting married. This will elevate the punishment for rape to capital punishment and will make rape victims easily prove their case.

Dude, she probably knew her daughter is sexually active, hence the reason she did what she did. Or you want to be doing virginity test for your daughter every now and then? Do you know the impact of that on a teenager's psychological and mental health? Same religious parents that will tell a female child that a touch will get her pregnant?? I mean, these kids can get whatever information about pregnancy and anything online and your bullshit lies will be GIGO!

As a parent, all you can do is guide your kids right from onset so as for them to be chaste at teenage years. Even if you are a cleric of a religious organisation, that your daughter might still end up having sex as a teenager and you still won't know! It's all about good parenting, not religion!

efficiencie:


Madness.

Not really.. Things have changed.
Most children get exposed too early these days, gone are the days when we go out to play with other children. Now, the trend is to stay indoor or alone with their phones and tablets where they get both informations they need and the ones they don't..
It takes the Grace of God to raise a responsible child in this day and age.

God help us.

MufasaLion:


Dude, she probably knew her daughter is sexually active, hence the reason she did what she did. Or you want to be doing virginity test for your daughter every now and then? Do you know the impact of that on a teenager's psychological and mental health? Same religious parents thatwill tell a female child that a touch will get her pregnant?? I mean, this kids can get whatever information about pregnancy and anything online and your bullshit lies will be GIGO!

As a parent, all you can do is guide your kids right from onset so as for them to be chaste at teenage years. Even if you are a cleric of a religious organisation, that your daughter might still end up having sex as a teenager and you still won't know! It's all about good parenting, not religion!

Fact!

Nice one

Sanmel:
Not really.. Things have changed.
Most children get exposed too early these days, gone are the days when we go out to play with other children. Now, the trend is to stay indoor or alone with their phones and tablets where they get both informations they need and the ones they don't..
It takes the Grace of God to raise a responsible child in this day and age.

God help us.

It is a case of parenting. Many parents today are immature, childish and themselves also need training. Religious institutions ought to step in a correct this social milieu or else it will be the end of this generation. Virginity needs to be brought back to the center of marriages and intimate relationships. Religious institutions need to start emphasizing it as a requirement for weddings. We need to stop liberalizing everything and understand that there are some rules that should not be broken because when they are broken the consequences could be catastrophic. Imagine a 16 year old going for family planning. Complete madness. If that girl was informed that the moment she loses her virginity her chances of getting married would fall from 95% to 5% she will discipline herself and keep her sexual purity. This would also completely eliminate the incidence of "side-chicry". Imagine the stupid mother. Like mother like daughter. She has passed ancestral/generational curse to her daughter and now she is seeking family planning for a 16 year old.

MufasaLion:


Dude, she probably knew her daughter is sexually active, hence the reason she did what she did. Or you want to be doing virginity test for your daughter every now and then? Do you know the impact of that on a teenager's psychological and mental health? Same religious parents that will tell a female child that a touch will get her pregnant?? I mean, these kids can get whatever information about pregnancy and anything online and your bullshit lies will be GIGO!

As a parent, all you can do is guide your kids right from onset so as for them to be chaste at teenage years. Even if you are a cleric of a religious organisation, that your daughter might still end up having sex as a teenager and you still won't know! It's all about good parenting, not religion!

This is the same liberalism that is tearing the US apart socially. The US is now a place where children as young as 2 can start receiving life-altering gender treatment. The US is now a place where children are taught sexually explicit materials and exposed to drag shows etc. The US is now a country of social confusion where they no longer know what a woman. This shit is what we are importing to the country. A 16 year old is sexually active yet she is completely bereft of what it takes to be a wife, a mother and a fulfilled woman. This is how we systematically reduce women to mere meat meant for sexual pleasure alone and after they have wrecked their lives they expect a man who has labored all his life to rise to the top to become their husband. Arrant nonsense. The parent of that 16 year old need to be punished for their stupidity and neglect and religious institutions need to return to making virginity a criteria for holy matrimony. They call it "holy matrimony" yet they wed couples that have had sex with countless other people before. How is that "holy" matrimony? That is why this 16 year old can be sexually active because afterall there is no immediate marital consequence to premarital sex.

ahnie:
Nice one

How far? Do you have a sister under 18?

I want to try something

efficiencie:


This is the same liberalism that is tearing the US apart socially. The US is now a place where children as young as 2 can start receiving life-altering gender treatment. The US is now a place where children are taught sexually explicit materials and exposed to drag shows etc. The US is now a country of social confusion where they no longer know what a woman. This shit is what we are importing to the country. A 16 year old is sexually active yet she is completely bereft of what it takes to be a wife, a mother and a fulfilled woman. This is how we systematically reduce women to mere meat meant for sexual pleasure alone and after they have wrecked their lives they expect a man who has labored all his life to rise to the top to become their husband. Arrant nonsense. The parent of that 16 year old need to be punished for their stupidity and neglect and religious institutions need to return to making virginity a criteria for holy matrimony. They call it "holy matrimony" yet they wed couples that have had sex with countless other people before. How is that "holy" matrimony? That is why this 16 year old can be sexually active because afterall there is no immediate marital consequence to premarital sex.

Dude, wether U.S., Canada, the U.K., Nigeria or anywhere, if you're bad at parenting, you have high chances of not having a sensible kid! There are millions of kids raised in the U.S. and they turned out to be great and same applies to Nigeria. Even if you live in Vatican city, there will surely be "bad eggs."

Nigeria is a religious country with many unrighteous folks. In fact, Nigeria is anti-prostitution but there's virtually no street you'll enter now that you won't see teenagers sleeping for money (peanut). They will even sleep with men and turn it into cohabitation all for shelter, food and whatever.

So, stop limiting the peculiarity of bad eggs to the Western nations. It's everywhere!

efficiencie:


It is a case of parenting. Many parents today are immature, childish and themselves also need training. Religious institutions ought to step in a correct this social milieu or else it will be the end of this generation. Virginity needs to be brought back to the center of marriages and intimate relationships. Religious institutions need to start emphasizing it as a requirement for weddings. We need to stop liberalizing everything and understand that there are some rules that should not be broken because when they are broken the consequences could be catastrophic. Imagine a 16 year old going for family planning. Complete madness. If that girl was informed that the moment she loses her virginity her chances of getting married would fall from 95% to 5% she will discipline herself and keep her sexual purity. This would also completely eliminate the incidence of "side-chicry". Imagine the stupid mother. Like mother like daughter. She has passed ancestral/generational curse to her daughter and now she is seeking family planning for a 16 year old.

The religion you're screaming has done more damage than good to the society especially in Africa. The religion they practice in Africa is adulterated.

Pringles101:

How far? Do you have a sister under 18?

I want to try something

Ewww

You perverted pedophile!

MufasaLion:


Ewww

You perverted pedophile!

The sister can do family planning na!

She did the right thing.
Better prevent a pregnancy than looking to abort later.
Whether you like it or not, regardless of the restrictions you put in place, when teenagers decide to start engaging in sex, there's nothing anyone can do about it. Beat them, starve them, they will still do what they want to do .
So why not educate them on the various STIs out there and the need for wearing condoms, and also using contraceptives?
You have to choose your poison wisely.
Abstinence has been preached since the day our forefathers landed on this earth, but it has never stopped teenagers having sex or unwanted pregnancies. That approach is obviously not working

Sanmel:
This happened in a well known family planning facility. We thought the young lady was lying until we asked for her mother's number and put a call through.
According to her, her daughter has a boyfriend and the boyfriend's father will soon celebrate his 70th birthday, she's not going to be there and she doesn't know how far the daughter has gone or will go with the boyfriend. She also said, she had all her children out of wedlock and she doesn't want same for her daughter, so she requested for her daughter to be counseled and a method chosen if necessary.

Just in case you're not aware, the Planned Parenthood Federation of Nigeria (PPFN) has extended it services to both singles and underage so far they're sexually active..

What are your thoughts on this topic?

A woman who had ALL her children out of wedlock CANNOT be a good mother, what exactly will she teach her children? ...

Can she be a good role model to her daughter's - Chasity wise?? ....

Can she boldly tell her kids that they shouldn't engage in premarital se.x? ...

And I wouldn't be surprised if she's a single mother, na their way be that ...

Because they wouldn't be a masculine figure in that girls life and this shit is happening ...

Like a 16year old will look at the masculine figure in her life (father) and say "I want to attend my boyfriend's father's birthday", them no born am well! ...

And the mother is saying she doesn't want the same for her child, if she really mean that, then she ought be have closed her legs and not have ALL her children out of wedlock...

She ought to have shunned her daughter from ANY intimate relationship with ANYONE,but no!!

She's allowing someone who isn't an adult to take decisions that could potentially ruin her future - what a mother! ....

Too much liberalism have brought us to this point...

Someone who don't know what it means to be a wife or mother is potentially busy having se.x upandan ...

Someone who can't even wipe her own as.s properly is allowed to jump from one Pole to the other ...

Someone who can't even take care of herself is given a leeway to start sleeping around ...

And yet the woman is saying "I don't want the same for my daughter", mtttttwwwwwwwww ...

Make she just prepare for history to repeat itself... An overwhelming number of children of single.mothers end up become single mothers themselves - numbers don't lie, make we dey wait ....

efficiencie:


It is a case of parenting. Many parents today are immature, childish and themselves also need training. Religious institutions ought to step in a correct this social milieu or else it will be the end of this generation. Virginity needs to be brought back to the center of marriages and intimate relationships. Religious institutions need to start emphasizing it as a requirement for weddings. We need to stop liberalizing everything and understand that there are some rules that should not be broken because when they are broken the consequences could be catastrophic. Imagine a 16 year old going for family planning. Complete madness. If that girl was informed that the moment she loses her virginity her chances of getting married would fall from 95% to 5% she will discipline herself and keep her sexual purity. This would also completely eliminate the incidence of "side-chicry". Imagine the stupid mother. Like mother like daughter. She has passed ancestral/generational curse to her daughter and now she is seeking family planning for a 16 year old.

What makes you even think every female wants to get married? So don't dangle marriage as a "reward" for keeping her virginity.

What would reduce the incidence of "side-chicry" is when more heterosexual men decides to stay faithful to their girlfriends/wives.

Sanmel:
This happened in a well known family planning facility. We thought the young lady was lying until we asked for her mother's number and put a call through.
According to her, her daughter has a boyfriend and the boyfriend's father will soon celebrate his 70th birthday, she's not going to be there and she doesn't know how far the daughter has gone or will go with the boyfriend. She also said, she had all her children out of wedlock and she doesn't want same for her daughter, so she requested for her daughter to be counseled and a method chosen if necessary.

Just in case you're not aware, the Planned Parenthood Federation of Nigeria (PPFN) has extended it services to both singles and underage so far they're sexually active..

What are your thoughts on this topic?

If the mother knows she's sexually active then that's the wisest choice. It's better for the mother to take her to a family planning clinic than to be forced to take her to an abortion clinic.

She did the right thing. You can advise a child however, you can't be there at all times thus, it is better safe than sorry.

This topic is food for the holier than thou category. Those who at 16 did worse things now acting like saints.

GboyegaD:
She did the right thing. You can advise a child however, you can't be there at all times thus, it is better safe than sorry.

This topic is food for the holier than thou category. Those who at 16 did worse things now acting like saints.

That's it.. You can't be with the child at all times..
I've seen countless cases of teenagers brought in to the hospital from their respective schools on account of improperly done abortion leading to sepsis meanwhile the parents are thinking their daughters are still virgins..
I remember how one was pleading with a doctor not to tell her parents and the doctor also a pastor insisted that the father needs to sign the consent form since she's under aged..
It was an emotional scene that day after the man signed, came out of the doctor's room teary, went to her daughter and gave her 2 resounding slaps and then told the doctor to go ahead with the evacuation of the retained product of conception.

Sanmel:
That's it.. You can't be with the child at all times..
I've seen countless cases of teenagers brought in to the hospital from their respective schools on account of improperly done abortion leading to sepsis meanwhile the parents are thinking their daughters are still virgins..
I remember how one was pleading with a doctor not to tell her parents and the doctor also a pastor insisted that the father needs to sign the consent form since she's under aged..
It was an emotional scene that day after the man signed, came out of the doctor's room teary, went to her daughter and gave her 2 resounding slaps and then told the doctor to go ahead with the evacuation of the retained product of conception.

Why the slap though? It was poor parenting not to guide the child properly.

Sanmel:
That's it.. You can't be with the child at all times..
I've seen countless cases of teenagers brought in to the hospital from their respective schools on account of improperly done abortion leading to sepsis meanwhile the parents are thinking their daughters are still virgins..
I remember how one was pleading with a doctor not to tell her parents and the doctor also a pastor insisted that the father needs to sign the consent form since she's under aged..
It was an emotional scene that day after the man signed, came out of the doctor's room teary, went to her daughter and gave her 2 resounding slaps and then told the doctor to go ahead with the evacuation of the retained product of conception.

Oh your last paragraph though. It got me emotional.

But why would the Father Slap her In that condition. That's gross, What's happened has happened and a process Is on the way already.

At least he should have waited for her to heal. Parenting Isn't an easy Job.

I pity those useless Ignorant small boys wey their prick Just dey start to shack them..

Sanmel:
This happened in a well known family planning facility. We thought the young lady was lying until we asked for her mother's number and put a call through.
According to her, her daughter has a boyfriend and the boyfriend's father will soon celebrate his 70th birthday, she's not going to be there and she doesn't know how far the daughter has gone or will go with the boyfriend. She also said, she had all her children out of wedlock and she doesn't want same for her daughter, so she requested for her daughter to be counseled and a method chosen if necessary.

Just in case you're not aware, the Planned Parenthood Federation of Nigeria (PPFN) has extended it services to both singles and underage so far they're sexually active..

What are your thoughts on this topic?

I remember my volunteering days with PPFN, it was fun.

culf:



I remember my volunteering days with PPFN, it was fun.

Yeah.. Even the facilitators are amazing..

Sanmel:
Yeah.. Even the facilitators are amazing..

Yeah

Haunted by her past!

What are your thoughts on this topic?

I think Nigerians are still backward for this to make front page on Nairaland. Minors will have sex with minors. There’s nothing new about it. She knew nothing about contraceptives when young. She wants her daughter to learn it from a third party because Nigerian parents do not care to educate offspring on sex. Many Nairalanders are on this table.

Practical decision