OK na

Godmother:



See my dear, there's a natural order of things:

Women were created to be taken care of, to crave love and security.

Men were created to want respect and to be protectors/providers

The problems of today arose because men are trying to change the narrative but still expecting the same results. Some men now expect the woman to foot the entire bill but still demand the full respect of the headship.

In my almost forty years on earth, I have seen and witnessed things. I have friends that are married and have been footing the family bills for over ten years. It's an anomaly

No one expects any woman to foot any bill, she should simply foot the portion of the bill she used e.g. if the bill is N20,000 she should bring N3500 to N5000

so you mean man is not suppose to be taking care of even at old age? mumu

BigBashiru:


No one expects any woman to foot any bill, she should simply foot the portion of the bill she used e.g. if the bill is N20,000 she should bring N3500 to N5000

E be like you never see.
Try and go around and ask some married women the state of things in their homes, you'll be shocked

BigBashiru:


Ur so called "natural order of things" is a big fat lie and deep down you know it.... females are fully financially capable of taking care of themselves. Why go thru school and having a profession only for you to want to depend on someone else....that's SILLY

You are missing the point.
There's no point explaining it to you then. I'll be stopping here.

Godmother:



E be like you never see.
Try and go around and ask some married women the state of things in their homes, you'll be shocked

Then they are unfortunate with the guy they married. My philosophy is I do no harm to any woman and will not treat any woman unfairly and expect the same. I categorically reject the notion of being anyone's financial slave in the name of marriage and "head of home"

Cypress042:
Take care of people who don't care about you, just imagine.


SiMple man

He is a useless pastor, he is trying to make our gals more lazy and have entitlement mentality

Godmother:


You are missing the point.
There's no point explaining it to you then. I'll be stopping here.

Good. Now go get a job you will use to take care of yourself....

No job no kiss.

CSTRR:
Here comes the Igbo man with the obiagelli mindset.

And you wonder why their women are the most entitled, money hungry females in the country.

I be igbo man , but you are fu*king right.
The culture it's an entitled culture

vickydevoka:

He is a useless pastor, he is trying to make our gals more lazy and have entitlement mentality

Thanks for this!

Reading majority of the comments, some Nigerians really don't read to understand. Or should I say that they lack reading comprehension skills?

God1000:
He's a joker, I've seen hardworking women who are the breadwinners in their families


This is white lie, he's not helping the society with such message

That is what modern society turn them into. Women naturally depends on men for leadership, they rarely function well without men in their lives. Even among Animals, females generally takes care of young ones, while they needed leadership of males to protect themselves and the young ones.

oojehshez:


Make sure you do not give birth to a girl, have a sister or mother better still no get anything to do with a nigerian female (as per you just dropped and found yourself on earth)...you guys just come online and start ranting forgetting that it's one woman that birthed you, you have sisters and it's a woman that will give birth for you, and you will have a daughter.

Na as man get issues, woman get am....na because of this mentality you no get good experience...your thought attracts what comes to you.

But una own issues can taya pesin eh.
Very unreasonable always.
Sotey una nor even like unaself because una know una own ways.
Operating like adult-baby everytime.
If it's not drama, it's stubbornness.
A woman is only loyal to her feelings, incapable of loving and only has unconditional love for her children.
She behaves according to how you make her feel at the moment, making her very unreliable.
Na God just dey help us men with una.
I love you all still. Because you make the world sweet in other ways too.
Only a very wise man can cope with a woman very well.

God1000:
He's a joker, I've seen hardworking women who are the breadwinners in their families


This is white lie, he's not helping the society with such message

You need to read through and not get drawn in by the posters sensational headline. Sensationalism and attention as currency everywhere.

Godmother:



See my dear, there's a natural order of things:

Women were created to be taken care of, to crave love and security.

Men were created to want respect and to be protectors/providers

The problems of today arose because men are trying to change the narrative but still expecting the same results. Some men now expect the woman to foot the entire bill but still demand the full respect of the headship.

In my almost forty years on earth, I have seen and witnessed things. I have friends that are married and have been footing the family bills for over ten years. It's an anomaly

The question is: What will she be using all her own money for if she is earning?

Or you stand for the full housewife idea?

A woman as the Helper can stand in as support for the man for the time being when he is down before he gets back on his feet again, and maintain her respect for him while at it, knowing fully well he is making efforts to bounce back.

The Creator called you Helper. I didn't make that up. Help goes beyond birthing and taking care of (his) children, cooking/cleaning and taking care of him, it can also mean contributing her own part to the finance for running the home. Wives in the Bible went to farms with their husbands and engaged in farm-works.

Sweetplum:
Says a man who's not proud to he responsible.

You better get your a.ss to work.
Wives in the Bible went to farm with their husbands.
The Helper you are called is a general title that is not limited to only cooking/cleaning, birthing/taking care of children.
It also means contributing part of your money to the finance for running the home.

olaeffect:
Hmmm, when a Pastor speaks from the bible but based on the matter he is dealing with at that time; he may likely be misquoted

Pastor maybe refering to a particular members case that he is handli6at hand, where the man of the house is irresponsible and does not take care of his wife at all, but expects his wife to to take care of him because she has the means.

But some irresponsible ladies will now assume otherwise

But it is also part of the Helper women are called too.
Help him finance the home until he gets back on his feet and respect him while at it.
Contributing to the finance for running the home is also part of the Help.
Help is not restricted to only some things, it's a general term.

What about the equality women claim today. True women ought to be cared for, but at the same time Men have to be careful bcuz women are also the most manipulative being on earth

MNDY:


You better get your a.ss to work.
Wives in the Bible went to farm with their husbands.
The Helper you are called is a general title that is not limited to only cooking/cleaning, birthing/taking care of children.
It also means contributing part of your money to the finance for running the home.

Wives now aren't working abi?
What we are saying is you boys of this age are so broke and you are the ones that complains the most. Maybe Buhari hardship reset your brain too.

MNDY:


The question is: What will she be using all her own money for if she is earning?

Or you stand for the full housewife idea?

A woman as the Helper can stand in as support for the man for the time being when he is down before he gets back on his feet again, and maintain her respect for him while at it, knowing fully well he is making efforts to bounce back.

The Creator called you Helper. I didn't make that up. Help goes beyond birthing and taking care of (his) children, cooking/cleaning and taking care of him, it can also mean contributing her own part to the finance for running the home. Wives in the Bible went to farms with their husbands and engaged in farm-works.

Modern day marriage is exploitative....the women make their own money and keep....

Sweetplum:

Wives now aren't working abi?
What we are saying is you boys of this age are so broke and you are the ones that complains the most. Maybe Buhari hardship reset your brain too.

I don't believe in easy life.... my wife still works and uses her own moni to take care of herself. Even if I am worth $1trillion my position won't change....

DREAMHOMES6970:
What about the equality women claim today. True women ought to be cared for, but at the same time Men have to be careful bcuz women are also the most manipulative being on earth

My question to you is who then cares for the man, men don't deserve care?? Men need to be cared for and pampered there are two ways to do this: alleviate his financial stress by working and 2. Not being a trouble maker or quarrelsome and being peaceful and caring....men deserve to be cared for too....

MNDY:


But it is also part of the Helper women are called too.
Help him finance the home until he gets back on his feet and respect him while at it.
Contributing to the finance for running the home is also part of the Help.
Help is not restricted to only some things, it's a general term.

Where does this notion of a female disrespecting a man becos she is bringing money comes from?? It shouldn't be happening at all..... it can even be structured as a loan....

BigBashiru:


I'm actually a very wealthy man but I don't believe in easy life.... my wife still works and uses her own moni to take care of herself. Even if I am worth $1trillion my position won't change....

Neither are you talking to a broke lady. My partner is rich and am a working class.
Meanwhile, you are not worth up to N1m.
Stop lying.

MNDY:


The question is: What will she be using all her own money for if she is earning?

Or you stand for the full housewife idea?

A woman as the Helper can stand in as support for the man for the time being when he is down before he gets back on his feet again, and maintain her respect for him while at it, knowing fully well he is making efforts to bounce back.

The Creator called you Helper. I didn't make that up. Help goes beyond birthing and taking care of (his) children, cooking/cleaning and taking care of him, it can also mean contributing her own part to the finance for running the home. Wives in the Bible went to farms with their husbands and engaged in farm-works.

Who said anything about being a full housewife? No woman should even consider that in this present Nigeria.

Also, being a helper is not only when the man is down. It is ALL THE TIME.

As a wife, I have done things I never thought I would and I did them with joy. I did them because my husband is a good man and I want to lighten his load. Sometimes, even when he has, I just rush to do these things to relieve him.

Nigerian men already have the wrong notion of Nigerian women and the thing is your kind will continue to pull to you what you think.

Sweetplum:

Neither are you talking to a broke lady. My partner is rich and am a working class.
Meanwhile, you are not worth up to N1m.
Stop lying.

If you are not broke then keep working na and stop coming here complaining you don't hv easy life + free money from a man .....

MNDY:


But it is also part of the Helper women are called too.
Help him finance the home until he gets back on his feet and respect him while at it.
Contributing to the finance for running the home is also part of the Help.
Help is not restricted to only some things, it's a general term.

In my comment I said the pastor maybe addressing a particular case.
I have seen cases whereby some men have become dependent and being taken care of by their wives perpetually, simply because their wifes have the means.
It is thoes kind of situation I believe the pastor is referring to. It is not by money alone that you take care of a woman.
If your wife is the one financing the home then you have to do other things in that home that will amount to her care.
You don't expect a woman to take care of the house, the children, go to work, pay the bills, while you as a man loaf around and do nothing with the claim that loosing your job and being fed by a woman does not make you less of a man.
Oga, such a man is not only less than a man, but a disgrace to the entire "manhood"

Tinubuwins2023e:


Lazy cow. See as the thing sweet her dey open teeth.
Yenyenyen but you are created to raise shoulders with men. Anofia

You are high on cheap weed, why are you pouring spit everywhere, rest abeg, if you like don't take care of your wife, broke boy

Godmother:


Who said anything about being a full housewife? No woman should even consider that in this present Nigeria.

Also, being a helper is not only when the man is down. It is ALL THE TIME.

As a wife, I have done things I never thought I would and I did them with joy. I did them because my husband is a good man and I want to lighten his load. Sometimes, even when he has, I just rush to do these things to relieve him.

Nigerian men already have the wrong notion of Nigerian women and the thing is your kind will continue to pull to you what you think.

You can't just assume that the man is not planning and working hard or doing nothing to get back on his feet just because his wife is standing in for him and supporting him.

It's not easy and that's why it takes a while for him. But the duration makes many women think he is not doing anything or seriously finding ways. FACT: THE DREAM OF 99.9% MEN IS TO "BLOW."

And when he Arrives, he will assume his role and even want to compensate his woman for everything she did. No man is really happy watching his woman shoulder the whole responsibility. But many men are unhappy with the way their woman abandons everything to the man of the house.

Becoming a failure is the main insult every man tries very hard to avoid in his lifetime. And contrary to your opinion, Nigerian men are very hardworking and are earnestly find ways to breakthrough.

faithfull18:

You are high on cheap weed, why are you pouring spit everywhere, rest abeg, if you like don't take care of your wife, broke boy

If I hear the bolded from your mouth again il beat you.

olaeffect:


In my comment I said the pastor maybe addressing a particular case.
I have seen cases whereby some men have become dependent and being taken care of by their wives perpetually, simply because their wifes have the means.
It is thoes kind of situation I believe the pastor is referring to. It is not by money alone that you take care of a woman.
If your wife is the one financing the home then you have to do other things in that home that will amount to her care.
You don't expect a woman to take care of the house, the children, go to work, pay the bills, while you as a man loaf around and do nothing with the claim that loosing your job and being fed by a woman does not make you less of a man.
Oga, such a man is not only less than a man, but a disgrace to the entire "manhood"

There is hardly any man that will happy with that kind of condition.
It is a very big insult that majority of men try very hard to avoid.
Men's main goal in life na to "Blow."
The society sef nor go take am easy on him for being a failure.
I've hardly seen a man in such condition that is not seriously finding ways to make it.

MNDY:


You can't just assume that the man is not planning and working hard or doing nothing to get back on his feet just because his wife is standing in for him and supporting him.

It's not easy and that's why it takes a while for him. But the duration makes many women think he is not doing anything or seriously finding ways. FACT: THE DREAM OF 99.9% MEN IS TO "BLOW."

And when he Arrives, he will assume his role and even want to compensate his woman for everything she did. No man is really happy watching his woman shoulder the whole responsibility. But many men are unhappy with the way their woman abandons everything to the man of the house.

Becoming a failure is the main insult every man tries very hard to avoid in his lifetime. And contrary to your opinion, Nigerian men are very hardworking and are earnestly find ways to breakthrough.

Which role. That role isn't set in stone....instead of focusing on role the focus should be on fairness.