Liballo:
Ok….. So ?

emetisuccess:
It's u, not me bru. I'll marry and enjoy my marriage. What u pray for is what u get.

Fahvvy:
This is somewhat true from the world's perspective ....

Fahvvy:

However...
I'd rather look at marriage from a scriptural perspective than from the world's perspective ...

Fahvvy:

Cause last time I checked, God's word has never failed yet ...

incandescentena:
Out of all these, you need some more perspectives

brosom:
My brother no need to argue with u at all because I can see women for they're truly are before and after marriage.
Those creatures appears calm in nature but subtle and dangerously wicked.
When u finally marry them, your eyes will finally open lol

FRANCISTOWN:
Hi guys! Once again I'll be up in your faces. Lemme add here quickly that some love to check tiktok videos, some love to read comments on any platform, some love to see movies , some love to chat, some will come here to say the OP is jobless, you see the time you spend in any of the above is what I also used to put this together.
It is not really appropriate to say marriage is the weapon fashioned against you, because children are also products of marriage. But it is more fair to say that your wife is the weapon fashioned against you. And guess what? That weapon will prosper.
That being said, I'd like us to begin with these two cases.
Okay guys!
Case 1: There was a guy called Steven Philips who spent 24years in jail for a crime he didn't commit,when he was released in 2008, he received $6 Million in compensation. Then, his ex-wife who divorced him while he was in prison sued to get part of the compensation. Let's stop here. She left him when he was at his lowest then came back to enjoy the dividend.

FRANCISTOWN:
Hi guys! Once again I'll be up in your faces. Lemme add here quickly that some love to check tiktok videos, some love to read comments on any platform, some love to see movies , some love to chat, some will come here to say the OP is jobless, you see the time you spend in any of the above is what I also used to put this together.
It is not really appropriate to say marriage is the weapon fashioned against you, because children are also products of marriage. But it is more fair to say that your wife is the weapon fashioned against you. And guess what? That weapon will prosper.
That being said, I'd like us to begin with these two cases.
Okay guys!
Case 1: There was a guy called Steven Philips who spent 24years in jail for a crime he didn't commit,when he was released in 2008, he received $6 Million in compensation. Then, his ex-wife who divorced him while he was in prison sued to get part of the compensation. Let's stop here. She left him when he was at his lowest then came back to enjoy the dividend.

FRANCISTOWN:
case 2: Dale Vince and Kathleen Wyatt were married in 1981, During their marriage they were poor new age travellers living on benefits; there were hardly any significant assets to distribute upon their divorce. Dale and Kathleen separated in 1984 and were finally divorced in 1992. After their divorce, Dale went into business and founded green energy supplier Ecotricity which led to him accumulating an estimated wealth in excess of £100 million.
In 2010, 18 years after they got divorced, Kathleen lodged a claim for financial support; although it was initially blocked by the Court of Appeal, the Supreme Court overturned this ruling and established the precedent that there is no time limit for ex-spouses to make financial claims against one another. However she got a fair share.

FRANCISTOWN:
Do you really think you can tame a woman? ... They say a woman only likes an Alpha male ,well she'll still cheat with a beta dude with a nice "".
They say be a bad boy , ladies love bad boys. But there is no assurance that she wouldn't cheat on the bad boy. Bad boys have been cheated on as well. A woman will cheat on a broke man with a rich man, A woman would still cheat on a rich man with a poor man.
A woman will get bored when you give her sufficient attention, but she'll cheat with her bestie who is always giving her even more attention.
Now my point is, anyone who says he knows how to handle a lady must be kidding, a lady can't even handle herself, how can you possibly handle her?

FRANCISTOWN:
1. There are good women out there : This statement is widely accepted by many people, but this statement is apocryphal, it's a setup. Nobody can really tell wether Mr. A's wife is or not a good woman except Mr. A himself. Mr. A may come out to tell the whole wide world that his wife is the best, it will be very wrong to believe Mr. A , why? Mr. A's statement is subjective. No one lives with Mr. A , even if you did, you do not sleep with Mr. A and his wife on the same bed. But we can all see that Mr. A's wife is very supportive to her husband; Well, that may be one of her good sides that is visible to the world, her unseen sides may be terrible.
Okay! So would Mr. A lie? Well, it's not unlikely. Many people always like to feel superior in things that money can't buy, e. g luck, beauty, fame, influence, popularity e.t.c. Mr. A would come to say his wife is a Godsent even if she was a devil because he wants people to see him a lucky man, so people can reference his marriage and respect him as someone who has the formula for a good marriage. There are many of them here on NL, who are always deceiving themselves

FRANCISTOWN:
From another perspective, it may be because a verismilitude says "Everyone has a good side and a bad side, or hormonal changes and imbalance sh*t" . A man may decide to turn a blind eye to his wife's worst behaviours, she's hostile because she's on her period, she's being disrespectful because she's doubled, so she's still very good anyways. But ask yourself whether she's like that towards her pastor or her boss at work. You are the scapegoat, why? You married her.

FRANCISTOWN:
Also, let's believe there are good manageable women out there. The probability of getting one is like trying to get an event from a min entropy distribution, that's a kind of distribution that's really spread out . The probability is close to 0.0000000001 which can be referred to as a null hypothesis, almost impossible, so, why go for something that the success percentage is not even up to 2%? Would it not be better to dissipate the energy and time into something more productive?
Now that begs the question: If it's almost impossible to get a good wife regardless the formula, why do guys still marry? It's like running around fire expecting not to sweat.

FRANCISTOWN:
2. Just find your bone of bone and flesh of flesh : as a matter of fact, this statement can't be more false in itself. Let's picture this. Let's say there is Mr. A, Mr. B, Mr. C , Mr. D, Mr. E , Mr. F .... Mr. Z. Likewise There is Miss A, Miss B, Miss C, Miss D, Miss E, Miss F..... Miss Z. If Miss A is the bone of bone and flesh of flesh(Bob&FoF) of Mr. A, and Miss B is (Bob&FoF) of Mr. B .... and Miss Z is (Bob&FoF) of Mr. Z . If Mr. A and Mr. B weren't aware that Miss A and Miss B are their (Bob&FoF) respectively and go on to marry Miss C and Miss D respectively. In that case they've married wrongly, so Mr. C and Mr. D will go on to marry different ladies who are not their(BoB&FoF), They'll also marry wrongly and the wives they select belong to another men. And the error goes on like that. Now think about it. If Mr. A dies, becomes a Rev. Father or gets thrown into prison before he marries, will Miss A remain unmarried all her life? No. She'll pick what belongs to another lady and the cycle keeps on like that.

FRANCISTOWN:
3. Marriage frustrates your moral : There is a staff of a higher institution in Nigeria who was arrested for kidnapping, after much torture , the man finally confessed to the crime. He said his family were hungry because ASUU was on strike and they've not been paid for many months. Now let's look at this critically, the moment a man is unable to feed his own home, he immediately starts feeling like sh*t, so men are under constant pressure. The adverse effect of this is that it leads to depression and downheartedness and that's one of the reasons married men die faster than women. If your woman is not looking good enough, people have the husband to blame, if she's skinny, they say the husband is not feeding her even if she eats a truckload of food. Huh , there's a guy who lost his friend to depression and death because the friend couldn't pay the kid's school fees, unknowingly the wife had already paid but she told the school to keep mounting pressures on her husband so she could get a refund.
As a man you can go days without food and still act like nothing is wrong, but when you marry and your wife has not eaten. That itself will fetch an unprecedented level of disrespect that you'll feel less of yourself, then you are bound to act under pressure which may lead to socially undisciplined behaviours.
Why go thru this much stress for someone that can just come up in your face one day and say "What have you done for me, that no one has done" , Pick her luggages and drive out in her new found love's car. That shit will cripple your mentality and will demoralize you. Don't , I say, women are not special, except your mother for the sake of motherhood.

FRANCISTOWN:
4. Women cannot be tamed, and can easily betray you when it is beneficial In Genesis, God warned Adam and Eve of the fruit , God was already the highest authority in Genesis. But when the devil came and showed her an avenue, Eve wanted to be God. Many woves secretly want to be richer than their husbands, so they can control them. If a woman could snitch on God, who do you think you are? Higher than God? Not possible. Now you need to be more careful of your wife is the submissive type. That's the highest level of deception , they learnt that trick from the serpent Genesis 3:1 Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast

efficiencie:


You mumu guys are the cause. You sleep on the laps of Delilah and expect to wake up in Abraham's bosom. You guy deceive yourselves a lot. You turn olosho to girlfriend and from girlfriend to wife and you expect to live happily ever after. You live by liberal rules, throw away timeless norms and values and expect to have a great marriage. Many are married and are enjoying it. Marriage becomes a weapon against you only when you are stupid.

efficiencie:


You mumu guys are the cause. You sleep on the laps of Delilah and expect to wake up in Abraham's bosom. You guy deceive yourselves a lot. You turn olosho to girlfriend and from girlfriend to wife and you expect to live happily ever after. You live by liberal rules, throw away timeless norms and values and expect to have a great marriage. Many are married and are enjoying it. Marriage becomes a weapon against you only when you are stupid.

FRANCISTOWN:

First of all, you live in the world even if you're not of the world


If you'll be interested here is the scriptural perspective on marriage

^{https://www.nairaland.com/7617755/gods-not-marriage-stop-lying}




Many people are depressed today, do you know why? It's not because their lives haven't turned out the way they want, but because they regret the choices they made that made their lives turn our that way. When people are broke, they regret investing in the wrong stocks, or not saving enough, or not working hard enough, or not meeting the right people e.t.c. They regret one or two decisions they've made. And do you know why? Regret is the most painful emotion. When the truth stares up at people in the face, they still end up going for the least favorable option because in their mind they think their case is different thinking they are special, when in fact they are nothing special. Would you say Kenneth Copeland's first and second marriage crashed because he didn't know scriptures enough? Joyce Meyer, Kathryn Kuhlman, Richard Roberts , Chris Okotie, Chris Okafor, Juanita Bynum Chris Oyakhilome and several others didn't pray or didn't know the scriptures enough. Whoa! You must know the scripture in a special kinna way better than those I've mentioned up there because it is unfair to say that God's word has failed in their marriages.

FRANCISTOWN:
MrBrownJay1 I do not know why NL doesn't allow me quote you. But here is my response to your comment.

^{People see life from different perspectives, the fact that an opinion doesn't sit well with you doesn't make it a nonsense, that's how you know people who are not educated and reasonable. I've rebuted every of your points in my earlier comments in different threads. If you wanted a response from me, you need to remove the "Arrant Nonsense" or whatever label you have in your posts and then we'll have a decent discussion.}

MrBrownJay1:


ARRANT NONSENSE #1
while he went to jail, his wife Traci Tucker had to raise their children BY HER SELF with no help from the husband etc...a jury understood that and awarded her just $150K...which is peanuts compared to the $2M lump sum he received AND the $11K he gets monthly (for the rest of his life) as part of his compensation.

MrBrownJay1:

ARRANT NONSENSE #2
no judge gave a ruling on the above case because the dumb husband got scared and insteadof letting the court decide of the outcome, he decided to settle out of court by giving £500k to his ex wife (aka 1% out of his £57m fortune).

MrBrownJay1:

ARRANT NONSENSE #3
can you really tame a man? a woman can be the most beautiful woman on earth and her man will still cheat on her...
- didnt Jay Z cheat on Beyonce?
- didnt Offset cheat on Cardi B?
- didnt Safaree cheat on Nicki Minaj?
- didnt Halle Berry husband cheat on her?
- didnt Tristan Thompson cheat on Khloé Kardashian?
- didnt Kevin Hart cheat on his beautifull wife Eniko Parrish?
- didnt Tiger Woods cheat on Elin Nordegren?
and the sad part of all this is that, they probably cheated with some yeye looking woman that wasnt even half as beautiful/sexy as their partner.

MrBrownJay1:

ARRANT NONSENSE #4
a man can only judge his wife upon their interaction and/or what is visible to him. if she portrays to be a good woman then thats what her husband should believe she is. how can you judge someone on something they havent done/shown?! NOBODY ON THIS EARTH SHOULD BE JUDGED UPON THEIR UNSEEN SIDE.

MrBrownJay1:

ARRANT NONSENSE #5
only a very foolish person would believe that his/her partner has no bad sides. nobody is perfect in this world. everyone has a good and a bad side, the catch is to make sure that your partner has more good than bad and/or that your partner's bad side is not something you are fundamentally against. if your wife's bad side is something that you could forgive then so be it. some men out there would forgive a cheating wife while others wouldnt even forgive a wife that simply raises her voice... to each their own.

MrBrownJay1:

ARRANT NONSENSE #6
the above statement is so deluded.... to imply that all women are unmannageable and therefore there are no good women out there, makes me understand that you either A) hate all women or B) have a vendetta against women because ONE broke your heart.
if you have never met a good woman, then the problem is YOU. therefore you should look within yourself and ask the important question:" what is it about me that attracts all these no good women".