Hi Nairalanders,

Permit me go straight to the point. So I've been praying to God earnestly, with tears since I was 25. Up till now that I'm clocking 30 years this month. It seems God doesn't want to answer my prayers to bless me with my husband.

I have fasted, prayed, cried, sowed seeds, join others to celebrate, sow seed in theirs and yet I'm still not taken seriously.

Honestly, I've begin to lose faith many times and already planning to be a baby mama as soon as I earn more money.

Before the age of 24, I wasn't thinking about marriage. I majorly wanted to be done with school and get a job because I do not want to be a liability to my husband. The whole thing though, there were no serious suitors , but I wasn't worried. I had a boyfriend then of 3 years but I knew we wouldn't end up together because he was too focused on being an Activist, his communication became poor. No matter how I complained about it.

I started to become afraid when I clocked 25 and saw that most of my friends were engaged. It dawned on me that no serious man is seeing me. I believe I am pretty , doesn't dress extravagantly and not materialistic. Infact the other guy I was hoping we would be serious together told me he doesn't have money for marriage, I told him money will come but he insisted he couldn't start a relationship with me. This was when I was 25. At 26 , 27 up till 28, the same reasons I heard.

What exactly is wrong with me?

Finally at 28, I met my current bf. He seemed very serious and into me until I started to dream about marriage and started to talk to him about it. Today we had serious quarrels, he broke up with me just because I wasn't happy with him that he didn't try to greet my mum on her birthday. I thought he was taking things serious after telling me at the beginning of this year that we would have our court wedding this year. He told me he's not ready for any marriage anytime soon, that he can link me with his friend if i still want to marry this year. We have resolved the issue , but I'm not sure I love him anymore. I'm just rolling with it.


I'm clocking 30 years this month and feeling so much like an evening newspaper.

I'm just here feeling bad and dejected. Why does it take so long for God to show me mercy?

I'm somehow regretting not joining my female friends in double dating and then go with who's more serious.

Not one, not two or 3 of my friends did this same thing and they are now all married.

Honestly, I feel so much like a loser. I guess I may eventually just try to get kids of my own once I earn more money.

I feel depressed whenever I see couples together. I've had to rub away from my sanitation group in church because of a particular young couple in my department that I'm beginning to get jealous of. Like , will this ever be me?

I've been attending couples seminar since 2021 and northing yet. Is this how another 5 more years will add to my life and everyone will officially be calling me evening newspaper.

I've told my family to not judge me when I find a way to have my own children cos I'm tired of crying to them and they shouldn't ask me where is my man.

If there's any prophet amongst you. I'd really appreciate a word of prayer. Seems God doesn't care of my feelings.

Please ignore my typo error. I typed from too much pain

Wealthier:
■ Permit me go straight to the point. So I've been praying to God earnestly, with tears since I was 25. Up till now that I'm clocking 30 years this month. It seems God doesn't want to answer my prayers to bless me with my husband.

I have fasted, prayed, cried, sowed seeds, join others to celebrate, sow seed in theirs and yet I'm still not taken seriously.
■ Honestly, I've begin to lose faith many times and already planning to be a baby mama as soon as I earn more money. Before the age of 24, I wasn't thinking about marriage. I majorly wanted to be done with school and get a job because I do not want to be a liability to my husband. The whole thing though, there were no serious suitors , but I wasn't worried. I had a boyfriend then of 3 years but I knew we wouldn't end up together because he was too focused on being an Activist, his communication became poor. No matter how I complained about it. ..

1. God washed His hands off of marriage after Adam blamed God for his sin. Adam said to God that it was the woman that God gave to Him that caused him, Adam, to sin against God. And as such God cursed marriage by placing a curse on woman only in marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16. Adam was the first and last man that God gave a marriage partner to. God removed His hands from the marital decision and affairs of men since then. Jesus Christ affirmed God's judgment when He too declared in Luke 20 vs 34 - 36 that your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God, in addition to proclaiming that rather than God's blessing being on the married, it is instead on those who will choose to live as Eunuchs for the sake of the Kingdom of God - Matthew 19 vs 12.

I say all this to inform you that
▪︎ Your prayer and fasting has indeed been in vain. You ought to have spent that time instead bettering yourself as an individual to better understand the kind of mate you want for yourself and going out there to find exactly that.
▪︎ Your pastors and mogs lied to you regarding God, and also marriage. You should probably realize that they are partly to blame for you wasting your time in meaningless rituals
▪︎ God said He does not regard the prayers of sinners -- not even their petitions for forgiveness of their sins are granted by God. God only answers the prayers of those who are already holy and righteous --- no amount of fasting and praying can get you to become Holy and or righteous. It is all instead through continuous submission and obedience of the teachings and commandments of Jesus Christ instead.

My guess is your desire is not for God and the things of God but mostly for what you can have of the world, and so I suggest you focus your energy on just that and leave God alone because God is only interested in those who will abandon it all in order to follow Him. If marriage is what you want, leave God alone and go out there and find one for yourself.

2. As for your plan to become a baby mama, why not consider adopting a child assuming you have the money to infact care for one?

You are 30 and not a loser. There are women who are 40, single and doing great things. Why not focus on developing yourself and attend good social functions occasionally and you will see what will happen.

God indeed shows mercy but we may not be able to tell him when and how to show mercy.

Take this as a test of faith and keep being you!

Wishing you the best

Is your solely purpose in this life marriage?

Maychang:
■ God indeed shows mercy but we may not be able to tell him when and how to show mercy. Take this as a test of faith and keep being you!

Wishing you the best

1. Please stop confusing OP by dragging the mentions of God into that which has nothing to do with God.


Also reason this....why would God need to "test" the faith of one who does not belong to Him --- one who does not already live in continuous submission and obedience to His teachings and commandments? Do you folks really believe God is some kind of mumu or what? Don't simply swallow all the lies your pastors and mogs feed you regarding God. Jumpstart that brain which God designed and gave you so you can see the lies for what they are, illogical bullsheet?

Wealthier:
Hi Nairalanders,

Permit me go straight to the point. So I've been praying to God earnestly, with tears since I was 25. Up till now that I'm clocking 30 years this month. It seems God doesn't want to answer my prayers to bless me with my husband.

I have fasted, prayed, cried, sowed seeds, join others to celebrate, sow seed in theirs and yet I'm still not taken seriously.

Honestly, I've begin to lose faith many times and already planning to be a baby mama as soon as I earn more money.

Before the age of 24, I wasn't thinking about marriage. I majorly wanted to be done with school and get a job because I do not want to be a liability to my husband. The whole thing though, there were no serious suitors , but I wasn't worried. I had a boyfriend then of 3 years but I knew we wouldn't end up together because he was too focused on being an Activist, his communication became poor. No matter how I complained about it.

I started to become afraid when I clocked 25 and saw that most of my friends were engaged. It dawned on me that no serious man is seeing me. I believe I am pretty , doesn't dress extravagantly and not materialistic. Infact the other guy I was hoping we would be serious together told me he doesn't have money for marriage, I told him money will come but he insisted he couldn't start a relationship with me. This was when I was 25. At 26 , 27 up till 28, the same reasons I heard.

What exactly is wrong with me?

Finally at 28, I met my current bf. He seemed very serious and into me until I started to dream about marriage and started to talk to him about it. Today we had serious quarrels, he broke up with me just because I wasn't happy with him that he didn't try to greet my mum on her birthday. I thought he was taking things serious after telling me at the beginning of this year that we would have our court wedding this year. He told me he's not ready for any marriage anytime soon, that he can link me with his friend if i still want to marry this year. We have resolved the issue , but I'm not sure I love him anymore. I'm just rolling with it.


I'm clocking 30 years this month and feeling so much like an evening newspaper.

I'm just here feeling bad and dejected. Why does it take so long for God to show me mercy?

I'm somehow regretting not joining my female friends in double dating and then go with who's more serious.

Not one, not two or 3 of my friends did this same thing and they are now all married.

Honestly, I feel so much like a loser. I guess I may eventually just try to get kids of my own once I earn more money.

I feel depressed whenever I see couples together. I've had to rub away from my sanitation group in church because of a particular young couple in my department that I'm beginning to get jealous of. Like , will this ever be me?

I've been attending couples seminar since 2021 and northing yet. Is this how another 5 more years will add to my life and everyone will officially be calling me evening newspaper.

I've told my family to not judge me when I find a way to have my own children cos I'm tired of crying to them and they shouldn't ask me where is my man.

If there's any prophet amongst you. I'd really appreciate a word of prayer. Seems God doesn't care of my feelings.

Please ignore my typo error. I typed from too much pain

can we meet?

Op will you marry me? i no get shi shi but i go love you like say na la la land we deh act

My sis don't relent,God will do it for u.

well I would have debunked this story if not that the account wasn't newly created... anyways regardless of whether what you wrote is true or not, I still feel you're leaving some information out about you that doesn't make men approach you...

or you were among those who does shakara unnecessarily when men approach them or trying to talk to them, now it has dawned on you that time is no longer on your side... and please don't say God doesn't answer prayers... even Abraham who's regarded as God's friend bore a child in his old age after many years of prayers and fasting.. if you're true to yourself, or you're a woman of dignity and you didn't engage in acts of immorality when you were at your youthful phase, God will come through for you...

now read what you wrote, you're letting something inconsequential cause a rift in your relationship.. someone you're not married to, you're already fighting with him over not wishing your mom happy birthday? what is wrong with ladies and self-deception sef?? shey before you met him your mother doesn't celebrate birthday abi? abi which kind wahala be this? does he wishing your mom happy birthday or not changes the way he acts around her? you should only be concerned about if her respects her or not, not because of issues like this... seems you have this kind of bossy attitude that put men off, and these attitudes is mostly prevalent among career women because they believe they've arrived... I'm sorry for you...

no matter how feminists make it seem, marriage will always be the topmost priority for women... a woman will only say she doesn't need a man when she can't find one...it is not out of willingness to stay away from men... at this stage, your desperation to get married increases and your friends being married and enjoying marriage will also add to the desperation... at this stage, any man that lies to you about marriage, you'll quickly offer yourself to him... this makes you super vulnerable... the more a woman ages, the more vulnerable she becomes when it comes to relationship... when you become clingy and desperate and you also don't have a good attitude, men will avoid you like a plague, they will just use you as a cum bag...

reality dawn on women late, while on men, early.. this is because of the hard life most men are subjected to at early stage... they've experienced the harsh realities of life and this make them decision conscious.. but for women, due to self-deception, they regret their actions later in life... OP, at this stage, only God and you refining your personality can save you..

Kobojunkie:
[s]1. God washed His hands off of marriage after Adam blamed God for his sin. Adam said to God that it was the woman that God gave to Him that caused him, Adam, to sin against God. And as such God cursed marriage by placing a curse on woman only in marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16. Adam was the first and last man that God gave a marriage partner to. God removed His hands from the marital decision and affairs of men since then. Jesus Christ affirmed God's judgment when He too declared in Luke 20 vs 34 - 36 that your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God, in addition to proclaiming that rather than God's blessing being on the married, it is instead on those who will choose to live as Eunuchs for the sake of the Kingdom of God - Matthew 19 vs 12.

I say all this to inform you that
▪︎ Your prayer and fasting has indeed been in vain. You ought to have spent that time instead bettering yourself as an individual to better understand the kind of mate you want for yourself and going out there to find exactly that.
▪︎ Your pastors and mogs lied to you regarding God, and also marriage. You should probably realize that they are partly to blame for you wasting your time in meaningless rituals
▪︎ God said He does not regard the prayers of sinners -- not even their petitions for forgiveness of their sins are granted by God. God only answers the prayers of those who are already holy and righteous --- no amount of fasting and praying can get you to become Holy and or righteous. It is all instead through continuous submission and obedience of the teachings and commandments of Jesus Christ instead.

My guess is your desire is not for God and the things of God but mostly for what you can have of the world, and so I suggest you focus your energy on just that and leave God alone because God is only interested in those who will abandon it all in order to follow Him. If marriage is what you want, leave God alone and go out there and find one for yourself.

2. As for your plan to become a baby mama, why not consider adopting a child assuming you have the money to infact care for one? [/s]

Trash upon trash.

TheFreshVanilla:
■ Trash upon trash.

Of course it is trash to you religious folks who don't even know what is in fact written in the book you like to carry around with you.

Read the very insensitive trash you wrote again.

Kobojunkie:
Of course it is trash to you religious folks who don't even know what is in fact written in the book you like to carry around with you.

TheFreshVanilla:
■ Read the very insensitive trash you wrote again.

1. That "Insensitive" trash happens to be taken right from Scripture which many of you claim to believe in.

Rokiat:
Is your solely purpose in this life marriage?

Seems like you have given up on marriage already

Wealthier:
Hi Nairalanders,

Permit me go straight to the point. So I've been praying to God earnestly, with tears since I was 25. Up till now that I'm clocking 30 years this month. It seems God doesn't want to answer my prayers to bless me with my husband.

I have fasted, prayed, cried, sowed seeds, join others to celebrate, sow seed in theirs and yet I'm still not taken seriously.

Honestly, I've begin to lose faith many times and already planning to be a baby mama as soon as I earn more money.

Before the age of 24, I wasn't thinking about marriage. I majorly wanted to be done with school and get a job because I do not want to be a liability to my husband. The whole thing though, there were no serious suitors , but I wasn't worried. I had a boyfriend then of 3 years but I knew we wouldn't end up together because he was too focused on being an Activist, his communication became poor. No matter how I complained about it.

I started to become afraid when I clocked 25 and saw that most of my friends were engaged. It dawned on me that no serious man is seeing me. I believe I am pretty , doesn't dress extravagantly and not materialistic. Infact the other guy I was hoping we would be serious together told me he doesn't have money for marriage, I told him money will come but he insisted he couldn't start a relationship with me. This was when I was 25. At 26 , 27 up till 28, the same reasons I heard.

What exactly is wrong with me?

Finally at 28, I met my current bf. He seemed very serious and into me until I started to dream about marriage and started to talk to him about it. Today we had serious quarrels, he broke up with me just because I wasn't happy with him that he didn't try to greet my mum on her birthday. I thought he was taking things serious after telling me at the beginning of this year that we would have our court wedding this year. He told me he's not ready for any marriage anytime soon, that he can link me with his friend if i still want to marry this year. We have resolved the issue , but I'm not sure I love him anymore. I'm just rolling with it.


I'm clocking 30 years this month and feeling so much like an evening newspaper.

I'm just here feeling bad and dejected. Why does it take so long for God to show me mercy?

I'm somehow regretting not joining my female friends in double dating and then go with who's more serious.

Not one, not two or 3 of my friends did this same thing and they are now all married.

Honestly, I feel so much like a loser. I guess I may eventually just try to get kids of my own once I earn more money.

I feel depressed whenever I see couples together. I've had to rub away from my sanitation group in church because of a particular young couple in my department that I'm beginning to get jealous of. Like , will this ever be me?

I've been attending couples seminar since 2021 and northing yet. Is this how another 5 more years will add to my life and everyone will officially be calling me evening newspaper.

I've told my family to not judge me when I find a way to have my own children cos I'm tired of crying to them and they shouldn't ask me where is my man.

If there's any prophet amongst you. I'd really appreciate a word of prayer. Seems God doesn't care of my feelings.

Please ignore my typo error. I typed from too much pain

lets meet,i stay in port Harcourt. Where do you stay?

Maychang:
You are 30 and not a loser. There are women who are 40, single and doing great things. Why not focus on developing yourself and attend good social functions occasionally and you will see what will happen.

God indeed shows mercy but we may not be able to tell him when and how to show mercy.

Take this as a test of faith and keep being you!

Wishing you the best

I guess that's what it is then. Let me take my mind off totally. I'm tired.

Jflex07:
lets meet,i stay in port Harcourt. Where do you stay?

I reside in Lagos

Wealthier:


I reside in Lagos

Oh,thats too far for me.. All the best dear.

Reminderz:
well I would have debunked this story if not that the account wasn't newly created... anyways regardless of whether what you wrote is true or not, I still feel you're leaving some information out about you that doesn't make men approach you...

or you were among those who does shakara unnecessarily when men approach them or trying to talk to them, now it has dawned on you that time is no longer on your side... and please don't say God doesn't answer prayers... even Abraham who's regarded as God's friend bore a child in his old age after many years of prayers and fasting.. if you're true to yourself, or you're a woman of dignity and you didn't engage in acts of immorality when you were at your youthful phase, God will come through for you...

now read what you wrote, you're letting something inconsequential cause a rift in your relationship.. someone you're not married to, you're already fighting with him over not wishing your mom happy birthday? what is wrong with ladies and self-deception sef?? shey before you met him your mother doesn't celebrate birthday abi? abi which kind wahala be this? does he wishing your mom happy birthday or not changes the way he acts around her? you should only be concerned about if her respects her or not, not because of issues like this... seems you have this kind of bossy attitude that put men off, and these attitudes is mostly prevalent among career women because they believe they've arrived... I'm sorry for you...

no matter how feminists make it seem, marriage will always be the topmost priority for women... a woman will only say she doesn't need a man when she can't find one...it is not out of willingness to stay away from men... at this stage, your desperation to get married increases and your friends being married and enjoying marriage will also add to the desperation... at this stage, any man that lies to you about marriage, you'll quickly offer yourself to him... this makes you super vulnerable... the more a woman ages, the more vulnerable she becomes when it comes to relationship... when you become clingy and desperate and you also don't have a good attitude, men will avoid you like a plague, they will just use you as a cum bag...

reality dawn on women late, while on men, early.. this is because of the hard life most men are subjected to at early stage... they've experienced the harsh realities of life and this make them decision conscious.. but for women, due to self-deception, they regret their actions later in life... OP, at this stage, only God and you refining your personality can save you..

Oh, if we're going down memory lane. This same current bf made me attend his cousin's introduction

Also, he started making me talk to his dad anytime he comes to visit him. Maybe because his dad always asked of me. He dad is around again now, guess what, he suddenly would love to speak with my mum. He didn't think this way all this while.

I feel a little skeptical about sharing the chat screenshot here in case he comes on nairaland.

Wealthier:


Oh, if we're going down memory lane. This same current bf made me attend his cousin's introduction

Also, he started making me talk to his dad anytime he comes to visit him. Maybe because his dad always asked of me. He dad is around again now, guess what, he suddenly would love to speak with my mum. He didn't think this way all this while.

I feel a little skeptical about sharing the chat screenshot here in case he comes on nairaland.

So I want to understand, if he was giving me family relationship vibes. Why not complete it

Reminderz:
well I would have debunked this story if not that the account wasn't newly created... anyways regardless of whether what you wrote is true or not, I still feel you're leaving some information out about you that doesn't make men approach you...

or you were among those who does shakara unnecessarily when men approach them or trying to talk to them, now it has dawned on you that time is no longer on your side... and please don't say God doesn't answer prayers... even Abraham who's regarded as God's friend bore a child in his old age after many years of prayers and fasting.. if you're true to yourself, or you're a woman of dignity and you didn't engage in acts of immorality when you were at your youthful phase, God will come through for you...

now read what you wrote, you're letting something inconsequential cause a rift in your relationship.. someone you're not married to, you're already fighting with him over not wishing your mom happy birthday? what is wrong with ladies and self-deception sef?? shey before you met him your mother doesn't celebrate birthday abi? abi which kind wahala be this? does he wishing your mom happy birthday or not changes the way he acts around her? you should only be concerned about if her respects her or not, not because of issues like this... seems you have this kind of bossy attitude that put men off, and these attitudes is mostly prevalent among career women because they believe they've arrived... I'm sorry for you...

no matter how feminists make it seem, marriage will always be the topmost priority for women... a woman will only say she doesn't need a man when she can't find one...it is not out of willingness to stay away from men... at this stage, your desperation to get married increases and your friends being married and enjoying marriage will also add to the desperation... at this stage, any man that lies to you about marriage, you'll quickly offer yourself to him... this makes you super vulnerable... the more a woman ages, the more vulnerable she becomes when it comes to relationship... when you become clingy and desperate and you also don't have a good attitude, men will avoid you like a plague, they will just use you as a cum bag...

reality dawn on women late, while on men, early.. this is because of the hard life most men are subjected to at early stage... they've experienced the harsh realities of life and this make them decision conscious.. but for women, due to self-deception, they regret their actions later in life... OP, at this stage, only God and you refining your personality can save you..

I have accepted my fate okay. I hate that someone would love to have a family and you tag me as desperate. Everyone is thinking I'm desperate. But when I go ahead to have kids on my own because noone would take me seriously, I know the new names I will be called. And if I decide to be by myself, I will still be called names.

Wealthier:


I have accepted my fate okay. I hate that someone would love to have a family and you tag me as desperate. Everyone is thinking I'm desperate. But when I go ahead to have kids on my own because noone would take me seriously, I know the new names I will be called. And if I decide to be by myself, I will still be called names.

All what I wrote about if you have a bad character that puts men off or if you have done some immoral stuffs at the past, or if you've done unnecessary shakara back then, you didn't point that out to see where you erred so you can correct yourself... the thing is that you don't want to take responsibility, and you're looking for someone to blame... you're only deceiving yourself further...

I said you being desperate started kicking in when reality has dawned on you... I didn't say that you wanting to have a family is you being desperate, but is it now that reality has dawned on you after wasting valuable time... the urge to start a family at this stage of your life will make you display some kind of attitude that signals desperation to the men that approaches you and the bad men among them will do what they can to just bed you only to dump you later....

Wealthier:


I have accepted my fate okay. I hate that someone would love to have a family and you tag me as desperate. Everyone is thinking I'm desperate. But when I go ahead to have kids on my own because noone would take me seriously, I know the new names I will be called. And if I decide to be by myself, I will still be called names.

Do you know that God loves you so much, and that's why He has prevented/protected you from marrying yet?
Be of good cheer!, what you consider shame is God working out a glorious package for you.
I was particularly excited when you said youre a worker (sanitation/sanctuary cleaner) at that.
Rejoice, yours will be a special testimony.

Some discussions are beyond NL.
Perhaps we can arrange a phone call some time.

Wealthier:


So I want to understand, if he was giving me family relationship vibes. Why not complete it

remember, if a man doesn't see you as someone he can wife up, there's no way you can change his mind no matter how kind you're to him... it also depends on how you present yourself to him or how you relate with him.

This is the reality of every woman above 28 and unmarried.. no matter how much they pretend

I no no wetin to talk sef . Thank God im a guy sha

Op say no to fornication sha

pressplay411:


Do you know that God loves you so much, and that's why He has prevented/protected you from marrying yet?
Be of good cheer!, what you consider shame is God working out a glorious package for you.
I was particularly excited when you said youre a worker (sanitation/sanctuary cleaner) at that.
Rejoice, yours will be a special testimony.

Some discussions are beyond NL.
Perhaps we can arrange a phone call some time.

Hmm. Thanks I appreciate. I've can talk

Wealthier:


Hmm. Thanks I appreciate. I've can talk

Good evening.

■ Do you know that God loves you so much, and that's why He has prevented/protected you from marrying yet? Be of good cheer!, what you consider shame is God working out a glorious package for you. I was particularly excited when you said youre a worker (sanitation/sanctuary cleaner) at that. Rejoice, yours will be a special testimony. Some discussions are beyond NL. Perhaps we can arrange a phone call some time.

Wealthier, Jesus Christ made clear that God's Love is only for those who live their existence in obedience of God's teachings and commandments. He also indicated that God also only loves those who do same - John 14 vs 15 - 23 and John 15 vs 9 - 11. Men, feed you lies using the name of God in order to further their own delusions regarding the person of God. By recruiting yet one more into their same delusion, they convince themselves that there is truth in hanging on a little longer to it.

Now, is a good time for you to cut yourself away from all religious delusions so you can instead live your life to the fullest and without regret.

Autobot05:
This is the reality of every woman above 28 and unmarried.. no matter how much they pretend

I no no wetin to talk sef . Thank God im a guy sha

Op say no to fornication sha

I thank God I'm a guy too.

I just pity any man that will approach sis OP, they're going to pay for the sins of others and the pressure to marry is going to heavy on them.

But I love how these girls always conveniently remove the part where they took some guys love and attention for granted for one reason or another.

Wealthier:
Hi Nairalanders,

Permit me go straight to the point. So I've been praying to God earnestly, with tears since I was 25. Up till now that I'm clocking 30 years this month. It seems God doesn't want to answer my prayers to bless me with my husband.

I have fasted, prayed, cried, sowed seeds, join others to celebrate, sow seed in theirs and yet I'm still not taken seriously.

Honestly, I've begin to lose faith many times and already planning to be a baby mama as soon as I earn more money.

Before the age of 24, I wasn't thinking about marriage. I majorly wanted to be done with school and get a job because I do not want to be a liability to my husband. The whole thing though, there were no serious suitors , but I wasn't worried. I had a boyfriend then of 3 years but I knew we wouldn't end up together because he was too focused on being an Activist, his communication became poor. No matter how I complained about it.

I started to become afraid when I clocked 25 and saw that most of my friends were engaged. It dawned on me that no serious man is seeing me. I believe I am pretty , doesn't dress extravagantly and not materialistic. Infact the other guy I was hoping we would be serious together told me he doesn't have money for marriage, I told him money will come but he insisted he couldn't start a relationship with me. This was when I was 25. At 26 , 27 up till 28, the same reasons I heard.

What exactly is wrong with me?

Finally at 28, I met my current bf. He seemed very serious and into me until I started to dream about marriage and started to talk to him about it. Today we had serious quarrels, he broke up with me just because I wasn't happy with him that he didn't try to greet my mum on her birthday. I thought he was taking things serious after telling me at the beginning of this year that we would have our court wedding this year. He told me he's not ready for any marriage anytime soon, that he can link me with his friend if i still want to marry this year. We have resolved the issue , but I'm not sure I love him anymore. I'm just rolling with it.


I'm clocking 30 years this month and feeling so much like an evening newspaper.

I'm just here feeling bad and dejected. Why does it take so long for God to show me mercy?

I'm somehow regretting not joining my female friends in double dating and then go with who's more serious.

Not one, not two or 3 of my friends did this same thing and they are now all married.

Honestly, I feel so much like a loser. I guess I may eventually just try to get kids of my own once I earn more money.

I feel depressed whenever I see couples together. I've had to rub away from my sanitation group in church because of a particular young couple in my department that I'm beginning to get jealous of. Like , will this ever be me?

I've been attending couples seminar since 2021 and northing yet. Is this how another 5 more years will add to my life and everyone will officially be calling me evening newspaper.

I've told my family to not judge me when I find a way to have my own children cos I'm tired of crying to them and they shouldn't ask me where is my man.

If there's any prophet amongst you. I'd really appreciate a word of prayer. Seems God doesn't care of my feelings.

Please ignore my typo error. I typed from too much pain

E go beta..

Real men are scarce these days...

Although you have poor choices when it comes choosing a man..

This your current ex bf is a foolish guy...

Persephone1:
I'm laughing out loud at those "Thank God I'm a guy crew" lol as if Men are not just as desperate for marriage as women. Lol don't worry by the time you are 30-34 without prospective partners you will understand better.

Dear Op, please take off your mind from marriage for now and focus on other things. Go out, network, be of value. Most times when you try too hard, you miss it. Reflect on your previous relationships, learn from them , keep growing to become a better person. Please just be happy and live life. If you can change environment, please do too
Be happy.

With time, the right one will come.

The game is rigged to favor men..

34 years old guys na Dem be hot cake for mkt..