advanceDNA:


How does this change the fact that men and women love sex and love variety...?? Dialogue with you is very weird... u dialogue like u want to win something....

DaddyCoool:


You are the one obviously weird and talking like you are loko. One minute you are arguing vociferously, next minute you are saying "yawn... I'm tired", instead of simply conceding the point!
Dialogue should have a point. The point of this thread is NOT wether women enjoy sex, the question is, "in view of recent occurrences, are men polygamous by nature?" Your answer is, women also enjoy sex! Kolo!

DaddyCoool:




See below
Nature punishes a woman for sleeping with a new partner - and rewards a man!

advanceDNA:


Conceding?? Are we in a competition.?? Na women also enjoy sex be my only point since morning?? U see why dialogue with u is weird.....Baba.... dey go abeg....

MySolace:

Uncle, d pics doesn't butress d scenario here.

Dat a guy gives out more sperm wen he meets new partner, or that sperm freak out vagina has nothing to do with issue at hand.

From d explanation, d females involved feels nothing about d implications of sleeping with new partner.

Let me explain myself using example; even wen much candy could be harmful to children, children feel nothing bad about wanting more of it... So, likely wit women, even wen multiple sperms can affect dia vaginal metabolism, dey likely don't feel/know d health implications.

U're rather talking about health implications of multiple sperms (partner) and not d sexual psychological habit of women.

The real discussion we're having is that a woman can desire u sexually as a man wen u must've satisfied her well. And not because of ur sperm. Sperm ke! So, wen u have a protected sex with a gal, she won't desire u, right? Since ur sperm has no contact with her vagina.

Dey play

DaddyCoool:


You are not only arguing out of point, you're also lying about it!
I made the simple observation that due to the the different biologies it gave them, Nature has made it more beneficial to men to be polygamous, evolution-wise, than women.
You jumped in with this statement verbatim, like someone loko:
men are not sexually different from women.... u are just choosing to see what u like...!

Kelechi009:


1. The women who sleep with men & pay, aren't they older women who have no options?
2. Have you ever seen a young beautiful woman in her 20s paying a man to sleep with it?
3. Who has paid to sleep with you? How many of them?

If a lady is seducing you, It means you are the best she is attracted to. To HER, you're the best she is seeing. If other men come toasting her, she will not allow them. There is a difference.

The reason why Female prostitution sells & male prostitution does NOT sell is because MEN can sleep with anything! Women don't do that!

Even if a lady just want sex, she will still NOT sleep with you if she does NOT find you WORTHY. You have to be worthy of her body, there is a big value on it. Except she is prostitute or hookup girl.

When a man wants sex, he goes out to pick any nonsense random girl. Women don't do this, except for few exceptions.

lawani:


Prostitutes retire, so men don't just sleep with anything. Hundreds of prostitutes sleep with anything. Men don't do that. What I agree is men wants more of pleasure while women want more of reward or payment. However women engage in all kinds of cheating. With houseboys, security men, husband's younger brother, male subordinate and other random people

advanceDNA:


What exactly is wrong??
So women are not biological creatures that want sex..... women dont want variety...
Women are not driven by urge and impules??

Be deceiving urself...the day u find out ur babe fvks 3 dícks at the same time...u will know men and women are not sexually different.... society only curbed their drive and forced certain discipline on them by slut-shaming

Kelechi009:


Your response couldn't even counter any of the facts I laid out. You are just rambling.

I have given you several examples, I even gave you an example with Hypergamy that is constant in every civilisation but you don't have any response.

I know you can't because they are Facts.

DaddyCoool:


Those are outliers. The vast majority of women, no matter how much money they have, want an exclusive monogamous relationship with ONE man they are attracted to. Men are wired differently

advanceDNA:


I asked u how i was wrong?? If u dont want to answer thats fine....but expecting me to counter ur point...why.??.....if u are wrong i would counter it...they are just additional point to how women behave...

Why do u pple dialogue here like u have some prize to win....i dont get it...

Franklin31:


It doesn't mean they are not attracted to other men when they are in a relationship. The patriarchy gives men advantage in marriage issues, that is why it seems that women are always satisfied with one man. The truth is that, as far as the patriarchal society is concerned, a woman cannot afford to abuse her marriage; the consequences are far greater than those of a man abusing his marriage. A rich woman who wants a sexual relationship that is not marriage (and she is the one who provides for the man) can easily get tired of the man and want a change.

Oyindamolah:
Men are naturally non-monogamous.
Men are also naturally monogamous.

Women are naturally non-monogamous.
Women are also naturally monogamous.

The question has no yes-or-no answer because the question itself is not well formed. It contains a false assumption: that there is one way people “naturally” are.

There isn’t.

There are evo psych “just so” stories passed around on pseudoscience Web sites about how men evolved to spread their seed and women evolved to seek the best man and so men are naturally non-monogamous and women are naturally monogamous and blah blah blah whatever, but it’s nonsense. I’ve never met a real evolutionary biologist who believes that.

The fact is, there is no one single reproductive strategy that is “best.” Every strategy involves tradeoffs.

And human beings—well, human beings are incredibly diverse and variable. That variability is our secret sauce. As much as our opposing thumbs and our big brains and our cooking fires and our tool use and our language, the fact that we have an incredible, unprecedented range of individual variability and an astonishing adaptability is what has allowed us to dominate the planet.

Different strategies involve different tradeoffs, so the human answer to that is…we employ all of them!

Stable pair bonds and cooperative child rearing? We do it! Promiscuity and its attendant genetic variability? We do it! Asexual individuals who help through kin selection? Yep, we do that too! Cooperative societies that provide a stable foundation for serial monogamy and extended kin groups? Sure, we’ll do that too! You name a strategy, there’s a human somewhere who uses it. We haven’t met a reproductive strategy we don’t employ.

All of this is natural. Monogamy. Non-monogamy. Serial monogamy. Kin selection. It is all natural for us.

Asking “are men naturally polygamous?” is like asking “Do men naturally have brown eyes?” Yes. And men also naturally have blue eyes. And hazel eyes. And green eyes. And gray eyes. And black eyes. There is no one eye color that men naturally have. There is no one reproductive strategy that men naturally use.

That’s humanity. We are large. We contain multitudes.

lavylilly:
Multiple signs show that humans are mostly monogamous by design. Males and females are roughly the same size (the small difference seems to have been inherited from Australopithecus, and has decreased steadily since), we seem to mostly share the inherent emotion of jealousy which makes no sense for us to have otherwise, most human societies have been monogamous, and so on.

A very intelligent analysis that deviates from this mentality imposed by societal norms.

But humans are also infinitely inventive, and in situations with shortages of men or women, societies have adapted and allowed polygamy or polyandry; up until very recently, it has been much more difficult or even outright impossible to be successful outside a family, so an excess of either sex was a problem to be solved.

And, of course, some people are born without any sense of sexual jealousy; those are today known as polyamorous. It seems to work fine, too, so that's obviously also part of our nature.

There were men who decided to be monogamous. They would have been religious men, so the the impetus would have been religious in nature.

My answer is based on the facts that:

1. Historically, men in general would never have allowed a woman to make this or any other decision, most especially if it affected the law or their sex life.
2. Religion has historically been behind most cultural ideologies.
So, to answer the question, many but not all human beings may desire to have sex with more than one person. Many but not all men may wish to have more than one spouse.

Men, who historically were in charge of everything while women stayed home, chose to institute monogamy. Other men decided to move their families into these societies. Sometimes human beings had these ideologies forced upon them by other men. As time passed, monogamy became the cultural norm for many nations and states.

1Sharon:


Don't try and use semantics to win an argument. We all know what marriage is.

Polygamous means related to polygamy and its the adjective of polygamy.

Polygamy means marriage to more than one woman. No pluses or subtractions.

The term you are looking for is promiscuity and not polygamy.

Go and marry more than one woman first and come back and talk about how "polygamous by nature" you are.

Kelechi009:


You are wrong. You claiming men & women are sexually the same is wrong. Women only give their body what they consider BEST person, while men give theirs to every one woman available they see.

I just explained that men want more women (Quantity) and they really don't care about the quality of those women, therefore they are polygamous.

Meanwhile women on the other hand want the best man (Quality), and they don't care if 1,000 other women are dying to get that one man, they will also fight other women for it.

Kelechi009:


The reason why a woman would sleep with any of those people is because they already have comfort of their husband(financial security), therefore looking for attention & sex which is missing in their marriage. Once that husband throws them out, those women never return to those houseboys, security men etc. They begin to seek men who can give them more than just dick.

Also anytime you see a woman sleeping with houseboys, security men etc. It is because the husband is NOT satisfying her. No attention, no sex.

Meanwhile men on the other hand sleep around whether they are satisfied on not. It is like a thrill to them, like ad adventure!

Not the same thing at all.

advanceDNA:


Lol.....Lying....?? Lying About what??
I jumped on and said only the above??
Ok ooo ..if thats all i said... no wahala...

Ive told u b4...dialogue with u is weird... someone else already told u something similar

Franklin31:


It doesn't mean they are not attracted to other men when they are in a relationship. The patriarchy gives men advantage in marriage issues, that is why it seems that women are always satisfied with one man. The truth is that, as far as the patriarchal society is concerned, a woman cannot afford to abuse her marriage; the consequences are far greater than those of a man abusing his marriage. A rich woman who wants a sexual relationship that is not marriage (and she is the one who provides for the man) can easily get tired of the man and want a change.

Kobojunkie:
They don't cheat for money. Rather the money is the additional benefit they obtain from their sideguys

HRprof:
■ You did not answer my question.
Anyway let me tell you the reason men cheat
1. Men have high libido’s than women (that’s why they beg for sex and prostitution’ business is to sell it to men
2. Men are waya to test new thing that’s why they are attracted to different women.
3. Men move by what they see while women move by what she hear, that why men got lost just seeing a half naked woman while women move by the lies men tell them to open leg.

So in a nutshell this contributes why they say men are polygamous in nature.

Samantha124:
Sure, women want an exclusive monogamous relationship, but you'll be shocked to find out that most of those women in long distance relationships or marriages also have side dudes and in most cases, their boyfriends or husbands never get to find out about it.

Most men who are in long distance relationships or marriages keep fathering children that are not biologically theirs...

So if men are polygamous in nature, then it also means that women are polyandrous in nature too and you guys should respect that...

Franklin31:


I agree with you. We are all animals, and we know that a female animal can mate with any available male. So, females are also polygamous in nature.

Kelechi009:


You are wrong. You claiming men & women are sexually the same is wrong. Women only give their body what they consider BEST person, while men give theirs to every one woman available they see.

I just explained that men want more women (Quantity) and they really don't care about the quality of those women, therefore they are polygamous.

Meanwhile women on the other hand want the best man (Quality), and they don't care if 1,000 other women are dying to get that one man, they will also fight other women for it.

DaddyCoool:


Another lie. Show who else told me something similar.
That was the conclusion of your statement - I never said that's all you said!

Kobojunkie:
Every point you've listed above goes to confirm that what such men lack is self-discipline and self-control, the same traits missing from those who eventually resort to addiction of one kind or another.

HRprof:
■ Self discipline are for those who doesn’t womanize. Cheating is a different thing. Womanizers goes after every woman that comes their way while other men cheat once a while and occasionally when opportunities present himself.
■ Any married men who don’t cheat is either he is broke or the opportunity hasn’t presented itself that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love his wife. Men cheat for no reason.

Kobojunkie:
That makes no sense. Self-discipline and self-control are for every human being. Even animals in the animal kingdom practice it. It constitutes the difference between foolishness judgment and wise judgment.

2. That is the epitome of foolishness! It is like saying you drink water for no reason at all.

DaddyCoool:


Those are outliers. The vast majority of women, no matter how much money they have, want an exclusive monogamous relationship with ONE man they are attracted to. Men are wired differently

advanceDNA:

Sigh.... i said men and women are sexually the same i.e. driven by urge and desire for pleasure,...whats wrong in that.??..

U mentioned hypergamy...did i say u are wrong...its an additional factor to me...because women fvck men of hogher class and also fvck men of equal and lower class all the time when they do need sex more than money..which is what i mentiined earlier about basic biological urge...

See...ur urge to make this dialogue a competition made u ignore my context....i am not in competition with you... u dint have to agree with me....u dont have to invalidate a comment u domt understand just because u want to be the onky one thats right....