Hi everyone, this is something I have observed for some time now.
Ever since my last relationship in 2021 I have found myself not loving any lady. I was emotionally invested in that relationship makachi.

I can slide into a lady DM and start a conversation. Interesting conversation, but I get easily wearied. I will just lose interest. I have had the opportunity to meeting interesting dates, but I easily pull out the plug .

And I have been seriously searching for a partner ohhh. This is not funny Man.

One lady that I have genuinely open up to love said she isn't ready for emotional relationship now cos she want to focus on her final exams coming up . She is begging me to wait for her till December. I like her cos we are best of friends now. But as it stands now, I don dey develop cold feet towards her.

I honestly don't want to come to terms that I won't find a lady to love cos I seriously want to settle down.

I am 34. Working and doing well for myself .
Is there something I can do to overcome this ?

I seriously want to open up and love somebody daughter

Teei

Seek therapy ...



Wittyness

youre commitment phobic.

Also if youre addicted to porn you need to drop that habit.

Rayban26:
youre commitment phobic.

Also if youre addicted to porn you need to drop that habit.

Don't even watch that shit.
I truly love commitment . Once I am into you, I will be committed.
But the problem is, I find it hard Loving .

I have had ladies who gave their all just to be with me, but I couldn't sustain it cos I am one person who can't pretend to love someone .

What if you're gay but in denial?

I mean coming from a country like yours, it'd be understandable.

SteveDGreat:


Don't even watch that shit.
I truly love commitment . Once I am into you, I will be committed.
But the problem is, I find it hard Loving .

I have had ladies who gave their all just to be with me, but I couldn't sustain it cos I am one person who can't pretend to love someone .

Tor. Maybe they are not the ones for you. Ask God to lead you to the woman meant for you because marriage is not just childsplay. its tied to your destiny.

Samantha124:
What if you're gay but in denial?

I mean coming from a country like yours, it'd be understandable.

Hahahaha. I can't be a gay. Tufiakwa.
That shit irritate me. I cant even see a sec of it in a movie.

Don't even go dia. I love women die

Rayban26:


Tor. Maybe they are not the ones for you. Ask God to lead you to the woman meant for you because marriage is not just childsplay. its tied to your destiny.

Maybe. The ones I have genuinely open up to love is either they are not interested or not ready like the one I am currently in friendship now. I am sure if this one is ready now, we will marry, but she is not. She is asking for time and this is making me get weary.

As for prayer , I don pray ohhh. Wrote it down in my diary.

OP, You have Not met the Right Lady yet! 🤨

When LOVE comes to you, you will Recognize and Feel it!😊😊

You need to Keep on Searching and You will find her!

It's like you are DESTINED to Marry @36+!🤔

if you find it hard loving a woman then you are good shape , better than millions of simps that are currently sharing their girlfriends without their knowledge

I have a friend like that... In the beginning I could tell that there was something gayish about him but I didn't confront him because I didn't want to sound rude.

I'd deliberately bring up discussions about gays just to see his reaction and he hated everything that had to do with gays and couldn't even stand the sight of them.

After he graduated, he moved to another province and started working as a chef... He slowly started opening up, one day he called and told me everything... Apparently the community he's from still stigmatize gays and lesbians... I just laughed and told him that I knew from the first day I saw him that he was gay.

But anyways, if you are indeed straight and like women, then that's good...

SteveDGreat:


Hahahaha. I can't be a gay. Tufiakwa.
That shit irritate me. I cant even see a sec of it in a movie.

Don't even go dia. I love women die

the breakfast wey the girl serve really touch you na why, it's an important phase you have to go through as a man to really understand what relationship is all about and not to invest irrationally... it will open your inner eyes and make you sharpen your senses next time... once bitten, twice shy...

you're a man, you're not supposed to let emotions cloud your sense of reasoning... guard your heart ruthlessly and only give your commitment to the woman who has proved herself to you and have tangible thing to offer you, or else, she will serve you another breakfast and that will shatter you completely...

Samantha124:
I have a friend like that... In the beginning I could tell that there was something gayish about him but I didn't confront him because I didn't want to sound rude.

I'd deliberately bring up discussions about gays just to see his reaction and he hated everything that had to do with gays and couldn't even stand the sight of them.

After he graduated, he moved to another province and started working as a chef... He slowly started opening up, one day he called and told me everything... Apparently the community he's from still stigmatize gays and lesbians... I just laughed and told him that I knew from the first day I saw him that he was gay.

But anyways, if you are indeed straight and like women, then that's good...

You can't gaslight him.
He doesn't love you dirty skanky Naija bitches and that's that!

End of story.

SteveDGreat:
Hi everyone, this is something I have observed for some time now.
Ever since my last relationship in 2021 I have found myself not loving any lady. I was emotionally invested in that relationship makachi.

I can slide into a lady DM and start a conversation. Interesting conversation, but I get easily wearied. I will just lose interest. I have had the opportunity to meeting interesting dates, but I easily pull out the plug .

And I have been seriously searching for a partner ohhh. This is not funny Man.

One lady that I have genuinely open up to love said she isn't ready for emotional relationship now cos she want to focus on her final exams coming up . She is begging me to wait for her till December. I like her cos we are best of friends now. But as it stands now, I don dey develop cold feet towards her.

I honestly don't want to come to terms that I won't find a lady to love cos I seriously want to settle down.

I am 34. Working and doing well for myself .
Is there something I can do to overcome this ?

I seriously want to open up and love somebody daughter

You get weary because you have very high standards in women and your gut naturally rejects sub-standard women even when you can't tell why.

Well, thank goodness I'm not a skanky dirty Naija bitch...💃💃💃

KillIgbohoN0W:


You can't gaslight him.
He doesn't love you dirty skanky Naija bitches and that's that!

End of story.

SteveDGreat:
Hi everyone, this is something I have observed for some time now.
Ever since my last relationship in 2021 I have found myself not loving any lady. I was emotionally invested in that relationship makachi.

I can slide into a lady DM and start a conversation. Interesting conversation, but I get easily wearied. I will just lose interest. I have had the opportunity to meeting interesting dates, but I easily pull out the plug .

And I have been seriously searching for a partner ohhh. This is not funny Man.

One lady that I have genuinely open up to love said she isn't ready for emotional relationship now cos she want to focus on her final exams coming up . She is begging me to wait for her till December. I like her cos we are best of friends now. But as it stands now, I don dey develop cold feet towards her.

I honestly don't want to come to terms that I won't find a lady to love cos I seriously want to settle down.

I am 34. Working and doing well for myself .
Is there something I can do to overcome this ?

I seriously want to open up and love somebody daughter

It has to do with the environment you grew up from. You are probably raised by a single mother. You are highly individualistic. You love women, you fantasize about sex but the idea of committing to a woman, one lady for the rest of your life just do not sit well with you.

I am just like you.


For people mentioning gays..kill that shit please



Since my last relationship last 4 years...I find it so hard to love, not that I don't believe in love...but trying to get someone that will fit into what I am looking for.


I easily pull out immediately without letting you know, you will start wondering what went wrong.


Someone up there said it very well...high standard..which is a big factor.


I love intellectual ladies... These days you hardly see ladies that converse intelligently just tiktok girls and social media girls roaming up and down and shaking their bum bum up and down


I am hopeful!

Reminderz:
the breakfast wey the girl serve really touch you na why, it's an important phase you have to go through as a man to really understand what relationship is all about and not to invest irrationally... it will open your inner eyes and make you sharpen your senses next time... once bitten, twice shy...

you're a man, you're not supposed to let emotions cloud your sense of reasoning... guard your heart ruthlessly and only give your commitment to the woman who has proved herself to you and have tangible thing to offer you, or else, she will serve you another breakfast and that will shatter you completely...

You are right. I was really invested in that relationship. We were close pals and she was a good friend . We shared everything in common. When it ended, it shattered me.

My searches so far has been hinged on getting someone that will give me that her kinda energy and ofcourse her beauty

Samantha124:
I have a friend like that... In the beginning I could tell that there was something gayish about him but I didn't confront him because I didn't want to sound rude.

I'd deliberately bring up discussions about gays just to see his reaction and he hated everything that had to do with gays and couldn't even stand the sight of them.

After he graduated, he moved to another province and started working as a chef... He slowly started opening up, one day he called and told me everything... Apparently the community he's from still stigmatize gays and lesbians... I just laughed and told him that I knew from the first day I saw him that he was gay.

But anyways, if you are indeed straight and like women, then that's good...

Sis, I am not gay. Not even cos of country. Everything about me hate that shit.
I love pussy. Everything about women is sweet.
I as much as I get to find the love I desire, I still have time for some Romantic moment. I am very much active in women

KillIgbohoN0W:


You get weary because you have very high standards in women and your gut naturally rejects sub-standard women even when you can't tell why.

Ohh well. I think you are right.
I select alot.
I love them classy, talk and with a beautiful face.

Funny enough, I don't focus on what they have like being rich .

narite:

It has to do with the environment you grew up from. You are probably raised by a single mother. You are highly individualistic. You love women, you fantasize about sex but the idea of committing to a woman, one lady for the rest of your life just do not sit well with you.

I wasn't raised by a single mum even though my dad wasn't much around in my upbringing.

As for commitment, I treasure it so much. I love commitment. The relationship I talked about I was commited and wanted to take it to the best level. But the issue is, I am yet to find that lady I love that I will commit to.
Once I get a woman whom my heart treasures, committing to her wont be an issue for me

TimFisher2:




I am just like you.


For people mentioning gays..kill that shit please



Since my last relationship last 4 years...I find it so hard to love, not that I don't believe in love...but trying to get someone that will fit into what I am looking for.


I easily pull out immediately without letting you know, you will start wondering what went wrong.


Someone up there said it very well...high standard..which is a big factor.


I love intellectual ladies... These days you hardly see ladies that converse intelligently just tiktok girls and social media girls roaming up and down and shaking their bum bum up and down


I am hopeful!

I need a hug emoji. You have totally described me. You are really walking in my shoe.

Everything you described here is what I am passing through.
High standards. Classy beautiful lady.

But unfortunately, most of these ladies are looking for an Odogwu. I am okay in my own way, not yet an Odogwu

Okay, but just keep in mind that just because you're in your thirties, it doesn't mean you must start stressing about marriage.

You still have plenty of time ahead of you, you men are even lucky, you can still get married even in your 50s to a woman in her 30s and have a family of your own.

SteveDGreat:


Sis, I am not gay. Not even cos of country. Everything about me hate that shit.
I love pussy. Everything about women is sweet.
I as much as I get to find the love I desire, I still have time for some Romantic moment. I am very much active in women

The fear of being dumped by a woman or what

SteveDGreat:


I need a hug emoji. You have totally described me. You are really walking in my shoe.

Everything you described here is what I am passing through.
High standards. Classy beautiful lady.

But unfortunately, most of these ladies are looking for an Odogwu. I am okay in my own way, not yet an Odogwu

Don't worry...be hopeful...You will get the best.

Is better to have a beautiful and gracious home than to have an unhappy home that will make you opt out one day.


With God, all things are possible, If you believe!

You said you aren't geh but I just have to use this meme

If loving woman hard
Try loving a man !

This is great deliverance. You better go to church and do thanksgiving

rickleye:
If loving woman hard
Try loving a man !

God forbid

SteveDGreat:


God forbid

Then try harder

I'm in same situation with you op. After having one or two unpleasant experiences with girls I loved wholeheartedly, I now find it hard sustaining a relationship with a girl because I'm always defensive to avoid getting burnt again.