Good day familylanders.

I come here to air my current dilemma and ask for a way out.

I'm married with a kid, got separated with my husband last year Jan due to some little issues that weren't managed properly and got escalated..

We stayed in touch for A year cos of child welfare and the rest. He obviously had a relationship with another lady in his base, while I remain single

Sometimes this year, we started talking about reconciliation and the talks went well, we've seen our mistakes and accepted to work on the marriage.

He confessed to me he had a relationship with a lady but he told he was married with a child and he wasn't going to divorce his wife neither marry her (the lady) so twas a deal sort of and he has broken up with her ( which she confirmed)

He's come to see me in my place and I got posted for an official assignment to his state..He told me the girl has refused to leave even after he told her he has reconciled with his wife and the rest.

I got in yesterday and all hell was let loose, the lady was so violent and was saying all manner of trash,threatening fire and hailstone..

I simply asked her, do you know he was married? Did he tell you we were divorced?? Did you see my things in the house?

She answered "yes". She said she has no place to go..I was even willing to give her something to take care of herself but she said " no", she wanted my husband and I should start realising she will become a second wife..

My husband in all this have been calling people to talk to her and go without violence..She's called my in-laws to curse (dunno how she got their numbers)... calling friends to tell them she isn't moving out of the house

It's really messy here and I don't want to create a scene..someone advised me I should involve the Civil defence authority.
I really dunno what to do
Please advise me

Involve the civil service and don't stress yourself.

Small breakup he don quickly put another woman for house, if na the woman now she'll be called Ashawo.
Anyways remove yourself from the messy situation and ask him to sort it out himself.

EreluRoz:
Involve the civil service and don't stress yourself.

Small breakup he don quickly put another woman for house, if na the woman now she'll be called Ashawo.
Anyways remove yourself from the messy situation and ask him to sort it out himself.

Your husband dey play game.

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Call the police and lock her up

The truth will be revealed.. at the station

No call all this local police station.. involve commissioner.. or Aig .. make dem show with like 3 hilux..

Happy reunion in advance

EreluRoz:
Involve the civil service and don't stress yourself.

Small breakup he don quickly put another woman for house, if na the woman now she'll be called Ashawo.
Anyways remove yourself from the messy situation and ask him to sort it out himself.

Your last statement shows you’re not married and reason for that

Marriage ain’t no boyfriend girlfriend relationship..

When it get to you.. act that way

A man that has already accommodated another woman within a year of separation, do you think it was a good idea in the first place to reconcile with such man? If this particular case is eventually resolved, what's the assurance you won't have similar issues again in the nearest future?

Before I contribute my own little opinion, I need to ask you this:
All these your posts, dis they happen to you or you are asking for someone else. Because today you are a man, tomorrow, a lady.
Also, even this your monika says something about you

Your husband should fight his fight first before full reconciliation.

These generation of ladies have nothing doing and can do anything for marriage either by crook or by force.

I hate ladies who see marriage as their life's most greatest ambition.

It stinks!

Madam,u are in order,pls don't allow that stray woman to plan evil for u,just allow ur husband to do the fight here,and watch from a distance.

U may never know what ur husband promised him,possibly marriage who knows.

Stray woman like this have nothing to lose.

Just be careful pls.

It is well

Xd

Sounds like African Magic movie. This matter dey your husband hand not you, he knows wat to do and to do it when his ready

Hmmm

Reading..

Interesting

Your husband is the main player here. Many of those things she uttered were borne from what ur husband had told her.

She’s taken ur place in ur home because ur husband empowered her. If u use force to move her out, then realize that u have not seen the last of her and I can assure u it will get messier.

What is husband doing and saying in all these?
His response will give u a pointer if u are still needed or not.
To me he seems like another weakling. What will those calls do for someone that is hell bent on her stand to stick with him?

If I were u, I won’t fight the lady, let the man fix her and if he can’t there’s no point forcing a dead horse to drink water.

He’s best bet is to leave the house for and move some where else if the lady really get ogbanje

For over a year you have survived without your husband. Don't fight with the lady over your ex husband because If your husband truly want her gone she will be gone, simple. Give yourself some respect, remain on your own and tell your husband to fix the issue before you move in with him.

Trust me fighting with another woman over your ex husband will degrade you reputation and dignity and your husband will most definitely lose respect for you, plus you stand the risk of being harmed by a desperate woman whom you don't know what extent she can go.

If your ex husband truly wants you back that lady is not a problem. Your priority should be your well being and the well being of you child.

Stories that touches the heart. Ur husband knows how to get rid of her if he wants to..

And your username is bigblack... Em

The strange woman has nothing to lose. She's ready to fight for it which could be dangerous for you. For now you should leave that premises for them until your husband does the needful.

Watin musa no go see for gate

I don't understand this op. First this is a male moniker claiming to be a married woman. Secondly there is a mixed pronounce... He/she. What's up

Men are the prize. Ladies, hold your man so tight.

This story is confusing. For a moment, I thought I was watching a Korean Movie without subtitle.

Huh? Don't get involved because your husband is a low life. He brought the problem into the house and he should be man enough to send that problem away.

This isn't about the woman refusing to leave, but more about the kind of person she is: 'a low class', 'crass', and 'crude'. If your equally 'low class' husband quickly replaced you with someone like that, then your marriage will surely crumble again.