alayandekolasam:
Before I contribute my own little opinion, I need to ask you this:
All these your posts, dis they happen to you or you are asking for someone else. Because today you are a man, tomorrow, a lady.
Also, even this your monika says something about you

😂😂😂😂😂

alayandekolasam:
Before I contribute my own little opinion, I need to ask you this:
All these your posts, dis they happen to you or you are asking for someone else. Because today you are a man, tomorrow, a lady.
Also, even this your monika says something about you

Na man, with creative imagination

BigBlackPreek:
Good day familylanders.

I come here to air my current dilemma and ask for a way out.

I'm married with a kid, got separated with my husband last year Jan due to some little issues that weren't managed properly and got escalated..

We stayed in touch for A year cos of child welfare and the rest. He obviously had a relationship with another lady in his base, while I remain single

Sometimes this year, we started talking about reconciliation and the talks went well, we've seen our mistakes and accepted to work on the marriage.

He confessed to me he had a relationship with a lady but he told he was married with a child and he wasn't going to divorce his wife neither marry her (the lady) so twas a deal sort of and he has broken up with her ( which she confirmed)

He's come to see me in my place and I got posted for an official assignment to his state..He told me the girl has refused to leave even after he told her he has reconciled with his wife and the rest.

I got in yesterday and all hell was let loose, the lady was so violent and was saying all manner of trash,threatening fire and hailstone..

I simply asked her, do you know he was married? Did he tell you we were divorced?? Did you see my things in the house?

She answered "yes". She said she has no place to go..I was even willing to give her something to take care of herself but she said " no", she wanted my husband and I should start realising she will become a second wife..

My husband in all this have been calling people to talk to her and go without violence..She's called my in-laws to curse (dunno how she got their numbers)... calling friends to tell them she isn't moving out of the house

It's really messy here and I don't want to create a scene..someone advised me I should involve the Civil defence authority.
I really dunno what to do
Please advise me

your husband should have out her away without getting you involved. Probably do that before ur arrival.
Even if u get any force to pull her out, don't forget she is human who emotions has been toyed with. She is feeling been used.

madridguy:
Men are the prize. Ladies, hold your man so tight.

This right here is what majority of them refuse to understand..

Your husband has not seriously decided to put away that woman, beware he may secretly be encouraging her behind you.

It is very dangerous and risky to abandon your marriage over little misunderstanding. There millions of women outside who are looking to grab the Man you abandoned.

incogni2o:


I hope she doesn't take this your trash talk seriously.

Likely you are not married, Even a married person sees the value in Family when things are fine, neither does thing being not fine say marriage is valueless.

Wisdom is profitable to direct.

I hope OP speaks to her husband and know his true side of things.

Prayer is Key in a situation like this. Na police you want make settle your family matter?

Just pray and be patient.

U are not smart at all.

Do u know what the husband promised that lady...?

U are just buying everything this woman says without using ur heads.

That woman can do anything to destroy this woman all because of marriage therefore,if she is my sister,I will tell her to apply caution because just like I said earlier.

BigBlackPreek:
Good day familylanders.

I come here to air my current dilemma and ask for a way out.

I'm married with a kid, got separated with my husband last year Jan due to some little issues that weren't managed properly and got escalated..

We stayed in touch for A year cos of child welfare and the rest. He obviously had a relationship with another lady in his base, while I remain single

Sometimes this year, we started talking about reconciliation and the talks went well, we've seen our mistakes and accepted to work on the marriage.

He confessed to me he had a relationship with a lady but he told he was married with a child and he wasn't going to divorce his wife neither marry her (the lady) so twas a deal sort of and he has broken up with her ( which she confirmed)

He's come to see me in my place and I got posted for an official assignment to his state..He told me the girl has refused to leave even after he told her he has reconciled with his wife and the rest.

I got in yesterday and all hell was let loose, the lady was so violent and was saying all manner of trash,threatening fire and hailstone..

I simply asked her, do you know he was married? Did he tell you we were divorced?? Did you see my things in the house?

She answered "yes". She said she has no place to go..I was even willing to give her something to take care of herself but she said " no", she wanted my husband and I should start realising she will become a second wife..

My husband in all this have been calling people to talk to her and go without violence..She's called my in-laws to curse (dunno how she got their numbers)... calling friends to tell them she isn't moving out of the house

It's really messy here and I don't want to create a scene..someone advised me I should involve the Civil defence authority.
I really dunno what to do
Please advise me

Call guys for area, arrange 10k and show them the location and you will thank me later.

BigBlackPreek:
Good day familylanders.

I come here to air my current dilemma and ask for a way out.

I'm married with a kid, got separated with my husband last year Jan due to some little issues that weren't managed properly and got escalated..

We stayed in touch for A year cos of child welfare and the rest. He obviously had a relationship with another lady in his base, while I remain single

Sometimes this year, we started talking about reconciliation and the talks went well, we've seen our mistakes and accepted to work on the marriage.

He confessed to me he had a relationship with a lady but he told he was married with a child and he wasn't going to divorce his wife neither marry her (the lady) so twas a deal sort of and he has broken up with her ( which she confirmed)

He's come to see me in my place and I got posted for an official assignment to his state..He told me the girl has refused to leave even after he told her he has reconciled with his wife and the rest.

I got in yesterday and all hell was let loose, the lady was so violent and was saying all manner of trash,threatening fire and hailstone..

I simply asked her, do you know he was married? Did he tell you we were divorced?? Did you see my things in the house?

She answered "yes". She said she has no place to go..I was even willing to give her something to take care of herself but she said " no", she wanted my husband and I should start realising she will become a second wife..

My husband in all this have been calling people to talk to her and go without violence..She's called my in-laws to curse (dunno how she got their numbers)... calling friends to tell them she isn't moving out of the house

It's really messy here and I don't want to create a scene..someone advised me I should involve the Civil defence authority.
I really dunno what to do
Please advise me

It is not your duty to send her away. Tell your husband to go with her until he's ready to be a man and handle the situation. The 2 of them are playing you and your in laws might even be aware

😂 Am not understanding oo! Is the Op male, female or hermaphrodite?

EreluRoz:
Involve the civil service and don't stress yourself.

Small breakup he don quickly put another woman for house, if na the woman now she'll be called Ashawo.
Anyways remove yourself from the messy situation and ask him to sort it out himself.

Best advice

Eruloz and Jewessgratitud3 joined the group chat...

You carry your food give dog...
Why can't some people manage small misunderstanding?
Women always believe the grass is greener at the other side, my wife included, she Don dey beg since and I never get time...
You don't leave man in his vulnerable time and espect to come back when he seems ok

You left your well-to-do man 4 a year and you expect no replacement. It's either you accept her as a second wife or breakup finally with your man. I guess the second lady is already pregnant for your man. Learn to fix things with your partner without separation because any separation will create loop holes 🕳️ in the relationship.

Her next accommodation should be a police cell.
Stop playing or she will play u,with a fake pregnancy.
She can even lie they ve been sleeping even if they ve stopped. Women; spell love backward, that na wetin una be!

I love this.... were you are tired of, another is dying to replace ... truly life no balance

Your husband is not serious and very weak confirm SIMP. You can’t ask ashawo to leave your house after telling her you are married with kid 👧 and you self too dull , well the lady have come to stay as a second wife you either accept it that way or throw her things out .

All of una head no correct

If u guys no say you go reconcile why him admitting a lady inside yr matrimonial home to the estent of keeping her till u come back

You go explain tire

You husband don be polygamous man already whether u like it or not

Frigga13:
Call the police and lock her up

The truth will be revealed.. at the station

No call all this local police station.. involve commissioner.. or Aig .. make dem show with like 3 hilux..

Happy reunion in advance

you are a wicked fellow, you know what the husband has promised the woman in question? Even 100batalion can't move that woman. Na play una dey.

Where Una the see all this men that can't put their house in order he should have called off the relationship with the other woman months before reconciling with you

Whatisurproblem:
you are a wicked fellow, you know what the husband has promised the woman in question? Even 100batalion can't move that woman. Na play una dey.

... since they husband has told her to live .. she has no legal right in there

If they’re secretly married .. then she should let the world know

The wife ain’t divorce .. but separated

She’s even nice to her ...

Na to call fellow local female louts to bundle her out of the house .. make she go do her juju come

Everyone should carry their cross in this country.

richiemcgold:
A man that has already accommodated another woman within a year of separation, do you think it was a good idea in the first place to reconcile with such man? If this particular case is eventually resolved, what's the assurance you won't have similar issues again in the nearest future?

The op is not serious

Plus the op,the husband and all his Bleep ladies
All of una dey ment

https://www.nairaland.com/3906712/strange-woman-home-how-go

This is an old story from a now deactivated moniker, op lifted it word for word without acknowledging the author. That's plagiarism