chaircover: This is what stupid ego and pride does in relationships

4 whole weeks over a silly argument. Both of you need to be flogged

Shebi you went and took your daughter; showing that the duaghter is more important to you than your wife. Koburu.

Dont blame your friend o! you people did not arrange your home and he helped you to arrange it for you. if the wall does not have a gap, how can a wall gecko get inside?

Sir, call your wife have a long heart to heart with her, forgive each other, learn ALL the lessons from the incident and move on.

As for your friend I dont need to tell you to keep a 100 mile distance between him and your family. Its not by force to keep friends!

Jay Alex: That's when we had the big falling out..i was angry and furious and shouted on her,when i came back she and my daughter had gone to my best friend's house.

Jay Alex: I went there took my little girl and left her with my friend and his wife..

Jay Alex: he said he had 'touched' my wife while she held up with them,categorically they didn't sleep together,but then twice he said they were in each other..i left

Jay Alex: what do i do with my wife? Where do i start with her?

Jay Alex: they didn't sleep together,but then twice he said they were in each other..

chaircover: Emma, I blame them both.

dare2think:

^ First mistake


^ Second mistake



^ Third mistake

I would have punched his face!



You start by getting the truth from her, only after that can the healing begin.

Your wife might have rebuffed his advances, and may feel she does not want to cause issues by telling you. However, that is no excuse as she should have told you and warn you about such a friend.

A person that can sleeps with his friend's wife can also kill that friend






Dear friend, what did he mean by this?

I went there took my little girl and left her with my friend and his wife..after 4weeks she moved back [/b]in by then parents and relations had set in(the one thing i hate)

Jay Alex: 2yrs ago my wife and i had an issue@home,i had to pay the yearly rent and had to get an operation for a torn ligament,the cost of both was almost same..I do not like to be embarrassed about my responsibilities so i decided to pay the rent and work for a few months and save for the operation,since it wasn't dire.My wife wouldn't have non of it,she insisted i get the operation first and from a mild argument,we really started having problems,we barely talked and she really wouldn't see reasons.So i did what i had to do pay the rent so i'd maintain the cordial relationship and mutual repect i and my landlord shared,since i wasn't feeling much pain or pressure from the knee.3weeks after my wife refused to pay our daughters school fees,which she took care and instead bought a new set of kitchen cabinet,she said that's what's important.That's when we had the big falling out..i was angry and furious and shouted on her,when i came back she and my daughter had gone to my best friend's house.I went there took my little girl and left her with my friend and his wife..after 4weeks she moved back in by then parents and relations had set in(the one thing i hate).4months later i got the operation,and since then we'v been good,best friends like always..a week ago my friend said he had something to tell me that's burdened his heart for so long,one he felt he owed me as a friend,i listened and after many starts he said he had 'touched' my wife while she held up with them,categorically they didn't sleep together,but then twice he said they were in each other..i left and havent said anything to him yet and my amiable wife never thot it wise to tell me all these while! The two people i love and trust apparently betrayed me..what do i do with my wife? Where do i start with her?

dare2think: ^ Mmmm

Something is definitely not right!

I assume you are a lady, would you allow your 'adult' husband to go and stay in your friend's house for up to 4weeks?


The best thing to do is not to leave your wife in another man's house, you find a way to resolve the issue!

Ask yourself, if was the best thing, how come he is having these problems now?

emmatok:

what will you do if she insist on staying.

dare2think:

1. Inform her parents that they should get ready for another wedding, because their daughter is about to get married to my friend

2. Tell my foolish friend to come and get the rest of his 2nd wife's stuff in the house.


Jokes aside, if not that the friend had ulterior motives from the onset, a good friend would make her return to her husband's house that very night with the except if she had been abused by the husband.

blank: I will be very vindictive. I will destroy his own family and send the woman back to her boyfriend's house for good. When he said they where "in each other", what i understand is that they had sex but neither of them climaxed.

Bawss1: As it's the norm on Nairaland, the OP is being held responsible for his wife being touched (whatever that means) by another man. Somethings will never change.

Jay Alex: 2yrs ago my wife and i had an issue@home,i had to pay the yearly rent and had to get an operation for a torn ligament,the cost of both was almost same..I do not like to be embarrassed about my responsibilities so i decided to pay the rent and work for a few months and save for the operation,since it wasn't dire.My wife wouldn't have non of it,she insisted i get the operation first and from a mild argument,we really started having problems,we barely talked and she really wouldn't see reasons.So i did what i had to do pay the rent so i'd maintain the cordial relationship and mutual repect i and my landlord shared,since i wasn't feeling much pain or pressure from the knee.3weeks after my wife refused to pay our daughters school fees,which she took care and instead bought a new set of kitchen cabinet,she said that's what's important.That's when we had the big falling out..i was angry and furious and shouted on her,when i came back she and my daughter had gone to my best friend's house.I went there took my little girl and left her with my friend and his wife..after 4weeks she moved back in by then parents and relations had set in(the one thing i hate).4months later i got the operation,and since then we'v been good,best friends like always..a week ago my friend said he had something to tell me that's burdened his heart for so long,one he felt he owed me as a friend,i listened and after many starts he said he had 'touched' my wife while she held up with them,categorically they didn't sleep together,but then twice he said they were in each other..i left and havent said anything to him yet and my amiable wife never thot it wise to tell me all these while! The two people i love and trust apparently betrayed me..what do i do with my wife? Where do i start with her?

coogar:

an eye for an eye. . . .
get busy and "touch" your friend's wife too.

chaircover: This is what stupid ego and pride does in relationships

4 whole weeks over a silly argument. Both of you need to be flogged

Shebi you went and took your daughter; showing that the duaghter is more important to you than your wife. Koburu.

Dont blame your friend o! you people did not arrange your home and he helped you to arrange it for you. if the wall does not have a gap, how can a wall gecko get inside?

Sir, call your wife have a long heart to heart with her, forgive each other, learn ALL the lessons from the incident and move on.

As for your friend I dont need to tell you to keep a 100 mile distance between him and your family. Its not by force to keep friends!

Laila Ikeji:

laffssssssssss. u r very silly for ds, Coogar. lol

emmatok:

NA wa o,

Are you blaming the OP for his wife's action?

Why would a married woman pack to another man's house over an argument, she should have gone to her parent house.

The OP did the right thing by taking his child away from that irresponsible wife and friend.

The OP should be careful with such woman.