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Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by dayokanu(m): 9:13pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
armyofone: @ Dayokanu if they didnt like the way their mother was treated then let them treat their mother better. What way was their mother treated that was bad? The man wanted a new wife and you cant begrudge him for doing what he wanted. They took his house away from him and he didnt complain WHAT MORE DO THEY WANT? |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by Ibime(m): 9:14pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
dayokanu: Of course! Marriage is a partnership. You need to read the bible bro. My wife and I plan financially together. She would need to quit her work soon enough to raise our kids and she would always be worth half of everything we have. My brother-in-law has been inactive financially for the last few years due to cancer and he is also worth half of everything my sister and he have. Marriage is a total commitment to partnership whether good or bad. 1 Like |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by horny4u(f): 9:14pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
Sell the house....and share both house and gratuity into half ..give papa half and give mama half... Is the mama supposed to enter dating market now ? As for the kids ...an apple never falls far from its tree...they are really the kids of their father speaking to myself : [s]later now they will say women this , women that....the daughter of a man like that is a dangerous specie to marry....as she don see the end before the beginning, her husband will see wen[/s] |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by SisiKill1: 9:15pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
Children - Hit the Road Dad And don't you come back no mo' no mo' no' mo Hit the Road Dad And don't you come back No moooooooooooore!! Daddy - Oh! Children oh Children, don't treat me so mean You're the meanest Children that I've ever seen. I guess if you said so I'd have to pack my things and go. (That's right) I swear that was the first thing that popped in my head!! |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by armyofone(m): 9:16pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
what their father did might have made their mom to be pshchologically unstable. the would piss up any *good* son even without ifa consultation. dayokanu: The man was already kicked out of the house he built, What more do they need? |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by Sagamite(m): 9:18pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
It is amazing the way most women have come here to educate Real Men about how the woman is a victim. How she has given the best years of her life. How she has suffered with him. How she gave him 4 wonderful kids. They have come to feed their Real Men the wonderful being of women and shyt being of man, and surely the Real Men would nod and consume like utter mugus. How far is any of them sure the wife was not an unsupportive nightmare to him in the mariage? How are they sure she was not a disrespectful wife? How far are they sure she did not have the accountability for the reetarded kids they raised? How far are they sure she did not raise them to hate him? How far are they sure all the kids are even his? I don't know the man or his wife so I am not particularly in the position to judge. But I know most women are not as good and as Michael Angeloly painted by the women's real manning bandwagon. As far as I am concerned, she might have or might have not deserved it. |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by dayokanu(m): 9:19pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
Ibime: Thats in a case where one partner is forced to give up his/her earning potential to cater for the family. In cases where the other spouse didnt give up anything why should he/she take part of his gratuity? The OP didnt tell us their mother was a full time housewife who gave up her career. So what if the woman was also a top govt official who earned her own gratuity, Should she still take the mans money? |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by ismhab(m): 9:20pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
In which state? And what tribe did that? |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by SisiKill1: 9:20pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
ismhab: In which state? And what tribe did that? |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by dayokanu(m): 9:21pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
armyofone: what their father did might have made their mom to be pshchologically unstable. the would piss up any *good* son even without ifa consultation. Might have? How did you know their mom didnt also frustrate their father in the marriage? We can only discuss what we know The kids took the house from the man, And he didnt complain why should they come for his gratuity and beat him up in his rented apartment? |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by Beync(f): 9:22pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
Foolish man. At this age he want to enjoy sweet sixteen without the woman whom have been with him thru thin and thick. |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by armyofone(m): 9:22pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
even if she is full time housewife and didn't give up any career, she is still entitled to whatever the guy has. [quote author=dayokanu] In cases where the other spouse didnt give up anything why should he/she take part of his gratuity? The OP didnt tell us their mother was a full time housewife who gave up her career. quote] |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by dayokanu(m): 9:25pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
armyofone: even if she is full time housewife and didn't give up any career, she is still entitled to whatever the guy has. What if she is not a Housewife? Why should she take half of what the man has? Give me a good reason why a wealthy woman should come and take half of what her broke husband has |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by Nobody: 9:25pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by dayokanu(m): 9:28pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
chaircover: Saga o ti de o Did the man stop the woman from working to earn her own gratuity? So you prefer if the man stayed and murdered the woman at home? The man was honorable enough to ask for divorce/separation, he even gave up his house. So what more do you want him to do? |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by ronkebp(f): 9:29pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
STORY- STORY................ 1. The children have no right to send their father packing.....there is nothing wrong in building a house for their mum..The parents have equal right to the kids, there is no point showing favouritsm to one parent and neglecting the other, except if the man had abandoned them, from the beginning (which is not the case here). The Bible says (and this for the christians that believe that God exist, not for the atheist) "honour your father and mother so that your days maybe long" and that is irrespective of whatever they do to you. 2. The father might have done worse, overtime to their mother, so it could have been from a pent-up frustration, and the kids decided that "enough was enough", still i do not support maltreating their dad.. 3. If the man is tired of the woman, there is nothing wrong in divorcing her but doing it right. The gratuity, if not shared equally, 1/3 of it should have gone to the first wife.... |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by EfemenaXY: 9:29pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
dayokanu: He should also hand over absolutely every penny he has to his first wife. That's what more he should do. Then we'll see how sweet he and his new wife are, koboless! |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by dayokanu(m): 9:30pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
ronkebp: STORY- STORY................ Excellent points. With Point 3, Does it count that they have taken the mans house already? Why do they need his gratuity again? |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by dayokanu(m): 9:31pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
Efemena_xy: Why should he hand over every penny to her. She too has her own gratuity to live on. So why take another persons gratuity when you have yours |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by Nobody: 9:34pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by SisiKill1: 9:35pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
chaircover: Saga o ti de o Haba! CC which Sisi Eko? This is civil servant money we are talking about here oh! It is probably some Tawakali Omo Iya Elero. Baba musta being tage-ing with her for a long and she didn't give him face Now that Money landed on his lap, Daddy Mi o fe oh has become Daddy Se e fe ni! |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by EfemenaXY: 9:36pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
dayokanu: No, not another person's but her's. They were married, not boyfriend and girlfriend. So what belonged to him belongs to her and vise versa. That's how it works in marriage. Now if he decides to introduce a third person into the equation a.k.a the new wife, fine, let him do so - but not with the money that was earned from his first marriage. I don't believe in robbing Peter (first wife) to pay Paul. Let Paul (yeye gold-digging new wife) go make it out on her own! |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by ronkebp(f): 9:37pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
dayokanu: Well it is only fair to leave the gratuity for the man since the house has been taken, only if it is not worth 1/3 of the money though.... And just so we know....i am not supporting his attitude towards his wife....but we never can be 100% certain, the man knows why he wants to marry another wife, i don't understand why a 65 year old man would want to be buying pampers and paying for kinder- garten....Really the way some men think is annoying. |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by Ibime(m): 9:39pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
dayokanu: Stop talking like old school man. We are not talking of Tom Cruise wife trying to collect half his kishi. These two must have made plans together for the last 30-something years. They must have planned the house together and made sacrifices accordingly. No reasonable wife is looking to spend her partner's money after 30+ years of building together. This is money they should be using to plan their retirement and investment in their kids, not throwing owambe. No woman who's been around that long is trying to "chop money" and the man should not see this money as "chop money" either because his struggle in life is not over as long as he has a wife who is not yet comfortable and kids who are not yet able to stand on their own. Not only has he cheated his wife by trying to "chop money", he has cheated his children out of a platform for the future. The foolish man thought his responsibilities in life are over and its time for him to enjoy, that's the problem here. . . |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by EfemenaXY: 9:41pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
^^ Well said. Couldn't have put it any better... |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by Nobody: 9:42pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
Woe betides anybody that beats his/her parents.no matter what the man did,the children has no right to send him out of the house..what if he had abandon them since childhood,would they've done anything?no. The man tried,sending them to school up to the tertiary level,whats the financial position of the wife?what ifshe is a full time house wife,what else do they want?do they expect the man to spend his entire life nursing them?i feel the man should njoy his remaining life by getting a new wife,afta many years of stress bringing the family 2geda..most of the blames falls to the children. |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by Sagamite(m): 9:43pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
Ivynwa: Who is accusing Mac (who is a moslem) of sanctioning polygamy when his religion accepts that? The United Nations Universal Declaration on Human Rights. Articles 16 and 20 specifically. Furthermore, even without this, who you choose to be with is a fundamental human right. |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by dayokanu(m): 9:46pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
Ibime: Have you forgotten they already collected his house? |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by Sagamite(m): 9:50pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
armyofone: ROFLMAO!!! I honestly am laughing hard. I really believe you don't particularly believe in some of the things you say like the one in the bold, you just say it to get a reaction. |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by maclatunji: 9:53pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
chaircover: Hehehe, they didn't know whether to tear me apart or ignore me. They got somewhere in-between. The topic is very sensitive for women, some of committed murder and others have lost it upstairs. A few have managed to deal with it in a graceful manner, these are exceptional ones. |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by Sagamite(m): 10:00pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
chaircover: I am getting more and more convinced that dayo and saga are one and the same person. chaircover: Saga o ti de o Why wait? Maybe because that is the best time that maximises benefit to him. If a woman wants to do the same is that not the same tactics she would use? Ah! Shair-Shair! Me I know women. Mo mor yin! She would do her own in the best way that benefits her and you know what? Real Men and women would turn around and blame him saying "He did not treat her right", "She is long suffering". Personally, frankly, I have some pity for her because she is from an era of mostly dedicated and good women. If it was any of the women of this generation, I no go feel any pity for them. As a matter of fact, I wish this type of misery on at least about 30% of them in future. No pity! |
Re: Grown-Up Kids Kick Their Father Out Of His House! by SisiKill1: 10:01pm On Jul 10, 2012 |
maclatunji:What is your definition of "dealing with it in a graceful manner" |
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