dayokanu:

People get married and get divorced everyday from the days of Adam. In every society there is marriage and divorce. The man is not interested in the union again, should he be forced to stay in it?

I am sure you had boyfriends you left, Why werent you forced to stay with them.

People marry and ppl divorce everyday its not like the man has commited an offence. The former french president has divorced multiple times, Presidential candidates John McCain and Newt gingrich High men and peasant farmers in Ikere Ekiti divorce everyday.

The man wants out for his own reasons and he even rented a house for the new bride so she wont eat from the previous wifes labour.

So what more should the man do? be forced to live with his first wife? or deny him his right to divorce?

naijababe:

And all the men you mentioned in your post just walked except Ikere Ekiti man simply walked away without compensating their exes right? Ray Parlour divorce suddenly comes to mind.

Efemena_xy:

What made his life "long-suffering"?

~ Did he have to endure the pain of 4 child births? Or endure the physical changes to one's body after child birth?

~ Did he have sleepless nights nursing the kids? Infact, was he ever left holding the baby?

~ Did he combine housework, child minding, running after his spouse's whims / demands for bedmatic exercises even when exhausted?

~ Did he even, ever learn how to cook? Do his own laundry? And I bet in addition to all that, his wife must have been forced to get involved in some petty trade, just to supplement the household income.

~ So what exactly made his life "long-suffering"?

Efemena_xy:
Gottcha! Don't be coy, Sagamite. I'd like to hear it (directly) from the horse's mouth, so to speak.

Efemena_xy:

Maybe I would have said all that, or maybe I wouldn't have.

Shame, but this thread is about the man's actions, not an assumption of the woman's actions based on a series of "what-if's".

Efemena_xy:

Simple. Because she stood by him through thick and thin!!

Probably even had to endure his snoring at night too...

dayokanu:

Just like someone hissing at you can cause an accident.

A man took a decision he thought was best for himself and he is accused of causing others mental breakdown?

When i toasted you many years ago and you said no cause me breakdown, When you broke up with your bf, should he also hold you accountable to wrecking his life?

dayokanu:

I would feel bad but what can i do? Can i force someone to like me, keep liking me or what can i do?

When your past bf told you it was over would you force him to be with you?

the best thing is to move on with your life and be glad you left it alive.

If you see a man beating a woman because she ditched him, I am sure you would be the first to call him a LOSER

Efemena_xy:

Re: the bolded, my point exactly! Now in that situation, wouldn't you feel it's your right to take the two-timing, selfish spouse to the drycleaners??

Say, as little compensation for putting you through that??

koruji: That lack of a sense of justice always shows up in your post, once it has to do with some religious belief.

How can a woman work to raise four kids, the man retires and then for a reward finds the old woman a definite constant source of heartache in her old age.

The girl he married is probably much younger than some of his kids.

[size=14pt]Justice, even if we concede that he can have his "new wife", decrees that if he is rich enough to marry another woman at that old age, he must also be rich enough to get her a house of her own. The old building belongs to the woman and her kids. Period.[/size]

See! That wasn't so hard, if you only learn to temper religious belief with human empathy.

koruji:
Well, you can pray all you want. What are your kids supposed to do if after decades of prayer someone actually went ahead to try to inhabit where you built, and definitely gunning to make it all in vain? Throw the man and his new wife out!

The new wife may be or may not be innocent, the real issue is the man's lack of sense. As I said above, if he is rich enough to marry another wife he should be rich enough to get her a new house too. Human empathy would show anyone that the "so called" new wife would move to dispose of the old woman in any way possible. Two women cannot live together under normal circumstances talkless of this type of incogruity.

Those who insist on polygamy and continue to practice it only multiply their own pains, and they destroy the future of their own children.

Revolva: Well that serves the man right in his hardtimes and in the hardship of the country that man did not respect himself and his happy family ,and want a young witch who has now cause havoc to the family,

All this desperate young ladies are dangerous oo how could she make the mans wife to get ill and for what reason just so she can be the only one and the kkids wiLl have to move out of the house and she and the old fool will live together then she wiLl then kill the man and claim the house omo she no dey fear oo

fuke:
All of you are making comments from one side of a story.

You should ask for the other side.

There must be a reason why a father of four graduates
decides to take a new wife.

Many of you do not know what women are.

I bet the man didn't take a new wife b/cos of gratuity.

If he had money to produce 4 graduates he surely had money
to have 2 wives and forget about training his children. '

There are men like that, many.

One thing I have found out in life is that it is very easy to be ungrateful.

The children can do what they like, the law of karma is there.

It accepts no excuses and takes no apology.

andromida: A fact is staring at you people in the face and you all are refusing to see it. THE MAN DOES NOT OWN THE HOUSE. Is that so hard to see. I have seen numerous men marry another woman in their old age and the children still respect and love their Dad. what is obvious here is that the children have NEVER seen any value in the man. They have always disrespected him. We all know why children disrespect their parents.

We cannot know the extent the man went to, i imagine he called the children to come and carry their mad mum he cannot deal with it. Infact instead of keeping the other house he wants to move his sweet sixteen into the house when the kids and their mum have vamoosed. I imagine this made the kids suffer from temporary insanity it can happen to anybody faced with this kind of man. This is not to justify their actions but certain provocations can make anybody lose it.

I hear some men saying mayb 1st wife was never a good wife. Na lie. We know you men if she wasn't good enough he would have abandoned her since. He won't wait till now. Any man that will be this heartless was always heartless. i will propose that the woman kept the home together financially and morally and that the man was more of an absentee father which is why the children can treat their father thus. I have no sympathy for him actions have consequences.

cliveland: we do we have more cowards than men in naija dis days....

my old father perhaps in his late 65-75 years decides to marry a 2nd wife after my mum had slaved and spent her life time for 'US" and because he suddenly happens into some cheap money decides for a new thing not only will i THROW HIM OUT........in short my father could never in his wildest desires and dreams dared it.late now.

Maybe we should look this scenario:

a man marries a lady when they were young, they struggle to have kids as a couple and never had a blessing, however unknown to the man she had a back-up plan and had children with other men outside her matrimonial home and brought these kids home in one guise or another as cousins, nieces, nephews etc. And the man cause he never had any trained them all as if there were his, only for the woman now they into their old ages tells him that each of these kids are hers but for Mr. A, B, C & D who now want their children back..... meaning he toiled in vain.. perhaps they are all graduates now and secured better jobs..... of course we shall all proclaim her as an "ASHAWO"!!!!

ronkebp:

Because the "two shall become one", whatever the husband own belongs to the woman also and vice-versa.....now i know you do not beleive in the Bible or the Koran, as long as we are obeying the "be fruitful and multiply law" and "a man shall leave his family and clive to his wife and they shall become one" the man's gratuity technically also belongs to the woman, if the man is sweating; she is also sweating, if he is crying; she is crying, if he is rich; she is rich and if he is poor; she is also poor.

armyofone: even if Sagamite doesn't believe in the bible or koran, the oyinbo law of where he resides must apply.

if you have been married for some years, the woman must get something if the marriage eventually ends.

in the UCMJ, i think it is half the time of his service. Automatically you get part or % of his retirement pay
in the Civilian justice system, not too sure how long to be married to get money but you will get money . The man can't run away with what you both worked for even if you were "stay at home" mommy.

ronkebp:

He knows all these, that is why he is avoiding taking the step.....scary cat

chaircover: Thank you for confirming what I have been saying all along that initially the man wasnt ejected from his house to go and live with his new wife but a case of the kids not wanting the new wife to come and live with them. He was shutting between the two homes. Dayo she o ti gbo!

Thank you also for confirming that the wife just didn't sit at home all day watching Africa magic while hubby was making all the money to send his kids to school and build HIS house. Many of those women buying and selling make a heap of money especially the ones who sell ingredients & food so dont be fooled by their illiteracy.

Richy why do you keep on saying His house! His House!!! - If that woman put money towards buying one single louver, then it is THEIR house. . . . Their Home.

chaircover: Thank you for confirming what I have been saying all along that initially the man wasnt ejected from his house to go and live with his new wife but a case of the kids not wanting the new wife to come and live with them. He was shutting between the two homes. Dayo she o ti gbo!

Thank you also for confirming that the wife just didn't sit at home all day watching Africa magic while hubby was making all the money to send his kids to school and build HIS house. Many of those women buying and selling make a heap of money especially the ones who sell ingredients & food so dont be fooled by their illiteracy.

Richy why do you keep on saying His house! His House!!! - If that woman put money towards buying one single louver, then it is THEIR house. . . . Their Home.

Good day,
I am emphasizing the fact that it is HIS house because some posters have been implying that the house was built by the wife and that was why it was easy for the children to throw the man out of HIS house.The children just used raw brute strength to throw the man and his property into the street.
However since you insist I will say their house After all the second wife should/must have a stake too,abi?

chaircover: Thank you for confirming what I have been saying all along that initially the man wasnt ejected from his house to go and live with his new wife but a case of the kids not wanting the new wife to come and live with them. He was shutting between the two homes. Dayo she o ti gbo!

Thank you also for confirming that the wife just didn't sit at home all day watching Africa magic while hubby was making all the money to send his kids to school and build HIS house. Many of those women buying and selling make a heap of money especially the ones who sell ingredients & food so dont be fooled by their illiteracy.

Richy why do you keep on saying His house! His House!!! - If that woman put money towards buying one single louver, then it is THEIR house. . . . Their Home.

jennykadry: Wow you must really take this thread so seriously. You people think it is only women that lose out in break ups? Just so you know I have a lot of "toasters wealthier than my husband waiting for him to fvck up so they can have the opportunity to go down on both knees" . Cc and ify think they are the only ones that have toasters in this life, well sorry to burst their bubbles. I gat heaps Thank you very much

Second off I practice a profession that honestly if not for the Funds miscalculation curse placed on me by CC and co, I can do well for myself without a dime from my husband. Many Women these days hold solid bachelors, masters,phd certificates and still have a solid business On the side.

Third off I signed no prenup.

By God's grace my husband and I will still be married in 70yrs time so we are stil in the honeymoon phase

jennykadry: Wow you must really take this thread so seriously. You people think it is only women that lose out in break ups? Just so you know I have a lot of "toasters wealthier than my husband waiting for him to fvck up so they can have the opportunity to go down on both knees" . Cc and ify think they are the only ones that have toasters in this life, well sorry to burst their bubbles. I gat heaps Thank you very much

Second off I practice a profession that honestly if not for the Funds miscalculation curse placed on me by CC and co, I can do well for myself without a dime from my husband. Many Women these days hold solid bachelors, masters,phd certificates and still have a solid business On the side.

jennykadry:
Third off I signed no prenup.

jennykadry:
By God's grace my husband and I will still be married in 70yrs time so we are stil in the honeymoon phase

jennykadry: How much are you worth Saga? how many houses do you have overseas and in Naija?

jennykadry: Answer my questions. I am not marrying a man who will miscalculate my own funds

chaircover:

Na lie. Sage travels chicken or beef class