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@babyosisi

MY UNCLE'S IGBO IF YOU AINT TALKING ABOUT MONEY OR SEX THEN GET OUT OF MY WAY THAT'S HOW HE THINK.

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Hello:

I am new to this site, but it is a very special site to me because I am very soon to marry a wonderful man from Nigeria, whom I met on Line.
We have been chatting for a little over 3 months.  He is much younger than I am , but I love him very much.  He has never lied to me, this I know because I have tested him many times. His mother has contacted me twice on my cell phone and I not only love him with all my heart but can honestly say I trust him with my life.  He has asked me to marry him in his country because he wants all of his family there at our wedding and I can understand that, and I agree with it.  The only problem that I am having is that I was scammed by a man who I met on line that is from Nigeria, and this has caused a terrible strain on my relationship with my fiance. I want to tell my fiance about how I feel, but I have tried many times before, only to have to hear him say that I doubt his love and other things to that extent.  What can you suggest.  I love him with all my heart, and even though we have never met in person, I am going to meet in in another country before we actually go to Nigeria to be married.  thank you for all your help.  I am an american woman who is in love with a man from Nigeria, if other american women can be as lucky as I have been to marry a Nigerian man, they are truly blessed, but it is just the few scammers that are out there that mess it up for every body else,

@lucieo

Err on the side of caution.He should come over to the States if he wants to marry you. This just doesn't smell right.

thanks for your response.

We have discussed him coming to the states for us to be married, but the problem is with immigration. I can't sponsor him to visit this country because there is a clause in the Immigration laws that states that we have to meet in person at least 2 years prior to having submitted my petition to bring him here,

I am also married to a very intelligent nigerian man, he is very loving and kind, we have been married 3 1/2 years, he is still with me and we have a lovely marriage, we do alot of things together and communication is great. He is a hard worker and we share a deep love for each other. Cheers for Nigerian men.

Redwoman

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@redwoman

Thank you so much for your reply:

I am so confused. I love my fiance with all my heart. But I am worried about meeting him in another country to be married in Nigeria. I was recently scammed by another Nigerian, and although it is not fare that this should have any effect on my relationship with the man I love, it does. My fiance has never lied to me, and I am just worried that if I go to meet him in the other country and then go to Nigeria to be married that something might happen to me. This mistrust is the cause of what happened with the other nigerian who scammed me. please help with any comments that you believe might help me,

thank you

lucieo:


I am so confused. I love my fiance with all my heart. But I am worried about meeting him in another country to be married in Nigeria. I was recently scammed by another Nigerian, and although it is not fare that this should have any effect on my relationship with the man I love, it does. My fiance has never lied to me, and I am just worried that if I go to meet him in the other country and then go to Nigeria to be married that something might happen to me. This mistrust is the cause of what happened with the other nigerian who scammed me. please help with any comments that you believe might help me,

thank you

Like someone already suggested earlier, please be careful. You haven't even met him yet and you are talking about loving him with your life. Please be practical and not get too emotional about it. Loving is good but better when applied with common sense and restraint. Is 3 months not too soon to want to get married to someone especially after just being recently scammed by another Nigerian?

While you think he has never lied to you and even spoke to his "mother", all that can be staged.

Like you suggested, why don't you meet up in a "neutral" country that he can get a visa too. At least see him physically, and you can move on from there. Nigeria is not as bad as people make it out to be especially when you are in the right company. Of course every country has it's own share of crime.

@imani:

Thanks for your very wise comment:

I tried with immigration to get him a visitor's visa to come to america, which is what he really wants to do, but their is a clause that states that we have to meet face to face 2 years prior to my filing the petition for him to come here. i am alot older than my fiance, and so we have decided to meet in Turkey. He is a student in a country very near there and then from there are plans are to fly to nigeria to be married their because he wants his family present, and I want that as well. thank you for your response, and i most certainly hope that you will continue to shed some light on my concern, thanks

lucieo:


I tried with immigration to get him a visitor's visa to come to america, which is what he really wants to do, but their is a clause that states that we have to meet face to face 2 years prior to my filing the petition for him to come here. i am alot older than my fiance, and so we have decided to meet in Turkey. He is a student in a country very near there and then from there are plans are to fly to nigeria to be married their[b] because he wants his family present[/b], and I want that as well. thank you for your response, and i most certainly hope that you will continue to shed some light on my concern, thanks

What about your own family?

@imani

I don't have any family, they are all deceased. it is just me. can we chat on yahoo instant messenger instead of here. my id is lrodriguez1128@yahoo.com

thank you so very much

lucieo:

@imani

I don't have any family, they are all deceased. it is just me. can we chat on yahoo instant messenger instead of here. my id is lrodriguez1128@yahoo.com

thank you so very much

Just saw your post. You had already logged off.

Hope to chat to you some other time.

@imani

I am still online. I am having a difficult time reading your posts. I keep getting email notices but I dont know how to access the posts. when I go to the page the only thing I see is the last post that I sent. if you can help it will greatly be appreciated,


thank you so very much


lucieo

lucieo:

@imani

I am still online. I am having a difficult time reading your posts. I keep getting email notices but I don't know how to access the posts. when I go to the page the only thing I see is the last post that I sent. if you can help it will greatly be appreciated,


thank you so very much


lucieo

I think you can uncheck the box that sends all replies to your email by modifying your settings on your profile page.

Tried buzzing you but not reply. . .

@lucieo

Like someone said before you must be extremely careful so as to fall victim again. Have any demands for money been made? If so, please do not send any money.

As for coming to get married in Nigeria, I would not advise it as brides have been held ransom before. I am a proud Nigerian but these things have happened and continue to happen. Just err on the side of caution. Good luck

@ollie39

No their have never been any demands for money made on his part or from anybody else. If their has ever been any issues with money, he has helped me with money whenever i have needed it. I have done some searching on the internet and he is Hausa, and I have receivedmany good comments and remarks about him being Hausa. I am fully and completly aware of the scams that go on in Nigeria, and I can truly say that I have received many good and excellent comments about nigerians who are Hausa and about that subject when it comes to them, Of course I will be extremely careful and thank you for your concern,

I think you should slow down,


How are you sure he's hausa when you haven't seen him

Besides Hausa men rarely marry outside their tribe not to talk of marrying someone who is much older


What's the rush in getting married , 3 months is toooooooo short

By all means meet with him in a neutral country but don't use that to transit before heading to Nigeria to marry

Besides having no family just makes you vulnerable

I've seen scammers work, it cud be the same scammer who introduced this current 'boyfriend ' to you

@salsera

This man, who is my fiance, has been totally honest and up front with me from the very beginning. There is a lot more to this picture than everyone seems to be seeing here. The nigerian who scammed me is no where near my fiance. And even though I was scammed my fiance made good on everything, and that was not his duty. I know that 3 months is a short time, but if it is going to work out it will regardless if it is 3 months or 3 years. the good thing about 3 months is that you can get to know each other on a daily basis, and just because you say Hausa men dont marry out of their own or much less older women, have you ever heard of change. where would this world be if it wasnt for change.

thanks for your posts, i really appreciate your comment

Lucieo, i am an Hausa man just wondering what u migh look like. Do u have a pic?.   You can i m me via msn!!!

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@al Raheem

Thank you so much for your post. I will like to chat more with you. I dont use msn instant messenger. I use yahoo messenger, and i am on line at this moment. my id is lrodriguez1128@yahoo. com . look forward to chatting with you.

best regards

Lucieo

Lucieo this your fiance, u say uve known him for 3 months, have u actually met him before?

@Blue Sky

thanks for your post,, and in response to your question, no i have not met him in person yet. We have only seen each other on the web cam and we send letters to each other. He is not in Nigeria, he is a student in another country,

I don't want to sound rude but u should be careful.
This guy may be genuine, or he may just want your papers.
3 months is a short time to know someone, why can't you wait for a while?
R u seriously telling me that you love this guy and want to spend the rest of your life with him, even though u haveny met him?
Do your family and friends approve?
what country is he in?

@blue_sky

thanks for your post. I see that you are also on line. can we chat at yahoo messenger. my id is lrodriguez1128@yahoo.com

best regards

lucieo

Hello Lucieo, my email address is in my profile. If u just send ur pic. Then i can go through the trouble of downloading Yahoo im!!

I married a nigerian igbo man almost 4 years ago, we have had and still have the best relationship that either of us have ever been in, it is wonderful, first of all we love each other deeply and we communicate with each other on all daily issure. He is very loving and considerate and i am to him also. I know that there are bad men in every country but there are also good ones, i am thankful to have him in my life, so we are past the 2 years of conditional immigration and we are still together and doing well. I does not matter what part of this earth the man comes from, it is who he is inside and how he respects and treats women. I know that desperate people do desperate things, but some men do have a conscious, i think that this is the difference between a good man and a "desperate scammer", just adding my 10cents,,, with love


Redwoman

Hi Lucieo, I'm sorry I just think there is something not right here!!! 3 months is not long enough to know if you want to marry someone & if you're going to be together for the rest of you lives anyway, what's the big rush to marry? You've never met this guy in person & you're planning to go to Nigeria straight away and marry . . . . . . . I'm in love with a Nigerian guy myself, we've been together for about 15 months now. I love him with my life & I know he feels the same. We see each other almost everyday but we are only planning now to move in together & we have talked about marriage in the future but as I said earlier in this post, if you feel that you're going to be together for ever anyway, what's the rush. That's just my opinion on the matter. Whatever you decide to do, I REALLY hope it all goes to plan & you both live a long & happy life together.  

@Eiregirl

Thank you so much for your post. I really appreciate your opinion.  Don't worry I am not going to Nigeria. My fiance is not there, he is in Cyprus.  He is a student there.  We were going to meet there, and together go to Nigeria to be married, but that doesn't seem like it is going to happen anytime soon.  I don't have the money and neither does he, so we will continue to work on our relationship and our love, because we do love each other very much.  I am much older than him, and when I say much, I mean much, but I never thought that someone so much younger than I could make me feel the way he does.  I have learned alot from him because Nigerian men, no matter what their age, are very mature.  I believe it stems from the way they are brought up.  Very different from men in the United States.  Thanks again for your opinion.  I hope that we can chat again soon,  I am on yahoo messenger and my i.d. there is lrodriguez1128

Best Wishes to you and to your man


lucieo

i hope you meet him soon

at least to SEE who you have been dating


plan and save some cash to spend at least a weekend in Cyprus first

then tell us how it went

@redwoman

Good Evening:

I was looking at your post, and I noticed that you mentioned that you are married to a nigerian man. What drew my attention is the fact that you are from Florida as I am and I also noticed that you mentioned that you are passed the 2 years of immigration. Can you please help me by telling me what it is that I have to do to be able to get my fiance here from Cyprus. I tried to get him here, and when I looked at the conditions of immigration, it stated that we have to meet in person 2 years prior to having filed the petition to bring him here. Can you help me with giving an idea as to what i have to do and if this is true or not. I dont want to wait, but if I have to I have no choice. But I am just wondering if there are other ways that I can get him here, thanks for all your input,

lucieo

How in the hell some strange man gonna be your fiance? That is some crazy mess. Why would he be bothered with you, when he surrounded by beautiful girlsl, which I am sure he is sexing at least a few. Use your friggin come sense. These guys sit back and laugh about the suckers they have bled or going to bleed.

These yahoo and hotmail boys live in the internet cafes in dating sites and such looking for desperate, lonely women.  These guys are unemployed and looking for a meal ticket.  Have you ever consider why he isn't romancing some African woman in Senegal.  Simply. She doesn't have the western citizenship.

Dateline a couple of months did a story on people who were in love with internet strangers.  The strangers professed their undying love, and even go the suckers to send stolen merchandise to various countries at their expense.  I just say there some really lonely people out there.

Don't be surprise if he ask can he send you a certified check.  He just wants you to deposit it in your account.  Of course, you can take 10%, but send him the rest.  Of course, the check is counterfiet.

Don't be surprise if he give you a sad story that requires you or suggest that you send money.  The scams are numerous.  You going to be 419ed.  However, it appears that emotionally you are already bamboozled.

@bigsis

You need to find out what you are talking about before you even attempt to make a comment. I would be more than happy to prove you wrong about my fiance, but really and in all actuality it is none of your fucking business. of course there are bad and evil people out there, in nigeria and in my hometown as well. we dont live in a perfect world, but you cant always or ever judge a book by its cover, It is so very sad that you would even attempt to express yourself the way you have, but maybe you are the one who would have the odacity to 419 me, and that would be very sad that you would have to stoop so low,