@ romeo4real
you were dead on right on most of your points! way to go buddy!!!

@ gozilla
You nailed it, !!!

@okotie400

I do understand where you re coming from with your point. You are right in a way that, anyone in this life has to answer your questions regardless of whether they re white on black or black on black. Im not disputing the fact that you have made a good point. yes, we all have to be sure we can live the rest of our lives with out prospective others, before we make big decisions about spending the rest of our lives with them.
But My own point is that "It doesnt matter what color that person is. If it will last, it will, if not, it will end in disaster, regardless of the 'COLOR'
Do you understand where I'm coming from as well?
Thanks for the input though!

Sasha dear, i think i understand the point u ard trying to make.Well, now that i think of it, i think it is not the color of the skin that matters but the distance from home.There is this saying that east, west, north, and south, home is the best.What i am talking about is ur proximity to ur home.It is what matters. U cant just go very far away(in which case ur spouse wont be interested in coming to africa again).U think it is easy to just forget ur home 4 the rest of ur life.Well, lol i just hope u get where i am coming from.Hola at ordinaryman3000@yahoo.Com

okay that was very helpful but this is the part i hate about some Nairalanders
why do u have to put your email here for someone to hola
you are a wana be , fill in the blank

@origina9ja
what do u really have against putting my email address, i just like to make new friends.U are invited to be my friend .Who knows when one will value his/her friends most.Cuz there is this saying-make new friends but keep the old ones cuz one is silver,the other is gold.Hola my dearie at ordinaryman3000@yahoo.Com

hahaa
you did not tell me you are looking fro friends
we can be chating here now no problem

@origina9ja
come on lol i like that.Thats how things are done.Thats the spirit with which we will rule the world.Still hola at ordinaryman3000@yahoo.Com

lol @okotie400.
He's a funny guy. Thanks for offering your email address though.

@original9ja,
You never know what may come out of this. people meet for different reasons, I suggest you take up okotie's offer

@mwanamiwaa

Stop spamming please. This is nairaland, not kenyaland

@Sasha,
u are a doll.
@origina9ja
See, somebody understands what i was talking about.Com on, the offer still stands.Hola at ordinaryman3000@yahoo.Com

erm good 4 u
i dont even have an email adress to hola @ some one
can u creat 1 for me pls

@origina9ja
then send me ur details like ur prefered username and password.I will do it immediately i get it.+2348064129175

origina9ja:

erm good 4 u
i dont even have an email adress to hola @ some one
can u creat 1 for me pls

why u dey hang the poor guy like that now? shame don leave am catch me

sasha009,
some of the comments here are really funny , i am married to a white guy it is not very easy but as they say love conquers all.
People will stare, people will point and Nigerian friends will not hide them selves they will even suggest a few men to you.
Most of us just have a feeling that once a person is diffrent from we are it is just wrong , forgetting blood runs through that persons veins as well.

I have been with my husband since 2003 and yes THE INTEREST IN MY COUNTRY MY CULTURE IS STILL THERE.
He understand pidgin that i cant even talk about him on the phone to my friends anymore unless i speak in my dialect
My father was a bit of a challenge but once he knew i loved him he let me be with time your parents will chill they might not be 100 percent happy but if they know you are happy they will let you do your thing.
we watch too much TV and don't know the truth some people know nothing about facts they just do monkey see monkey do and run there mouths.
Yes culturally it is diffrent but that is how your love grows you get to understand each other, since i am married to one i really don't care what people say or think i love him that is all that matters, so follow your heart.

@ arlington.

Thanks love
That was a nice advice. do you guys live in Nigeria?
I personally don't normally give a shit whether people on the street stare or not. Its a free world i guess. each to their own.

A friend of mine used to say ;
"You would worry less about what people think if you knew how little they did"

My only concern now is my parents, once they re on the right path with me, Let the world freak out and talk. It doesn't raise a single hair on my skin

@sasha
it is not all about people staring on the streets.Its is about being as lucky as she is.But as they say,love conquereth all.U have my blessings at last.Go on marry ur filipinno.The sky is ur limit.Best of luck from a true friend.
Hola at ordinaryman3000@yahoo.Com

@okotie800
Are you fucking kidding me!!!
Im dating a white european guy, not a 'FILIPINO'
I find it amusing that you just jumped into conclusions regarding the nationality of who im dating.

Thanks for your 'go ahead' stamp. you re a champion, you funny dude

@ Poster, i'm of the opinion 'a guy' is just that regardless of the race or ethnicity, it's his character that will make him stand apart. I think you should enjoy your relationship whilst dating, but if you want to take it further, then you'll definitely have to consider what kind of clashes (culture or others) might arise and if you can cope with it. I'll share a story with you.

A friend of mine in uni (NSW) hooked up with a black guy,(She's frm zim he was frm Ghana). She is a Jehovah's witness (JW), he's pentecoastal. The guys mum had a bad experience with a JW in the past and vowed her son wouldn't convert whilst the girl said she was only allowed to marry from her faith. She complained that the guy listened to his parents to much and that he was possessive (African trait) so the relationship ended. She was also attracted to white guys so it was an open playing field with her. She was later introduced to a white guy who shared her faith. She was attracted to him, and it seemed easier dealing with him and this was gr8 for her. The guys family accepted her so when the boy proposed, she accepted. She knew the guy worked for his dad, but after the marriage things didn't pan out as she'd imagined. The guys family are farmers, so school isn't their number one priority, even though they knew she was in university. Things started off sour when her dad decided he wasn't going to continue paying her school fee's hence she was married and he'd focus on her younger ones. The guys dad wasn't impressed and decided he would continue to 'direct' his sons welfare. He got a place for them five mins away from his family home so the boy could be close to family. She kept quiet. The guys mum stopped by almost every evening to make sure she could 'assist' my friend with dinner for her son and other household chores. She was grateful. The dad refused to let his son open a separate account for himself and maintained a weekly allowance for the boy regardless of the fact he was now married (and she thought the Ghanaian guy listened to his parents too much). Well things got worse as she realized the parents weren't going to let them be a married couple in peace and when she tried to sit him down to talk to him about the necessity for a change in lifestyle , he started drinking, beating her and telling her that she was all alone wit no one to rescue her being a foriegner in his land. He started grumbling about how he wanted a 'normal' wife as he'd lost his taste for his 'exotic' wife. They lived in a predominantly white community on the coast, so he wasn't prepared for the whispers. To cut an already long story short, she summed up the courage to separate from the guy. She had to endure rumors of the guys mum claiming she wasn't mentally stable because she got so depressed she was put on drugs. She's lucky because she interacted with Africans and was advised to report to Dimia about the abuse only to find out later that the guy tried to report her as an illegal.

I know your situation will be different and even better but it's very important for you to define where you want your relationship to go and be realistic about what kind of challenges you may face. Every relationship has it's percularities that must be addressed. I truly believe that if your parents see that you've thought about that, they'll give you their support.

, do it!
mulatto kids are soooo beautiful, i admire mixed relationships a lot; there is just something progressive about it, ;o)

@ ezine,
wow
your story is so inspiring. Thanks so much for the input. I do feel for the girl, but having said this, the same thing could still happen if she had married an african. see even ibos and yorubas still have clashes. A lot of yoruba parents would not want their children to marry ibos, and the same with ibos, vice versa, so this life is not so easy sometimes. I guess one just has to go with what will make one happy in the long run cause I believe someday my parents will not be thee anymore. It will be me and my destiny, so why not choose what makes me happy regardless what anyone thinks

@drugdealer,
thanks!!!
Are you really a drug dealer or just a namelol
kidding

@sasha
lol,am back again.Remember me? Now,i can assure u that nobody in nairaland read more Mills and Boons than this brother,but it never caused me to fall heads over heel for the white beauties.Dunno why it should in ur case.Well, when all is said and done i pray that brother be a better one.

vbn

@ Sasha

some good points

Black toto 4 life. . . .i no dey hide my own, . . . .yeparipa!

@ Sashaa009,

Hi dear i cant just stop laughing . All the answers and opinions are relevant to you depending on whom you are and what you want. Listen dear i have always said no matter how good or bad you are people MUST talk. i grew up , schooled and worked in nigeria before i left some few yrs ago because of marriage. Throughout my stay i dated black brothers, there are the good ones , the bad and the uglyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy ones couple with family influence depending on whom you met. neverthless, i finally got married to an european whiteman who came down in nigeria did both customary , traditonal and church wedding not minding. I can tell you am happy were am because it was my decision and thanks for my family especially my brothers who have been very much explose to life and cultural diversities. Follow your heart and finally your knees on the ground so that when finally you made your decision it would be the right one. Gone are the days when people stick to things that are not relevance.
I pray that the good lord will soften your parents heart and made them to understand that a womans joy is were her heart goes. Goodluck dear.

@op don't give a sh*t abt hates chatting poo on nl.u dey happy with ur oyinbo man

White men are so much easier than men of other
cultures/races.
If you want an easy, hassle free life then marry a
white guy.

White Men good points

- laid back
- good sense of humour
- less sexist
- fair
- good communicators
- rarely controlling
- less judgemental
- more forgiving

I'm not a racist. This is just my opinion/preference.

sara j:

White men are so much easier than men of other
cultures/races.
If you want an easy, hassle free life then marry a
white guy.

White Men good points

- laid back
- good sense of humour
- less sexist
- fair
- good communicators
- rarely controlling
- less judgemental
- more forgiving

I'm not a racist. This is just my opinion/preference.

Damn. Gotta go!