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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by maasoap(m): 10:34pm On Feb 05, 2020
Romangalactic:
Let's say you told her that you were sterile at the beginning of your relationship or before she became pregnant, what would she have probably done? She would have run. Simple. That was the main reason you didn't tell her.

Secondly, even your doctor couldn't guarantee you 100% you that will be become potent (again), it's still all about being hopeful and optimistic.

Whether the pregnancy is yours or not, whether she cheated on you or not. You still have so much to benefit from the relationship than your spouse. May be, it is time to accept your fate and start seeing the pregnancy as yours. And probably the ones that will follow in the future too.

Small price to pay for being impotent and for deceiving your finance. Because the alternative might be worse than this.
*You know, many people will get to know your condition. And in this our society, it is like a death sentence. You will become object of ridicule.
*Two, having another fiance or wife might be difficult for you once the secret is out. You don't want to face that kind of challenge.

There are two types of children: biological children and non biological children. All na children.

Choose wisely, be smart. Just know that you are not in position to have it both ways, to have it your ways. You have to drop one for the other.
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by wiloy2k8(m): 10:37pm On Feb 05, 2020
Pray make mumu depart from u
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by aimalohi: 10:38pm On Feb 05, 2020
What makes you feel the pregnancy is not yours. I hv seen a lot of ppl who impregnates a lady despite doctors report. So it’s wrong to conclude it’s not your child. Except you know her as a cheat since u r a liar.
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by Slimdada(m): 10:38pm On Feb 05, 2020
First of all you're not a real gee
For not opening up to your fvvking bitch
Do you know that trust and fidelity is the bedrock of any successful relationship??
Mehn the worst that can do you is to father another man baby because some day the pikin go leave you find his or her real dad
Omo e come be like say your bitch play away match,but I can't seem to understand some bitches,just because your pussy is elastic you now think its an avenue to jump from the dick of dbanj,2face,psquare etc
Why don't you stick to your man and give him the puum puum alone

I no fit tell you to break up with your bitch because i dont know what she does for you,so Mi gee you GATS save money so you go run DNA test after 9 month's if that kid ain't yours say bye bye to that gold digger ....

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by paparazi1(m): 10:38pm On Feb 05, 2020
Romangalactic:
I'll try to keep my predicament short. I registered a new account for this purpose but I'm sure many of you will understand that sterility is not something to be announced which is exactly how I got myself in this situation. I am 35 and engaged to a beautiful woman who completes me in every way. As much as it hurts me to say this, I have not been totally honest with her about everything.
Just yesterday while we were home together, she told me that she is pregnant . I asked her how sure she is, she said she had done the pee test and that she knows how she is feeling. The issue here is that I am sterile but I have not told her this before so it is impossible that I am responsible.

Please before anyone tells me I deserve this for not opening up to her, I have been undergoing treatment secretly and they say I will be able to father children when it's done so of course, I am hopeful and have not bothered to inform her about any of this. I can't stand losing her for any reason. My issue right now is that I asked my endocrinologist this morning if it's possible that the treatment is already working and he said we have not gone far enough to see any results yet. This means I am definitely not the father of the child she is carrying.

Only one other person in this world knows about my health challenge and that is my cousin. I told him and he told me to break up with my fiancée, someone I have already done introduction with and families are involved. I told him I cannot and that he must take the secret to the grave, he thinks I am making the biggest mistake of my life.
Well I told him my plan is to accept the pregnancy and continue to make her think I don't know she cheated on me. I am doing this with the hope that after we get married, my treatment will be completed and everything will be back to normal. But at the same time, I still can't shake the feeling that I am about to marry someone who cheated and is passing off another man's child as mine, I feel cheated and it hurts.

Can anyone else please tell me what to do about this situation I have found myself? Please I just need to hear from other people besides my cousin. Another thing, he has never really liked my fiancée so I feel that also may be his motivation.
I need neutral opinions please
Sound to fake, just want to trend.
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by Nobody: 10:38pm On Feb 05, 2020
stephnie44:
[b][/b]u might b d father once happened to my broda he was told he can't father a child he tried his luck boom his girlfriend became pregnant he didn't hesitate to ask her to keep it.they got married he tried again another child.so don't b in a haste to conclude.once ur child is born go for dna just act like a husband to her till she puts to bed.pls don't forget to update us later in 9 mths time
it is possible for you brother to arrange another person to get his wife pregnant to save himself of embarrassment just as this op is about to do.

things happen
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by BoboKush(m): 10:38pm On Feb 05, 2020
toplinetrtrend:



Bro, there is no assurance that she will not cheat on you again and again.

A girl that cheats during relationship had a tendency to cheat in marriage

This is the reason I left ma ex

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by aspiring44: 10:39pm On Feb 05, 2020
Sanchez01:
Whatever your reasons are for not telling her holds no water. You established the relationship on a lie and deceit and it is somewhat hilarious that you are not sure whether or not you are getting the same treatment right now.

While I don't want to authoritatively assert that she cheated, I feel your best chance right now is to wait after nine months and run a DNA test on the child, albeit secretly (for your sake and hers).

On a lighter note, you probably should get sewing threads of different colours, say five, tie them simultaneously around a long broom or a long nail. Rub it against the dirt or sand to make it look dirty a bit and cook up a story about some practice in your parent's lineage. Ask her to confirm you own the pregnancy over the jargon you made, but not without warning her of the grave consequences. Your truth will come out. grin

Last, last, you both are truly meant for each other.


It's equally possible to run DNA during preg itself

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by aoshea18: 10:39pm On Feb 05, 2020
Jimi24:
Oga, how do you know you are sterile?. Did you cut a tube?. Was it a Nigerian doctor who told you that you were?. Did you seek alternative opinion?

This is actually the best advice here IMO. I can probably trust 2 maybe 3 doctors in this entire country(1 of them is here on NL). I don't want to start giving cases of misdiagnosis or complete cluelessness about how the human body functions. My dad was told his left eye would go completely blind in a few months and it'll be irreversible and untreatable. He went to London and the doctor he saw drew a diagram of what was causing the issue. Surgery lasted 30 mins. Both eyes still working perfectly till today(12 years after), my sister had an accident. Spleen was ruptured and she was bleeding internally, only one doctor in A&E National hospital Abuja could spot that she was about to die even though she was talking and walking. God really showed himself strong. 8 years after, she's doing excellently well. Had a sinus infection one time, saw a senior specialist at a certain state hospital and she completely misdiagnosed it. Called one of the three doctors I trust(we where in school together) and told me the drugs to buy and 2 days after, I was on the mend. Endocrinologist or not, please get a second or third opinion from proper doctors. Good luck.

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by aspiring44: 10:40pm On Feb 05, 2020
BoboKush:


This is the reason I left ma ex

It's always painful when a woman cheats

One cannot just imagine it .

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by LyfeJennings(m): 10:41pm On Feb 05, 2020
Sanchez01:
Whatever your reasons are for not telling her holds no water. You established the relationship on a lie and deceit and it is somewhat hilarious that you are not sure whether or not you are getting the same treatment right now.

While I don't want to authoritatively assert that she cheated, I feel your best chance right now is to wait after nine months and run a DNA test on the child, albeit secretly (for your sake and hers).

On a lighter note, you probably should get sewing threads of different colours, say five, tie them simultaneously around a long broom or a long nail. Rub it against the dirt or sand to make it look dirty a bit and cook up a story about some practice in your parent's lineage. Ask her to confirm you own the pregnancy over the jargon you made, but not without warning her of the grave consequences. Your truth will come out. grin

Last, last, you both are truly meant for each other.

Sense will not kill U
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by joyandfaith: 10:43pm On Feb 05, 2020
Romangalactic:
I'll try to keep my predicament short. I registered a new account for this purpose but I'm sure many of you will understand that sterility is not something to be announced which is exactly how I got myself in this situation. I am 35 and engaged to a beautiful woman who completes me in every way. As much as it hurts me to say this, I have not been totally honest with her about everything.
Just yesterday while we were home together, she told me that she is pregnant . I asked her how sure she is, she said she had done the pee test and that she knows how she is feeling. The issue here is that I am sterile but I have not told her this before so it is impossible that I am responsible.

Please before anyone tells me I deserve this for not opening up to her, I have been undergoing treatment secretly and they say I will be able to father children when it's done so of course, I am hopeful and have not bothered to inform her about any of this. I can't stand losing her for any reason. My issue right now is that I asked my endocrinologist this morning if it's possible that the treatment is already working and he said we have not gone far enough to see any results yet. This means I am definitely not the father of the child she is carrying.

Only one other person in this world knows about my health challenge and that is my cousin. I told him and he told me to break up with my fiancée, someone I have already done introduction with and families are involved. I told him I cannot and that he must take the secret to the grave, he thinks I am making the biggest mistake of my life.
Well I told him my plan is to accept the pregnancy and continue to make her think I don't know she cheated on me. I am doing this with the hope that after we get married, my treatment will be completed and everything will be back to normal. But at the same time, I still can't shake the feeling that I am about to marry someone who cheated and is passing off another man's child as mine, I feel cheated and it hurts.

Can anyone else please tell me what to do about this situation I have found myself? Please I just need to hear from other people besides my cousin. Another thing, he has never really liked my fiancée so I feel that also may be his motivation.
I need neutral opinions please

There is limitation to human knowledge. You may be responsible for the pregnancy. Repeat seminalysis. A spermatoan is needed to fertilize an egg.
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by abbey621(m): 10:44pm On Feb 05, 2020
A union formed on lies shall see its end in misery. You are the architect of your own downfall, you made your bed now sleep on it!
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by Lugianostar(m): 10:44pm On Feb 05, 2020
Despite what doctors said concerning our situations; as a believer those medical verdicts aren't what God envisage for us and don't accept them. You are going to be a father; accept full responsibility and take the relationship to another dimension except you are suspecting your fiance'e is cheating on you You are the man here for crying out loud, raise up and do the needful...!
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by Nobody: 10:45pm On Feb 05, 2020
God will help u
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by Germi9: 10:45pm On Feb 05, 2020
You again....you want to write another movie na?

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by trendyprettygir: 10:46pm On Feb 05, 2020
Lying gets you nowhere..
The only place lies lead to is the truth and by then so many things will have been destroyed...

There are several ways around this, but I will stick to just the right way:

Go and see another endo.... and do more tests, for a second opinion, who knows, you could have been healed... God is awesome..

Ask her to tell you anything she has been hiding from you, if she says nothing, tell her the truth and then ask her how she got the baby.. Then tell her you are willing to father the child and you love her and you would marry her. If she agrees, both of you need to back to God and then get married.

One last thing...the truth is best!

There is nothing like the truth..... If you decide to play along with this and the child turns out to be for someone else, you would definitely regret this in the future. Don't be deceived, (though very hard to say) the truth ALWAYS sets one free.

Repent, Jesus Loves You!

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by policysamuel(m): 10:46pm On Feb 05, 2020
flyingdutchman:
Do you have Kleinfelters syndrome? Pardon me for asking.


Klinefelter Syndrome
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by seunp990: 10:47pm On Feb 05, 2020
Romangalactic:

I had an STinfection I never knew about until I began noticing white fluid forming around the tip of my privates, it looked like semen so at first I thought maybe while i was asleep I was aroused but when I began experiencing burning sensations while peeing, i just had to get myself checked out. They found out it was a urinary tract infection left untreated for too long that reached my prostate

I could give more details but I'm afraid i don't want to go too much into all of it if you don't mind.

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by hollowpot15684(m): 10:47pm On Feb 05, 2020
Romangalactic:
I'll try to keep my predicament short. I registered a new account for this purpose but I'm sure many of you will understand that sterility is not something to be announced which is exactly how I got myself in this situation. I am 35 and engaged to a beautiful woman who completes me in every way. As much as it hurts me to say this, I have not been totally honest with her about everything.
Just yesterday while we were home together, she told me that she is pregnant . I asked her how sure she is, she said she had done the pee test and that she knows how she is feeling. The issue here is that I am sterile but I have not told her this before so it is impossible that I am responsible.

Please before anyone tells me I deserve this for not opening up to her, I have been undergoing treatment secretly and they say I will be able to father children when it's done so of course, I am hopeful and have not bothered to inform her about any of this. I can't stand losing her for any reason. My issue right now is that I asked my endocrinologist this morning if it's possible that the treatment is already working and he said we have not gone far enough to see any results yet. This means I am definitely not the father of the child she is carrying.

Only one other person in this world knows about my health challenge and that is my cousin. I told him and he told me to break up with my fiancée, someone I have already done introduction with and families are involved. I told him I cannot and that he must take the secret to the grave, he thinks I am making the biggest mistake of my life.
Well I told him my plan is to accept the pregnancy and continue to make her think I don't know she cheated on me. I am doing this with the hope that after we get married, my treatment will be completed and everything will be back to normal. But at the same time, I still can't shake the feeling that I am about to marry someone who cheated and is passing off another man's child as mine, I feel cheated and it hurts.

Can anyone else please tell me what to do about this situation I have found myself? Please I just need to hear from other people besides my cousin. Another thing, he has never really liked my fiancée so I feel that also may be his motivation.
I need neutral opinions please

I can imagine how horrible you must have felt when she informed you about the pregnancy, you are definitely going to get over this in no time.

Without passing judgment on you both, considering you are trying to have control of the situation, i want you to know that this is now beyond what you should manage, and the best way to go about this is to escalate the matter.

It is high time you let her know of your predicaments and ask her if she still want the relationship with you, in this case, she will be pushed to tell you if she had cheated on you or not. In all of this, i want to plead with you to come out of your shell and not allow your sterility make you less of a man that you are, ask your lady boldly on what she want to do after she had found out about your issue, put all of the decisions into her hands.

If she decide to leave, that lady never loved you, but if her confession is that she cheat on you and still want to stay then forgive her and reach an agreement to carry out a DNA on that child when it arrives.
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by brainhgeek(m): 10:48pm On Feb 05, 2020
You didn't tell her you're sterile and you went ahead to engage her with the hope of getting married to her. I don't know what to say or your faith in the treatment you are receiving but I usually say people should get what they are faithing before they commit to a delicate institution like marriage. What if the treatment doesn't work and she gets to know at a point in time.
I would have advised you just quit that relationship, you were both unfaithful.
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by TheSociopath(m): 10:48pm On Feb 05, 2020
Wait for DNA test. If the child is yours, marry her. If not, find your way. Simple!
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by Adexvivacity(m): 10:50pm On Feb 05, 2020
elektra:
I’m curious. How did you find out you were sterile? Functional men don’t randomly check for sperm activity. Since you are not married, what could have prompted you to check?

My advice for you : Blood test ( Genotype), HIV test, fertility test must be done by the person you are dating before you do introduction.

I did everything and she did hers before I introduced her to my family properly. Many news like this should prepare you to what needs to be done.

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by Cchuks27(m): 10:51pm On Feb 05, 2020
In my humble submission, I will advise you put a hold to your union. I know age isn't quite on your side and probably coupled with family and friends pressure but you have to address this issue (your sterility and her unfaithfulness). This is very serious and worrying.

As a matter of conviction, this issue has the potential to snowball into something very ugly in the near future, if you both eventually get married. In addition, there's no trust in this relationship. It's built on a lie and falsehood. This relationship will be tested very soon and it how you have lay your bed, so shall you lie on it.

I wish you the very best. God bless and give you the needed wisdom.
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by Peezol: 10:51pm On Feb 05, 2020
Is like have watched the movie before Kunle Aford was the sterile guy
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by LordReed2nd(m): 10:53pm On Feb 05, 2020
Romangalactic:
I'll try to keep my predicament short. I registered a new account for this purpose but I'm sure many of you will understand that sterility is not something to be announced which is exactly how I got myself in this situation. I am 35 and engaged to a beautiful woman who completes me in every way. As much as it hurts me to say this, I have not been totally honest with her about everything.
Just yesterday while we were home together, she told me that she is pregnant . I asked her how sure she is, she said she had done the pee test and that she knows how she is feeling. The issue here is that I am sterile but I have not told her this before so it is impossible that I am responsible.

Please before anyone tells me I deserve this for not opening up to her, I have been undergoing treatment secretly and they say I will be able to father children when it's done so of course, I am hopeful and have not bothered to inform her about any of this. I can't stand losing her for any reason. My issue right now is that I asked my endocrinologist this morning if it's possible that the treatment is already working and he said we have not gone far enough to see any results yet. This means I am definitely not the father of the child she is carrying.

Only one other person in this world knows about my health challenge and that is my cousin. I told him and he told me to break up with my fiancée, someone I have already done introduction with and families are involved. I told him I cannot and that he must take the secret to the grave, he thinks I am making the biggest mistake of my life.
Well I told him my plan is to accept the pregnancy and continue to make her think I don't know she cheated on me. I am doing this with the hope that after we get married, my treatment will be completed and everything will be back to normal. But at the same time, I still can't shake the feeling that I am about to marry someone who cheated and is passing off another man's child as mine, I feel cheated and it hurts.

Can anyone else please tell me what to do about this situation I have found myself? Please I just need to hear from other people besides my cousin. Another thing, he has never really liked my fiancée so I feel that also may be his motivation.
I need neutral opinions please

Both of you keeping potentially damaging secrets is just disaster waiting to happen.

I think the way forward is to open up to each other with your secrets and if you want to go on, then you make an informed decision. This hide and seek you guys are playing will bring you harm down the road and may even have serious consequences for the child.

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by bnovative(m): 10:53pm On Feb 05, 2020
Romangalactic:

It's not everytime the truth sets people free. I thought about this as well but there too may things at play.
I have always felt the treatment may not have positive results fast enough and will take many trials, so accepting responsibility for this child is a good way to save us the embarrassment of our families wondering why we have not had a child after marriage and it also ensures she won't be trying to get pregnant for the next three to four years, which gives me more time to sort myself out.

I know this is selfish of me,. thanks a lot for your suggestions.
So how many children are you prepared to father this way?
How do you guys cope with the fact that you are not true to each other?
What do you do if the real father surfaces in the future to lay claims?
Guy tell her the truth and damn what you think the society would say.
Yes you may never have a biological child but you can legally adopt one.
The lady will never stay on in the marriage, having known you can't father a child. She thinks her deception is not known, that is why she's still here.
You will be the loser in this game.
How do you even stand the image of another man riding your wife like a stallion? Doing all the styles you may not have the courage to try on her.?
She will always go back for more, In as much as she wants more children.

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Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by Ikjosh04: 10:54pm On Feb 05, 2020
I'm really sorry for the messy situation you're in currently. All is well, meanwhile, if it's ok with you I'll like to know what you did or happened that made you sterile.

Best Wishes




Romangalactic:
I'll try to keep my predicament short. I registered a new account for this purpose but I'm sure many of you will understand that sterility is not something to be announced which is exactly how I got myself in this situation. I am 35 and engaged to a beautiful woman who completes me in every way. As much as it hurts me to say this, I have not been totally honest with her about everything.
Just yesterday while we were home together, she told me that she is pregnant . I asked her how sure she is, she said she had done the pee test and that she knows how she is feeling. The issue here is that I am sterile but I have not told her this before so it is impossible that I am responsible.

Please before anyone tells me I deserve this for not opening up to her, I have been undergoing treatment secretly and they say I will be able to father children when it's done so of course, I am hopeful and have not bothered to inform her about any of this. I can't stand losing her for any


I need neutral opinions please
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by Reazest: 10:56pm On Feb 05, 2020
Romangalactic:

I am fully operational but sterile. I will have to find a way to make the trip and see my endocrinologist so he can take samples, my next consultation was not due for another four months but I'm really praying the child is mine.
Live a happy life ok. and get ready to be a father. stop giving urself unnecessary worries. Lastly, never share ur secret with anybody, Even ur parents. why will u tell ur cousin that u are sterile? Common, be a man ok, and stop behaving like a kid.
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by kingjrofficial(m): 10:57pm On Feb 05, 2020
Romangalactic:

I am fully operational but sterile. I will have to find a way to make the trip and see my endocrinologist so he can take samples, my next consultation was not due for another four months but I'm really praying the child is mine.
confront her with the truth... Lies have a dateline .....
Beside, wat if God was involved in ur health issue?? Speak to her and if she truly loves you, she'll open up to u regardless of who the father was.....


How sure are u that she cheated??








I doubt bro....
I pray the baby is urs and ur health challenge has come to an end, Amen
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by effiency01(m): 10:58pm On Feb 05, 2020
In as much your cousin is aware of everything, it is better you let her go or you let her know you're not responsible for the pregnancy because there is no secret in it anymore. Sooner or later everything will burst.
Re: I Am Sterile But About To Be A Father by Mac2016(m): 10:58pm On Feb 05, 2020
Romangalactic:

I am fully operational but sterile. I will have to find a way to make the trip and see my endocrinologist so he can take samples, my next consultation was not due for another four months but I'm really praying the child is mine.
Which delay.. My friend go for fertility test at any hospital that would be almost enough to confirm the paternity of the foetus

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