Atiku:
Imagine being fat, jobless, dirty and extremely idle.

when we met, I was the perfect kind of man she wants.
Na she feed me till I became fat o

NiceMen:


Because of you, I go create post on mini importation for the man. I hate it when women use this fork men up..

I will really appreciate it

southniyikaye:
when we met, I was the perfect kind of man she wants.
Na she feed me till I became fat o

See wetin the man dey talk? Tufiakwa!
I pity her

sad

southniyikaye:
you still don't understand, it was a guy that opened a thread sometimes and said if you want to know your wife, opened a new account and chat her.
Maybe madeinchezen or something.
Sincerely, am happy this happened. Do you think I will leave her? All those things she hates, I will stop them, all those things she likes, I will start doing them. That's the plan.
I always know that if I know what I need to know about her and changed, I will enjoy her
I even just called her now and she talked normal

Bro, if you know what is good for you, please take the thought out of your mind that your wife is fooling around with that fake version of you on social media because you are broke.

Don't make yourself believe this, and you must not pay attention to anyone telling you she's doing it simply because of your financial situation.
Women can use anything to excuse infidelity.

I am a man like you and I can tell you for a fact, social media has made it easy for married women to chat around and have flirty conversations - it may not lead to sex, but it usually does if the guy on the other end is persistent enough.
And it has absolutely nothing to do with their husbands being broke...most just want to fvck someone else.

Whatever you plan to do to earn money, please do it for YOURSELF and your KIDS and not for your wife who has proven to have little to no self-control.

I will tell you the truth and not lead you astray.
Facebook chat, Insta chat, WhatsApp etc... These platforms are filled with married women having conversations with men just to remember what it feels like to be sexy & desired by someone else.

If you hang out with the right people and put your ears to the ground, you will hear enough gist that will last you and the next three versions of your reincarnated self.

I wish you goodluck in your search for a job and/or business... but oga, do am for YOURSELF oo and to increase your status in life. That your wife no deserve am after falling for whoever she thinks she's falling for online.
I'm sorry to say.

Both you and your wife are funny people

southniyikaye:
I won't make it up, we are still chatting and she is still in her fantasy world. Don't wanna break it to her yet.

Dont break it to her at all at all. Just tell her you will be travelling for a while and might be incommunicado.

Adjust yourself based on your findings and live the life of your head.

Biglittlelois:



A little bit of both, but most importantly, he wants people to insult and degrade her, then extend it to females, generally, we know the normal tune here.

You’re experienced

@Op there's no one here without a story to tell, I'm still gathering mine and I know it will end in praise. My quick observation:
-Ur wife needs listening ears it became known when she opened up to a stranger even when u have been pressing her to open up to u earlier, u caused it and u pushed her to hold things back from u
-everyone one including me has a problem mine is discipline
-man up and stop being reminded of ur past failures it will only limit u and failure is not perculiar to u. don't be too hard on urself
- stop asking for too much help from people, help only comes divinely as people (even kids that have access to a mobile phone with cheap data) will use u to catch groove, laugh at ur problems, take advantage of u and pretty much mess things up and with no help in sight
- I see potential in u and I see u have a flare for writing, keep it up and like a rough diamond it takes a little more patience and prayers things will with out fine

Ybaby:


Several mini importation posts on NL, FB, YouTube free of charge but OP used his data for investigation while his in laws feed thier daughter and his kids

Well your own mini importation may help him

Not everyone is aware of these things man. Even as u dey now, there are things u don't know despite using the internet daily.

crackkhaus:


Bro, if you know what is good for you, please take the thought out of your mind that your wife is fooling around with that fake version of you on social media because you are broke.

Don't make yourself believe this, and you must not pay attention to anyone telling you she's doing it simply because of your financial situation.
Women can use anything to excuse infidelity.

I am a man like you and I can tell you for a fact, social media has made it easy for married women to chat around and have flirty conversations - it may not lead to sex, but it usually does if the guy on the other end is persistent enough.
And it has absolutely nothing to do with their husbands being broke...most just want to fvck someone else.

Whatever you plan to do to earn money, please do it for YOURSELF and your KIDS and not for your wife who has proven to have little to no self-control.

I will tell you the truth and not lead you astray.
Facebook chat, Insta chat, WhatsApp etc... These platforms are filled with married women having conversations with men just to remember what it feels like to be sexy & desired by someone else.

If you hang out with the right people and put your ears to the ground, you will hear enough gist that will last you and the next three versions of your reincarnated self.

I wish you goodluck in your search for a job and/or business... but oga, do am for YOURSELF oo and to increase your status in life. That your wife no deserve am after falling for whoever she thinks she's falling for online.
I'm sorry to say.

southniyikaye:
So my egungun finally enter express when I opened a new Facebook using a super rich dude's profile. Got some of his nice pics, added some cool, rich and random guys and girls on Facebook, when. I had about 100 friends, then I sent a request to my wife and she accepted.
Well last year I had financial problems so she has to go stay with her mom while I went to hide my head somewhere.
I know so many things about her which she doesn't know I knew about so I used that to cajole her and she fall yakata in just two days.
Brodas and siztas, my eyes saw my ears.
Someone I have known, sacrificed my eight years for, was now sounding like someone am just meeting for the very first time.
Things have begged her to tell me for years, she just spilled it out for a new guy she barely knew. She said some truth and lied about some things when it comes to her family matters.
Abeg make una just read for una self o.
POVERTY IS A BASTARD.
called her this morning that I had a dream, she was even already giving me attitudes on phone.
Told her I saw her, my kids and her entire family traveling out but they left me behind and I was crying. My wife said, well I don't know o. I don't understand your dream.

Mumu me was even having a hard on chatting with my wife. I was always eager to chat her online and she was so happy chatting me too.
The last time she gave me a real chat was months ago and it was for 5mins but he chatted the rich me for more than 11hrs straight.
I had opened a thread some months ago here about how I want to become a better man for her.
Well she said some things that I love, things like,
I don't cheat on her
I am hardworking
I didn't chase her away,
I didn't maltreat her.
The one that sweet me pass that I have always asked her and she never gave me an answer for was.
.
Toor as I am speaking to you like this, I am weak and not thinking straight.
Eight years and I was married to myself thinking I married my better half.

Well, concerning me being fat, hunger and discipline has eradicated that. As for me being dirty, I fabricate machines and I can't leave my uniform in my work place. So I come home like that to shower.
As for littering everywhere with my clothes, she no lie and have learnt to put my things in order.
So many things have changed about me she can't even imagine. The last time we saw was beginning of January and so many things about me have changed since then.

Abeg, I know there are some people on this forum that making millions is like ABC to them, pls help my career, show me ways am begging..
I Don try yahoo, he no work, tried ritual/blood money, still didn't work.
I opened lots of thread documenting my life and am tired of documenting, make una help my life abeg. Pls edakun.
Ishilove
Scientists
Pocahontas
J111333
Excanny
Dawnomike
Royalroy [img][/img]

I am so weak right now fa, legally married ni naw.

Bro, can you really be clear with your write-up? can't really fully grab your points.Is your wife cheating? Has she agreed to meet the fake you?
Just expanciate more on your thread.

Cuddlebugie:
Ohun oju nwa, soun loju ri.
What the eye seeks, the eye finds.
~
Going by your post and screenshots, your marriage was already a disaster waiting to happen. You hastened the crash-land by opening a fake account posing to be a rich man.

She fell in love with the supposed rich version of you while she won't even give the real broke version of you the time of the day.

Long story short, you created this thread because you are hurt she chose a mirage over you.

Life chaii

meetme01:
This is serious. God damn. Chisos. 8yrs and 2kids? I bow for women.

Seriously, am short of words. Let me reminisce and think on how to advise.

I don't know where women got it wrong because my mu's era wasn't like this. During their time, they struggled with our fathers, hustled their asses and struggled with them but the new generation women are a different breed entirely.
I just hope a lot of guys can focus more on themselves than women because now, hmmmmm ...... Igi da, eye fo ni oo - When the tree branch breaks off, the bird will fly away is the present situation of these modern ladies.
Men please love yourself more.

emmaodet:


Bro, can you really be clear with your write-up? can't really fully grab your points.Is your wife cheating? Has she agreed to meet the fake you?
Just expanciate more on your thread.

I removed the chats I pasted earlier, about 34 screenshot so you can't understand what really went down without those screenshot

Mariangeles:


Sometimes, people need a platform where they can let out all their emotional burden without being known to avoid going crazy.

You are right.

Nairaland is really a big and good platform to let out the emotions bottled up.

Only if you know how many people nairaland has rescued from commiting suicide, atleast i know 2 monikers and they were really grateful for coming here to open their hearts. I am even following one sef.

southniyikaye:
I removed the chats I pasted earlier, about 34 screenshot so you can't understand what really went down without those screenshot

can you re-post it for elders to review?

emmaodet:


I don't know where women got it wrong because my mu's era wasn't like this. During their time, they struggled with our fathers, hustled their asses and struggled with them but the new generation women are a different breed entirely.
I just hope a lot of guys can focus more on themselves than women because now, hmmmmm ...... Igi da, eye fo ni oo - When the tree branch breaks off, the bird will fly away is the present situation of these modern ladies.
Men please love yourself more.

there had to be a balance...a woman don't want to hustle and suffer with a man and yet still have to submit to him and be his doormat(in most cases).That's double tragedy for her,2-0

To make it fair,1-1,a man brings money and comfort to a woman then she submits to himand endure his masculine tendencies.
A man brings nothing financially for her, she doesn't submit to him and dragged head if the house position with him.

Women don't want to lose out in both ends,be struggling with him in a face me I face you house and he is still cheating and acting like lord.

I am not berating any man o,but I am not against a lady wanting a rich man when she knows she will likely still endure cheating,and struggling to keep the marriage(apologising always,trying to keep in shape,submitting to him,not having a say)...
Its better to be weeping and be beaten in a mansion tham be beaten in tent. Why loose out on both ends?

Kingarthur21:
there had to be a balance...a woman don't want to hustle and suffer with a man and yet still have to submit to him and be his doormat(in most cases).That's double tragedy for her,2-0

To make it fair,1-1,a man brings money and comfort to a woman then she submits to himand endure his masculine tendencies.
A man brings nothing financially for her, she doesn't submit to him and dragged head if the house position with him.

Women don't want to lose out in both ends,be struggling with him in a face me I face you house and he is still cheating and acting like lord.

I am not berating any man o,but I am not against a lady wanting a rich man when she knows she will likely still endure cheating,and struggling to keep the marriage(apologising always,trying to keep in shape,submitting to him,not having a say)...
Its better to be weeping and be beaten in a mansion tham be beaten in tent. Why loose out on both ends?

Unfortunately, the so called mansion can't go round. From my calculation, only 3 out of possible 10 ladies will have that opportunity of crying in a mansion, duplex or a personal building sef, so what happens to the remaining 7 that are also going to cry?
Mind you, cheating, flirting, seducing are not exclusively for men anymore. Lately, women are cheating ridiculously on men. Even paternity fraud is at an all time High.
So, it is also safe to say that a man should not marry a broke lady that will likely cheat on him when he can marry a resourceful, productive and financially stable woman who may likely cheat on him too. Atleast, with the latter, you will be rest assured your children won't suffer if you people separate and you are not sending upkeep for reasons known to you.

southniyikaye:
what I believe is, and which I have known from inception, she likes to live a life free from poverty

Lol,
who doesn't? na man come like poverty?

Ybaby:


You returned a girl back to her parents house wit 2 kids .... to be fed by who? the neighbours are saying what?

Ok life happened to you.

You now have time to go on FB to open catfish profile..... you are not serious mr man.

You have a serious time bomb on your hand ..... instead of you to man up and get your finances back you are playing investigator Kasali.

Is it until your kids start calling Chief thier Daddy before you know you should have a single focus right now

Ok kontinu!

what if he is hustling but still not yielding much, should he kill himself? if the children like, they should call chief daddy, that is their cup of tea, Life goes on. Wetin we never see under this heaven before.
Are you aware that the race is not for the strong, smart or hardworking but time and chance happens to all.
I won't advise him to tow that part of putting unnecessary pressure on himself just to satisfy the woman, most people that did that around me are all dead now and their so called wives are sleeping around like rabbits presently.
I believe we have focused much on the guy, what happens to the wife? Handicapped?why is she not moving her ass? too lazy?
Right from my childhood, i grew up to know my mum as the breadwinner and not my dad. Sold food at canteen, i hawked bread, we sold rice,beans etc catering, cake, poultry, catfish etc just to survive.
Does it mean despite the modern woman being educated and having more opportunities to work or have access to informations on youtube to learn and start small business, they still seem redundant and kind of usel...? what an irony

southniyikaye:
if so many men know what their wives and girlfriend does behind them, suicide will be much. Every body is just living normal, like someone said, she is yours when she is with you.
Only God knows the faithful

That is why you need to focus more on yourself than anybody in the world. You are busy running around, opening a fake account, trying to know where you got it wrong with your woman while she is just there, not moved, not thinking of stressing herself or leaving her comfort zone to see what she can do to improve herself so that you will love her more.

Bro, the joke is on you. Seems she is either your first love or the most beautiful girl you have ever dated and she agreeing to marry you is beyond your dream.
Look here bro, until you get to that stage where you are not scared of losing any fvcking body, you will always be a slave to such person and your soul will never NO Rest till you Die.
You are scared of losing your baby, monitoring her, saying you want to work on your weak side so as to make her more happy. mtcheeewwwwww
Seems you don't have a job or something to keep you busy. Better go to mechanic village and start learning buying and selling of scrap metals before nigeria fall press you.
No make i swear for you ooo because i don dey provoke small small for hear sef

emmaodet:


That is why you need to focus more on yourself than anybody in the world. You are busy running around, opening a fake account, trying to know where you got it wrong with your woman while she is just there, not moved, not thinking of stressing herself or leaving her comfort zone to see what she can do to improve herself so that you will love her more.

Bro, the joke is on you. Seems she is either your first love or the most beautiful girl you have ever dated and she agreeing to marry you is beyond your dream.
Look here bro, until you get to that stage where you are not scared of losing any fvcking body, you will always be a slave to such person and your soul will never NO Rest till you Die.
You are scare of losing your baby, monitoring her, saying you want to work on your weak side so as to make her more happy. mtcheeewwwwww
Seems you don't have a job or something to keep you busy. Better go to mechanic village and start learning buying and selling of scrap metals before nigeria fall press you.
No make i swear for you ooo because i don dey provoke small small for hear sef

lol

southniyikaye:
you just hit the nail on the head
I am not loosing her but believe me, I love the her am chatting with. Wish it could just be two of us. She said so many thing that am lacking of, not even financially, and no be my fault, I just go out, work, get home, get tired and sleep, no social life. Well have gotten what I wanted. For now, she feels happy chatting with her neww Bobo, I want to keep it that way

Have gat ONLY one word for you - SIMP

[quote author=emmaodet post=89450487]

Have gat ONLY one word for you - SIMP[/quotel]am so far from being a simp.
Are you married? Do you come from an abusive marriage? We have too kids for each other, I will never pray my kids go through what I went through cos of separation.

Sunmolar:
your wife says she loves you no more & you claim you still love her 100%.


you try.

Bro u sef see am. The kind of men we are raising now ehnnnn.
I really think we need to learn how to love ourselves first before going into relationship to avoid been used.

[quote author=southniyikaye post=89450528][/quote]

Mr Aniyikaye,

I am married with a kid............ 8 years running
No, am not running an abusive marriage nor will i put myself in that position of being abused. I will rather take a walk than go through emotional torture or traumas.
If my wife won't step up and fill the void when my chips are down, she can quietly take a walk.
Also, i can't be thinking and running around to raise money for the family or pay our bills while still going through the rigorous stress of looking for a way to make a woman happy while she is busy sitting her ass at home, using all the time that can be productive to be pressing phone and flirting with men on social media, Mbanu
Her mates are out there working and making money to add to the family grid - selling in the market, fashion designers, hair stylist, farm and agricultural products like egg distributors etc yet she wants to be a liability? because she has 2 kids underneath her? what of those ladies?

southniyikaye:
well na once man dey die.
What doesn't kill me makes me stronger.
I still go with what Ishilove said, she just need a lifeline.
Then I was thinking myself, what would I have done if a suppose rich lady start hitting on me at this time? Will I be able to defend the love I have for her?
She is just desperate for now. I know how I go play my game, she is going nowhere

Lol
Na wa oooo

Atiku:




Who will love a lazy, lousy, dirty fat man?


Imagine all the people she turned down because of him..
They will be doing so well now and she go dey see them. Nonsense!

And all the ladies he dropped for her too?
Are they not doing better and being productive than the bag of potatoes he has who can't lift a pen?
If he had chosed a more productive woman, he won't be in the mess he is presently

emmaodet:


And all the ladies he dropped for her too?
Are they not doing better and being productive than the bag of potatoes he has who can't lift a pen?
If he had chosed a more productive woman, he won't be in the mess he is presently

Read the story again.

emmaodet:

Unfortunately, the so called mansion can't go round. From my calculation, only 3 out of possible 10 ladies will have that opportunity of crying in a mansion, duplex or a personal building sef, so what happens to the remaining 7 that are also going to cry?

All my posts on the thread was from a woman's perspective and an advice to her own gains. When it deals with men I will advice them to avoid gold diggers and look for men ready to suffer with them. I am like a coach,advising the two teams for a game,both can gain from and learn from it.

The mansion was a hyperbole,t represents comfort and not just wealth.its a umbrella that covers a financially stable man(not just dudes that are wealthy).

Mind you, cheating, flirting, seducing are not exclusively for men anymore. Lately, women are cheating ridiculously on men. Even paternity fraud is at an all time High.

I have never disputed this!this particular thread was created by a woman so all I type is from her lens at the moment.

o, it is also safe to say that a man should not marry a broke lady that will likely cheat on him when he can marry a resourceful, productive and financially stable woman who may likely cheat on him too Atleast, with the latter, you will be rest assured your children won't suffer if you people separate and you are not sending upkeep for reasons known to you.

yes at the bolded but not in terms of per say,I believe as a guy:
It is better to marry a financial lady with arrogance,stubbornness and nagging lady-at least while you are enduring her, you are paying less bill. Than marrying a broke lady with that sort of character and be saddled with enduring her and yet footing the bills

Atiku:


Read the story again.

i did and have done it again