Kingarthur21:

All my posts on the thread was from a woman's perspective and an advice to her own gains. When it deals with men I will advice them to avoid gold diggers and look for men ready to suffer with them. I am like a coach,advising the two teams for a game,both can gain from and learn from it.

The mansion was a hyperbole,t represents comfort and not just wealth.its a umbrella that covers a financially stable man(not just dudes that are wealthy).
I have never disputed this!this particular thread was created by a woman so all I type is from her lens at the moment.

yes at the bolded but not in terms of per say,I believe as a guy:
It is better to marry a financial lady with arrogance,stubbornness and nagging lady-at least while you are enduring her, you are paying less bill. Than marrying a broke lady with that sort of character and be saddled with enduring her and yet footing the bills

southniyikaye:
when we met, I was the perfect kind of man she wants.
Na she feed me till I became fat o

emmaodet:


what if he is hustling but still not yielding much, should he kill himself? if the children like, they should call chief daddy, that is their cup of tea, Life goes on. Wetin we never see under this heaven before.
Are you aware that the race is not for the strong, smart or hardworking but time and chance happens to all.
I won't advise him to tow that part of putting unnecessary pressure on himself just to satisfy the woman, most people that did that around me are all dead now and their so called wives are sleeping around like rabbits presently.
I believe we have focused much on the guy, what happens to the wife? Handicapped?why is she not moving her ass? too lazy?
Right from my childhood, i grew up to know my mum as the breadwinner and not my dad. Sold food at canteen, i hawked bread, we sold rice,beans etc catering, cake, poultry, catfish etc just to survive.
Does it mean despite the modern woman being educated and having more opportunities to work or have access to informations on youtube to learn and start small business, they still seem redundant and kind of usel...? what an irony

emmaodet:


Bro u sef see am. The kind of men we are raising now ehnnnn.
I really think we need to learn how to love ourselves first before going into relationship to avoid been used.

Ybaby:


Avoid women and children when you are in the hustling stage

Women and kids are expensive....

Hustle first - then marry - donot complicate your life or kill yourself trying to get some pusssssy cat.

Biko dey your dey..... let men with something to share carry responsibilities.

Don't let your rod make you bring innocent kids to this world knowing fully well you cannot feed them

As the man you are the provider, if in doubt check your muscle. If you cannot provide avoid women and kids.

Ybaby:


Avoid women and children when you are in the hustling stage

Women and kids are expensive....
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emmaodet:


Lol
And if we are to follow your advice, do you know only 30% of women will get married especially in nigeria? What happens to the remaining 70%? Just curious.
Die childless?

southniyikaye:
it's better I know where I belong now than later. And the funny thing is,until I opened this fake account, she was still calling me dear and the likes, her attitude changed immediately she started talking to the new guy.
I between chat I almost gave up my action, I almost showed my real self but I controlled it

CAPSLOCKED:


THERE ARE MANY FAMILIES LIVING HAPPILY WITH LESS THAN 30,000 NAIRA A MONTH. NIGERIA DOESN'T START AND END ON NAIRALAND.

emmaodet:


Lol
And if we are to follow your advice, do you know only 30% of women will get married especially in nigeria? What happens to the remaining 70%? Just curious.
Die childless?

Ybaby:




Your aspirations are noted.

Single ladies look before you leap

SO WHEN THEY LOOK, AND LEAP, AND MARRY MILLIONAIRES.. AND IN A FEW YEARS BUSINESSES CRASH AND THE GUY GOES BROKE. LADIES SHOULD DISEMBARK? OR KILL THEMSELVES?

Ybaby:


I unsure of what the answer should be. Pick the bottom crop of men? Pick irresponsible men as fathers for theier kids? Be the 12th wife of Alhaji? Use online dating to find men in other climes? Die without bringing a child to this world?

What should the answer be?

Men are more than women (Data fact) so why are only 30% marrying because 70% of the men are like you @emmaodet. Lazy, no vision, no shame, no dynasty... I bet you are from either imo or abia but definately no Anambra or from one of the riverine areas.
Well done

CAPSLOCKED:


SO WHEN THEY LOOK, AND LEAP, AND MARRY MILLIONAIRES.. AND IN A FEW YEARS BUSINESSES CRASH AND THE GUY GOES BROKE. LADIES SHOULD DISEMBARK? OR KILL THEMSELVES?

CAPSLOCKED:


WHEN YOU SEE PEOPLE TALK IN THIS PLACE, YOU'LL THINK WE'RE ALL MILLIONAIRES IN NIGERIA.
LOOK OUTSIDE AND TELL ME THE RATIO OF PEOPLE THAT HAVE MADE IT TO STRUGGLING PEOPLE.
ON THIS SAME NAIRALAND WHERE EVERYBODY WANTS TO SOUND FINANCIALLY SMART AND ESTABLISHED, MORE THAN 70% OF THE 2 MILLION MEMBERS CANNOT SAY THEY CURRENTLY HAVE SPARE 500,000 NAIRA THEY CAN TOSS IN FIRE RIGHT NOW. SO WHAT'S UP WITH THE DECEIT?

IT'S LIKE THAT WITH NIGERIANS. EVERYBODY WANTS TO SOUND MADE AND NOT LACKING WHEN YOU SEE THEM TALK OR POST ONLINE, THIS INCLUDES THOSE WE KNOW OFFLINE. IT'S FUNNY SOMETIMES WHEN YOU SEE THEIR REALITY.

DON'T DATE A BROKE MAN, DON'T MARRY A POOR WOMAN.
THOSE WHO SAY THIS ARE USUALLY HAPPILY MANAGING IN SQUALOR WITH THEIR PARTNERS. SO ALL THIS DECEIT ONLINE IS FOR WHAT REALLY? I DON'T KNOW.

Ybaby:


I unsure of what the answer should be. Pick the bottom crop of men? Pick irresponsible men as fathers for theier kids? Be the 12th wife of Alhaji? Use online dating to find men in other climes? Die without bringing a child to this world?

What should the answer be?

Men are more than women (Data fact) so why are only 30% marrying because 70% of the men are like you @emmaodet. Lazy, no vision, no shame, no dynasty... I bet you are from either imo or abia but definately no Anambra or from one of the riverine areas.
Well done

emmaodet:


Waooooo waooooo waoooo
Why the bitterness? So much venom, waoooo.
And what is the beef with Imo and Abia guys? Then don chop you clean mouth before ni?
You sound and comment like Safia, won't be surprise if you are the one.
You said i am Lazy, No vision, No shame and No dynasty ........ Waoooooooo
Just speechless.
Don't even know what to type anymore sef.
Fyi, am Yoruba and not Igbo.


About your question - if i were a lady, i will work with the struggling man than die childless. All hands on deck.
So my answer is not part of your options, i like thinking outside the box.
I'm not broke, lazy nor shameless.
Bye for now

emmaodet:


That is my point Exactly.
That is my point.
Always Broke shaming guys. Don't marry a poor man, don't date him and all and am wondering, how many rich guys do we even have? How many guys are even comfortable? How many guys are even earning common 200k per month in this present nigeria? So the remaining ladies who won't be fortunate enough should die childless?
Whatever happens to putting hands together to move the family forward. All hands must be on deck.
I pray none of my family member meet such person to marry, God forbid.

Ybaby:


I am married to a responsible Anambra man and all day my ijebu self is grateful

It is just my observation.... see I don't write this things for the men but for young single girls do not marry someone like @emmaodet and come and open NL thread.
Observe his thinking. The thinking of a struggling man. Have no pity for such men - avoid them at all cost or they will make your life pitiful.

emmaodet:


It's alright.
I think we need to stop quoting each other.
Bye

Ybaby:


@CAPSLOCKED

I am not the one broke shaming you o

It is the bible broke shaming you and try and have shame

◄ 1 Timothy 5:8 ►
Parallel Verses
King James Version
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

Darby Bible Translation
But if any one does not provide for his own, and specially for those of his house, he has denied the faith, and is worse than the unbeliever.

World English Bible
But if anyone doesn't provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever.

Young's Literal Translation
and if any one for his own -- and especially for those of the household -- doth not provide, the faith he hath denied, and than an unbeliever he is worse.

excanny:


Why u keep debating a mofo baffles me. Check it. That dingbat is broke as shyt.

CAPSLOCKED:


WHAT A VERY STUPID POST. I EVEN THOUGHT YOU HAD THE TINIEST BIT OF SENSE WHICH IS WHY I ENGAGED YOU.
FOR YOUR INFO, THE MAN YOU'VE INSULTED FOR NO REASON IS RICHER THAN ALL THE MEN IN YOUR FAMILY AND KINDRED PUT TOGETHER.

CAPSLOCKED:


WHAT A VERY STUPID POST. I EVEN THOUGHT YOU HAD THE TINIEST BIT OF SENSE WHICH IS WHY I ENGAGED YOU.
FOR YOUR INFO, THE MAN YOU'VE INSULTED FOR NO REASON IS RICHER THAN ALL THE MEN IN YOUR FAMILY AND KINDRED PUT TOGETHER.

emmaodet:


Thanks bro, for the support.
Too much Venom and very toxic.

CAPSLOCKED:


LOL, AT LEAST SHE RUNS A SMALL BLOG AND HAS ADSENSE TO PAY HER 65,000 AFTER EVERY 5 MONTHS.

emmaodet:


Na wa oooo.
Some men dey try oooo.
The kind of women they have at home.
Baba God, na beg i dey beg ooo
Too much venom, anger and very Toxic
Hmmmm
I jump and pass

CAPSLOCKED:


LOL, AT LEAST SHE RUNS A SMALL BLOG AND HAS ADSENSE TO PAY HER 65,000 AFTER EVERY 5 MONTHS.

emmaodet:


Na wa oooo.
Some men dey try oooo.
The kind of women they have at home.
Baba God, na beg i dey beg ooo
Too much venom, anger and very Toxic
Hmmmm
I jump and pass

NiceMen:


Not everyone is aware of these things man. Even as u dey now, there are things u don't know despite using the internet daily.

Ybaby:


Yimu!!

You cannot even afford chinesse seexx doll

Talkless of put a woman at home.

Do you have a home or you wanna move into her home?

emmaodet:


Na wa oooo
Arabinrin, se ko si?
I hope no problem? Is there any comment i made that triggered you so much?
Kilagbe, kila ju?