If you can deal with the kind of person who forgets all you have done for him at that moment when you are down,

or someone who cannot sympathize with you when you are coping with a loss,

someone who is only happy when you do things for him,

someone who has an acidic tongue that can lash out with hurtful words,

then go ahead and marry him.

DirtyGold:

You admit that you don't give him money (you're not sponsoring him in anyway) but the once or twice you did spend your money on your relationship, you highlighted it and made your one-sided story all about it.
I take this your story with a big pinch of salt. Women are always the victim especially when the man starts struggling (even for a short while - all he has done and built prior becomes invalid).
When he gave you money to cook he was happy and showered you with accolades which was different when you were feeling like madam ordering him to buy your food from outside because you are paying for it. The money you were using to buy outside could have been used to stuff the house and make home meals since that is what you love and what makes him happy obviously. But, nah... his money is for both of you and yours is for you alone.
You didn't tell us how he was giving you and sustaining the relationship for the past five years o. But, because you have now and he doesn't, you feel you are too good for him (you're most likely not to admit this though).

Ofcourse, you will not tell us your attitude and likely disrespectfulness towards him that irks him because this is your story and you want a rich guy that'll be spoiling you. THERE IS NO WAY HE COULD HAVE RANTED OUT OF FRUSTRATION and not highlight some cold truths that in honesty puts the blame on you (which you conveniently left out of this story or - resorted to selective attention to ignore)

Sister, you already know what you will do. Please, do it quickly and let the young man find someone that can be truly supportive without making him feel inadequate about it.

What's tha business?

exactly what I was thinking bro.... d story is obviously one sided

Nnnbf

ImaIma1:
If you can deal with the kind of person who forgets all you have done for him at that moment when you are down,

or someone who cannot sympathize with you when you are coping with a loss,

someone who is only happy when you do things for him,

someone who has an acidic tongue that can lash out with hurtful words,

then go ahead and marry him.

This is deep, thanks.

Localchampion:

Thanks, I just do pity him because hes the one that cares about his friends, what they will say if he breaks up with me, as he has actually overhyped me with his friends and families. As for me, I don't even have friends or discuss him with anyone.
Hes the one that would not allow his friends to hear word again that he has a wife to be already, all those things are even exhausting to me because I don't like him portraying me as perfect, its emotionally stressful for me, as I would have to live up to that where his family and friends are.

You are being manipulated. You will fund this marriage, and when you have become old at 35, he will find a younger, richer, beautiful girl to leech on.
Take a break, then walk away.

Localchampion:
Okay, Thanks

He will never change. Move on. The earlier the better.

Okay

Don't try it

Saintmary:

You are being manipulated. You will fund this marriage, and when you have become old at 35, he will find a younger, richer, beautiful girl to leech on.
Take a break, then walk away.

Listen to this.

Your choice your life

After stating all of this, should you really be asking such a question?
Leave while you still can. Period!!!

If you re asking should in a relationship hmmm . meanwhile check out this youtube channel
Eunice Shalom

thorpido:
How old is your boyfriend?He's acting like a kid.You sound like it's a campus relationship.
To be honest with you,he is not the kind of man to marry.........at least not yet.He needs to grow.
What you have as you rightly defined is a 'roleship'.

why must u degrade the man because u want to pass a statement. U guys are the reason ladies abuse men just see what u wrote. Kiddo

This one will definitely end in tears

dukeprince50:
every relationship has its problem, there is no guarantee that the one u will marry won't give u problems.
u think happily married couples don't have misunderstandings? my friend work on ur relationship and stop asking questions, u will throw a relationship of 5yrs cos of this minor issue? I even thought he slapped and beat u up.
whenever something like this comes up again, u too should say some hurtful words to him as u seem fit.
No relationship is like what u see on movies, u have to build it. u haven't seen him for a year, there is a high chance the love has reduced, u have to pour more fuel again, stop doing delaytionship

you started up this so well but entirely goofed at the middle ... first , being in a 5 years relationship doesn't mean she shouldn't quit the relationship when it's obvious she can't lie with it ,. and it is best to note that what you can't endure in courtship, make it clear ... take note of those little things in a relationship , don't expect things to change in marriage ... marriage reveals , so expect more of those behaviors ...

DON'T MARRY HIM,you have tried..

Why did you switch it up on him? Why did you give him a taste of his own medicine?

That’s rude. I don’t like you.

Localchampion, you know the truth. That your guy doesn’t appreciate the things you do for him. He may change. Give him a deadline. Don’t tell him. Keep it to yourself. Like 2 months. When the time is up and there’s no significant change, dump him.

Are you serious right now asking us whether you should marry that guy? You’ve stated all the issues you have with him. Do you think he’s worth keeping? You are obviously a spare tyre and the sooner your eyes open, the better for you.1st & foremost, when a man is in love with you, you’ll know. He’ll go extra miles for you. Long distance relationships are not for the faint hearted. As the saying goes that “ out of sight out of mind”, am sorry to say that it’s true for most of them.He couldn’t even give you ordinary food? You had to give money.How stingy can one be? Also you keep giving him money, what has he given you so far? Don’t try to get a man to love you by giving money.Trust me when people are angry, that’s when their true feelings are expressed. What he told you in anger is what he’s been thinking all along. A man who has nerve to grab your phone & delete data has all the hallmarks of an abuser. If he’s lacks the traits of a good husband now, marriage won’t bring them. Use not just your heart but your brain also.

dukeprince50:
29? a kid in a grown mans body.
being foolish at 29 is really a bad thing. ur boyfriend is not ready, he is doing DELAYtionship with u
U too how come u stayed in his house for four days and u spent N150k?

why will u abuse the guy by hearing just one side of a story. Was wrong with guys on nairaland. Why will u abuse ur fellow man to pass a point. Or do u want to shoot ur own shot since u are the man. All ds white knights on nairaland are irritating

Has he proposed to you??

Should I marry my boyfriend, should I marry my boyfriend blah blah blah, he will never propose because he's not even ready, he may be 29 but he isn't matured

Yes, I think you should marry him. At least he hasn't turned you into a punching bag yet or has he?
You're a wife material 100yards so you can even endure if he beats you to stupor, at most you complain to your pastor and he will pray for your marriage.
Happy married life to you and your future horseband.

Dump that loser

What a Tom & Jerry r/shp!

The fact is that most r/shps out there aren't better. Don't get deceived by favourable comments you read here. Everybody is facing one or more challenges,,, not only in r/shps but also marriages. I hope you both can talk this out

run for your dear life. he can never be satisfied with wat he has.

All I have to say is...
If you can't endure it while dating
Will marriage solve this problems?
You are really an understanding, sweet, hardworking lady.
I feel you deserve better
Never settle for less
Thanks

Localchampion:

Nope, but we can give each other money

You're trying to protect him regardless of his numerous flaws.
You're not being straightforward.
Your boyfriend is selfish, entitled and lacks understanding.
What is the guarantee that he'll stay when he's financially OK?
Are you sure he loves you?

dukeprince50:
every relationship has its problem, there is no guarantee that the one u will marry won't give u problems.
u think happily married couples don't have misunderstandings? my friend work on ur relationship and stop asking questions, u will throw a relationship of 5yrs cos of this minor issue? I even thought he slapped and beat u up.
whenever something like this comes up again, u too should say some hurtful words to him as u seem fit.
No relationship is like what u see on movies, u have to build it. u haven't seen him for a year, there is a high chance the love has reduced, u have to pour more fuel again, stop doing delaytionship

rolls eyes..... One of the problems we have in this country.

dukeprince50:
every relationship has its problem, there is no guarantee that the one u will marry won't give u problems.
u think happily married couples don't have misunderstandings? my friend work on ur relationship and stop asking questions, u will throw a relationship of 5yrs cos of this minor issue? I even thought he slapped and beat u up.
whenever something like this comes up again, u too should say some hurtful words to him as u seem fit.
No relationship is like what u see on movies, u have to build it. u haven't seen him for a year, there is a high chance the love has reduced, u have to pour more fuel again, stop doing delaytionship

How can you call this minor?

Aabheaven:
why must u degrade the man because u want to pass a statement. U guys are the reason ladies abuse men just see what u wrote. Kiddo

So if a guy(or girl) is wrong,I musn't say it because I'm a man?

You're the kid here.Men call a spade a spade.

In igbo land we call people like you nkalu. ..that means the guy has your mumu botton. But it seems you are the only one in love here...moreover this una relationship get as e bi ....how can both of you stay without fucking each other every week ? Sex brings lovers together ...not long distance ...well if you are tired run for your life ....we won't help you when e red