Sixfeetbelle:


She doesn't have to accept it cause she's not a beggar. You send money to people out of your goodwill and from your benevolence, it's now left to them to decide what to do with what you sent. I know it seems rude to reject the money but she has a right to reject what you gave her. It's a gift and gifts get rejected all the time.

oh she begged for it. Did you miss the part where asked for money for soap or whatever it was she begged for?

Petsolo1115:
My babe of over 2 years called me this evening for 2000 naira to get some body soap products.

I transferred 10,000 naira to her. She called back and asked what the money was meant for. I told her to manage it for her personal needs for this yuletide season. I made her to understand few days ago that i won't be able to give her enough money for Christmas due to the fact that I have to support my Dad financially for my grandma's burial which is in 7 days time.

To cut the whole story short. She refunded 8,000 naira and told me it was better I keep my money than giving her what she can't manage to buy clothes. My babe has a business which gives her profits on a daily basis. The money I spent on her from November 1st to 30th is in excess of 30,000 naira.

I am currently contemplating on breaking up with her or forgetting the whole issue..

Your advice please. Criticisms are allowed

Stop giving her money and watch the relationship die a natural death

Sixfeetbelle:


If your girlfriend sends you 10k to use for Christmas shopping, how would it look to you?

I will so thank and pray pray for her because I know getting money is not easy in this our today's Nigeria.

and note, she does not owe me Christmas money.



Hungry geh!

Petsolo1115:
My babe of over 2 years called me this evening for 2000 naira to get some body soap products.

I transferred 10,000 naira to her. She called back and asked what the money was meant for. I told her to manage it for her personal needs for this yuletide season. I made her to understand few days ago that i won't be able to give her enough money for Christmas due to the fact that I have to support my Dad financially for my grandma's burial which is in 7 days time.

To cut the whole story short. She refunded 8,000 naira and told me it was better I keep my money than giving her what she can't manage to buy clothes. My babe has a business which gives her profits on a daily basis. The money I spent on her from November 1st to 30th is in excess of 30,000 naira.

I am currently contemplating on breaking up with her or forgetting the whole issue..

Your advice please. Criticisms are allowed

You better leave that vamp. With all the money i get if person give me 2k na to sope.

DukeJoe17:


Your girlfriend is still with you because of the stipends she is enjoying from you, I bet you to withdraw the incentives and your relationship with go south in three weeks

Am always wandering how girls present themselves in that side of the country , here in the north parent does all these according to their status, a girl will be cousioned if she wear a cloth not bought by her mum or dad. Our responsibility is been transferred to another man eg uncle , brother or sometimes fiance if fatherr not alive or very poor or to the husband after marriage. Thats why rate of prostitution is Very low.

Petsolo1115:
My babe of over 2 years called me this evening for 2000 naira to get some body soap products.

I transferred 10,000 naira to her. She called back and asked what the money was meant for. I told her to manage it for her personal needs for this yuletide season. I made her to understand few days ago that i won't be able to give her enough money for Christmas due to the fact that I have to support my Dad financially for my grandma's burial which is in 7 days time.

To cut the whole story short. She refunded 8,000 naira and told me it was better I keep my money than giving her what she can't manage to buy clothes. My babe has a business which gives her profits on a daily basis. The money I spent on her from November 1st to 30th is in excess of 30,000 naira.

I am currently contemplating on breaking up with her or forgetting the whole issue..

Your advice please. Criticisms are allowed

My guy, get the best all you can from her. even kn..acks in a very nice manner.
Enough kn..acks i means.
Then call it off, after u have collected like a total N200,000 from her in three months.

coolsegun2002:


Everyone is h0rny, u ladies only make it a man thing so that u can leverage on it .....We all contribute our bodies in sex...but u ladies bring in the monetary exchange into it...

That's the more reason why if you can't meet up leave them alone

the lady shud have not acted dt way considering the situation that d guy is facing at d moment.

. It's likly d guy wud have bin asked to make his own contribution towards d burial expenses as it is mostly a common practice in most states here in naija wen sm1 in d family dies

siblings nd relatives somtyms contribute as high as 200k or more to support burial rites.

D lady wud have bin more understanding. from the sound of the narrative, d young man is currently broke

He not bin able to give her a reasonable amt of money at d moment doesn't mean he hasn't bin giving her smth good bfor nw or will not give her smth much more beta in a couple of weeks

D burial may be like a burden he is currently obsessing him dt he wants to clear ND not the funfare dt is associated with Christmas the guy wants to drool in

I wonder why pple in a relationship are not quick to resolve issues wen they clash BT see ending d relationship as d solution or divorce as in d case of marriage

the young man is angry no doubt BT he should kip his cool . e Neva reach to brk up.

You have bin with d gal for 2yrs And I am very sure u both must have had a more serious quarrel more Dan dis 10k issue in d past ND u stayed in d relationship. So why ruffle ur feather ova 10k

Bro, sit ur ass in der and solve ur shit in dt relationship. wateva method weda passive or diplomatic or wit body language u want to use resolve it ,pls do

face ur demon ND make peace with ur bae. All d best youngman

kunkelhanspeter:
Enjoying my single life no billing this Xmas

Bros ehn, D amount of cash I saved since I stopped dis dating thing eh...it surprising fa

no bro she only ask you for 2000

frozen70:


That's the more reason why if you can't meet up leave them alone

Of course...you women have turn yourselves to goods for the highest bidder...that’s why it’s always funny when u peeps start clamouring for respect from nairaland men/boys...

If she marries you, she will die of hunger.
You will be breaking up every now and then, except somebody that is not sincere with you.
Keep the money, when you are ready, take her to boutique and see if you will spend #8,000 on a stand.
That can't buy a one year old child cloth and shoe you know?.
Stop calculating what you sent because you have not started, except you want to remain single.

Lomprico2:


I will so thank and pray pray for her because I know getting money is not easy in this our today's Nigeria.

and note, she does not owe me Christmas money.



Hungry geh!

Even when you know she can give you more than that?

Why do men now complain that their girlfriends bought them ordinary boxers and singlet? Is it not gift? Are they not being ungrateful?

Nuel4:
oh she begged for it. Did you miss the part where asked for money for soap or whatever it was she begged for?

She asked for 2k which he sent and she accepted. Case closed. The extra 8k is a gift which can be rejected.

coolsegun2002:


Of course...you women have turn yourselves to goods for the highest bidder...that’s why it’s always funny when u peeps start clamouring for respect from nairaland men/boys...

It's meant for those who can get it

Sixfeetbelle:


She doesn't have to accept it cause she's not a beggar. You send money to people out of your goodwill and from your benevolence, it's now left to them to decide what to do with what you sent. I know it seems rude to reject the money but she has a right to reject what you gave her. It's a gift and gifts get rejected all the time.

U don’t have to bias becos a female is under torchlight......
Yes she can reject gift, it’s her right.... but she rejected a gift from a man she’s dating under the grounds that it’s not enough....she’s sending a wrong message....
What’s the difference between the 10k and 30k she has been collecting from the guy before..??.
They are in the same category....so what is she feeling like....

She’s just feeling entitled.. if someone that’s not her boyfriend gave her 10k would she do the same and say it’s too small..??

Just123:


Anybody has the right to reject gift or money, but rejecting it because it's not enough is bad.

I believe it's better to reject 5k that will not be useful in your hand so the sender can find more use for it with someone else than to accept it out of 'gratitude' and waste it.

Yes, of course, rejecting it and making it known cause it's small is bad. Courtesy should have been applied here.

frozen70:


It's meant for those who can get it

U are totally right....that’s why it’s better to buy, use and toss aside ..

Petsolo1115:
My babe of over 2 years called me this evening for 2000 naira to get some body soap products.

I transferred 10,000 naira to her. She called back and asked what the money was meant for. I told her to manage it for her personal needs for this yuletide season. I made her to understand few days ago that i won't be able to give her enough money for Christmas due to the fact that I have to support my Dad financially for my grandma's burial which is in 7 days time.

To cut the whole story short. She refunded 8,000 naira and told me it was better I keep my money than giving her what she can't manage to buy clothes. My babe has a business which gives her profits on a daily basis. The money I spent on her from November 1st to 30th is in excess of 30,000 naira.

I am currently contemplating on breaking up with her or forgetting the whole issue..

Your advice please. Criticisms are allowed

the girl cares about you and you want to break up with her?

coolsegun2002:


U don’t have to bias becos a female is under torchlight......
Yes she can reject gift, it’s her right.... but she rejected a gift from a man she’s dating under the grounds that it’s not enough....she’s sending a wrong message....
What’s the difference between the 10k and 30k she has been collecting from the guy before..??.
They are in the same category....so what is she feeling like....

She’s just feeling entitled.. if someone that’s not her boyfriend gave her 10k would she do the same and say it’s too small..??

I agree on her feeling entitled based on the way she presented it. It's not her money so rejecting it cause she wanted more is bad. I'm just pointing out that it's okay to reject money sent to you by your boyfriend if you feel it's insignificant to what financial needs you have. People shouldn't see it as a sign of ingratitude

coolsegun2002:


U are totally right....that’s why it’s better to buy, use and toss aside ..

It doesn't matter how it's being handled

The most important thing is for you you to get access if she wishes

Petsolo1115:
My babe of over 2 years called me this evening for 2000 naira to get some body soap products.

I transferred 10,000 naira to her. She called back and asked what the money was meant for. I told her to manage it for her personal needs for this yuletide season. I made her to understand few days ago that i won't be able to give her enough money for Christmas due to the fact that I have to support my Dad financially for my grandma's burial which is in 7 days time.

To cut the whole story short. She refunded 8,000 naira and told me it was better I keep my money than giving her what she can't manage to buy clothes. My babe has a business which gives her profits on a daily basis. The money I spent on her from November 1st to 30th is in excess of 30,000 naira.

I am currently contemplating on breaking up with her or forgetting the whole issue..

Your advice please. Criticisms are allowed

Does she spend on you?

Sixfeetbelle:


I agree on her feeling entitled based on the way she presented it. It's not her money so rejecting it cause she wanted more is bad. I'm just pointing out that it's okay to reject money sent to you by your boyfriend if you feel it's insignificant to what financial needs you have. People shouldn't see it as a sign of ingratitude

Okay let me get this straight..... u agree it’s bad that she rejected it on the grounds of being to small that it’s a show of being entitled to what’s not hers......but you also think it’s okay to do so..

How can something be bad and ok at the same time??

From November 1 to 30 you spend 30,000 + another 10,000 ��� R.I.P to you in advance hw much did you spend on your mother in a month? hmmmm upon all what you're been spend on her since two years you end up in insult

Petsolo1115:
... The money I spent on her from November 1st to 30th is in excess of 30,000 naira...

At least if you are asked how you spent your 2020, you already have something tangible to point to. There's no need to quit. Quiters never win...
Shebi you are struggling to bury a grandparent. I pity your existing parents. By the time you are finished, maybe you go dey beg us to raise t-fare for you to bury dem. Kwantinue!

frozen70:


It doesn't matter how it's being handled

The most important thing is for you you to get access if she wishes

If she wish.?? ....I thought she’s a mere merchandise waiting to be purchased...does she still have the decency to have a choice

like u said.. it doesn’t even matter how shes going to be handled so far she’s has been purchased...

coolsegun2002:


Okay let me get this straight..... u agree it’s bad that she rejected it on the grounds of being to small that it’s a show of being entitled to what’s not hers......but you also think it’s okay to do so..

How can something be bad and ok at the same time??

How you present things determines how it's perceived. Rejecting gifts shouldn't be seen as a sign of ingratitude. You can send her money for Christmas shopping and she tells you she doesn't need it cause she has already done her Christmas shopping. It's polite and acceptable. She will send it back so you can maybe do charitable works with it or you can tell her to use it and put it in her business.

However, if she says it's too small for Christmas shopping and sends it back, then that's impolite and unacceptable.

Sixfeetbelle:


How you present things determines how it's perceived. Rejecting gifts shouldn't be seen as a sign of ingratitude. You can send her money for Christmas shopping and she tells you she doesn't need it cause she has already done her Christmas shopping. It's polite and acceptable. She will send it back so you can maybe do charitable works with it or you can tell her to use it and put it in her business.

However, if she says it's too small for Christmas shopping and sends it back, then that's impolite and unacceptable.

Oh I get u now....

still.....

If you give ur boyfriend a Christmas Cash gift and he says, no I don’t want cos I already bought a Christmas stuff. be sincere, would u feel weird?

Petsolo1115:
My babe of over 2 years called me this evening for 2000 naira to get some body soap products.

I transferred 10,000 naira to her. She called back and asked what the money was meant for. I told her to manage it for her personal needs for this yuletide season. I made her to understand few days ago that i won't be able to give her enough money for Christmas due to the fact that I have to support my Dad financially for my grandma's burial which is in 7 days time.

To cut the whole story short. She refunded 8,000 naira and told me it was better I keep my money than giving her what she can't manage to buy clothes. My babe has a business which gives her profits on a daily basis. The money I spent on her from November 1st to 30th is in excess of 30,000 naira.

I am currently contemplating on breaking up with her or forgetting the whole issue..

Your advice please. Criticisms are allowed

I don't get it why do guys give they're girlfriends money, and even make is seem like is they're responsibility to do so. I don't understand, I dislike women with entitled mentality.

Most nigeria are actually the reason why most nigeria women are lazy mentally.

I drew two conclusions from your post

Firstly, the money is payment for sex. You know what this is called right?

Secondly, a guy dating a girl without sex in the relationship is entitled not to give her any money so long as they are not having sex, right?

CalliDora1:
Op, na wa for you o. A whole Yuletide, it's only 10k you deemed fit for her? She even refunded you and you're here complaining. If she had kept it and quietly planned to dump you cos of it, would it have been better? Now she opened up ( communication), you're fuming. Free her abeg.

Op, seriously, think of it. what will 10k buy her? I understand the fact you have a financial commitment already ( your father's burial) but you should have either made it 20k or not given her at all.

She only returned the money, she didn't tell you it's over. If you dump her now, you don't know if the next girl is going to be worst. just let her know you're not cool with her attitude, then let it slide. It's nothing really.


Modified

All of you attacking me for making a first time controversial comment are unbelievable!

One thing you guys fail to realize is as long as you the man keep demanding sex from the girl you're dating, she has every right to demand whatever she wants from you and you shouldn't complain when she does.

You keep claiming you're not her father and family but forget that you have no right to sleep with her as long as you have not paid her dowry to the father or performed the marriage rites on her. That is stealing! Whoever is doing such to someone's daughter is a thief!

Demanding for sex from a girl who's not your wife is also an entitlement mentality you guys need to drop. Shikenah!

This is not just offence but a behavioral issue. Relationship is to study each other to know early warning signs and not just having it for having sake.

This girl right her is very unappreciative, entitled and lacks understanding. What makes her think the guy must give her a certain amount of money or nothing?

Gkay1:
I think some of the guys are getting it wrong.
someone requested for 2000 and u sent 10000, she told u that the money will not be enough for her and she refund 8000. so y are u angry. is she not your girlfriend ?
sometimes, we offend we each other and we still need to forgive each other. call her and sort it out amicably.
merry Christmas to u all.

Other people need to learn from others besides it's a faceless forum. What's the big deal?

OmoOduduwa01:


I do wonder kinds of things that people post on Nairaland. Especially on relationship matters