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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Shokoloko(f): 12:11am On Feb 09, 2022 |
Steep: So take out the qualified part. meaning if there is no man to teach a congregation, there should be no church service that day? Take a look at the scripture you gave. A lot lot of words there show that this is a scripture between a man and his wife. But a suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man. the word "the" is a particular man (her husband) You do not have authority over another man's wife so there is not way Paul will advise another man's wife not to usurp your authority. You do not have authority over the daughter of another man until you marry her, there is not way Paul will advise another man's daughter not to usurp your authority .You both are not even related So that the reader is not confused Paul gives example with a married couple in the next verse. Paul goes on to talk about child-bearing which is a result of a marriage. So clearly Paul is not talking about church here but about the marriage. And yes I agree that women should listen to their husbands and not usurp authority over the man. And here Paul was inspired of God but he clearly stated that he was the one who was not permitting women to speak, he said it. Probably James or Peter may have been allowing women to speak and Paul say "Not I". That scripture is still inspired of God but that is Paul saying "I want it this way..." Go to 1 Cor 7:10, you'll see Paul say "Not I, but the Lord says this ......" "Not the Lord, but I say this...." All scripture is inspired of God, however Paul is letting us know before hand that this is his decision
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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Shokoloko(f): 12:23am On Feb 09, 2022 |
Steep: Titus 2:3-5 The older women will 1; Teach what is good and after teaching what is good 2: Urge younger women to love husbands and children. |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Steep(m): 12:29am On Feb 09, 2022 |
Shokoloko: You don't take out the qualified part. The word "the man" is absolutely talking of a male who is qualified to teach and lead. Paul is not talking about marriage but the church. In church the woman should not teach nor usurp authority the man. 1 Timothy 2:8 I will therefore that men pray every where, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting. 2:9 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; No Paul was not talking about marriage but the church. |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Steep(m): 12:31am On Feb 09, 2022 |
Shokoloko:Older women are to teach younger women not the whole church. |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Joeadamxx(m): 12:51am On Feb 09, 2022 |
I am 55 years old and my advice to you will be to not leave for abroad without your family especially your wife. If you are a Christian, remember the story and the uncommon patience of Hosea and Job and pray for God to give you their mindsets. It might get worse when you get abroad where she knows you cannot lay hand on her, but do not let this deter you from being good to her. I have been in a similar situation and I can emphatise with the way you feel. God bless! |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by FireUpNow(m): 2:14am On Feb 09, 2022 |
SeriouslySense:Very true my brother, the wife must work on anger issue and the husband on the other hand is to work on his flirting habit. Like you said this is what both parties can sit down and talk about for peace to reign considering that there is a kid already in the picture and it won't be nice for a little kid to grow in a hostile environment/ family settings seeing Mon and dad arguing every now and then due to issues that be well handled by both parents 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by CountVersailles(f): 2:15am On Feb 09, 2022 |
Lasunray01:OP, I think you got all the advice you need already. But my own is that it's a complete NO taking her abroad for now. Don't even think about it. It will certainly end in tears. |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Shokoloko(f): 3:41am On Feb 09, 2022 |
Steep:Its not said who they are to teach. Lets not add 1Tim 2 talks about marriage. You are free to pretend it does not, but know this you have no authority over any woman that is not your wife. If you have no authority over any woman that is not your wife, then she cannot usurp authority from a man who never had authority over her in the first place. |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by bepositive11: 4:56am On Feb 09, 2022 |
CaveAdullam: Your second point that women love men who other women want to be with is incomplete. No woman with a healthy self esteem will tolerate a man who flirts around. In fact, the man is probably flirting because he likes validation from other women to soothe his low self esteem Men and women with healthy self esteem want partners who will be loyal and faithful and not be flirting around with other women and men If a partner dare tries to flirt, I will just walk away. I have no time for such rubbish and immature behaviour 2 Likes |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Steep(m): 7:10am On Feb 09, 2022 |
Shokoloko:you are going emotional, this is God's word not mine or any man. It is not a woman having "authority over a man" but usurping the authority to lead and teach in the church. Paul never said in marriage, but obviously a place of Christian worship. 1. Where All men should pray and lift up holy hands 2. In such a gathering A woman should learn in silence. 3. They should not usurp the authority to preach or lead over a man meaning in place of a man. But however not every man is qualified to teach or lead the church. 1 Timothy 2:8 I will therefore that men pray every where, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting. 2:9 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 2:10 But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. 2:11 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. 2:12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. Again your theory of Paul only speaking in terms of marriage is thrashed. Paul description of the qualities of a bishop or a pastor or a church leader. 1.You even agree that he must be an husband of one wife, which is true. 2 Amongst other qualities he must rule over his own house. A woman cannot rule over her house which include her husband. If a woman cannot rule over her house then she cannot lead the church. 1 Timothy 3:2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach; 3:4 One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; 3:5 (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?) |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by vivaciousvivi(f): 7:19am On Feb 09, 2022 |
Lasunray01:Why are you avoiding the main point that was made in that comment ? What has her age got to do with this? Oga, face the issue which is you and your unnecessary flirting ways. Your wife isn't the primary cause of this problem. YOU are! |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Steep(m): 7:47am On Feb 09, 2022 |
@op, you know the problem and you know what to do, if you truly love that lady stop flirting with other women. As for carrying her abroad with this character you might land in trouble. |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 3:12pm On Feb 09, 2022 |
bepositive11:! There are somethings that grinds one's gears and that happens to be one of them for me. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Kfed4ril(m): 11:33am On Feb 10, 2022 |
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs. It’s a case of beating a child and expecting him not to cry. You’re cheating and expecting her not to react, try and stop the cheating/flirting and watch her reactions. |
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