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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Richy4(m): 2:00pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Shokoloko: There's a difference between preaching and go and tell... Mary was asked to go and tell the brethren that he is alive...Full stop...That was because Mary knew them (the brethren) .. @ bold You said Paul was telling them to follow the Law of Corinth right? meaning that they should obey the law of the land... remember it was Paul also that wrote to Timothy right? Now, Does the law in Nigeria permits People to marry more than one wife? Yes or No,...If yes, why do you think a polygamous man should not be a leader in the church...Considering the fact that the church in Corinth obeys their law by not letting women speak... shouldn't Christians abide by Nigerian law as well since the law permits more than one wife and allow any man who wishes to be a leader be instead of the segregation? You touched a part that makes me believe that probably u don't understand the bible....How do you define a leader as a Christian...If Abraham and David were not leaders, I wonder who was .... If David did not lead the people of God, I don't know..( church signifies where people of God gather together not a building...The Israelites were also the people of God... and the got leaders) or maybe you were implying that there are different God in Old and new testament?...If it was the same God, how did God allow some one with multiple wives to lead his people? Don't U realize that Paul is just like u and I.. He was saying what he believed was right at that time... Some of it was in his own accord some were inspired by God.. |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by MrSwiftt: 2:08pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Olumaeme: You are misleading a married man to cheat without being caught. Put your self in the wife's shoes. What if it was the wife cheating? |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by smasher1(m): 2:14pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Lasunray01: what other advise do you want from us? |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by SugarGirl44(f): 2:16pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Lasunray01:Haaaa... That's dangerous. She won't just stop without either going for a therapy or after causing serious problems. |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by zakkxx: 2:22pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Number one your first wife is your original wife if she is not death go and reconcile Their is nothing God cannot do!! Two this your present wife is your girl friend even if she has twelve children for u!!! Three!!! If u carry her abroad you will suffer and regret. she no be your wife!! Thank u |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Shokoloko(f): 2:25pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Richy4:We are all here to learn 1. In Nigeria there is separation of church and state. There is NO law in the constitution in Nigeria that dictates the type of person who should head a church/ church departments. Since there is no law of the land /constitution concerning the headship of a church/church departments in Nigeria, we are bound to the law of Christ/the church. In some countries you cannot build a church - as long as the state forbids it, as Christians no need to make a fracas, do your evangelism and stick to your house fellowships. If there is No law in a land concerning an issue, use the law of Christ If there is a law in the land negating the law of Christ, use the law of Christ eg some communities have laws about wife swapping. It negates the law of Christ. If there is a law in the land that neither negates/ nor agrees with the law of Christ use the law of the land. If the tax states to pay tax (it neither negates/agrees with Christ) pay the tax. If you are in a place where tax is not paid, why would you pay tax? 2. Can you prove that Abraham and David were Christians? I can prove that they were not. Acts 11:26 And the disciples were called Christians first in Antioch. Can you prove that Abraham and David were leaders IN CHURCH? I can prove that they were not. Acts 2:47, Acts 11:26 And the disciples were called Christians first in Antioch. 3. Explain 1st Tim 3:16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: 4. Cambridge dictionary does not show a difference between "preach" and "go and tell" (see photo). Mary was asked to go get people to accept that Jesus had resurrected and was alive. Is that not the great commission? Acts 18:25-27 When Priscilla and Aquila heard him preaching boldly in the synagogue, they took him aside and explained the way of God even more accurately. Do you see Paul receiving correct ion in doctrine from a woman? Acts 18:25-27 I would like you to use bible verses for your points since we are discussing from the bible. I will also do the same.
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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by MUHAMUJoko: 2:28pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Lasunray01: Yoo i want to tell you the truth if your wife is like that leave her oooooooooooooo !and travel i live in the USA even if she does not call the police someone will , also people change the heart of man is wicked and yiur wife has a questionable character..One more thing MARRIAGE IS GREAT AND VERY IMPRESSIVE TO GOD AND MEN GO INTO MARRIAGE BECAUSE OF KONJI , PRESSURE AND LONLINESS DID YOU ASK GOD BEFORE MARRIAGE AND WAS CONVINCED?? LEAVE YOUR WIFE IN NIGERIA UNTIL SHE CHANGES BEYOND REASONABLE DOUBT VERY IMPORTANT REASONABLE DOUBTS, YOUR WIFE WILL DESTROY YOU HERE AND I LIVE IN AMERICA |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by danot1030: 2:37pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Lasunray01: The Bible says a wise man see evil and dodge it but the fool went head long. A word is enough for the wise, marriage no be do or die. |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by harbeyhmiu(m): 2:39pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Kikikiki just leave her and japa if not you will regret it just sayinngg oo |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Damres: 2:42pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Lasunray01: Mr Op! From experience happening to my brother. My brother took his girlfriend abroad (About 10years ago), he spent his first 4years abroad hustle money on his girlfriend visa package about millions of Naira. She got to abroad, got a good job with good pay, started doing well and they both had kid together. But my brother woman problem is destroying things (Smart Tv, Apple Laptop, Cloths and his working appliance) worth thousands of $dollars whenever they both have issues or misunderstanding and she has done it multiple times. Even despite her earning well my brother still single-handedly pay all bills (House, Water, Gas, Cable, etc) for years. She even built house for Naija and didn't tell my brother. Advise for O.p (1) If you truly love yourself and cherish your peace, better erase the thought of you relocating abroad with any woman because those places we all call abroad is destroying lots of Naija home with their yeye Culture, Environment and Law. (2) Set her up with the money you wanna use to relocate her abroad and try at least ones or twice in a year coming to Naija to checkup on her. He that doesn't wear the shoe can never know where it pinches. Experience is the best teacher... Be Wise!!! 1 Like |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Bishop(m): 2:48pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Lasunray01: You already know the answer. GO ALONE |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Munzy14(m): 2:57pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Lasunray01:Quit the flirt. And respect the marriage you are in...Flirt with your wife and her alone...And watch her reveal the sweetest side of her...No be juju o...Just channel those flirting on your woman. E go shock you say na those flirting with other ladues be the cause of all bottle up issues that come off when you do offense wey no reach to para. Women are territorial against eachother no mata what..She is not comfortable with you around those single ladies before person thing go turn to another person own. Nothing dey for fish head...Just focus on your wife and see the sweet her you've never seen before. |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Durabest: 2:59pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
The moment ur wife is always not happy about some certain actions and you knw such can cause some unbalance situation in ur family,y nt stop it and she's human the moment u stop it,she wil change.4 now is not gud u travel with her her anger is stil high. |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 3:02pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Lasunray01:A way to make the marriage work yet you are here asking if it is better to abandon your wife in Nigeria while you escape abroad for better life? I live in the abroad that you are attempting to relocate to, and can boldly tell you that a majority of those Nigerians who come here thinking they can continue doing things as they did in Nigeria are the ones who end up divorced and bitter. If that is what you plan to do abroad, then honestly, I suggest you stay in Nigeria cause no woman will live abroad that way with you, not at all. 1 Like |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Oyiboman69: 3:05pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
PrimadonnaO:how I wish they can put in this same energy if it involves some politicians, regions or religion.. 1 Like |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Richy4(m): 3:09pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Shokoloko: @ bold.. You are simply missing the point... and I am not going to deviate from the reason why I called you up which was leadership... I am not here really to answer mischievous questions that has not bases... <<< just Incase you have forgotten the reason why I was engaging u, U said ..."No true believer should limit his walk with God by marrying a second wife. But if one has already married a second wife and became a believer then he can maintain the wives equally but he is barred from leadership roles. Then I asked if Abraham and David that married more than one wife if they were not leaders.... and the people they lead were they not the people of God?... That was our argument right?... now u are asking me to prove if Abraham and David were Christians .... You were implying that the God they served was different from the God of Christians...The Israelites that the bible referred to as the people of God, they were not of the same class as the present Christians because the mandate of their leadership was not directed and inspired by the holy spirit right?, The Christians leadership is better because it was mandated by Paul and should hence No need to make reference of the old Testament correct I will suggest u read the bible.... pause and think about how it was applicable in future as well as the past...That can help u a lot to understand. |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by TheZeezle(m): 3:13pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
So you are not a good cheater, bruh you don’t have point. She get more power over you abroad. If you must cheat.. Why ain’t you be paying for your service and it’s end there. |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by kaymart: 3:17pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Righteousness2: Hahan... Mr spiritualist |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 3:20pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Oyiboman69: 3:24pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Lasunray01:use your head not your heart... if you want a secured future for your kid,travel and make life alone before thinking of taking your wife along because even your neighbor will call police for you if they notice any shout from your house especially when they know you're a black man,trust me,the continuous visits of the police will later frustrate your effort and you'll later loose all you hold dear including you precious child. Besides na women you they carry,no be person you kill. let her grow to some stage before thinking of moving her there.... |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 3:27pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Oyiboman69:I am sorry but how does his going without his wife first, stop or ratify any of the problems to eventually follow when the couple is reunited? 1 Like |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by NemoDatQuod(m): 3:30pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Shokoloko(f): 3:32pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Richy4: We can debate without trying to be dismissive. I am quoting scripture so I am surprised (or maybe I should not be surprised) that you who is NOT quoting scripture is calling the word of God mischievous and without basis You have not quoted ONE SINGLE verse of scripture. Which scripture d you want me to read, pause and think about? Christians and Jews are totally different. While Jehovah is the same God, the covenant with the Jews is the old covenant (testament) and the covenant with gentiles is the New testament (covenant). God ended covenant with Israel Jeremiah 3:6-8 and said if she returns he would take her back if she repents Jeremiah 3: 11 -13. The church is under the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus Jews are under the law of the Torah. Neither Abraham or David was a Christian. They were JEWS and they were NOT leaders IN CHURCH. The law of Christ is only for believers. Two different religions, one God. What part of 1st Timothy 3:2 do you find confusing English Standard Version Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach You need to quote scripture when you debate scripture. The moment you say you have a problem with what Paul mandated then you negate this scripture: 1st Timothy 3: 16-17 16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: 17 That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by SeriouslySense(m): 3:34pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
I looked at my comment again, and its clear i am a bit biased there, and to correct myself, i admit, the husband also has issues. They both have issues, the husband has problem with flirting, and the wife has problem with her temperament. This is something they can talk about, and try to hold themselves accountable. FireUpNow: |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by LofP(m): 3:50pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Lasunray01: Go Alone. |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 3:53pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
LofP:If he goes alone, does this mean you want him to leave his wife in Nigeria for the life of their marriage or what? 1 Like |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by emmyN(m): 3:55pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Interesting how no one is calling the woman out for domestic violence. |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by nnenwa5: 3:58pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
[/b] Kobojunkie: A way to make the marriage work yet you are here asking if it is better to abandon your wife in Nigeria while you escape abroad for better life? I live in the abroad that you are attempting to relocate to, and can boldly tell you that a [b]majority of those Nigerians who come here thinking they can continue doing things as they did in Nigeria are the ones who end up divorced and bitter. If that is what you plan to do abroad, then honestly, I suggest you stay in Nigeria cause no woman will live abroad that way with you, not at all. Spot on, men will go abroad and want to continue treating women how they treat them in Nigeria. Women will go abroad and realize that they don’t have to tolerate nonsense any more. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by nnenwa5: 4:00pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Not all women put up with cheating, God punish you give you a wife that doesn’t put up with cheating. I hope she breaks your head one day since you can’t stop cheating. 1 Like |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Klass99(f): 4:17pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by ZUBY77(m): 4:18pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Lasunray01:Oga let me just give you good advice, don't try that thing unless you are ready to lose everything. You see once women feel they have evidence you cheated on them, they will think they own and can blackmail you into submission. If you try to resist, they can do anything to prove that and can destroy you if people don't believe them 100% I made it clear to my mother inlaw that she should not call me to ask whatever her daughter said I did with women. Or whatever she saw on my phone since she has been banned from the phone. My only advice was just to tell her daughter to return home To her. Since then, the woman has never called me to ask anything again. You want to take someone who breaks eveeythong on sight to abroad? Just tell her she has broken her destiny already. You people should start being the Lords you were made to be. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Richy4(m): 4:29pm On Feb 08, 2022 |
Klass99: My sister!!... My blue ink ran out on the 31st December.....As per new year, the suppliers delivered only green colour ... I Say make I manage am till next year...It's of low quality...Nairaland no dey upgrade I swear...Everything is the same yesterday, today and forever |
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