Klass99:


Lol .
Kilode? What has gotten in you lately?
Your responses to issues are candid with sarcastic undertones.
The other day I saw a few on the thread titled ''Do Not Make Children Your Retirement Plan'' laff wan kill me, with the way you were tackling people like football.

Klass99:




Both of you made me laugh.

@ Primma, so on the days majority of nairalanders are agreeing over rubbish (like one thread, where the OP was viciously bashed for not wanting his wife to continue kissing their young baby on the mouth) would you say there is hope for Nigeria? I hope you no follow bash that OP that time? I couldn't read beyond page one of that thread........it was that bad. So, I no know whether you follow join

@ Richy, what happened to the blue text na? This one dey wan pain eye small.

Klass99:


The first text in bold, tells me you are a sensible person.
The second text in bold has me thinking.....thank God indeed. That thread was then , we get serious problem for Africa.

Kobojunkie:
I am sorry but how does his going without his wife first, stop or ratify any of the problems to eventually follow when the couple is reunited?

Lasunray01:


Thank you. My main concern is for our baby, i want a good life for her. What if the infidelity isn't the issue any longer but her anger persist! Cos her mum seldom goes violent with the dad, and their issue has never been on infidelity.

Kobojunkie:
If he goes alone, does this mean you want him to leave his wife in Nigeria for the life of their marriage or what?

Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you

Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you

doverulez:
I cannot say much here. OP, if you want peace of mind and not spend the rest of your money and days in jail abroad. Kindly, think it thru. There is problem in ur marriage obviously and u need to sort it out.

The reason you wife gets into a fit and throw things around is cos you like philandering with single ladies. so stop the habit and she might stop throwing, breaking things. shikena.

But stop it here first b4 going abroad oh. those white popo no dey joke when dey see a woman cry oh. be it crocodile or antelop tears.

Shokoloko:


We can debate without trying to be dismissive. I am quoting scripture so I am surprised (or maybe I should not be surprised) that you who is NOT quoting scripture is calling the word of God mischievous and without basis

You have not quoted ONE SINGLE verse of scripture. Which scripture d you want me to read, pause and think about?

Christians and Jews are totally different. While Jehovah is the same God, the covenant with the Jews is the old covenant (testament) and the covenant with gentiles is the New testament (covenant). God ended covenant with Israel Jeremiah 3:6-8 and said if she returns he would take her back if she repents Jeremiah 3: 11 -13.

The church is under the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus
Jews are under the law of the Torah. Neither Abraham or David was a Christian. They were JEWS and they were NOT leaders IN CHURCH. The law of Christ is only for believers.

Two different religions, one God.

What part of 1st Timothy 3:2 do you find confusing
English Standard Version
Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach

You need to quote scripture when you debate scripture.
The moment you say you have a problem with what Paul mandated then you negate this scripture: 1st Timothy 3: 16-17 16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: 17 That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works

Klass99:


The first text in bold, tells me you are a sensible person.
The second text in bold has me thinking.....thank God indeed. That thread was then , we get serious problem for Africa.

Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you

Righteousness2:
The Permanent cure to Bad and Sinful habits is in JESUS Christ.

But I must tell you the truth! The woman you are living with now is not your wife.

Your original wife is the woman u said you Divorced because of Genotype.
Listen! Genotype is not a reason to Divorce. As long as you two got married, she is your wife. You need to go back to your wife. Except you did not marry her. If you two got married, then she is your wife and you need to rectify that.

GOD ALMIGHTY, the GOD of Chosen Has healed many couples and changed their Genotype.

From Sorrow to Joy Happening this weekend 12th and 13th February is another opportunity.

Chigold101:

Brotherly, you need too much story here.
Leave your wife and child here and travel alone first.
Come back to take her after 12 months then she would have known you are not weak.
Based on what you said she does here when she is angry, if truly that's how she behaves then get ready to be thrown back to Nigeria after 3 months of your stay abroad.
TRAVEL ALONE FIRST AND COME BACK FOR HER LATER.
For long life and prosperity oh

Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you

Shokoloko:

We are all here to learn
1. In Nigeria there is separation of church and state. There is NO law in the constitution in Nigeria that dictates the type of person who should head a church/ church departments. Since there is no law of the land /constitution concerning the headship of a church/church departments in Nigeria, we are bound to the law of Christ/the church. In some countries you cannot build a church - as long as the state forbids it, as Christians no need to make a fracas, do your evangelism and stick to your house fellowships.

If there is No law in a land concerning an issue, use the law of Christ
If there is a law in the land negating the law of Christ, use the law of Christ eg some communities have laws about wife swapping. It negates the law of Christ.
If there is a law in the land that neither negates/ nor agrees with the law of Christ use the law of the land. If the tax states to pay tax (it neither negates/agrees with Christ) pay the tax. If you are in a place where tax is not paid, why would you pay tax?

2. Can you prove that Abraham and David were Christians? I can prove that they were not. Acts 11:26 And the disciples were called Christians first in Antioch.
Can you prove that Abraham and David were leaders IN CHURCH? I can prove that they were not. Acts 2:47, Acts 11:26 And the disciples were called Christians first in Antioch.

[quote]3. Explain 1st Tim 3:16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:

4. Cambridge dictionary does not show a difference between "preach" and "go and tell" (see photo). Mary was asked to go get people to accept that Jesus had resurrected and was alive. Is that not the great commission? Acts 18:25-27 When Priscilla and Aquila heard him preaching boldly in the synagogue, they took him aside and explained the way of God even more accurately. Do you see Paul receiving correct ion in doctrine from a woman? Acts 18:25-27

I would like you to use bible verses for your points since we are discussing from the bible. I will also do the same.

Steep:
you are wrong, there was no where Paul instruct any Christian church to follow the cultural/political law in Christian assembly. Taxes are paid externally to world government not a rule in the church.

Kobojunkie:
So, you are insinuating that if she finds out that in the 12 months she had been abandoned by him in Nigeria, he had been going full force with his cheating habits, the same woman go somehow do nothing?

Many of you don't even understand life let alone reality. You expect that a woman who is being cheated on, will continue to do nothing about it?

Shokoloko:


Please let me have scriptures for all your assertions. We are here to learn.

Steep:

What assertions?

Chigold101:
1. Did the guy say he cheats?
He only say he flirts.

2. Are you insinuating he takes her along with her childish attitude of destroying things in the name of she is angry?

3. Even if the guy cheats, what would the woman do about it?

4. She either join the cheating game or she quits the marriage.

5. There are very very few men that can condone a destructive woman.
With that attitude she would be going in and out of relationship because frustration will mess her up

Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you

Shokoloko:


you are wrong, there was no where Paul instruct any Christian church to follow the cultural/political law in Christian assembly. Taxes are paid externally to world government not a rule in the church. This is the scripture I found for this Matthew 22:21 Then he said to them, “Therefore render to Caesar the things that are Caesar’s, and to God the things that are God’s.” Jesus wants his disciples to pay political taxes

Please give scripture for this: But a woman is not to take leadership role except probably there is not a qualified man.