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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Higgies(m): 11:15am On Feb 08, 2022
She's seems smarter than you.

Don't take her just yet.
And you change your ways too!
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Akinh: 11:15am On Feb 08, 2022
Righteousness2:
The Permanent cure to Bad and Sinful habits is in JESUS Christ.

But I must tell you the truth! The woman you are living with now is not your wife.

Your original wife is the woman u said you Divorced because of Genotype.
Listen! Genotype is not a reason to Divorce. As long as you two got married, she is your wife. You need to go back to your wife. Except you did not marry her. If you two got married, then she is your wife and you need to rectify that.

GOD ALMIGHTY, the GOD of Chosen Has healed many couples and changed their Genotype.

From Sorrow to Joy Happening this weekend 12th and 13th February is another opportunity.

I hope free food go dey and likewise the programm will be tithe free?...since you choose not to read the whole story and jump into conclusion I guess I can do better grin
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by ogolad(m): 11:15am On Feb 08, 2022
Bros, if you take this woman along you may spend the rest of your life in prison, with this her blackmailing attitude, she will blackmail you and before you know it, already behind bar.

THINK TWICE BRO

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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by RandyOku: 11:16am On Feb 08, 2022
Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you

You know SHE HAS ANGER issues and you are planning to RELOCATE with her ABROAD...I bet you, you will be HOMELESS within a short timecheesy

Assuming you guys were having this problems in ABROAD, she would have called POLICE on you all along and u will be EJECTED out of the house...USE YOUR TONGUE and COUNT YOUR TEETHgrin

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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by 2real52: 11:18am On Feb 08, 2022
Hahahahaha "foolish boy"

Relocating abroad with her is signing your death warrant. In abroad, women are 90% more favored, 90% more powerful than men. If you can't contain her in Africa, is it in abroad you will?

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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Mrkumareze(m): 11:18am On Feb 08, 2022
Lasunray01:



She's still in her early 20's and the marriage is less than 2yrs, leaving her behind not really cool with me...kindly explain the 'church rat' part

You fear she may cheat grin, oga travel first, relocation is another wahala of its own. When you settle, study the wellbeing of your self and family there before bringing them along (if u think it ll be ok).. meanwhile, na dog wey we see sh*t for him mouth we dey accuse of eating sh*t, that no means say others no dey chop sh*t.. be careful, chop n clean mouth well.
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by seachmatics(m): 11:18am On Feb 08, 2022
STOP ADULTERY MAN! AND WATCH HER BE HER NORMAL SELF.

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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by DownChelsea(f): 11:19am On Feb 08, 2022
Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you
The marriage seems to have broken down irretrievably due to you two having divergent ideals. Proceed to court for an arrangement that will save what's left of your marriage. Contact a Lawyer OR I can help you contact one if you wish.
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Nobody: 11:21am On Feb 08, 2022
Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you
.. Bros , I beg you in the name of God or Allah; which ever One you like....

Please don't take her with you...

Settle things with her, sit her down and talk, tell her parents to caution her, report her attitude to her pastor and a whole lots of bullshit people will advise you....

Don't listen to them, your wife no fit change at all, the best you can do and you have been doing is the fact that you don't get physical with her.....

But when it comes to your survivability, your prestige; which is the money and freedom you have..... imagine you loose your freedom and money ....haahhahhhhhhhahhhh... that will be a brain factory reset..but it may be too late...


I think I am typing too much...incase you don't know, I am married too.

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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by jackyraw09: 11:21am On Feb 08, 2022
Righteousness2:
The Permanent cure to Bad and Sinful habits is in JESUS Christ.

But I must tell you the truth! The woman you are living with now is not your wife.

Your original wife is the woman u said you Divorced because of Genotype.
Listen! Genotype is not a reason to Divorce. As long as you two got married, she is your wife. You need to go back to your wife. Except you did not marry her. If you two got married, then she is your wife and you need to rectify that.

GOD ALMIGHTY, the GOD of Chosen Has healed many couples and changed their Genotype.

From Sorrow to Joy Happening this weekend 12th and 13th February is another opportunity.


Omo bro’s you no fit pretend to be sane for one minute ??
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Nobody: 11:22am On Feb 08, 2022
ogolad:
Bros, if you take this woman along you may spend the rest of your life in prison, with this her blackmailing attitude, she will blackmail you and before you know it, already behind bar.

THINK TWICE BRO
I hope he listens... Some men won't learn until they are reduced to zero

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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Nobody: 11:22am On Feb 08, 2022
DownChelsea:
The marriage seems to have broken down irretrievably due to you two having divergent ideals. Proceed to court for an arrangement that will save what's left of your marriage. Contact a Lawyer OR I can help you contact one if you wish.
..to do what in Court please..your advice may be useful to me
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by babyfaceafrica: 11:23am On Feb 08, 2022
Don't take her yet. Go alone and see how things pans out
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Emperor88(m): 11:25am On Feb 08, 2022
Op you sef deserves cane for flirting around. �...just kidding though. But tbh the first thing you need to stop is the cheating. The fact that you honest shows you can stop cheating on your wife. And for your destroying valuables shows she is jobless and mentally derailed. You both need to work on yourselves. You owe your kids good parenting. And if things don't work out not of you should part ways. Your safety and your children future matters most. Marriage is not a must. If you are no ready to be faithful don't get married.

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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Ajens1991: 11:25am On Feb 08, 2022
Righteousness international... I celebrate Grace
Righteousness2:
The Permanent cure to Bad and Sinful habits is in JESUS Christ.

But I must tell you the truth! The woman you are living with now is not your wife.

Your original wife is the woman u said you Divorced because of Genotype.
Listen! Genotype is not a reason to Divorce. As long as you two got married, she is your wife. You need to go back to your wife. Except you did not marry her. If you two got married, then she is your wife and you need to rectify that.

GOD ALMIGHTY, the GOD of Chosen Has healed many couples and changed their Genotype.

From Sorrow to Joy Happening this weekend 12th and 13th February is another opportunity.

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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by rickpat(m): 11:25am On Feb 08, 2022
Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you
.... firstly you must fix your end very well,that way her triggers can be managed... she is hyper temperamental...so if flirting is the major cus of the fights,do the right thing bro,STOP FLIRTING. ..then after that start loving her more,give her attention more...from the way u talk..you really love this woman but flirting is breaking your home...you wife is very jealous!..in as much as she is wrong in destroying stuffs,just try to make her happier...if you don't fix your end and help her through hers,bro abroad will be disaster for you... WOMEN ARE EXTREMELY PROTECTED ABROAD..FIX YOURSELF AND HELP HET FIX HERSELF TOO ..stop flirting and a reasonable part of your Marital issues is solved ..I wish you the best

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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Blackdisciple(m): 11:26am On Feb 08, 2022
Now the advice I seek, WE ARE PLANNING TO RELOCATE AS A FAMILY ABROAD THIS YEAR, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character.


With all those try it and see, we will be here reading how she went on calling the authority on u.....
Wise up since u said u can actually go alone..

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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by LaSenior: 11:27am On Feb 08, 2022
Carry her go abroad ... This is the end of Solomon Grundy

I hope you get the point now

Make her leg enter Yankee your life don finish be that
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Valuc: 11:27am On Feb 08, 2022
Op.. so you want her to change from her destructive habit... But you are not willing to listen to her when she ask you to change from ur womanizing habit... Oya naa.. am so sorry for u

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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by seguntravels009(m): 11:28am On Feb 08, 2022
@op watch this YouTube video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-3QF4p1KG14
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Emperor88(m): 11:28am On Feb 08, 2022
jackyraw09:


Omo bro’s you no fit pretend to be sane for one minute ??

Do we have sane religious people?.....come to my arear, you will see mad religious people, graduates acting like illiterates in the name of religion.
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by IgOga(m): 11:28am On Feb 08, 2022
Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you

This is very tricky considering her attitude and the culture of "believe all women". My advice is go with your family but also invest in secret cameras in your home....just because she will go ballistic again...seems that's her nature....if she spins the story to the police or social services you can bring out hard video evidence....never lay your hands on her o cos you may end up in jail and never see your children again

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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Ndidi2: 11:29am On Feb 08, 2022
pte author=Lasunray01 post=110039712]Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you[/quote]stop cheating
Do you really think is fun or funny knowing ur spouse shares intimate moments with strange women?

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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Ofadaman(m): 11:33am On Feb 08, 2022
Aren't you the problem?, There's only one solution which is to apologize and desist from it. What you would prefer is to continue cheating and bring home diseases or you want a docile woman who would be happy with you cheating . Why don't u address your problem, you cheat and she gets angry isnt that a response to your action?. You're the aggressor here.
Would you be okay, if you figure that your wife is having an affair?.. pls treath people the way you wish to be treated. Then again, I can assure you that once you relocate ,and you don't quit flirting with single women,you'd likely get kicked out of your own house, she'd be the one to file for divorce and then you'd loss customer of your kids. It's that simple
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by ugbanante: 11:33am On Feb 08, 2022
Brother, don't expect petty change from ur wife if u, the first port of call, don't desist from this bad habit.
Secondly, don't take her outside yet until u sort this matter here. Women get plenty rights abroad oh (though u did not mention the country) especially if it's European countries.
U go crawl back to Nigeria with nothing if u don't handle this local issues locally and now.
God's grace!
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by eneazi(f): 11:34am On Feb 08, 2022
1) Drop the flirtatious behavior its a trigger
2) Your wife needs to get enrolled in some "anger management program" so she doesn't end up stabbing you in your sleep someday.
3) If you don't want your son growing up and resenting both of you or picking up what he sees his mother display its imperative you do as stated in #1 and2
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by nedekid: 11:34am On Feb 08, 2022
You encouraged it, now it has become a normal.
How will wife vex and start breaking property? When it first happened, what did you do?
When I was newly married, wify was pregnant. We had a quarell and before I knew gbosa don land for my face!
Omo, I did not mind the belle, 2 well connected combinations had landed, it was when uppercut was about to enter on a "finish him" move, I came to my senses. All I can say is it never happened again, either from her or me.
Nothing like violence, beating, assault, insults in out home over 20 years.
If I had played a mugu, I would have been receiving slaps from madam on a daily basis like one my paddy weh be big boy for abroad weh de do macho man outside but him de chop slap steady for house.
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Realtizzy(m): 11:36am On Feb 08, 2022
Righteousness2:
The Permanent cure to Bad and Sinful habits is in JESUS Christ.

But I must tell you the truth! The woman you are living with now is not your wife.

Your original wife is the woman u said you Divorced because of Genotype.
Listen! Genotype is not a reason to Divorce. As long as you two got married, she is your wife. You need to go back to your wife. Except you did not marry her. If you two got married, then she is your wife and you need to rectify that.

GOD ALMIGHTY, the GOD of Chosen Has healed many couples and changed their Genotype.

From Sorrow to Joy Happening this weekend 12th and 13th February is another opportunity.

Religious simp get the Bleep out when you don't have anything to offer
Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by Stenewiser: 11:36am On Feb 08, 2022
Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you
have not read any line about you desisting from your dirty act, can you repost this some month after you have avoided flirting with single ladies.

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Re: Please Advice! I’m Having Multiple Issues With My Marriage by heniford2: 11:38am On Feb 08, 2022
Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you
you already get the answer no carry that woman commot naija 4 ur life oh

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