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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by MoneyMustBMade(m): 7:05pm On Aug 13, 2022
Ngozi123:


You should tell both the husband and the child's real father what you know. Some women can kill to protect such a secret. Also, you should not let any of them know where you live.

Is only u(female) that speak the truth among other female

Atime I used to wonder if women feel bad about things they do atimes

DO they feel that they are right even when they are wrong I don't understand women atimes

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by MoneyMustBMade(m): 7:11pm On Aug 13, 2022
prestyn:
Bro, I don't support blindly raising another man's child in this harsh economy. The simp of a husband has been wronged in every aspect abeg. Wife cheated on him while they were dating, he is currently still toiling and fending for d offspring of the cheat. Habaaa. Spill the milk, let the simp husband claim damages bikooo. the irresponsible Yahoo guy has money now.

I dey feel for the guy o very bad
I just they imagine if this happens to me I will kill that women oo
U better tell me the trutha d I accept or not than keeping it away from,I will feel betrayed.
May God have mercy on us
Leaving with dark secret to ur old age

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by FuckSilly: 7:14pm On Aug 13, 2022
IbitsonReloaded:
This has happened to my then school daughter and her current husband, the guy knew that the pregnancy wasn't his but the girl forced it on him by force, they both knew that I know that the pregnancy wasn't the guys', so, the guy begged me to come to their family meeting and tell everyone but I refused because I refuse to be at the centre of a family feud.
Today, they are both married with 2 more kids to make it 3.
I would have been the devil if I had opened up.

My guy don't say anything, let the truth reveal itself if it will.
You might reveal it and the worse may not happen, the husband might not leave his wife and your friend might not even take the kid, instead they become friends, then you end up being the bad person.
Just wise up my guy
Very SENSELESS opinion and I doubt that a man with Brians will agree to claim responsibility for a pregnancy not his. No man alive except a retarɗ or a demented low life fool. Except maybe in the case of rape (and no one knows the rapist) and the guy really loves the girl.

Some of you are just bloody hypocrite. If your friend knows that you're married to a loose WHÓRE who has FUCKĒD her youthful years away with numerous guys and she even brought home a Bastard home for you to raise, will you be happy if he keeps such information away from you? Or even if the mumu husband is your brother...

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Charx122: 7:14pm On Aug 13, 2022
Regardless:
Hey guys,
Pardon the long post.
So when I was still in 200 level staying in school hostel, I had this pre-degree roommate - handsome bad guy. He met a lady at the center he was attending tutorials for Jamb and PD exam. The lady and her mum were living in the town where our school was. They started having sex like mad. They so much had sex to stupor that one day this my guy came back completely drained. We had to arrange Malt and Milk for him to get himself that day. Now this girl was involved with another guy who was already working in all this Oil drilling company and he was alright.

I came back from lectures one day and my former roomie was alone in the room and moody. I asked him what was wrong and he opened up to me that the girl is pregnant and they have tried to abort the baby to no avail. Ha... So wetin wan play like this? He said the girl and her mum had already planned to pin the pregnancy on the working guy's head as this my guy no get shishi plus he couldn't even tell the girl to keep it for him or go and stay with his people because he had stayed at home for like 5 years committing plenty atrocities before his mum managed to send him to school for PD. He was sad because he didn't want another man to take care of his child.

When I asked him about the situation after some time, he said the working guy had already accepted the pregnancy and had already started buying baby things down. lol... The guy didn't gain admission again and went back home. Later he came back and did Diploma... When I asked him of the child, he said the child was a carbon copy of him, that the girl had done intro with the guy but when he has money he would come back for the child..

Last month, I received a friend request from my fomer roomie on FB. Long story cut short, after 7 years, he has blown through yahoo in SA. I asked him about the child and he said he can't trace the baby mama again, her mum had relocated from that town and he has exhausted all means looking for them. I jokingly offered my help and the guy was willing to give me money to help him trace her. I told him I would see what I can do.

It took me a while but I was able to trace the girl on SM and even traced the now husband to LinkedIn. Babe is living well with Oil money and has 3 kids and truly the first girl is my guy's carbon copy.. Damn... I started feeling for the child. Beautiful soft girl-child.

I decided ring the girl and immediately I told her what was happening, she hung up and blocked my number.. lol.. I sent a msg to her with my second line and told her to better call me back before I send a message to her husband... babe called me and was begging.. that my former roomie is not responsible. he was not trying then... she couldn't wait .. blah blah .. that please I should not scatter her marriage... was really crying over the phone... The RP in me wasn't buying it until she mentioned that I should please think about how this would shatter her daughter's life. Omoh the human in me made me pause come begin reason am...

My former roomie's lifestyle isn't really what a child would be proud of.. the guy has done everything from cultism to robbery and still hasn't changed and now to yahoo.......only thing he has now to offer that child is money....He said his mother has been telling him to go and bring the child from another man's house.
I don't care about the babe because ladies always think their hoe-phase would go unrewarded..
I pity for the babe's husband coz he was simp then and has remained so till now oblivious of anything.....
I only sincerely care about the 7y/o child whose life would be turned upside down by this shocking revelation..

Anyway, I told her that I wouldn't do anything for now but my guy is very desperate and she better handles it fast and that it's only a mater of time my guy gets to her one way or another... Babe thanked me and hung up. Next day, she wiped her and her husband's SM clean and deleted the accounts.. except the man's LinkedIn of course.. The man don sha accept me as one of his connections.... I've not revealed any findings to my former roomie.. Last time he asked when I want to start tracking her, I just stalled him. I'm sitting on the sidelines for now.. Omoh I weak sad ..... The good, bad and ugly comments are welcomed.


Keep stalling your friend, Omo that babe has to pay for that milk and malt you gave your friend back then
This time with oil money Guy! be woke.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by FuckSilly: 7:15pm On Aug 13, 2022
rumenase:
OP this is the best advice.
Or deh
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by takimsipho(m): 7:20pm On Aug 13, 2022
slivertongue:


Meddlesome Interlopers don't end well.

Your guy didn't marry her and can't claim the child.

Your guy can't get custody of the love child cos he is not responsible, infact his past may coming hunting him.

Fatherhood is beyond donating sperm to a woman, it means taking responsibility from pregnancy to childbirth and beyond.

The lady involved has little to lose as she has two others who am sure is her hubby's. Three kids ain't like sipping garri &kulikuli.

Op, becareful because the lady may hit you before you destroy her home &her child's happiness. Women may look weak but don't allow the wrath of their weakness hit you cos you may never live to tell the outcome. They can go any length when pushed....
She should kill him and see if she won't go to jail. Is it only women who have evil mind? If that guy files for paternity in court and it turns out to be his child nobody will dispute it. People get divorced everyday for various reasons. A biological father always will have rights unless he forfitts it. Women nowadays divorce their husbands for cheating, but a man should keep a woman's secret? Weak men every where

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Nobody: 7:21pm On Aug 13, 2022
slickbak:
Very Dread.

Seems like you should mind your business really.
Shey the child no just deserve to know her real father ni. Some women and how they v given black name to females

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by FuckSilly: 7:21pm On Aug 13, 2022
emmanuelpopson:
Guy. You should mind your business in this kind of situation.. The lady will do anything to keep her secrets covered.. You are trying to unveil a secrets that people take down to the grave and youe friend been unserious and irresponsible will never appreciate the young child as he should. I will advise you to break your sim card and if possible delete your social media account kos the lady may want to silent you for trying to crash her marriage.. The sim card is to avoid her tracking you.. Just let her be and let your friend take his leave from the baby.. He can't change even after 7 years of doing the same things. Would the daughter be proud to have him as her father now that he is still like his former self??
Many of you people just dish out senseless advice.
What you can not eat, you dish to others...
If the husband was you or your brother, would you prefer not to know this secret.
Paternity fraud is a very serious crime and I could kill a wife that tries it with me. More importantly, a deceitful woman doesn't deserve a pity, no matter the weight of the crime and how long the crime has been committed.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Crenzywilliams(m): 7:21pm On Aug 13, 2022
For you to come here and leak this story means u can't keep it in. I think it's wise you mind ur business and stay away from other people's bullsh*t.
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Emperordynasty: 7:25pm On Aug 13, 2022
RepoMan007:
The queationnis does a child need the original parent or a good parent?

The original parent is not too disciplined and has a bad record here. The good parent seem to have a better record bit will be hurt as well as the child.

This is not about original or good parent...

This is about a deceived man

If after the secret is revealed he decides to remain a father to the child good and fine,
He is only a good father because he believes the child is his...you should blame the wife for being a promiscuous unfaithful girl in her youth instead of the op
Now
The Op should mind his business,not because they have a happy home(it’s not a happy home at all, it will crumble once the lies the family is built on is revealed)

The Op should mind his business and remain silent because it’s not his place,
Let the stupid yahoo boy who was going about spreading his sperm locate and trace his daughter and former girlfriend himself instead of dragging the Op into his stupid mess

The wife and yahoo boy will reap the nemesis of their actions

And the only victims in this story is the poor girl born to an irresponsible father and a lieing mother

And the second victim is the man working night and day to carter for a woman that doesn’t love him who married him only for his cash, and brought along the fruit of her yahoo boy friend for him to raise without his consent


Girls pray for a rich husband God gave you one that is able to carter for you and get your pregnant yet you did him the injustice of sleeping around and bringing another mans child for him to raise
@ Regardless
God help me in this generation

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by sylve11: 7:26pm On Aug 13, 2022
TMTR:


Loyalty is everything, if you can meet someone that is loyal, don't ever joke with that person cause it can't be bought
Word! cool

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by FuckSilly: 7:28pm On Aug 13, 2022
Mom007:

... By their moniker you shall know them. I have no time to banter words with stupid children like you. All you said up there is addressed to your mother not me since its the Same hoeing she did that begat you that we are doing also. Nitwit.
The mumu husband could be your brother or son...
Would you like a Bastard for a grandchild?

Ho low Ree buu ruu kuu woman.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Osanoghodua1: 7:28pm On Aug 13, 2022
Don't destroy her marriage. Both were dating and having sex with her same time, so the child belongs to the responsible guy. If you destroy her marriage now, you will still loss your peace. Just remove your hands and allow your grey hair to go home in Peace. Okay sir this life is deeper than offer can offer. If fate wants it, things can be revealed in the later years, don't be an instrument of destruction. This is part of the reason I decided to serve God and stay of Premarital sex. Thank God.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by loliapoopy2013(f): 7:29pm On Aug 13, 2022
A yahoo father, what if he uses the little girl for rituals to enhance his hustle since he has no attachment with her? You will never forgive yourself. Please, let the sleeping lion lie. Who wants a robber, yahoo plus guy, drug addict, etc for a father? If the mother had aborted the pregnancy then, would he have come back? Abeg, let home go

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Mom007(f): 7:29pm On Aug 13, 2022
FuckSilly:

The mumu husband could be your brother or son...
Would you like a Bastard for a grandchild?

Ho low Ree buu ruu kuu woman.
undecided
Your mum right?
*spits
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by vikkogg: 7:30pm On Aug 13, 2022
What if one of the abortion attempts worked and the pregnancy was terminated?
Your guy made it obvious that he didn't want the pregnancy. The pregnancy was then transferred to someone who welcomed it. Although, he thought it was his, but the fact that he accepted it made him deserve the baby.

Now, this is my advice: Stay out of that business completely. Not only will a happy home become bitter, the damage you'll cause to the child will be irreparable. Let the guy trace the lady by himself. Don't guilt-trap yourself for the rest of your life.
More so, revealing the truth might get you killed. The girl could hunt you down.

Stay away from that matter. I repeat, stay away.

Safe ✌

Regardless:
Hey guys,
Pardon the long post.
So when I was still in 200 level staying in school hostel, I had this pre-degree roommate - handsome bad guy. He met a lady at the center he was attending tutorials for Jamb and PD exam. The lady and her mum were living in the town where our school was. They started having sex like mad. They so much had sex to stupor that one day this my guy came back completely drained. We had to arrange Malt and Milk for him to get himself that day. Now this girl was involved with another guy who was already working in all this Oil drilling company and he was alright.

I came back from lectures one day and my former roomie was alone in the room and moody. I asked him what was wrong and he opened up to me that the girl is pregnant and they have tried to abort the baby to no avail. Ha... So wetin wan play like this? He said the girl and her mum had already planned to pin the pregnancy on the working guy's head as this my guy no get shishi plus he couldn't even tell the girl to keep it for him or go and stay with his people because he had stayed at home for like 5 years committing plenty atrocities before his mum managed to send him to school for PD. He was sad because he didn't want another man to take care of his child.

When I asked him about the situation after some time, he said the working guy had already accepted the pregnancy and had already started buying baby things down. lol... The guy didn't gain admission again and went back home. Later he came back and did Diploma... When I asked him of the child, he said the child was a carbon copy of him, that the girl had done intro with the guy but when he has money he would come back for the child..

Last month, I received a friend request from my fomer roomie on FB. Long story cut short, after 7 years, he has blown through yahoo in SA. I asked him about the child and he said he can't trace the baby mama again, her mum had relocated from that town and he has exhausted all means looking for them. I jokingly offered my help and the guy was willing to give me money to help him trace her. I told him I would see what I can do.

It took me a while but I was able to trace the girl on SM and even traced the now husband to LinkedIn. Babe is living well with Oil money and has 3 kids and truly the first girl is my guy's carbon copy.. Damn... I started feeling for the child. Beautiful soft girl-child.

I decided ring the girl and immediately I told her what was happening, she hung up and blocked my number.. lol.. I sent a msg to her with my second line and told her to better call me back before I send a message to her husband... babe called me and was begging.. that my former roomie is not responsible. he was not trying then... she couldn't wait .. blah blah .. that please I should not scatter her marriage... was really crying over the phone... The RP in me wasn't buying it until she mentioned that I should please think about how this would shatter her daughter's life. Omoh the human in me made me pause come begin reason am...

My former roomie's lifestyle isn't really what a child would be proud of.. the guy has done everything from cultism to robbery and still hasn't changed and now to yahoo.......only thing he has now to offer that child is money....He said his mother has been telling him to go and bring the child from another man's house.
I don't care about the babe because ladies always think their hoe-phase would go unrewarded..
I pity for the babe's husband coz he was simp then and has remained so till now oblivious of anything.....
I only sincerely care about the 7y/o child whose life would be turned upside down by this shocking revelation..

Anyway, I told her that I wouldn't do anything for now but my guy is very desperate and she better handles it fast and that it's only a mater of time my guy gets to her one way or another... Babe thanked me and hung up. Next day, she wiped her and her husband's SM clean and deleted the accounts.. except the man's LinkedIn of course.. The man don sha accept me as one of his connections.... I've not revealed any findings to my former roomie.. Last time he asked when I want to start tracking her, I just stalled him. I'm sitting on the sidelines for now.. Omoh I weak sad ..... The good, bad and ugly comments are welcomed.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by toujurs: 7:37pm On Aug 13, 2022
1stGenAmerican:


How do you know that he isn’t the father? Because she looks like the friend doesn’t mean anything.
But the guy, that posted this. just admitted. That truely, his guy, ex girlfriend. Got pregnant for his friend, but the pregnancy was pinned on her oil rich husband. because his friend, who lived an irresponsible life, was so broke.

So after a man must have worked so hard, to live a responsible life, and provide for his family, this is how a bitch, which he thinks care about the family, would decieve him, into taking care of the child of another man. This is wickedness angry. And she would open her bitchy mouth to tell her oil rich husband, she loves him. While decieving the man.

I will never be this vulnerable, by a broke ass bitch. God forbid. That man is too innocent to be decieved this way, after her ex, a known cultist have scattered her coochie, its now an innocent responsible man that would bare the consequences of her bitchy lifestyle.

This is really depressing, for a responsible man who have worked so hard. To be treated.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by edunaragold(f): 7:47pm On Aug 13, 2022
As a soldier all I can say is that what happened in mangu platuea state , should stay in mangu.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Ade1759: 7:47pm On Aug 13, 2022
Hey stupid smart ass...stay out of it...before somebody enter you for this life.


Body dey catch you...broda FBI
Scatter the marriage Fes...make she sef track you down​ for vengeance... your head go correct that time....


Na madness she go send to you...the naked one.


Don't Bleep with angry hoes.....shiiiiiiit.


I have spoken.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Osanoghodua1: 7:47pm On Aug 13, 2022
But the guy, that posted this. just admitted

This is really depressing, for a responsible man who have worked so hard. To be treated.

I understand, they should have been man enough before marriage and not now. Dey're now on a collision course to destroy her home and set the children in disarray. Let the father of the child trace it himself.

The lady, the wayward boyfriend and her mother will receive retribution though.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Obiorahpcfg: 7:56pm On Aug 13, 2022
Don't distroy her home pls!
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by 1stGenAmerican(f): 7:59pm On Aug 13, 2022
toujurs:
But the guy, that posted this. just admitted. That truely, his guy, ex girlfriend. Got pregnant for his friend, but the pregnancy was pinned on her oil rich husband. because his friend, who lived an irresponsible life, was so broke.

So after a man must have worked so hard, to live a responsible life, and provide for his family, this is how a bitch, which he thinks care about the family, would decieve him, into taking care of the child of another man. This is wickedness angry. And she would open her bitchy mouth to tell her oil rich husband, she loves him. While decieving the man.

I will never be this vulnerable, by a broke ass bitch. God forbid. That man is too innocent to be decieved this way, after her ex, a known cultist have scattered her coochie, its now an innocent responsible man that would bare the consequences of her bitchy lifestyle.

This is really depressing, for a responsible man who have worked so hard. To be treated.

How do you know that the husband isn’t the father?
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Freemasonry: 7:59pm On Aug 13, 2022
Okonandmary:
You want to destroy someone else life because you friend is into cultism and yahoo yahoo, seems like you are jealous of his success.

Some secret are taken to the grave.

The truth of the matter is after you destroy her marriage, her children might likely suffer and you will feed guilt for the rest of your life
Are you sure you read the story?

Coz I don't know where you got this silly idea from.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by EduBrazil1991(m): 7:59pm On Aug 13, 2022
Nonexisting:
I don't have pity for vaginarians. The evil that they do in their hoe phase will always catch up with them one way or another. If you decide not to tell your guy that you found her, you have failed as a friend you claim to be and make no mistakes about it, he will definitely find his daughter. The olosho can not hide for long. She committed crime against humanity by committing paternity fraud and will never go unpunished.

The lady now is the Olosho and the useless guy is a saint.

The guy is useless and will forever remain useless unless he changes

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by 1stGenAmerican(f): 8:03pm On Aug 13, 2022
takimsipho:
"I asked him what was wrong and he opened up to me that the girl is pregnant and they have tried to abort the baby to no avail. Ha... So wetin wan play like this? He said the girl and her mum had already planned to pin the pregnancy on the working guy's head" That's a quote from the post. They both knew and even tried to abort it to no avail. I hate it when a girl gets pregnant she pins it on the guy who is more financially stable. Is that not fraud? How do people get pregnant is it not through sex?

Does that mean his friend is definitely the child’s biological father? No, it doesn’t. How do you know that the woman didn’t lie to his friend also?
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by toujurs: 8:04pm On Aug 13, 2022
1stGenAmerican:


How do you know that the husband isn’t the father?
It seem, you skipped this part.

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Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Danny5050: 8:04pm On Aug 13, 2022
This is a complicated situation. The fact is that, the child deserves a good life and I'm very sure that the real father who's into all sorts of vices may not be able to give her a better life. In the other way round; her husband deserves to know the truth before he'll end up training another man's child... Well, bro, I'll advise you calm down for now and observe how things unfolds before knowing what exactly to do.

Women are just too terrible...
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by 1stGenAmerican(f): 8:07pm On Aug 13, 2022
[quote author=toujurs post=115672067][/quote]

This is part of a story told to him by a yahoo boy. What proof do you have that his friend is the father of the child?How does he know that the girl didn’t have sex with anyone else during the same period she was having sex with him?
Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by Upworkwriter007(f): 8:08pm On Aug 13, 2022
@ Regardless karma is real, what you hide from others, they'll it hide from you or your unborn kids. Expose things with sense.

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