Nataliace:
I'm married for twelve years now and my marriage is blessed with two kids all boys, 11 and 9 respectively. Our marriage was also blessed with peace until I discovered my husband dates girls.

The one that pains me most is dating a neighbor who has been my enemy since we relocated to that settlement. My husband has side chicks too numerous to mention and I tried to talk to him but he refused. I left him and went back to my parents house thinking that will make him change and to come and apologize, to my greatest surprise he didn't make a move of putting things in order.

The worst is that the girl in the neighborhood is now living with him sleeping in our Matrimonial bed doing all the house chores and taking my children to school.

I came back and apologized to my husband but he said it's over between us. I love my husband so much that I can't afford to lose him. What should I have done? I expressed my grief of being hurt but it bounced back negatively.

Please advise me on how to restore my marriage.

You saw the red flag🚩 before marriage madam but you chose to go ahead...

Honestly, even though men always have the urge to spread their seeds around, there are still good and respectful men who aren't silly to be disrespecting their wives boldly⚠️

For me that's a total disrespect, you shouldn't love who doesn't love you... Clearly your husband doesn't love you, so i think you should moveeee on!!!

Why did you leave your children behind??

Get a job if you're not working, then try and pick your sons out from that house and leave that marriage asap

Ok

The solution is Jesus.He is the one God the owner of the whole world sent into the world to die and through His death life[Zoe] to live above circumstances and situations was given us .This new life will enable you to endure and eventually come out victorious with your marriage restored.

Bananapill:

She missed her children too much

You know that's not true.

Uchenna10:
Omo, cheating de the guy blood sha,wich kind disrespect be that, just move on,you shouldn't av apologized..

No,.she shouldn't have packed out in the first place

DestinedForGrea:

This is not true.

Men are not polygamous in nature, stop justifying wrong with what you think is natural.

Wake up from this delusion.

But it's true. Men are polygamous in nature

EconomistXplain:


simply take him to court...there he will pay u for divorce nd child custody sorted out...d t b timid, u also hv a right in d marriage

She Can't get payment for any divorce or child custody.

It is her that decides to divorce the man, not the other way around. So, she'll get zero payment.

The kids aren't living with her but with the man. So, she can't get paid for child custody.

Advice her to rather go get a job.

@OP
Leaving your home because of a side chick is a wrong move. It's answered prayers for her! Unfortunately, you left your children behind so there was nothing for hubby to worry about. Just a little brainwashing on how their mum "abandoned" them and heavy pretence as a dutiful "aunty" by the side chick will turn the tables against you. It's a case of eni ta fe sun ni ina, to fi epo para. (You provided the fuel for him to fire you).

You could have thought through your plan knowing that he's not willing to change. If you're still interested in the relationship, see if the two families can resolve the issues for an amicable settlement especially as it affects the children. Hopefully, he won't ask for divorce. But consider if you can live with a serial cheater for life and stay happy? Be careful with your health too.

AoifeNightfall:


Later you people who will come here and start wailing about the moral decadence in the society, yet you condone behaviours like this from your fellow man.

If the husband doesn't have other women, who then will have any of the single, old and seriously searching women?

Women triple men numerically. So, it is inconciderate for a man to not have side chicks.

advanceDNA:


Wait...
So u left ur husband...? And U also left ur kids behind??

So What were u hoping to use as leverage over a cheating husband to make him possibly come and beg?? Just ur vagina...?? That he already has plenty at his disposal....??

this is the Koko of the matter.

freeborn02:


She Can't get payment for any divorce or child custody.

It is her that decides to divorce the man, not the other way around. So, she'll get zero payment.

The kids aren't living with her but with the man. So, she can't get paid for child custody.

Advice her to rather go get a job.

guy infidelity attract consequences at the court... usually fines or alimony

A heartless and disrespectful man is worse than a woman beater. I know someone who would have behaved this way, I thank God everyday for that bullet I dodged.

I wouldn’t say you should move on because you obviously don’t want to so continue eating the shit. Just make sure your children are with you sha, they are not safe with the stranger in your home.

yomi007k:


The man should cheat on this woman who also has a boyfriend and plans on allowing him move in with her.


Check her former post where she plans to either let her mother or boyfriend move in with her.

What type of cursed wife is that?

Ahh...she belongs to the street

This time - leave and leave with your kids. The kids are your only leverage, and you will take them and he will do nothing

EconomistXplain:


guy infidelity attract consequences at the court... usually fines or alimony

Provided they did court wedding

freeborn02:


Provided they did court wedding

even uf it's church wedding....hv u ever wondered what newest couple usually sign in the church during wedding presided by a preist...?

its a contract documents prepared by the government in accordance with the laws overseeing marriage within the state....the preist is simply a preciding officer representative of government in that location

In 2023, you were married for 5 years.
In 2024, you are married for 12 years.

I don't blame you, I blame Seun and his mods that allow you guys type your fantasies here. Anything to push accepting a cheating man agenda.

Sorry

Most of the responses just showed how the world has declined, accepting rubbish. How can you guys be supporting the man's behavior.

If to say you know you for no bring this kind problem here

Nairaland comments alone will traumatize you.

For the past 9 years I have been reading Nairaland, it's not a place to seek genuine advise from

pocohantas:
In 2023, you were married for 5 years.
In 2024, you are married for 12 years.

I don't blame you, I blame Seun and his mods that allow you guys type your fantasies here. Anything to push accepting a cheating man agenda.

There's one guy who has severe chronic mental illness here, Obama messi. He is the owner of that account!!!

Nataliace:


Please advise me on how to restore my marriage.

This is height of irresponsibility. A cheating partner is a risk not only to his or her family but himself. Please be happy that the charade u called marriage ended. Get a new life and carry your babies. You shdnt have left them in the first instance. It seems you don't have a good source of independent income. Which kind marriage una do? If na authentic one sue him and let him get punished for violating his marital vows with such a very high dishonor.

Thesame your husband that his junior brother was making advanced to you?
I think cheating runs in their blood

ObamaMessi:
I have never laughed so hard!! What a funny story 😂😂😂

You left your husband then another woman came in and you rushed back to beg. Na alpha male him be and kudos to him.
Women are always the cause of their problems... you have also been cheating since you got married but you decide to mire your side of the story of how you brought his friends, alot of them to sleep with you in the kitchen, palor and toilet.
Personally I know how many of your type I have flogged either in my mom's bed room or on their matrimonial beds (in rare cases). ..so shut the Bleep up and look for the next street suck. Your husband is gone for good.

You are obviously a pathetic little boy with inferiority complex. You think your submission will make people think you are a hard guy. You are just a garrulous waste of space bragging over nonsense and telling lies. Juvenile asininity

The fact that you went back to beg such a man shows the type of woman that you are. People like you have no self esteem, you see marriage as the only achievement in life and you probably don't even have a job, that's why you left your children behind. He will not be with that side chick forever, they will still go their different ways. Since you want him back keep begging, go get your kids.

You opened the Pant-dora Box.

The worst is that the girl in the neighborhood is now living with him sleeping in our Matrimonial bed doing all the house chores and taking my children to school.

You mean you left the house for her to take over knowing fully well that she's
In the neighborhood that was a gross mistake ma'am

EconomistXplain:


even uf it's church wedding....hv u ever wondered what newest couple usually sign in the church during wedding presided by a preist...?

its a contract documents prepared by the government in accordance with the laws overseeing marriage within the state....the preist is simply a preciding officer representative of government in that location

Ok

I don't support any form of cheating in any matrimony. Yet leaving the home without the children is worse still.

janeedema
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Do you support a man leaving when a woman cheats? Why do you think a man's philandering can be condoned or should be excused? Do you realize that the woman is also human? A man sleeping with anything in skirt isn't enough to make a woman lose her sanity and esteem? Seriously? She should deal with it because she's a woman and men are scarce?

Would you give this advice to your sister or daughter?

You don't think being cheated on is life threatening?

We think that only physical abuse is worth tackling and that's a real misconstrue.

You believe one man for one woman abi? Continue!

DestinedForGrea:

This is not true.

Men are not polygamous in nature, stop justifying wrong with what you think is natural.

Wake up from this delusion.

Do you know exactly the population of men and women ? Try to Google it.

One men is entitled to marry three women if we are to consider marrying all the women on earth. If not, there will be so many women without husband.

Think about it

ibrocool:
Do you know exactly the population of men and women ? Try to Google it.

One men is entitled to marry three women if we are to consider marrying all the women on earth. If not, there will be so many women without husband.

Think about it

Why do you men like thinking with your penis? Because you want to marry many wives you are now lying that females outnumber males. There is no shortage of men anywhere, there is definitely shortage of sane, marriageable men because many men are psychos but there is no man shortage. Stop lying.