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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by lipstick2(f): 7:52am On Jan 05, 2018
CaptainG00D:
Hmm ok so Ur hubby paid dowry and became broke.? Rubbish!!!.
Any man that cant pay for his woman bride price is not ready for marriage n parenthood..
By the way its not by force to marry an igbo woman... look elsewhere where women are cheap.

As for ur friends who has "VOWED" not to marry igbo women pls tell them to vow with amadioha and ogun so that the vow will strong well well.
Becoz im loving that vow let them keep away from our women pls and stick to their own who "dont sell" their kids.

Pls pls all igbo parents should increase the brideprice more let them leave our gals alone becoz its getting too much pls. angry

NUFF SAID!!

Thank u,very well said.
I am her husband went there to show off.

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Nobody: 7:53am On Jan 05, 2018
humilitypays:
Try and visit Igbo land during Xmas this year and see developmental projects by Igbo men in their respective communities;
I have never been to nigeria. If Igbo boys do what you say, it is highly commendable, but we deviate from the topic.
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Teespice(f): 7:53am On Jan 05, 2018
I am going to be brutal and blame the girl.

you know your husbands capability as well as his financial standing before you accepted to marry him.

when the list or bride price was brought, you should have at least pleaded with your family as well as your relatives to at least be considerate considering hard times and the bad economy, instead, I am guessing (since I wasn't there) you sat, watched them rip your hubby off and you are coming on social media to complain.

there is nobody who won't tell me that if she pleaded with her father to talk to the extended family to reduce the requirements, that they won't concede no matter how small.

bear your cross and let this one be an eye opener when you are planning your white wedding.

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by humilitypays(m): 7:53am On Jan 05, 2018
LoJ:

I can even give you the IP if you want. What will you do?

Internet Myke Tyson

#HumilityIndeed
lol, just #2000 boys will teach u some hard lesson. Its all good, enjoy your internet freedom but dare not try this in real life. Though in real life fear won't let u try it sha, so enjoy cool
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by linusbnn(m): 7:56am On Jan 05, 2018
PearlStreet:


Yes na. Female children are investments for poor Igbos.

That's why you'll never see an Igbo man who has plenty children sitting in his shop. He'll always be tying wrapper at home like a trainee cripple and be chasing people away from his herd of daughters.


Not every part of Igboland is expensive,she should be specific. My place in Imo state is 100k if you dnt want to buy anything on the list.
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by humilitypays(m): 7:58am On Jan 05, 2018
LoJ:

I have never been to nigeria. If Igbo boys do what you say, it is highly commendable, but we deviate from the topic.
no wonder lol. You really need to visit Igbo land during Xmas to witness things yourself.

If not for our collective efforts, with the way Hausa-Yoruba dominated Nigerian government abandon Igbo land, Igbo land would have been a dumping site but we Igbos on our own collective effort make our respective villages small paradise.

Forget what people say online, visit Igbo communities during Xmas and see the wonders and developmental projects being executed by Igbo guys in their villages.

It usually gives me joy and I pray to soon join them in developing my community to a modern one soon by Gods grace.

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by safarigirl(f): 7:58am On Jan 05, 2018
Teespice:
I am going to be brutal and blame the girl.

you know your husbands capability as well as his financial standing before you accepted to marry him.

when the list or bride price was brought, you should have at least pleaded with your family as well as your relatives to at least be considerate considering hard times and the bad economy, instead, I am guessing (since I wasn't there) you sat, watched them rip your hubby off and you are coming on social media to complain.

there is nobody who won't tell me that if she pleaded with her father to talk to the extended family to reduce the requirements, that they won't concede no matter how small.

bear your cross and let this one be an eye opener when you are planning your white wedding.
thank you!

This silly girl just dragged her family to social media, so that the usual suspects will start another round of baseless Igbo bashing. I have stopped taking any of these complainants seriously, because I KNOW that prices get beat down when the woman forces the hand of her family

This one obviously did nothing and decided to wail on Facebook to people who know nothing of how the entire process is done

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Shedrack777: 7:58am On Jan 05, 2018
humilitypays:
go and sit down, when u are ready to marry, we will know.

My eldest bro graded the road of his bride's community before the traditional wedding just to ensure the road is accessible to visitors and wellwishers coming for the wedding ceremony.

We Igbos don't see it as a big deal, reason we prepare well before settling down, so go and marry from the tribes that give their daughters away for free okay and let's have peace of mind pls cool
"your elder brother graded the road of his bride's community" just imagine such nonsense.
is he the first person to get married to a lady outside the community? in fact, i no believe you
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by safarigirl(f): 7:59am On Jan 05, 2018
linusbnn:


Not every part of Igboland is expensive,she should be specific. My place in Imo state is 100k if you dnt want to buy anything on the list.
100k for just the bride price?

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by safarigirl(f): 8:00am On Jan 05, 2018
LoJ:

I have never been to nigeria. If Igbo boys do what you say, it is highly commendable, but we deviate from the topic.
you have never been to Nigeria, so, how do you know of the Igbo culture? Apart from listening to tales from people with little knowledge

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Nobody: 8:03am On Jan 05, 2018
hammerF6:
I AM SORRY TO SAY BUT THAT WOMAN IS IN HOT SOUP.

SHE BETTER ROLL UP HER SLEEVES AND FIND A TRADE BECOS, SHE IS THE BREAD WINNER OF THAT FAMILY.

HER MAN COULD NOT EVEN PASS THE 'MEANS TESTING'.

HOW MUCH DID YOUR BROKE ASS BOYFRIEND USE TO FOOT HIS WEDDING EXPENSES?

Y DID U NOT RUN AND FOLLOW HIM WITHOUT WEDDING AND SEE IF HE VALUES FREE THINGS AFTER MAKING YOU A BABY MAMA AND THEN LEAVE TO PURSUE ANOTHER SLAY QUEEN.

INSTEAD OF THANKING YOUR FATHER FOR MAKING HIM RESPONSIBLE, U ARE BLAMING HIM FOR YOUR JOBLESS HUSBAND.

PARENTS ARE NEVER APPRECIATED AND ALWAYS EASY TO BLAME FOR OUR OWN FAILING.

IS THIS HOW U WILL USELESS YOUR FUTURE KIDS WITH INDISCIPLINE.

ALSO, SHE IS A VERY USELESS GIRL. HOPELESS GIRL! COLLECT SLAP!

This one is just ranting up and down. Emboldening these filthy words doesn't make it appear as more sensible. It only makes you appear like a teenager who has been infected with hate grin

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by humilitypays(m): 8:04am On Jan 05, 2018
Shedrack777:
"your elder brother graded the road of his bride's community" just imagine such nonsense.
is he the first person to get married to a lady outside the community? in fact, i no believe you
lol, not the same bros that married a Yoruba lady though, this one married an Igbo lady...and their village road wasn't that motorable and his friends were to be at the wedding, they will definitely yab him lol

Its not a big deal my brother...if u got the money, spend it.....if not that I don't like crowd and big wedding sha, mine will be greater when the time comes o, it's a thing of joy to finally settle down na; the lady should be made to be proud and happy having u as her man. You won't understand sha lol
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by mozes01(m): 8:08am On Jan 05, 2018
okway:


She’s warning not only her father but also the useless greedy men that sale their children.

She ain’t the first person to mention this on social media.

I wonder o. Even some single ladies here are bashing her, when in reality what she's doing is trying to save them from the calamity that her parents brought on her due to their greediness
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by mozes01(m): 8:10am On Jan 05, 2018
Gwilld:
I stand with you ma. Even though bride price is Biblical, some father in-laws in Nigeria especially from a particular tribe are just too greedy, selfish, ignorant and too business minded when giving out their daughters for marriage. Thank you for speaking out while others wallow silently in their marriage debt. Some couples can't even collect wedding pictures after wedding, cos there is no money to pay. undecided undecided

A friend of mine was able to collect his wedding pictures 7 months after he was forcefully robbed in form of bride price
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Shedrack777: 8:12am On Jan 05, 2018
humilitypays:
lol, not the same bros that married a Yoruba lady though, this one married an Igbo lady...and their village road wasn't that motorable and his friends were to be at the wedding, they will definitely yab him lol

Its not a big deal my brother...if u got the money, spend it.....if not that I don't like crowd and big wedding sha, mine will be greater when the time comes o, it's a thing of joy to finally settle down na; the lady should be made to be proud and happy having u as her man. You won't understand sha lol
what you should have said earlier was he did it on personal interest, not as part of the list given to him, nor was he forced by anyone
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by humilitypays(m): 8:14am On Jan 05, 2018
Shedrack777:
what you should have said earlier was he did it on personal interest, not as part of the list given to him, nor was he forced by anyone
oh sure he did it on his own, they didn't force him to, sorry I thought I mentioned that initially.
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by mozes01(m): 8:14am On Jan 05, 2018
tossie101:


Ignore them u know u cant say anything that wil make then reason with u..
Thats how yorubas are.
Spitting igbos is their hubby..
Has made me grown some kind of dislike for them its a pity
Who gives a rat ass about your like?
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by victorazyvictor(m): 8:14am On Jan 05, 2018
Yungkid101:
An Igbo lady is really angry about the cost of her traditional wedding as it has drained herself and her Isoko husband financially, to the point of being in debt.


She took to Facebook to rant about it. Read below…

https://www.tribesng.com/entertainment/lady-calls-igbo-fathers-says-husband-debt-after-spending-money-traditional-wedding/

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Cc: Lalasticlala, Mynd44, Ishilove, Fynestboi, MissyB3

Don't generalize plz, your causing bad luck to our Igbo ladies. Where I married in Anambra last month, I didn't spend anything. Bride prize was 10k and things for umunne and umunna 116k which they used in cooking that day.

Where I spent was: Logistics, Food, Wears.

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by maasoap(m): 8:14am On Jan 05, 2018
CaptainG00D:
Hmm ok so Ur hubby paid dowry and became broke.? Rubbish!!!.
Any man that cant pay for his woman bride price is not ready for marriage n parenthood..
By the way its not by force to marry an igbo woman... look elsewhere where women are cheap.

As for ur friends who has "VOWED" not to marry igbo women pls tell them to vow with amadioha and ogun so that the vow will strong well well.
Becoz im loving that vow let them keep away from our women pls and stick to their own who "dont sell" their kids.

Pls pls all igbo parents should increase the brideprice more let them leave our gals alone becoz its getting too much pls. angry

NUFF CRAP SAID BY ME!!

chuksanambra:
It's not all parts of the East, some greedy people sell their children and maximise profit.

Reminds me of a true story. One girl brought a man home to her parents in the East for marriage. After buying the required things and paying, the groom was made to pay exorbitant fees on the day of the trad by the bride's father and mother. Those who went with the man complained bitterly but the man kept quiet and paid.

After the wedding, the man informed his in laws that he didn't want to see them in his house had bought the wife. It was thought to be a joke until the wife delivered and the wife's mother was turned back at the gate of her daughter's house.
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by msylva2147(m): 8:14am On Jan 05, 2018
Fulmigati:
It is not her father's fault she married a broke man. If he can't afford the bride price he should f off. No one put a gun to his head.
As for charging non-Igbos to pay more bride price, keep up the good work grin
that's the more reason why they always marry ritualist in search of a rich man, and they will end up being used for the money rituals.
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Shedrack777: 8:23am On Jan 05, 2018
humilitypays:
oh sure he did it on his own, they didn't force him to, sorry I thought I mentioned that initially.
now you're clear
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by wtfcoded: 8:24am On Jan 05, 2018
okway:


lol grin

You sound so pained.

I hope idiotic Ibo fathers that like selling their children like pigs are paying attention.
U randy animals should leave our gals alone or u pay the necessary bride price(s) given to u.
Igbo's themselves have never complained of any brideprice b4.
Igbo's are allergic to broke pple n scavengers.

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by tiredoflife(m): 8:26am On Jan 05, 2018
I blame the stupid man
All is the name of bloody love
When the billing started
Why didn't the fool call it off
And see the father beg you as it will be a disgrace to the family that thier supposed in-law walked away
He will beg you immediately to take her free
Now you don show say you be man
Now deal with the debt and the stupid thing you call love

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Nobody: 8:32am On Jan 05, 2018
From comments i have read here,is better we change our igbo culture to yorubas own,




just for peace
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by grandstar(m): 8:32am On Jan 05, 2018
Onyi42:


Am anambra....ihiala to be precise

Shocked. So you guys no dey charge for bride price? Kudos to that

Never crossed the Niger but I've been to the North.

Might have to cross eventually. Might be marrying from there
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Ugosample(m): 8:34am On Jan 05, 2018
Greenbullet:
Some foolish people are here slating Yoruba people, My friend married from a Yoruba Family and guess what, the father -in-law told the boy not to pay a dime for bride price, The cost of the wedding was shared between my friend and the father, right now my friend is in England with his wife, the money he intended to use for the bride price is what he used to process their travelling documents, I am the one in charge of building his house, at roofing stage, if the father was greedy like this IMO state man, the husbands life wouldn't have taken this turn !

Don't mind them.....

But not all of us are like that tho
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Bigsteveg(m): 8:35am On Jan 05, 2018
tossie101:


Yep
Good for you.
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Bigsteveg(m): 8:37am On Jan 05, 2018
tossie101:


Nothing
Okay
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by aspirebig: 8:37am On Jan 05, 2018
The problem isn't the bride price but that 'long list'...

Even people from the same town, say the man and woman are from 'Town A'...then the same village but different quarters, they can marry as far as they are not related . ...in the town A...there is still differences for someone else from another village ...that is people from the same village will have a smaller list compared to someone from another village ....within the same town ooo, because in a village ...there are quarters and different villages make up the town, then once you are not from that town at all....another list ...but why? Greed simple.


Some wicked villages, it doesn't and there, if the girl parents reside in Lagos for instance and the girl was married in Lagos, the parents MUST through the intermediate person must send some money to the people in village for their own drinks and other things on the list or else, if the girl parents die, the girl kindred will summon the girl and her husband in that time of their mourning and ask them to him fulfil all their marital rites afresh for the villagers or no burial. ...then the man will start marrying the girl traditionally again, meanwhile the dead body is still in the mortuary ..then when they are through before they will talk about the burial ...but if the man is 'well to do"...he can just settle the villagers immediately so the burial will go on especially when a date has been fixed and invited had long gone out, leaves have been approved, people are on ground...then after everything ...when the burial is over...the villagers will start entertaining themselves with the money for the drinks small small till all the drinks are bought ans shared. ..

Leave matter oo...the girl no tell her hubby before hand?


My mum told me then that in their time with a keg of Palm wine, few kola nuts,then with the parents of both parties presence. ..say like 10 people max in attendance, after some an hour max. .marriage is over.The two parents will give their blessings and marriage is over. No story at all. ..no CS operation for child birth, no divorce...that was in the 40s and 50s.
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Bigsteveg(m): 8:42am On Jan 05, 2018
Ekealterego:

Do you know that Igbo men will also go out of their family to observe the same traditions when they marry from another Igbo family? No one is extorting from you. People within the ethnic group know how to negotiate things down and make compromises.
Igbo men who marry within the tribe do not have a problem with the culture why then are people outside the ethnic group fighting to change the culture? Its like a rite of passage and very important to us, if you are from outside the ethnic group and not okay with this, you can equally go for the other pretty women outside the ethnic group but we can't change our culture to satisfy you when the Igbo men have observed this rite for centuries.
I'm sorry if you have an eye on one of our sisters, its best you go with an elderly friend an Igbo man will be better. In most cases, its the community rites and ceremony that shoot the price up and not the immediate family and you don't even need a white wedding or any other wedding to be recognized as a son-in-law.
Well said
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Bigsteveg(m): 8:43am On Jan 05, 2018
horsepower101:


There was a thread on Nairaland years ago where Yoruba women married to igbo men all confirmed the same thing. They all said that Igbo husbands know how to take care of their wives and family. They will go extra mile to make sure that their family is comfortable.

Also one thing in that thread that yoruba men won over Igbo men was in being romantic. Yoruba men in general were more romantic but Igbo men took very good care of their family needs. It is ingrained in our Igbo culture.
It is well
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by wtfcoded: 8:47am On Jan 05, 2018
grandstar:


Shocked. So you guys no dey charge for bride price? Kudos to that

Never crossed the Niger but I've been to the North.

Might have to cross eventually. Might be marrying from there
What's wrong with ur own women? angry

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