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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by omaar12(m): 6:27am On Jan 05, 2018
safarigirl:
I am pained at the level of disrespect exhibited by the lady. You cannot warn your father privately, but you brought family matter tk Facebook, to what end?

If her father is collecting ten million on her head, she should face him and not drag other innocent fathers into it.

May I never give birth to such a disrespectful child, what rubbish!

PS: Most Igbo women are not babymamas.
I Think I Saw This Useless Thread Late, I Mean No Body Forced Him To Do The Marriage Rights And Traditional Marriage At The Same Time, He Could Have Just Bought The Things On The List As Tradition Demands, Pay Bride Price And Leave With Ur Wife, The Traditional Marriage Ceremony Comes When Ever U Feel Like, The List Is Less Than 300k. My Own Brother Wantd To Do All Despite His Wealth, Now He Is Feeling The Heat..
Those In The Village, Dnt They Get Married, This Girl Should Shut Up. Igbo Or Not It All The Same. Am An Igboman So Am In The Know.

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by otipoju(m): 6:30am On Jan 05, 2018
safarigirl:
it is people who support such foolish behaviour that are not okay.

It is not everything you post on Facebook, especially when you did nothing when you had the opportunity. She just came to Facebook to tell the world that she comes from a family of greedy opportunists.

BTW, you are a Yoruba guy, face your own culture and keep away from that of others, especially if you have no plans to join them

What is culture?

It's a behaviour initiated by a group of people that has become accepted as normal over the course of time.

Just like any human behavior some are destructive while some are progressive.

An example of a destructive culture is that of killing of twins in calabar that was stopped by Mary Slessor.

Any behaviour that converts a newly wed couple into debtors is destructive and should be kicked against.

It demeans the woman. Its a glorified form of slavery.

Placing a monetary value on her life diminishes her sense of worth more than enhancing it because she is indeed priceless.

As to wanting to be an Ibo man....with due respect, the pragmatism and richness of the Yoruba culture is perfect for me.

Thank you.

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Aboki1991: 6:30am On Jan 05, 2018
Sometimes dis igbo people do asiv dey re selling dia daughter to someone by broking d guy all in d name of weddn. Letme ask. Wat if d guy decide to use ur daughter for ritual in order to get his money back grin
Dats y i love awusa weddn. Just bring kola and kunu cimple cool

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Seahawk: 6:35am On Jan 05, 2018
Bride price is a useless male tradition that they end up being the ones who complain about it in the end
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by adetes: 6:35am On Jan 05, 2018
Consult commissioner of happiness on this issue
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Seahawk: 6:36am On Jan 05, 2018
otipoju:


What is culture?

It's a behaviour initiated by a group of people that has become accepted as normal over the course of time.

Just like any human behavior some are destructive while some are progressive.

An example of a destructive culture is that of killing of twins in calabar i that was stopped by Mary Slessor.

Any behaviour that converts a newly wed couple into debtors is destructive and should be kicked against.

It demeans the woman. Its glorified slavery.

Placing a monetary value on her life diminishes her sense of worth more than enhancing it because she is indeed priceless.

As to wanting to be an Ibo man....with due respect, the richness of the Yoruba culture is perfect for me.

Thank you.
thank you

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by queenfav(f): 6:36am On Jan 05, 2018
Let her stop ranting please. It's how you relate with your family. As a lady, you are in a position to talk to your father, so that some things can be negotiated or done away with to cut down the spending. That's what i did during my first introduction, else village people would just suck your man dry! I told my Father my man is just managing his life and doesn't want to date me for donkey years before marrying me.Either they try to be reasonable with their demands, or we can forget marriage plans for now , then continue doing bf and gf till I get pregnant.By then, na them go beg am to come marry.. Lol.. When i said that my family members shouted God forbid and agreed to do away with some irrelevant items on d list! So this life na sense abeg... If she could not appeal to her father's emotions, she shouldn't come online to rant.Some of d marriage List items in most places can be done away with or reduced according to what the groom can afford. All you need do is ask, an understanding family will do the needful! Thank God i cannot even gum mouth and allow anybody suck my man dry Because he came to pay dowry! Tomorrow you will enter marriage and have no peace or financial stability, what's then the joy of being newly married?

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by CornFooPanda(m): 6:36am On Jan 05, 2018
People seeking attention the wrong way. crap angry
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by thunderbabs: 6:38am On Jan 05, 2018
CaptainG00D:
Hmm ok so Ur hubby paid dowry and became broke.? Rubbish!!!.
Any man that cant pay for his woman bride price is not ready for marriage n parenthood..
By the way its not by force to marry an igbo woman... look elsewhere where women are cheap.

As for ur friends who has "VOWED" not to marry igbo women pls tell them to vow with amadioha and ogun so that the vow will strong well well.
Becoz im loving that vow let them keep away from our women pls and stick to their own who "dont sell" their kids.

Pls pls all igbo parents should increase the brideprice more let them leave our gals alone becoz its getting too much pls. angry

NUFF SAID!!

You talking like one of dem village elders wey don dey chop women's traditional marriage items for a long time, now protesting coz of d damage it cld do to ur revenue.

The gal's claim is so true though, and dt will make many more igbo gals stay single till probably after buhari leaves d presidency coz even when the economy was gud, ur parents will ask for even d money for nappy dey used for d gal frm d husband to be....its nt just abt dowry...dowry is still fair....but all d other demands involved can make a brother banktupt.

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by roqrules04(m): 6:45am On Jan 05, 2018
Please is it that their parents wants to collect all the monies they've invested in them?

Make I go Triple my hustle before Ugo father say i can't marry his daughter o
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by cooldipo1(m): 6:46am On Jan 05, 2018
Culture evolved but for some selfish reason we have refuse to embrace the change that really matter


What kind of people are we?
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by humilitypays(m): 6:47am On Jan 05, 2018
I don't know why people dont respect other peoples culture. Culture is culture, you can't change it. Changing your culture and tradition to suit everybody is equal to changing your identity.

There are so many pretty women from over 100 tribes in Nigeria, if you know you don't like Igbo marriage culture and not ready to happily comply with it, then marry from other tribe.

Yes some Igbo ladies are ripe and single, leave them its none of your business if they end up single for life, marry from your most favorite tribe.

I noticed from Nairaland that Yorubas don't like Igbos in many ways, Yorubas like Hausas and Fulanis, please why not marry Hausa and Fulani women and leave Igbo women alone since you hate Igbo people and their culture so much, its that simple.

Now to the girl in question, she is ill trained. She is not a reasonable daughter at all. She just disgraced herself and her family, and also told the world that she married a man who is not financially able to take care of her and her future kids to come. She has also told the world that she is the one that sponsored her wedding, so shameful.

On the other note, I am Igbo, one of my elder bro married a Yoruba lady, and guess what My bro paid x 3 of the bride price they gave him and even killed 2 live cows for the in-laws on the day of his trad and many of our family members and friends invaded the community and spoilt them with cash and gifts, that's our culture. My brother surpassed their expectation and everyone went home happy. This is one reason Igbo guys marry late; we prepare ourself for marriage. We know marriage is a huge financial responsibility, so we take our time to prepare financially before settling down so our children and wife don't suffer.

An Igbo man will toil, labor and suffer to ensure his wife and kids are well taken care of because we see our wife and kids as our face.

And a true Igbo man don't marry more than one wife, except something went wrong or the first wife really started misbehaving.

The Igbo bride price is a test of readiness to settle down and take responsibility of a family.

If paying bride price makes you poor, then you are destined go be poor.

And most times, its not even the family thats raising the bride price but the community because marriage in Igbo land is more of communal than family.

And the Igbo girls father must have given you the marriage list ahead, and if you aren't comfortable with it, you complain and they will make it easier for you.

Again, you have every right to bargain on the traditional marriage day with your family and kinsmen. To Igbo villagers and elders, its fun bargaining...its not as if they are selling their daughter, but that fun bargaining makes them feel connected with their in-law's family/kinsmen that came with him.

But hell no, Yorubas must seize every opportunity to showcase their dislike and hatred for Igbos, yet when Igbos make attempt to leave and form their own country, same Yorubas will call them names and kick against it, its scary really what do Yorubas want from Igbos plz

Marry Hausa and Fulani women your beloved tribal friend na and leave Igbo women alone for peace to reign, na wa o

In fact, if I am allowed, I will make a national law to increase the bride price so high such that broke and poor men won't be able to marry to avoid giving birth to innocent children they won't be able to take care of and they end up becoming societal problem and vices.

We need to restrict who gets married and who gives birth in Nigeria if we want a better nation. People can't keep giving birth to kids they can't cater for, its not good for our future. This is why Nigeria is jagajaga...unemployment, underemployment, suffering and beggars everywhere.

Nigeria needs cleansing. The world is overpopulated already, stop producing innocent kids if u can't take good care of them!

Stop getting married out of faith and future luck! Marry only when you are financially, emotionally and psychologically prepared to feed/cloth/shelter at least 5 people successfully without borrowing.

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Nobody: 6:47am On Jan 05, 2018
I wish I can also marry from that family. it will take me 200years to perform the trad
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by omenti(m): 6:49am On Jan 05, 2018
No amount of money u put in ur wedding can be enough... Always have this at the back of your mind

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by majamajic(m): 6:52am On Jan 05, 2018
Aboki1991:
Sometimes dis igbo people do asiv dey re selling dia daughter to someone by broking d guy all in d name of weddn. Letme ask. Wat if d guy decide to use ur daughter for ritual in order to get his money back grin
Dats y i love awusa weddn. Just bring kola and kunu cimple cool

cos they still have 3 or more weddings to do, so put all the 3 or 5 marriage ceremonies together.... its not cheap too !!!

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Nobody: 6:54am On Jan 05, 2018
CaptainG00D:
Hmm ok so Ur hubby paid dowry and became broke.? Rubbish!!!.
Any man that cant pay for his woman bride price is not ready for marriage n parenthood..
By the way its not by force to marry an igbo woman... look elsewhere where women are cheap.

As for ur friends who has "VOWED" not to marry igbo women pls tell them to vow with amadioha and ogun so that the vow will strong well well.
Becoz im loving that vow let them keep away from our women pls and stick to their own who "dont sell" their kids.

Pls pls all igbo parents should increase the brideprice more let them leave our gals alone becoz its getting too much pls. angry

NUFF SAID!!
I tire, after complaining, they will still run and marry Igbo ladies, leave us kwanu, they won't.

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by davidif: 6:57am On Jan 05, 2018
CaptainG00D:
Hmm ok so Ur hubby paid dowry and became broke.? Rubbish!!!.
Any man that cant pay for his woman bride price is not ready for marriage n parenthood..
By the way its not by force to marry an igbo woman... look elsewhere where women are cheap.

As for ur friends who has "VOWED" not to marry igbo women pls tell them to vow with amadioha and ogun so that the vow will strong well well.
Becoz im loving that vow let them keep away from our women pls and stick to their own who "dont sell" their kids.

Pls pls all igbo parents should increase the brideprice more let them leave our gals alone becoz its getting too much pls. angry

NUFF SAID!!

Wow!! See mentality! And they wonder why the continent is so backward.

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by humilitypays(m): 6:59am On Jan 05, 2018
Purebeerry:
I tire, after complaining, they will still run and marry Igbo ladies, leave us kwanu, they won't.
I wonder o, once they see Igbo ladies, their prick will stand still, and their reasoning will fly away, but once it's time to pay her bride price, their vacation brain will come back on emergency, what nonsense angry

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Harbhmborlar(m): 7:00am On Jan 05, 2018
See mumu igbo sense... �� Dey dere dey murder English, at a point in tym I got confused who yu're referring to. "Cant he speak to her father" ��� dafuck are yu talking abt. Receive sense my igbo broda, tym is nuh on yur syd, its 2018
tossie101:


U took my words out of my mouth my dear.
The gal is just stupid!.
To what gain is she bringing this issue in social media..
Cant he speak to her father?
Was her husband forced?.
Shez just plainly dumb..

I went to check her out on facebook.
All i saw was one local razz girl and i left.

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by humilitypays(m): 7:03am On Jan 05, 2018
davidif:


Wow!! See mentality! And they wonder why the continent is so backward.
gerrarrahia mhen! If this will make Africa remain backward, let it be you hear!! Broke people hiding under civilisation to run away from their manly responsibility. We need technological and scientific growth in Africa yes but our culture, our identity will remain, Oyimbo should change their own culture and adopt ours or let them gooru hellangry angry

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by drakeli: 7:05am On Jan 05, 2018
CaptainG00D:
Hmm ok so Ur hubby paid dowry and became broke.? Rubbish!!!.
Any man that cant pay for his woman bride price is not ready for marriage n parenthood..
By the way its not by force to marry an igbo woman... look elsewhere where women are cheap.

As for ur friends who has "VOWED" not to marry igbo women pls tell them to vow with amadioha and ogun so that the vow will strong well well.
Becoz im loving that vow let them keep away from our women pls and stick to their own who "dont sell" their kids.

Pls pls all igbo parents should increase the brideprice more let them leave our gals alone becoz its getting too much pls. angry

NUFF SAID!!
No wonder Igbo has the highest number of single ladies in their 40s such as never seen among other tribes. I never knew it’s an epidemic in Igbo land until I lived there for a couple of years.

In any Igbo church, when pastors say single ladies should come out for prayer, you would think the pastor is asking for madams or mummys to come out. That’s the shocking sight I have witnessed in Igbo land.

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Nobody: 7:07am On Jan 05, 2018
Purebeerry:
I tire, after complaining, they will still run and marry Igbo ladies, leave us kwanu, they won't.
we will not leave you. We will keep forking you, and enjoying your assets.

By the time that list will come, we will run our way out, and look for another lady with less greedy parents. Is there a shortage of women?

Who is the looser? Keep entertaining the foolish greed of some parents, in the name of culture. Inflating dowry is greed, not culture. If it was only culture, 100 to 500k would be enough. Anything beyond that, is called greed in plain english.

Well, do as please you, but we are not leaving you anytime soon, kwanu.

#beWise

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Masterclass32: 7:07am On Jan 05, 2018
Igbo lady indeed. Anybody can claim to be anything on social media. Its not by force to marry an Igbo woman.

Btw, the way anything Igbo makes front page these days ehn ...

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by YoungDaNaval(m): 7:07am On Jan 05, 2018
Sunnymatey:
Men can as well think North if they can withstand a hundred lashes of Koboko. U must give something in order to take a woman
After them knack me 50 lashes of koboko na which waist I wan take Bleep their daughter na?

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Nobody: 7:09am On Jan 05, 2018
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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Nobody: 7:10am On Jan 05, 2018
LoJ:

we will not leave you. We will keep forking you, and enjoying your assets.

By the time that list will come, we will run our way out, and look for another lady with less greedy parents. Is there a shortage of women?

Who is the looser? Keep entertaining the foolish greed of some parents, in the name of culture. Inflating dowry is greed, not culture. If it was only culture, 100 to 500k would be enough. Anything beyond that, is called greed in plain english.

Well, do as please you, but we are not leaving you anytime soon, kwanu.

#beWise
Tell that to igbo girls that will marry non Igbo's, my man is Igbo and he knows the drill.

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Masterclass32: 7:12am On Jan 05, 2018
CaptainG00D:
Hmm ok so Ur hubby paid dowry and became broke.? Rubbish!!!.
Any man that cant pay for his woman bride price is not ready for marriage n parenthood..
By the way its not by force to marry an igbo woman... look elsewhere where women are cheap.

As for ur friends who has "VOWED" not to marry igbo women pls tell them to vow with amadioha and ogun so that the vow will strong well well.
Becoz im loving that vow let them keep away from our women pls and stick to their own who "dont sell" their kids.

Pls pls all igbo parents should increase the brideprice more let them leave our gals alone becoz its getting too much pls. angry

NUFF SAID!!

On point, like point and kill.

People crying on top Igbo women matter for no reason.

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Bluffly: 7:13am On Jan 05, 2018
Fulmigati:
It is not her father's fault she married a broke man. If he can't afford the bride price he should f off. No one put a gun to his head.
As for charging non-Igbos to pay more bride price, keep up the good work grin
Why are you guys reasoning with your foot. Bride price is not the problem but profiteering after the main bride price itself. Extended families will even line up to make their own demands too. I have an Edo friend who lamented bitterly as in his case they even told him that he will do a separate marriage celebration to honour the wife's father that is already dead. Draining and unending requests.

This is why most African countries are backward. Learn to think from the common angle

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Nobody: 7:13am On Jan 05, 2018
humilitypays:
gerrarrahia mhen! If this will make Africa remain backward, let it be you hear!! Broke people hiding under civilisation to run away from their manly responsibility. We need technological and scientific growth in Africa yes but our culture, our identity will remain, Oyimbo should change their own culture and adopt ours or let them gooru hellangry angry
Oya clap for yasef.

Culture does evolve. No culture is static, and destructive elements of a culture must be removed, else the society will face a disadvantage, that will threaten its sustainability. Almost every culture in the world had cannibalism, but most did away with. So culture is not static.

Moreover, inflating dowry is not for culture purposes. Culture does not force anyone to set a particular price. Whether 10k or 10 million, dowry can be paid and culture preserved. So higher price does not mean higher regard for tradition.

Only the greed of some families explains the rise in dowry.

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Nobody: 7:15am On Jan 05, 2018
CaptainG00D:
Hmm ok so Ur hubby paid dowry and became broke.? Rubbish!!!.
Any man that cant pay for his woman bride price is not ready for marriage n parenthood..
By the way its not by force to marry an igbo woman... look elsewhere where women are cheap.

As for ur friends who has "VOWED" not to marry igbo women pls tell them to vow with amadioha and ogun so that the vow will strong well well.
Becoz im loving that vow let them keep away from our women pls and stick to their own who "dont sell" their kids.

Pls pls all igbo parents should increase the brideprice more let them leave our gals alone becoz its getting too much pls. angry

NUFF SAID!!
captain abeg take it easy. d stress of marriage sometimes tell on d parties involved, when 1 of my elder sisters got married, her husband spent more than what he budgeted but life goes on. she shouldn't have dragged her father to social media, its their tradition

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Nobody: 7:16am On Jan 05, 2018
Purebeerry:
Tell that to igbo girls that will marry non Igbo's, my man is Igbo and he knows the drill.
dont come here later on nairaland with another moniker, and be asking for help, that your man has married another lady. We see your type everyday in the romance section.

They will complain that the man is cheating on them or is getting married to another. Them never tell the deep truth, that it is because the guy saw the list and ran for his life. Keep deceiving yasef

#greed

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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Paretomaster(m): 7:18am On Jan 05, 2018
okway:


She’s warning not only her father but also the useless greedy men that sale their children.

She ain’t the first person to mention this on social media.


Thank you o Jare.. .......at least others will learn from her mistakes before their greedy fathers ruin their life, and that of their impending family.. ..

Most of this flattinoes into robbery, kidnapping, and other vices were pushed partly bcoz of the exorbitant fee place on marrying from their village.. ..

And the women are left to grow old before someone get to pick them up.. ...haba, must everything be about money. ....

The ladies are also not helping matters, see them even here raining abuses on the lady.. ..

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