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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by dadabashua1(m): 8:48am On Jan 05, 2018 |
tossie101:I can't believe your last statement its absolutely shocking I must say....SMH 1 Like |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by LadySarah: 8:52am On Jan 05, 2018 |
She is wrong.you infuence your family to speak on your behalf.If they dont want.you follow your husband and go home.moreso ,a man shoukdnt spend more than he can afford in the name of marriage.suxh man is very stupid. When i did mine,i spoke with my mum who intimated my father's bro and everyone of them stood their ground on that day.suffice to say that my husband was told to give what he has and everybody went home happy except the kindred secretary ,whose daughters were being pregnanted and married off secretly while he brought throat cutting lists for other families. He has stopped talking to us since that 3 yrs ago and we are so happy. 3 Likes |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by CaptainG00D: 8:54am On Jan 05, 2018 |
gloria34: Pretty girl. ... yea i got u. Ok the girl is stupid. How u doing swwt |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Ghostmode2two(m): 9:03am On Jan 05, 2018 |
Waiting to hear the Igbo father's side of the bargain |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by dharmiedrums(m): 9:05am On Jan 05, 2018 |
Honestly you're delusional. Except your comment was meant to be sarcastic. CaptainG00D: |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by IdeyFindWife: 9:07am On Jan 05, 2018 |
macof: OooooK, I get your drift then and I'm quite at peace with it. The only other premises will remain the rights of the individuals to their personal self-determination, freedom of expression and association. And I mean the exclusive rights of individuals to molding their "personal" lives and programming their destinies according to their own objectives tastes, designs and experiences not necessarily the desires of some geriatric, dowdy old-timers who've had their time and still retain some sadistic, insane desire to live the lives of the coming generations as part of their own fading days and ways. If we don't believe in the rights of the individual in Africa but we, instead, maintain that "Culture must be upheld at the expense of the individual"; we will still keep finding excuses for unfair, outdated, outdone, unsafe and non-progressive mindsets and practices like Female Genital Mutilation, Child Marriages, Child Labor etc. And, isn't it funny how most of the cultural norms that we are often so parochial about are the ones so well-twisted out of suitability for contemporary day living by our patrilineally controlled ancestries so that it's often the women-folk are on the receiving end? When these women now wanna redefine the concepts of what womanhood should mean through Women Liberation, Feminism even #Slayism, we men start feeling outdone but we forget most of these near dysfunctional socio-cultural frameworks were erected by our forefathers. The fact they did so does not make it right for all time, it might not even have been right for their times too if were to have been able to interview they, themselves. And once people, as individuals start kicking against certain ancestral practices, the word "Referendum" & "Restructuring" starts coming to mind. The Alternative to that will be the other 'R' Word = Revolution! NB Funny, ur siggy says you are yoruba, am clearly S/South! Why would you be here postulating theories on S/E marriage customs? What brings you this far to "our side" after all you would gladly group us together as dismissively as possible if for instance we were discussing derivation sharing formulas, resource control, self-determination, restructuring, referendum or the other word your folks dread so much "Biafra"?! Am just curious o, not trying to antagonize you in anyway pls. LoJ: Making sense, onPoint but I wonder why people find this so hard a pill to swallow? It shows majority of the backwardness evident in our society stems from the inherent subhuman propensities we still carry and celebrate here. It's part of the reasons that the worst of the populace end up leading and abusing the polity as leaders because deep down in our collective psyches as communities we still lie to ourselves on many levels. We believe, cherish and uphold mediocre worldviews and celebrate being masters of it! And we wonder why Nigeria is not able to take her place in the community of developed nations, when majority of the polity reason like afflicted plebeians? what would be so hard about rebuking greed as it is being displayed in plain sight. The culture is colorful, laudable and quite cool but the excesses are a bit off, don't you think? grandstar: Nice one, stay liberated sir, stay free of the culture-pharisees! If Bob Marley could admonish folks to "emancipate yourselves from Mental Slavery" how much more the Scriptures in Col 2:8, it'd blow your mind: (Col 2: Beware lest any man make a prey of you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ. whoever wants to stand on culture will definitely be at odds with Christ at some point: Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man loveth the world, the love of the Father is not in him. (1Jn 2:15) For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. (1Jn 2:16) And the world passeth away, and the lust of it: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever. (1Jn 2:17) 1 Share
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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by wtfcoded: 9:08am On Jan 05, 2018 |
tytunji29:...and u fools are so obsessed with the "dirty lineage". U see, u hate us but u can't let us be. 1 Like |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by grandstar(m): 9:15am On Jan 05, 2018 |
wtfcoded: God has given me his blessing to marry from where I want. As long as the persons fears and loves Him, He is cool with that (Acts 10:34-35). Jesus even commanded us to call such God fearing ones my brothers and sister. Our father in heaven makes the sun rise on good people and bad people and he makes the rain fall on good people and those who are not good. He alone truly is good. Are we even fit to be his children? The Jews felt they were better than everyone because they were custodians of the holy writings and Jesus told the touching story of the good Samaritan to drive to everyone, including you and I today, who a neighbour is. |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Nobody: 9:23am On Jan 05, 2018 |
PearlStreet: If you know Igbo people you'll know that they value male child than females You reason like prophet Muhammad the child rapist |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by bennynaza(m): 9:27am On Jan 05, 2018 |
CaptainG00D: you pulled the words out of my mouth. Did they force the man to pay? She for just elope with the guy since they are too broke to pay common bride price 4 Likes |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by bennynaza(m): 9:31am On Jan 05, 2018 |
desreek9: Tell her jare. Imagine her. She for go print am for newspaper join. 1 Like |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by wtfcoded: 9:34am On Jan 05, 2018 |
grandstar:Lol But u haven't answered my question yet. 2 Likes |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by bennynaza(m): 9:34am On Jan 05, 2018 |
safarigirl: Well said, in fact, If I were the father or her brother, I will refund the bloody bride price. She obviously ain't worth it 1 Like |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Nobody: 9:36am On Jan 05, 2018 |
humilitypays:Stop making a fool of yourself. Have I denied this? How does it concern the topic on ground? It is very good that igbo boys develop their zone, and I encourage it. So what now? Can we talk about the topic now? You look like a man with a complex of poverty. We are talking about dowry price being unnecessary high, you are talking about developing igboland. I join in prayer with you, may you alone develop all igboland and the whole of nigeria sef, it does not change the fact that, high dowry is a reflection of greed and not preservation of culture. |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Nobody: 9:37am On Jan 05, 2018 |
safarigirl:Do you mind proving them wrong? |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Simplybami(f): 9:38am On Jan 05, 2018 |
CaptainG00D:Bride price should be abolished.https://lm.?u=http://simplybami..co.ke/2017/12/bride-price-in-africanthe-old-norm-and.html?m=1&h=ATP4Bs7EvyDldfUow0EGfeBGUGOJ-h-mRyJ1maiCSGIg1saY6kQMzykEVV2DyygJQ5uYG3VmvAsY8Uf5Tluqfh-6KMThmkvykxRRZnK_D2ipzpqUjzMTe2gQanMMZQR5qv0r9-gKZc4C3h7IPE9h&enc=AZMDj_KKlPqhDmKfUbq2AnwHMTYyxyd8KjBYQWg68qCPTDig4lvC9Mqql5RSP2F2jF41-clEpSodXdyGL-e69_qVrV-OPWJemThWUcP-K_wal6rxNJCSsGfVSnq8TF965zrHV5b0ZhxvzUfSZm9oh75YkCr5UombgUdKDRMRofJ4C5Zl4wbTDtxt2EAopSvRKjO4aRrxEDOXy1i-qdq6ISreriYCkr_ESQ9MyKAi9MgAxmApDqPAaFcBpTKJPJ6OhuDw3al5kTooZJ3Nog01iKab_inTEQJE47wYggmmsoG_S7eJmgCqpp-BC91mGGVHMYcLqrmbj-zlkEIy3YfnpWRc&s=1 |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Afamdman(m): 9:40am On Jan 05, 2018 |
you are wrong for doing this, you lifted this story from a closed group and now you ridicule her here again. This is wrong of you, i hope your contact is discovered and deleted from the closed group. Bleep you. Yungkid101: |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by PearlStreet(m): 9:45am On Jan 05, 2018 |
desire222: Yes na, I'm a regular caller and I regularly see you there. |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by MizMyColi(f): 9:46am On Jan 05, 2018 |
Oh please!!! LoJ: Don't kill me with Laughter this morning kwanu! Leave me ooooo 4 Likes |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by ashjay001(m): 9:55am On Jan 05, 2018 |
[quote autahor=CaptainG00D post=63904075]Hmm ok so Ur hubby paid dowry and became broke.? Rubbish!!!. Any man that cant pay for his woman bride price is not ready for marriage n parenthood.. By the way its not by force to marry an igbo woman... look elsewhere where women are cheap. As for ur friends who has "VOWED" not to marry igbo women pls tell them to vow with amadioha and ogun so that the vow will strong well well. Becoz im loving that vow let them keep away from our women pls and stick to their own who "dont sell" their kids. Pls pls all igbo parents should increase the brideprice more let them leave our gals alone becoz its getting too much pls. NUFF SAID!! [/quote] I hope u realise, that for every 5call-girls u see in Nigeria n west africa, 2.5 are Igbos? I'm based in Abj, n I'm truly tired of meeting above 30s single igbo ladies, desperate for marriage! They accept any kind of crazy assed package u proffer, just to be in a relationship! |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by madone: 10:00am On Jan 05, 2018 |
CaptainG00D:what sense did u make now. Why re u being sarcastic to serious issue |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by CaptainG00D: 10:02am On Jan 05, 2018 |
ashjay001: Crazy assed package like what exactly? I think u are being delusional bcoz there are single ladies everywhere. And there is no particular place u will say they have them more.. if u reason sensibly. 2 Likes |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by CaptainG00D: 10:04am On Jan 05, 2018 |
madone: Im being very serios.. Leave igbo women alone if u think they are expensive.. Is that not common sense? 4 Likes |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by olusola200: 10:06am On Jan 05, 2018 |
So up coming man can't Marry Result is late marriages Getting married to an old man. Having first kid at age of 39 Adultery |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by chuksanambra: 10:09am On Jan 05, 2018 |
Princedapace: The earlier you leave, the better for you. You're an inconsequential nobody. 1 Like |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by hammerF6: 10:12am On Jan 05, 2018 |
humilitypays: LOL! U GET IT WRONG. BUHARI COLLECTED 12 GOLD COINS, WORTH #250,000 AS ZAHRA BRIDE PRICE. http://www.todaynaija.com/2016/12/president-buhari-collected-12-gold.html THIS IS FOR BUHARI POCKETS NOT EVEN COMMUNITY, BUT YET WEN EVER THESE NON-IGBOS ARRIVE IGBO LAND AND DEY ARE PROVIDED WITH MATERIALS FOR THE COMMUNITY CELEBRATION THEY START COMPLAINING. Y CANT DEY JUST MARRY THEIR OWN WOMEN? WAT IS PURSUINING THEM? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by Nobody: 10:21am On Jan 05, 2018 |
MizMyColi: Just allow me. I was idle, I wanted to troll a bit. But I really mean it, greed should not make people go into debts to get married. |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by linusbnn(m): 10:24am On Jan 05, 2018 |
safarigirl: Bride price is not fixed,it is negotiable. The list of things to buy(palmwine,yam,etc)sum up to 100k. |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by hammerF6: 10:25am On Jan 05, 2018 |
BRIDE PRICE IS NOT EXCLUSIVE TO IGBO CULTURE, IT IS WIDESPREAD ACROSS AFRICA. MARRIAGE IS NOT MEANT TO BE CHEAP, I MEAN PEOPLE EVEN SPEND MORE ON OWANBE AND BAR EXPENSES AT THE CLUB. MARRAGE NEED TO BE MORE EXPENSIVE THAN IT AREADY IS, SIMPLY TO DETER MEN FROM GOING FOR SECOND WIFE. IF NOT, BY THE TIME IGBO CONVERT TO YORUBA WAY OF THE DAUGHTER PARENTS FOOTING THE WEDDING EXPENSES, THEN TOMORROW, U WILL HEAR HE HAS GONE TO MARRY ANOTHER AND EVEN MORE WIFE. MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR THE WRETCHED, THE KIDS DID NOT COME TO THE WORLD TO GO HUNGRY. MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR THE JOBLESS, BECOS SOON U WILL TAKE UR FUSTRATION OUT ON ANOTHER MAN DAUGHTER THAT STUPIDLY FOLLOWED YOU. MARRIAGE IS NOT ALL ABOUT LOVE, IT IS ABOUT CULTURE CONTINUITY AND MAINTAINING THE FAMILY LEGACY BY HAVING CHILDREN TO CONTINUE THE LINEAGE. 2 Likes
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Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by davidif: 10:29am On Jan 05, 2018 |
You should never go into debt to marry someone. Budget the price of the wedding and put your foot down. That's what being a man is about. |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by davidif: 10:33am On Jan 05, 2018 |
humilitypays: The fact that something has been done from the olden days does not mean its correct. In calabar, twins were seen as devilish back in the day and were supposed to be killed. Did that make it the right thing? Abeg think this through and be objective. This is human greed hiding itself under the clothing of 'tradition.' |
Re: Lady Calls Out Igbo Father For Putting Her Husband In Debt by davidif: 10:35am On Jan 05, 2018 |
newyorks: Wrong! In some advanced countries, some of the best universities are usually cheaper than the super expensive ones but that's just besides the point. The point of this is her family 'pimping' her out for money. This is extortion at its worst. |
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