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Help! My Wife Easily Quarrels And Keeps Malice With Me. / Help Anytime I Get Angry I Destroy Things / My Wife And I Are Keeping Malice! (2) (3) (4)
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Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Nobody: 9:23pm On Jan 03, 2019 |
AntiWailer:Dopest reply. |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Fantazy(m): 9:35pm On Jan 03, 2019 |
U need urgent deliverance! |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by TemiGod(f): 9:46pm On Jan 03, 2019 |
Rosarie: Sdker! I sight you o |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Sarah20A(f): 9:57pm On Jan 03, 2019 |
merahki:thanks for the compliment .always try to be happy no matter what.try watching comedy skit whenever you are angry,always try reconcile with whoever you quarrel with even if it means asking them for what you don't need e.g please do you have salt.good luck . 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Rosarie(f): 9:59pm On Jan 03, 2019 |
TemiGod:yes ooo.i love SDK blog well a. 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by joyousever(f): 10:02pm On Jan 03, 2019 |
OP, a lot of people have said it all. Your condition could be spiritually influenced, therefore u should overcome it spiritually. Tell everything to God at a very quiet time of the night/day, just pour out your heart to him, He always listens. Then pray & rebuke the evil spirit behind such condition, just rebuke it vehemently & cast it into the bottomless pit. Then ask God to also forgive you for all your wrong /malicious ways & ask Him to put a clean, peaceful & forgiving spirit in u. And don't forget to invite the Holy Spirit to dwell in you & that is after surrendering your life to Jesus. I wish u all the best. 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by mechanics(m): 10:07pm On Jan 03, 2019 |
Meet your pastor for prayers, just don't underrate prayers. |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Nobody: 10:43pm On Jan 03, 2019 |
Prakash247: What a Cvnt. |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Nobody: 10:47pm On Jan 03, 2019 |
Prakash247: Question you should have asked is...what have they done to warrant such a reaction.. Add to me your list too, Fvck right off and don't ever chat shiit to me again. Cvnt. |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by DrGaius(m): 11:27pm On Jan 03, 2019 |
Shikena: After reading this I couldn't hold myself from saying you are good. I have serious anger issues, so much that she's complaining about it everyday. I will read this post of yours everyday until it becomes a part of me. 4 Likes |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Antoeni(m): 12:29am On Jan 04, 2019 |
The Best Remedy and Permanant Solution is to Confront an Army Man with Such An Anger, You will thank me Later, as for the Malice Matter,Just ask all this dem Tonto dike,Ini Edo,Oge Okoye,All those Gossipers for Nollywood Sha dem go Help you |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by ayesco202(m): 12:37am On Jan 04, 2019 |
Alpha001:May I say that I actually experienced this and still exhibit some of these attributes at times because it's actually inherent. I've also discovered that those times I take things too personal are when I don't get enough sleep. That's why I strive as much as possible to get enough sleep so as to improve my relationship with people on a daily basis. We're almost the same. The only difference I can spot here is: * I forgive and forget I enjoy being alone and I don't see it as a problem. However, the people around me do. I can be in a room with you for a month and we will not talk aside greetings. It's not because I'm keeping malice with you, I just don't want to talk all the time. I'm not a shy person anyway. I talk when I wish to. *The only thing is, I don't seem to have much of that thing called "tolerance". I hardly take shit from people - hence, the anger. *I hate cheating and you can't take me for a fool. *I don't know how to deceive people, hence, I don't want to be deceived. This is one of the reasons I don't have a girlfriend till date. I just don't know how to lie to a girl in the name of sex. If I don't dig you, I don't dig you! There are so many things to say on this but my fingers hurt. The best pieces of advice you would ever get have actually come from the people here which I actually have learnt from. I just want to let you know that there is nothing wrong with you. Practise some of those tips you've been given and you will see the changes. Every personality types have their own weaknesses and strengths. My boss seems to understand me. Some people love to work with people who have dignity and would protect their reputation at all cost. That is one of strengths of people like you and me. 3 Likes |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Nobody: 12:45am On Jan 04, 2019 |
That's new men keep malice? |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by ayesco202(m): 12:56am On Jan 04, 2019 |
sexymoma:Bia, I'm from Ekiti State o. I understand that some of our people exhibit some form of stubbornness and rigidity but what has that got to do with the missing of opportunities? That one fear me small o. |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Tommymoi(m): 1:45am On Jan 04, 2019 |
YorubaEmir:This is so me; I mean the description above. I must surely overcome this. I'm deeply introverted even though I detest being with any person in that category because I'm not proud of it at all |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Moneyboyz: 2:42am On Jan 04, 2019 |
You are just like my girlfriend, she's beautiful, elegant but she can keep malice and cause wahala for Africa.. Let me see, she fights me like 4 times a week.. I was with her yesterday and she's fighting me for chatting with a girl I once know when I saw your post and decide to show and read the content to her.... She doesn't admit she's wrong and expect me to apologize for everything else there will be trouble.. No friends, and loves the me and my husband attitude, I can't even talk to any of my neighbors when she's around.. please try and heed the advices given to you so far.. it is well.. |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by oziamaka: 3:25am On Jan 04, 2019 |
op change your environment if possible, take up a new job if possible the one that involve meeting people, or getting to mange people, by the time you relate with people with different characters outside your family and associates, your attitudes and emotions will improve for the better. your advancement will manifest with improved social life. |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by jafol(m): 4:20am On Jan 04, 2019 |
PRAY LIKE THIS,"EVERY ROOT OF ANGER IN MY LIFE, WHAT ARE U WAITING FOR? DIEEEEEEEEEEE... THEN U REPEAT DIE DIE DIE BY FIRE, DIE BY FORCE |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by bummyla(m): 4:37am On Jan 04, 2019 |
Alpha001: Are You On Any Medication? Try Read The Leaflet! I Was An Asthmatic For Years, And My Medications Were Taking Me To The Dark Places Of Anger & Bitterness! Till One Day I Subconsciously Read The Leaflet of My Medication, The Medication I have taken for more than 25 years, and the side effects were horrible. And A lot of people have confirmed this. Thank GOD! He has healed me. If you are not on any medication, try exercises. Thank You! https://www.bummyla..com |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Prakash247(m): 7:08am On Jan 04, 2019 |
Bidobado1:Oh shut up!!! |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by babeosisi: 7:27am On Jan 04, 2019 |
TheWalkingMind: Your initial one liner was totally dismissive I recommended what I know has worked There are many strategies to every problem don't dismiss things by a wave of hand. |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by yarnme2(m): 7:56am On Jan 04, 2019 |
Alpha001: Your issue is solved already, since u could identify this by yourself. My advice... 1. Reduce your expectation from others 2. When you wake up every morning, do some face exercise - open your mouth wide and close, severally 3. Decide to get a close associate (Girl or a guy) that u can always talk to, even help u monitor ur rate of annoyance and remind u to either say sorry to whoever or cleanse whatever hurt and move on 4. You need to seek for help, either spiritual or medical (I am not talking about deliverance, but allowing the word of God rule ur life 5. Snapping out of such moment (mode) whenever u find yourself in such mode 6. Build patient and learn to say SORRY at all times (even when they wrong u) this is my charge, just be HUMBLE for your good 7. When u have people around u, trust just one person and tell that person to help u while they are around u, express yourself to the person 8. Learn to PRAY more, talk to yourself more, reminding yourself that this evil must pass 9. Go out more, beach, outing with friends, movies and the likes 10. Be more analytical with yourself and tell yourself the truth at all times - Do you really need this help... make frantic effort to get the help u desire God will help 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Abcruz(m): 8:23am On Jan 04, 2019 |
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Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Mankiso(m): 8:44am On Jan 04, 2019 |
Were you sexually abused as a child? Don't you think you are going through Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, a mental situation characterized by intense anxiety, fear and worthlessness? Why not try meeting a clinical psychologist doctor and a psychiatric doctor who would help you with therapy and antidepressants serotonin builders. Go to a federal medical center or any neuropsychological hospital for help. You need to reveal things about your growing up, from where you would become conscious of why you behave the way you do. Regards. 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by islandmoon: 9:33am On Jan 04, 2019 |
Abcruz:thank you. |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by DaudaAbu(m): 10:49am On Jan 04, 2019 |
On a,lighter note i think you need to get laid. it doesnt matter wether you have a qirl or not just pay for the damn thing and get laid it releases ''feel good hormone'' I use to feel the same way too and up to now i can forgive but i dont forget because i hav a good retentive memory. One of my secrets 2hen i am very angry i chant silently ''THIS TOO SHALL PASS, THIS TOO SHALL PASS ,THIS TOO SHALL PASS'' this quotes under understands you so well ayesco202: also YorubaEmir capture your behaviour succintly
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Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Nobody: 11:36am On Jan 04, 2019 |
AntiWailer: This is good advice. |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by pamshuga1(f): 12:36pm On Jan 04, 2019 |
Most advice I read here are good.. You are not alone in this situation...most people are though to certain extent. I myself have decided to stop being angry at people no matter who is wrong or right this year,its emotional exhausting for me....its not easy to follow but I hope to go through with it. I discover also a trigger to my anger issue is expecting someone to treat me good the way I would treat them. So it really pisses me to find out one could hurt me this way when I can't even think of hurting you that way....then l lash out to the person but the funny thing about pouring out my hurt angrily is being remorse after I'm calm no matter who was right or wrong,I would always tell myself I should have told this person about my grievance calmly. People would always hurt you thats for sure,no one is perfect so stop expecting everyone would treat you good. I've had serious issues with my mum n siblings but do I cut them off? no ! lol. A friend once told me when I had issue with my sister that quarrels with family is like placing something in the armpit it will eventually fall off when u move or raise your hand. Again have friends you can talk/chat with,when ever you are in a fix talk or chat them up,they will be able to tell u want to do before u use anger to ruin something. If you keep malice this way ,you won't be able to relate to any human! you would still need people even those that may have hurt one day in life. There are some wounds that are difficult to heal ,there are some issues you just forgive the person and move on with your life . Get trusted friends to talk to when you about loosing it. We all need that in our lives. 2 Likes |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Nobody: 3:19pm On Jan 04, 2019 |
When people do something to make you angry, in return you should also do something to piss then off, it actually works and it makes you feel better too. 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Nobody: 4:05am On Jan 05, 2019 |
Prakash247: OH Fvck off!!! |
Re: I Easily Get Angry And Keep Malice A Lot, Please Help by Brodagovernor(m): 8:22am On Jan 05, 2019 |
The fact that you are conscious and detest this habit makes the problem half solve. I also fancy your willingness to solve the problem. Believe me I used to be like you when I was also about your age (maybe less). I once kept malice with a close friend for 2 years. We will be in the same gathering of friends and still manage to avoid each other. But as time went by and as someone who goes in deep thought about this life, I realise life is a circle and we won't be here for long. some of my personal findings through my meditations, which I believe will help you overcome your present situation are: 1. Like I mentioned earlier, know that we are not going to be here forever. 2. Train your mind not to expect anything (both material and non-materials) from any body (including your family members) at any point in time. This is the best way to guide against disappointment. 3. Lower your ego. Never think you are above all things. 4. Anticipate and forgive in advance, people's mistakes. This actually help alot trust me. 5. Know that you are not perfect and do other people around you. 1 Like |
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