Alpha001:

I am so alone bro. I find it hard to still relate with them when i'm hurt even thought i always want to. My heart never stops reminding me of how i was hurt.
I try to relate with people but i'm always afraid of getting too close for fear of being hurt and because i know i will eventualy lose them one day.

Bro you are not alone.. God knows i would have killed many people or even die earlier if I had a gun. That's how bad my own anger is.. And as for forgiveness, if you offend me, I just believe that it's God's ordained judgement that I hurt you back in the nastiest way thinkable. I ha
We are still work in progress and may God help us.

P. S. I haven't spoken to my mother and sister for over 3 years and I will not until they fvcking apologise for what they did.

I think you need to get yourself some crazy friends. The ones that joke alot and just don't care.

Alpha001:
Happy new year NL.
I am posting this here because i really need help and i know a lot of people visit this section. Please i need urgent help as i don't want to continue like this in this 2019. Don't come and start insulting me please.

My problem is that i easily get angry and my anger doesn't go away easily. Very little things make me angry. Things that are not supposed to make me angry.
I can live in a room with a person for one year or even more without saying a word to the person just because he/she angered or did something bad to me.

I'm a quiet guy. People say i'm an introvert. I always try my best to avoid trouble. I am in my mid twenties buy have never been in a relationship.

This my problem of easily getting angry and keeping malice has been troubling me. I don't like it but still can't stop it. It is affecting my relationship with my family and close friends. And how can i even go into a relationship with this issue i'm having.
I find it very difficult to completely forgive.
I always envy those who are sociable and who don't easily get angry. I always wish to be like them.

Please i need your help/advice. Please this is not a spiritual problem, so don't start telling me about deliverance.
I would appreciate if this can be moved to the front page.
Thanks.

Alpha001:
Happy new year NL.
I am posting this here because i really need help and i know a lot of people visit this section. Please i need urgent help as i don't want to continue like this in this 2019. Don't come and start insulting me please.

My problem is that i easily get angry and my anger doesn't go away easily. Very little things make me angry. Things that are not supposed to make me angry.
I can live in a room with a person for one year or even more without saying a word to the person just because he/she angered or did something bad to me.

I'm a quiet guy. People say i'm an introvert. I always try my best to avoid trouble. I am in my mid twenties buy have never been in a relationship.

This my problem of easily getting angry and keeping malice has been troubling me. I don't like it but still can't stop it. It is affecting my relationship with my family and close friends. And how can i even go into a relationship with this issue i'm having.
I find it very difficult to completely forgive.
I always envy those who are sociable and who don't easily get angry. I always wish to be like them.

Please i need your help/advice. Please this is not a spiritual problem, so don't start telling me about deliverance.
I would appreciate if this can be moved to the front page.
Thanks.

Alpha001:
Happy new year NL.
I am posting this here because i really need help and i know a lot of people visit this section. Please i need urgent help as i don't want to continue like this in this 2019. Don't come and start insulting me please.

My problem is that i easily get angry and my anger doesn't go away easily. Very little things make me angry. Things that are not supposed to make me angry.
I can live in a room with a person for one year or even more without saying a word to the person just because he/she angered or did something bad to me.

I'm a quiet guy. People say i'm an introvert. I always try my best to avoid trouble. I am in my mid twenties buy have never been in a relationship.

This my problem of easily getting angry and keeping malice has been troubling me. I don't like it but still can't stop it. It is affecting my relationship with my family and close friends. And how can i even go into a relationship with this issue i'm having.
I find it very difficult to completely forgive.
I always envy those who are sociable and who don't easily get angry. I always wish to be like them.

Please i need your help/advice. Please this is not a spiritual problem, so don't start telling me about deliverance.
I would appreciate if this can be moved to the front page.
Thanks.

Anger issa serious mental problem that takes alot of time to handle and its very difficult to control.
Always Smile, Mind your businesses and read the bible always

Dear poster again,
one poster, @qdlvy had the best psych(evidence-based scientific) counsel for you on here. Check out the post again
And, cheers

Alpha001:
Happy new year NL.
I am posting this here because i really need help and i know a lot of people visit this section. Please i need urgent help as i don't want to continue like this in this 2019. Don't come and start insulting me please.

My problem is that i easily get angry and my anger doesn't go away easily. Very little things make me angry. Things that are not supposed to make me angry.
I can live in a room with a person for one year or even more without saying a word to the person just because he/she angered or did something bad to me.

I'm a quiet guy. People say i'm an introvert. I always try my best to avoid trouble. I am in my mid twenties buy have never been in a relationship.

This my problem of easily getting angry and keeping malice has been troubling me. I don't like it but still can't stop it. It is affecting my relationship with my family and close friends. And how can i even go into a relationship with this issue i'm having.
I find it very difficult to completely forgive.
I always envy those who are sociable and who don't easily get angry. I always wish to be like them.

Please i need your help/advice. Please this is not a spiritual problem, so don't start telling me about deliverance.
I would appreciate if this can be moved to the front page.
Thanks.

visit a psychiatric doctor asap.
You are depressed.
its one of the symptoms of depression.if not curtailed it will led to serious matter.

Op believe me. You just described me. To worsen my case, I stammer
Let me describe you better:

You spend so much time on your phone/computer.
You're afraid to approach a girl.
Sometimes you forget what to say- memory loss
You believe you're talented
You don't like crowd
You find it hard to initiate a conversation
You always like to impose your opinions on others.
You hate being corrected or criticised
You hate hurting other people and can do anything to prevent it including being alone.
You have different opinions at different times about a subject matter
You always seek validation or want to know what people think about you.
You find it difficult to say NO.
You like to impress.
You're don't have a girlfriend.
You don't look people in the eye while talking.
Few things excite you.
98 percent of your pictures are selfies
It's like a deformity. Everyone has a deformity but letting it hurt people or letting it get to your head is a bigger deformity.


When I'm very angry, I literally lose my voice and composure. When I mean I lose my voice, I become dumb. At that point, the silliest thing to do is try to defend myself even when I'm right .So what I do is take a super deep breath, let out the hot air, then talk. I developed a special defense mechanism... A special type of smile I use to disarm people and make them look stupid. That way it puts me on the advantage when it comes to argument .

Always accomodate people's opinions. It helps to reduce the strain your brain undergoes trying to impose your opinion. If you want to make your opinion more impacting without trying to sound autocratic, always begin by saying..."I agree with you", "you are making a lot of sense", "yea... that's true". Then you add... "But then I still think it would have been better if ...." or, " But the point is, even if....

When I enter a gathering and I want to join the discussion/argument, I first start by smiling and agreeing with everyone's opinion. Saying things like, "That's true, yes yes, Are you serious? Wow, Hahahaha, you don't mean it, " just agree with everyone while still smiling. This I trick is very effective that everyone will actually be looking at you for validation that it would seem that all attention is on you. This is when everyone will be dying to hear your opinion. Then you start by finding a tiny hole in someone's opinion and diplomatically pointing it out... like... "But don't you think if you did it this way that this will happen?" Then he tries to explain himself while yoy keep an interested face, looking at him in the eyes and nodding your head...


I will have to stop here

Next time I will update how to geta strong self. Esteem

we fall in the same category too but I made up my mind about it I just want to be happy no matter the situation instead of giving my self unnecessary High blood pressure and mental instability

avoid the porn and masturbation that makes you always feel unhappy and angry with life and yourself.it is this latent aggresion that you transfer to people around you,start thinking moie about others.try saying sorry to people you feel you have hurt.it will help you recover.try to be kind to people,force yourself to. and you need to get closer to jesus/God.cos it seems u exude negative aura.

Repentoday:
. There is nothing too hard for GOD to do. Just surrender your life to Jesus Christ, ask Him to change your life style and cleanse your heart, only Jesus can help you. He will change you totally and transform your life. He did it for me and now iam a change person. Just surrender your life to Him NOW, with the whole of your heart. God bless you as you do that NOW.

Lolz

OP take this serious at your own peril

JennyOfOldstones:
Hey, are you religious? If you are then you should talk to God about your problems every day. Tell him to give you a forgiving heart and to soften your heart. It's not easy to overcome but it helps. And if you have the means, you can seek the help of a good clinical psychologist too. I think you have a borderline personality disorder.

So what you're saying is op is insane, deranged, mad, unstable and a psycho



Op

I suggest you let yourself go, don't try to control it just let it flow through you

How do you do this?

You do this my beating the light out of anyone that offends you

Gracias

Have you forgiven someone today? Try and strike up a conversation with that person that hurt you last year. A leap is what you need to be a better person

Alpha001:

Sir, i don't believe I will get better with age. It's even getting worse. It's not just with opposite sex but with everybody including my family.
I can be with my family for days and the only words they hear from me is greetings. This is killing me inside.

I have Dat kind of problem till Dat mine is just I get angry anytime I see igbo around me they are full of deceit I need help too I see them all as d same

It's indeed a serious problem, but there's nothing too big for God, especially if you belief.

Pray every morning into a glass of water, and ask God to take that spirit of anger & malice a way from your life.

You should be conscious of something aggravate your anger, just take a deep breath, and walk away from it. It natural for all human being to be upset, but how we handle it is important.

God will help you as He is helping me too on some issues too. Just believe.

Alpha001:
Happy new year NL.
I am posting this here because i really need help and i know a lot of people visit this section. Please i need urgent help as i don't want to continue like this in this 2019. Don't come and start insulting me please.

My problem is that i easily get angry and my anger doesn't go away easily. Very little things make me angry. Things that are not supposed to make me angry.
I can live in a room with a person for one year or even more without saying a word to the person just because he/she angered or did something bad to me.

I'm a quiet guy. People say i'm an introvert. I always try my best to avoid trouble. I am in my mid twenties buy have never been in a relationship.

This my problem of easily getting angry and keeping malice has been troubling me. I don't like it but still can't stop it. It is affecting my relationship with my family and close friends. And how can i even go into a relationship with this issue i'm having.
I find it very difficult to completely forgive.
I always envy those who are sociable and who don't easily get angry. I always wish to be like them.

Please i need your help/advice. Please this is not a spiritual problem, so don't start telling me about deliverance.
I would appreciate if this can be moved to the front page.
Thanks.

We in same shoes brother... but I've learned to accept who I am, changing is impossible... that's the sad reality.
What I do is to tell those around me to accept me the way I am.

Third mainland bridge is the cure

sexymoma:
Bros as u dey do so u go dey dey miss opportunities o...u be from ekiti ?
na dem dey do yeye like that...
before you quote me ma papa na from there..so i sabi wetin i dey type

which one be 'my papa from ekiti'?where you come dey from?

GODPUNISHUNA:


Withdrawal from personal relationships, delusion, anger, irritability, depressed mood

he certainly is irritable...angry with a depressed mood..but whr did u get d delusion frm he's write up?..

stanley000:
My brother you don't have any problems. I am also like you and I can tell you I love my life this way. As long as it doesn't affect your income you are just fine. Bru friends are liabilities, some will eventually hurt you on the long run, there are alot of ways to catch fun these days without being with some retarded beings called friends. You are doing just fine unless byou see it as a fault

Best advice so far

You are reclusive and introverted. Try to relate freely with people and your case will improve.

patience is like water that quenches thirst. At times a cup might not do

Rosarie:
be reasonable.so if yes he should state it.then how will u help if yes.u see something this serious pls if u don't have advice Waka pass

that's just comic relief, which you no fit see

JhyMedex:

he certainly is irritable...angry with a depressed mood..but whr did u get d delusion frm he's write up?..

There is an abnormality in his content of thought.

He believes things to be true which are actually not true, thus affecting his self esteem, psyche etc. Need I go more?

Alpha001:
Happy new year NL.
I am posting this here because i really need help and i know a lot of people visit this section. Please i need urgent help as i don't want to continue like this in this 2019. Don't come and start insulting me please.

My problem is that i easily get angry and my anger doesn't go away easily. Very little things make me angry. Things that are not supposed to make me angry.
I can live in a room with a person for one year or even more without saying a word to the person just because he/she angered or did something bad to me.

I'm a quiet guy. People say i'm an introvert. I always try my best to avoid trouble. I am in my mid twenties buy have never been in a relationship.

This my problem of easily getting angry and keeping malice has been troubling me. I don't like it but still can't stop it. It is affecting my relationship with my family and close friends. And how can i even go into a relationship with this issue i'm having.
I find it very difficult to completely forgive.
I always envy those who are sociable and who don't easily get angry. I always wish to be like them.

Please i need your help/advice. Please this is not a spiritual problem, so don't start telling me about deliverance.
I would appreciate if this can be moved to the front page.
Thanks.

I know this feeling and I have been through that road before.
My brother, recognizing that this is a problem is one step to solving it.
First, try finding out if there is/are underlying reasons why you're behaving in such manner or always give into anger and its cohorts.
In my case, I am asthmatic and it started manifesting from when I was just 2 weeks old. The pain associated with the sickness, the pain from taking injections and drugs, the constant in and out visit to the hospital made me really moody. Exhibiting too much emotion ( be it happiness or anger) is not allowed. One minute I am well and happy and the next minute, I am sick and sad. I never play out with my siblings. Always inside by myself and toys. Overtime, that became my life pattern. Happiness was a rare thing for me. Even my family suffered that roller coaster of emotions. I was overwhelmed by it to the extent that it became part of me not until I opened up to my family and they helped me through it (patience, encouragement and prayers).

Right now, I am a happier version of myself after so many years of being angry. Anger is very very bad. It is just like a chemical destroying every part of you.
So my brother, try to tell someone about your problem, try all you can to socialise little by little each day and ultimately, pray everyday about it. Faith without working on it is useless. There is nothing, nothing at all God cannot do.

I wish you a happy life from now on in Jesus name ...Amen

GODPUNISHUNA:


There is an abnormality in his content of thought.

He believes things to be true which are actually not true, thus affecting his self esteem, psyche etc. Need I go more?

My good sir ..Im actually glad to find sum1 here who seems to know a bit of psychopathologies..But am gon tell u notin frm d write will suggest abnormality of thought content...or delusions in wateva form...To diagnose schizophrenia based on ICD-10 criteria dere has to b hallucination or other perceptual abnormalities..deres none from his write up...Schizophrenia is a dire diagnosis ..its not sth we shld b throwing about until we r sure beyond a good amount of reasonable doubt...
The op has a personality disorder..Its SCHIZOID PERSONALITY DISORDER in particular...its not schizophrenia sir

Op you are choleric. Its a temperament thing. You should loosen up.

JhyMedex:

My good sir ..Im actually glad to find sum1 here who seems to know a bit of psychopathologies..But am gon tell u notin frm d write will suggest abnormality of thought content...or delusions in wateva form...To diagnose schizophrenia based on ICD-10 criteria dere has to b hallucination or other perceptual abnormalities..deres none from his write up...Schizophrenia is a dire diagnosis ..its not sth we shld b throwing about until we r sure beyond a good amount of reasonable doubt...
The op has a personality disorder..Its SCHIZOID PERSONALITY DISORDER in particular...its not schizophrenia sir

I see you are in the medical profession. I can deduce that from your clear chain of thought. I agree with you, he exhibits Schizoid Personality Disorder.

Nice one. Glad to see we have some intellects in this forum and not just these kids running everywhere

JhyMedex:

My good sir ..Im actually glad to find sum1 here who seems to know a bit of psychopathologies..But am gon tell u notin frm d write will suggest abnormality of thought content...or delusions in wateva form...To diagnose schizophrenia based on ICD-10 criteria dere has to b hallucination or other perceptual abnormalities..deres none from his write up...Schizophrenia is a dire diagnosis ..its not sth we shld b throwing about until we r sure beyond a good amount of reasonable doubt...
The op has a personality disorder..Its SCHIZOID PERSONALITY DISORDER in particular...its not schizophrenia sir

Hello. Could you speak English. Is op in trouble or not?

And here I am thinking I was the only one like this. But I wasn't always like this tho. it all started after I lost my mum... hmmmm its well

Fidelismaria:




So what you're saying is op is insane, deranged, mad, unstable and a psycho



Op

I suggest you let yourself go, don't try to control it just let it flow through you

How do you do this?

You do this my beating the light out of anyone that offends you

Gracias

There's a difference between having a psychological problem and being mad(schizophrenic). It's stereotypes like this that prevent people from addressing their mental issues

Hmmmmmmm...i had encountered with this issues before..what i actually did to get over it was.
1.Once i wake up every morning i speak to my self like,today am not going to get angry with anyone.
2.i set a reminder in my brain,once am having conversation with friends i make sure that things keeps ringing.
3.I learn to forgive and forget immediately anything i don't like occur..tell the person you don't like it and move on.

have you ever raised hand on anyone before?

Fxwarrior:


Hello. Could you speak English. Is op in trouble or not?

in case u av problems wit reading n comprehension...op clearly stated he had a problem.

now intelligent pple r tryin to determine wat d particular problem is..
say sth sensible or take a seat n learn kiddo..

kids...